Bedroom configuration

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks everyone! DD will have to deal. She is extremely spoiled and we’re trying to get her out of that. This seems trivial but will be a big step for us as parents and a big lesson for her.

You sound kinda mean as a parent. Your DD has already had to deal with divorce, broken home, blended family. Maybe have some empathy for her instead of calling her spoiled and saying she will have to suck it up?

[Anonymous]

+1. Maybe she comes off as spoiled because she feels like you don’t see her/value her. She’s watched you have two new babies, lives with a stepfather (ie, 3rd parent), and has to make room for a visiting stepbrother (who is also in a tough situation of going back and forth between houses). Maybe prioritize her instead of everybody else for awhile and see if her attitude changes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks everyone! DD will have to deal. She is extremely spoiled and we’re trying to get her out of that. This seems trivial but will be a big step for us as parents and a big lesson for her.

You sound kinda mean as a parent. Your DD has already had to deal with divorce, broken home, blended family. Maybe have some empathy for her instead of calling her spoiled and saying she will have to suck it up?

+1

[Anonymous]

I agree with giving the big room to two kids vs 1. Your daughter will only have to share the bathroom part time and never on school mornings.

[Anonymous]

OP here. She is always prioritized, and I am sorry I come off as mean. She is always the one who gets everything she wants, never disciplined, never wrong. She’s such a sweet kid, straight As, a great friend. She is always given choices and has a lot of say in her life and ours. She truly is the princess of the house…her reason for thinking it was unfair that the boys have the bigger room was because she shouldn’t have to leave her room to go to the bathroom. This is probably the first time she won’t get something that she wants (and I won’t at all be surprised if we decide to give her the bigger room). Thanks all!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So...what is the age gap between the 10 and 11 year old, anyway? Less than 9 months?

OP here. No, they’re more like 19 months apart. DD’s father is my ex, she and DSS don’t share a parent.

Honestly this kind of explains things - she is upset that your "new kids" are getting the better deal. Is she jealous of them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s a difference between sharing with your own little brother vs. an older step-brother you don’t know as well. I’d give her her own en-suite.

+1. Interesting responses here—most people want a guest bathroom/powder room so guests (including relatives) don’t see medication, tampons, personal care items, etc, but a tween girl should be forced to give up her privacy by her step-brother seeing all of this? Just because they’re both close now doesn’t mean they won’t approach privacy in the future.

No, sorry, they are 10 and 11 years old and they are family. You sound incredibly spoiled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s a difference between sharing with your own little brother vs. an older step-brother you don’t know as well. I’d give her her own en-suite.

+1. Interesting responses here—most people want a guest bathroom/powder room so guests (including relatives) don’t see medication, tampons, personal care items, etc, but a tween girl should be forced to give up her privacy by her step-brother seeing all of this? Just because they’re both close now doesn’t mean they won’t approach privacy in the future.

So only the girl deserves privacy? Not the boys?

[Anonymous]

No big deal for DD and DSS to share a bathroom. Many girls share with a brother growing up. The two boys definitely need the bigger room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So...what is the age gap between the 10 and 11 year old, anyway? Less than 9 months?

OP here. No, they’re more like 19 months apart. DD’s father is my ex, she and DSS don’t share a parent.

Honestly this kind of explains things - she is upset that your "new kids" are getting the better deal. Is she jealous of them?

Right, because 10 year old girls are never jealous of their younger siblings otherwise.

DP who thinks it's natural for a 10 year old to want the biggest room, and natural for parents to say no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s a difference between sharing with your own little brother vs. an older step-brother you don’t know as well. I’d give her her own en-suite.

+1. Interesting responses here—most people want a guest bathroom/powder room so guests (including relatives) don’t see medication, tampons, personal care items, etc, but a tween girl should be forced to give up her privacy by her step-brother seeing all of this? Just because they’re both close now doesn’t mean they won’t approach privacy in the future.

No, sorry, they are 10 and 11 years old and they are family. You sound incredibly spoiled.

Step-siblings are a unique type of family—I’m not wild about putting opposite-gender, not blood-related tweens in such close quarters. Plus, I can say there’s plenty of family members I wouldn’t want to be forced to have no privacy with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So...what is the age gap between the 10 and 11 year old, anyway? Less than 9 months?

OP here. No, they’re more like 19 months apart. DD’s father is my ex, she and DSS don’t share a parent.

Honestly this kind of explains things - she is upset that your "new kids" are getting the better deal. Is she jealous of them?

+1. Plus, her younger half-siblings get to live with both parents full-time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s a difference between sharing with your own little brother vs. an older step-brother you don’t know as well. I’d give her her own en-suite.

+1. Interesting responses here—most people want a guest bathroom/powder room so guests (including relatives) don’t see medication, tampons, personal care items, etc, but a tween girl should be forced to give up her privacy by her step-brother seeing all of this? Just because they’re both close now doesn’t mean they won’t approach privacy in the future.

No, sorry, they are 10 and 11 years old and they are family. You sound incredibly spoiled.

Step-siblings are a unique type of family—I’m not wild about putting opposite-gender, not blood-related tweens in such close quarters. Plus, I can say there’s plenty of family members I wouldn’t want to be forced to have no privacy with.

I'm sorry, using the same bathroom as someone at different times is not "no privacy".

[Anonymous]

There were 5 of us in the family and we shared one bathroom. Two girls and our older brother, plus parents. Your DD is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So...what is the age gap between the 10 and 11 year old, anyway? Less than 9 months?

OP here. No, they’re more like 19 months apart. DD’s father is my ex, she and DSS don’t share a parent.

Honestly this kind of explains things - she is upset that your "new kids" are getting the better deal. Is she jealous of them?

+1. Plus, her younger half-siblings get to live with both parents full-time.

+2