Bedroom configuration

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So the older sibling no longer gets the biggest room? (I'd be pretty disappointed too)

12x12 is not small, the boys would be fine sharing it.

She moves to the basement in 3 or so years, when they'll be 7/8.

She’s not the oldest though.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So the older sibling no longer gets the biggest room? (I'd be pretty disappointed too)

12x12 is not small, the boys would be fine sharing it.

She moves to the basement in 3 or so years, when they'll be 7/8.

The oldest sibling gets the biggest room when everyone has their own room. If two kids share the get the bigger room. Let me guess, you were the oldest?

DP. Not when there’s a bathroom.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So the older sibling no longer gets the biggest room? (I'd be pretty disappointed too)

12x12 is not small, the boys would be fine sharing it.

She moves to the basement in 3 or so years, when they'll be 7/8.

The oldest sibling gets the biggest room when everyone has their own room. If two kids share the get the bigger room. Let me guess, you were the oldest?

DP. Not when there’s a bathroom.

Why on earth not

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So the older sibling no longer gets the biggest room? (I'd be pretty disappointed too)

12x12 is not small, the boys would be fine sharing it.

She moves to the basement in 3 or so years, when they'll be 7/8.

She’s not the oldest though.

She’s the oldest sibling who lives in the house full-time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So the older sibling no longer gets the biggest room? (I'd be pretty disappointed too)

12x12 is not small, the boys would be fine sharing it.

She moves to the basement in 3 or so years, when they'll be 7/8.

The oldest sibling gets the biggest room when everyone has their own room. If two kids share the get the bigger room. Let me guess, you were the oldest?

DP. Not when there’s a bathroom.

Why on earth not

Because it’s a different privilege, and the oldest should have it first. If the 4yo is the next one, he’ll be 7ish, and will receive it at an earlier age. If the 11 yo is next, the 4 yo will be 11ish when it’s his turn(just 1 year older than his sister is now).

[Anonymous]

OP, I cannot believe the extreme catering to your DD. You are the parent - this should not be her decision! You are in for a world of hurt later if you don’t shut this down, not the least if it which will be resentment by the other kids. I think it sounds like what she wants goes because you have guilt from divorce, new sibs, etc. Kids sharing should get the bigger room, and DD should be grateful she gets her own space.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So the older sibling no longer gets the biggest room? (I'd be pretty disappointed too)

12x12 is not small, the boys would be fine sharing it.

She moves to the basement in 3 or so years, when they'll be 7/8.

The oldest sibling gets the biggest room when everyone has their own room. If two kids share the get the bigger room. Let me guess, you were the oldest?

DP. Not when there’s a bathroom.

Why on earth not

Because it’s a different privilege, and the oldest should have it first. If the 4yo is the next one, he’ll be 7ish, and will receive it at an earlier age. If the 11 yo is next, the 4 yo will be 11ish when it’s his turn(just 1 year older than his sister is now).

This would be true if all the kids had their own room and you were assigning them each one room. Sure, then the oldest gets the biggest room. But 2 kids are SHARING a room. There is no reason to cram them into a smaller space when this 11 year old girl STILL GETS HER OWN ROOM ALONE.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So the older sibling no longer gets the biggest room? (I'd be pretty disappointed too)

12x12 is not small, the boys would be fine sharing it.

She moves to the basement in 3 or so years, when they'll be 7/8.

The oldest sibling gets the biggest room when everyone has their own room. If two kids share the get the bigger room. Let me guess, you were the oldest?

DP. Not when there’s a bathroom.

Why on earth not

Because it’s a different privilege, and the oldest should have it first. If the 4yo is the next one, he’ll be 7ish, and will receive it at an earlier age. If the 11 yo is next, the 4 yo will be 11ish when it’s his turn(just 1 year older than his sister is now).

This would be true if all the kids had their own room and you were assigning them each one room. Sure, then the oldest gets the biggest room. But 2 kids are SHARING a room. There is no reason to cram them into a smaller space when this 11 year old girl STILL GETS HER OWN ROOM ALONE.

They’re LITTLE KIDS and will still be 7- when the configuration changes. It’s absurd to give the ensuite bathroom to a baby and a preschooler when there’re older siblings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, shower curtains, towels, bath mats, and toothbrushes come in a variety of colors. I suppose you could force your DD to only have those items in a neutral color. Stepson will still open the drawers/cabinets and see soaps, lotions, bath beads, etc. I suppose you could only allow DD to buy those items in gender neutral colors, but that would be a bit harder. My panty liners come in a purple box, my pads come in a green and pink package and the pads are individually wrapped in pink wrappers, and my tampons come in a pink and purple box. She could keep those items in her room, I guess.

