Why do so many women love dysfunction & chaos?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As I get to know women, I see a drastic and almost-immediate shift in their demeanors once I mention any hardships that I am suffering from. In the blink of any eye, they go from barely making eye contact to vividly engaging with me as I unload my baggage.

Then, I remember a panel of women collectively sharing how insecure they are about not eating certain foods on a 1st date, especially foods eaten by hand like ribs - because it makes them appear “unladylike.”

Is the stereotype of women like bad boys rooted in their desire to feel “needed,” and because it alleviates their need to appear like a Virgin Mary, knowing they’re dealing with someone who is also imperfect?

What's truly strange is many of them don't want to appear "unladylike", but so many truly are unladylike.

For so long, I tried to deny and bargain this, but it’s true. The other day, I saw a social media thread about a woman who was cheating on her boyfriend. Her secret-lover impregnated her, but she got married to her boyfriend and told him the child was his. Her friend spilled the beans to the husband after the woman carried on with her lies.

Do you know that every women in the comments condemned the friend for telling the truth? All they care about is securing a provider.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because they are socialized to be empaths and caretakers.

This hackneyed and false excuse isn’t going to work. Women are survivalists by nature. After finding a mate, they can become caretakers if they choose to have any kid(s).

They find a mate by appearing to be a caretaker. Aka “wife material.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because they are socialized to be empaths and caretakers.

This hackneyed and false excuse isn’t going to work. Women are survivalists by nature. After finding a mate, they can become caretakers if they choose to have any kid(s).

They find a mate by appearing to be a caretaker. Aka “wife material.”

Correctamundo

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^ the answer is the same, OP. Different sides, same coin. The coin is the socialization process of people in this culture. One feeds the other.

And boy, there is *plenty* of dysfunction with men. We can talk about women in this thread, but let's not forget that.

If a retail worker is shot by an ex-partner, what are the odds you'll read THAT story and guess it might be a man who was shot? It's essentially always a woman. The raging man is a stereotype for a reason.

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OP I think that you might be missing some red flags if you don’t see dysfunction in men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ the answer is the same, OP. Different sides, same coin. The coin is the socialization process of people in this culture. One feeds the other.

And boy, there is *plenty* of dysfunction with men. We can talk about women in this thread, but let's not forget that.

If a retail worker is shot by an ex-partner, what are the odds you'll read THAT story and guess it might be a man who was shot? It's essentially always a woman. The raging man is a stereotype for a reason.

+100

OP I think that you might be missing some red flags if you don’t see dysfunction in men.

Men are not more or less dysfunctional than women…but men don’t seek out dysfunction like many women do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ the answer is the same, OP. Different sides, same coin. The coin is the socialization process of people in this culture. One feeds the other.

And boy, there is *plenty* of dysfunction with men. We can talk about women in this thread, but let's not forget that.

If a retail worker is shot by an ex-partner, what are the odds you'll read THAT story and guess it might be a man who was shot? It's essentially always a woman. The raging man is a stereotype for a reason.

+100

OP I think that you might be missing some red flags if you don’t see dysfunction in men.

Men are not more or less dysfunctional than women…but men don’t seek out dysfunction like many women do.

False.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^ the answer is the same, OP. Different sides, same coin. The coin is the socialization process of people in this culture. One feeds the other.

And boy, there is *plenty* of dysfunction with men. We can talk about women in this thread, but let's not forget that.

If a retail worker is shot by an ex-partner, what are the odds you'll read THAT story and guess it might be a man who was shot? It's essentially always a woman. The raging man is a stereotype for a reason.

And 9 times out 10, the women knew this guy had a few screws loose, and that’s why she pursued him in the first place despite the protestations of her friends and family.

Once again, this category of men also includes nice guys. Women will drop their panties for a “nice guy” who whines about how his ex-girlfriends cheated him and the like.

I am absolutely certain you believe what you are trying to sell here. I just think your hidden agenda is showing, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because they are socialized to be empaths and caretakers.

This hackneyed and false excuse isn’t going to work. Women are survivalists by nature. After finding a mate, they can become caretakers if they choose to have any kid(s).

Okay Op if you're going to argue with everyone why don't you just tell us the ' right " answer

[Anonymous]

One could ask why you feel the need to post all your thoughts here, OP, and why you defend them so aggressively.

I mean, surely you don't think you are going to change anything. Is it just that you like to talk smack about women? Maybe sock-puppet with yourself? Get off on disparaging them, over and over?

I'm guessing you aren't part of the solution here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One could ask why you feel the need to post all your thoughts here, OP, and why you defend them so aggressively.

I mean, surely you don't think you are going to change anything. Is it just that you like to talk smack about women? Maybe sock-puppet with yourself? Get off on disparaging them, over and over?

I'm guessing you aren't part of the solution here.

I’m not going to fall for the false justifications that women have given since the Garden of Eden lol, but I’m also humble enough to not act as an authority on the matter. When someone can give me an answer besides the cliché, excuse-making that’s been espoused for millennia, then I will listen with an open ear.

[Anonymous]

Right.

[Anonymous]

This is just some MRA nonsense trolling. Everyone should ignore this and move on.

[Anonymous]

I’m a woman that NEVER like drama. Ever.

I was raised in a loving, secure home and taught empathy, fight for the underdog and honesty.

I can’t stand liars, gossips and drama mongers.

By middle school, I was strong enough to not fall into that crap. I had a best friend that was similar. We had a lot of guy friends because the huge pack of girls were so much drama.

I have manage to find women each decade of my life that are similar and are great friends. No bullsh@t. No cheaters, liars, affairs, drama at all.

[Anonymous]

Dating apps. They get used to the drama and can't live without the churn and chaos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They grew up around dysfunction so they perceive that familiarity as love or a connection.

Women are socialized to be emotional supports and fixers.

Yes. Both my MIL and my SIL are major major drama queens. It's a way to get attention.