Accepted ED but not withdrawing applications

[Anonymous]

If this is a private school, the counselor knows about the ED acceptance and won’t be sending mid year transcripts to those remaining schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DS just found out that a classmate was accepted early to a school but still hasn’t withdrawn his applications for RD to other schools, just to see if he gets in. My son is livid b/c this is a top student in his class and some of those applications are at schools to which my son is also applying.

Isn’t this considered bad form? He told the school’s college counselors and they didn’t seem to care, should we make a stink?

Maybe kid is saving face and did not really get accepted early but did not want to admit it. Are you sure about that acceptance? Did you see the letter?

This is possible. Does this kid show poor character in other areas? If so, then maybe this story is true. But if this an honest kid with integrity, this would be out of character and the kid may be just embarrassed to admit the rejection or deferral.

[Anonymous]

Perhaps there is a financial issue

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I will say it again, it's ED!!!! the school's EA decision hasn't come out yet.

Mind your own business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parent signed the ED form too, saying would pull others if accepted.

Parent needs to do their job also, not just counselor.

Definitely but there is little you can do about it. If you want to make a “stink” you can probably talk to the counselor and point out to them that it is their legal obligation to ensure the prompt withdrawals and go from there. I don’t think it is worth it.

[Anonymous]

Maybe the kid really didn’t get accepted ED? Maybe the kid really did withdraw the other applications and is just messing with other kids (and parents)? My dd was accepted to a school ED a couple of years ago (not a top school). She wrote to every other school to withdraw and one of the schools still processed the application.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Parent signed the ED form too, saying would pull others if accepted.

Parent needs to do their job also, not just counselor.

Definitely but there is little you can do about it. If you want to make a “stink” you can probably talk to the counselor and point out to them that it is their legal obligation to ensure the prompt withdrawals and go from there. I don’t think it is worth it.

I don’t think it is worth it because you will antagonise the counselor and you don’t want to do it as you still might need their help

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the kid really didn’t get accepted ED? Maybe the kid really did withdraw the other applications and is just messing with other kids (and parents)? My dd was accepted to a school ED a couple of years ago (not a top school). She wrote to every other school to withdraw and one of the schools still processed the application.

Why make these assumptions when OP clearly explained that this is not the case

[Anonymous]

Don't get involved but this is a failure of parents and then of counselor. Who teaches their kid that this is ok? In addition to being prohibited, it's beyond self-centered, selfish, unethical behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the kid really didn’t get accepted ED? Maybe the kid really did withdraw the other applications and is just messing with other kids (and parents)? My dd was accepted to a school ED a couple of years ago (not a top school). She wrote to every other school to withdraw and one of the schools still processed the application.

Why make these assumptions when OP clearly explained that this is not the case

"Found out classmate was accepted". In my experience, these claims can sometimes differ from reality. These kids are under a lot of pressure and sometimes skirt the truth about rejections.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How does the kid not know he HAS to withdraw the other applications? Did he think "withdraw applications" meant turn down other acceptances? Yikes.

I suspect it is a timing issue. He is dragging his feet out of curiosity, and can claim that he planned to do it (I don't think they put a time limit on the withdrawals, do they??)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Parent signed the ED form too, saying would pull others if accepted.

Parent needs to do their job also, not just counselor.

Definitely but there is little you can do about it. If you want to make a “stink” you can probably talk to the counselor and point out to them that it is their legal obligation to ensure the prompt withdrawals and go from there. I don’t think it is worth it.

If you think this student may end up taking a place at a college that could be offered to another student from the same high school I would raise it with the counseling office one more time. ED is supposed to be a binding legal agreement and it sounds like the counseling office needs to be reminded of that. You could also provide them with the article mentioned by a previous poster that states schools share ED lists. After that I would leave it alone. Nothing more you can do. There is always the possibility that the family might need to get out of the ED agreement because of insufficient financial aid, and you wouldn't want to get in the way of that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe the kid really didn’t get accepted ED? Maybe the kid really did withdraw the other applications and is just messing with other kids (and parents)? My dd was accepted to a school ED a couple of years ago (not a top school). She wrote to every other school to withdraw and one of the schools still processed the application.

Why make these assumptions when OP clearly explained that this is not the case

"Found out classmate was accepted". In my experience, these claims can sometimes differ from reality. These kids are under a lot of pressure and sometimes skirt the truth about rejections.

Perhaps, but if he ends up going to a school other than the one he says he was admitted ED then people are going to know he was lying.

I wonder if OP's kid goes to a private school. Sorry but this sounds like a really entitled thing to do, to decide you are above the rules and want to stroke your own ego.

[Anonymous]

There's no reason your student couldn't raise it with the school counselor on a confidential basis.

[Anonymous]

How do you withdraw an application? Is there a button on the common app or do you have to contact the school?