I still don't understand your point. I have two girls and their bathroom is navy and green (they picked out their own shower curtain and bathmat). All the other items, who cares? Are you displaying your pads and tampons for everyone to see? I put mine in the cabinet. My husband doesn't seem too upset about the colors down there.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So the older sibling no longer gets the biggest room? (I'd be pretty disappointed too)

12x12 is not small, the boys would be fine sharing it.

She moves to the basement in 3 or so years, when they'll be 7/8.

The oldest sibling gets the biggest room when everyone has their own room. If two kids share the get the bigger room. Let me guess, you were the oldest?

DP. Not when there’s a bathroom.

Why on earth not

Because it’s a different privilege, and the oldest should have it first. If the 4yo is the next one, he’ll be 7ish, and will receive it at an earlier age. If the 11 yo is next, the 4 yo will be 11ish when it’s his turn(just 1 year older than his sister is now).

This would be true if all the kids had their own room and you were assigning them each one room. Sure, then the oldest gets the biggest room. But 2 kids are SHARING a room. There is no reason to cram them into a smaller space when this 11 year old girl STILL GETS HER OWN ROOM ALONE.

They’re LITTLE KIDS and will still be 7- when the configuration changes. It’s absurd to give the ensuite bathroom to a baby and a preschooler when there’re older siblings.

Who cares if it's in the room or in the hallway? You would rather have a one child get her own bathroom and 3 children share than 2 kids share one bathroom and 2 share the other? Do see how unfair it is when you think of it in these terms? I also guarantee that if we were talking about four boys or 2 young girls + 2 older boys, your opinion would not be the same. GUARANTEE IT.

[Anonymous]

OP, she WILL resent the injustice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There were 5 of us in the family and we shared one bathroom. Two girls and our older brother, plus parents. Your DD is ridiculous.

This. We have one bathroom too. Kids sharing get biggest room.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Well, shower curtains, towels, bath mats, and toothbrushes come in a variety of colors. I suppose you could force your DD to only have those items in a neutral color. Stepson will still open the drawers/cabinets and see soaps, lotions, bath beads, etc. I suppose you could only allow DD to buy those items in gender neutral colors, but that would be a bit harder. My panty liners come in a purple box, my pads come in a green and pink package and the pads are individually wrapped in pink wrappers, and my tampons come in a pink and purple box. She could keep those items in her room, I guess.

I still don't understand your point. I have two girls and their bathroom is navy and green (they picked out their own shower curtain and bathmat). All the other items, who cares? Are you displaying your pads and tampons for everyone to see? I put mine in the cabinet. My husband doesn't seem too upset about the colors down there.

The comment was geared at whether stepson would feel like he was sharing a girl’s bathroom. Your husband chose to marry you and presumably share a bathroom with you. How much should a girl be required to keep gender neutral colors to not make her step-brother feel unwelcome when he visits (which admittedly is not very often? Conversely, is she allowed to make the bathroom mostly pink because she uses it full-time and he doesn’t?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So the older sibling no longer gets the biggest room? (I'd be pretty disappointed too)

12x12 is not small, the boys would be fine sharing it.

She moves to the basement in 3 or so years, when they'll be 7/8.

The oldest sibling gets the biggest room when everyone has their own room. If two kids share the get the bigger room. Let me guess, you were the oldest?

DP. Not when there’s a bathroom.

Why on earth not

Because it’s a different privilege, and the oldest should have it first. If the 4yo is the next one, he’ll be 7ish, and will receive it at an earlier age. If the 11 yo is next, the 4 yo will be 11ish when it’s his turn(just 1 year older than his sister is now).

This would be true if all the kids had their own room and you were assigning them each one room. Sure, then the oldest gets the biggest room. But 2 kids are SHARING a room. There is no reason to cram them into a smaller space when this 11 year old girl STILL GETS HER OWN ROOM ALONE.

They’re LITTLE KIDS and will still be 7- when the configuration changes. It’s absurd to give the ensuite bathroom to a baby and a preschooler when there’re older siblings.

Who cares if it's in the room or in the hallway? You would rather have a one child get her own bathroom and 3 children share than 2 kids share one bathroom and 2 share the other? Do see how unfair it is when you think of it in these terms? I also guarantee that if we were talking about four boys or 2 young girls + 2 older boys, your opinion would not be the same. GUARANTEE IT.

But it’s not 3 kids sharing a bathroom full-time. Two kids share all the time and 1 kid has her own. The fourth child visits, he doesn’t live there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, she WILL resent the injustice.

Good lord what entitlement. This is not an injustice! She has her own room! Every kid in the family shares a bathroom! What injustice?