Accepted ED but not withdrawing applications

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS just found out that a classmate was accepted early to a school but still hasn’t withdrawn his applications for RD to other schools, just to see if he gets in. My son is livid b/c this is a top student in his class and some of those applications are at schools to which my son is also applying.

Isn’t this considered bad form? He told the school’s college counselors and they didn’t seem to care, should we make a stink?

1. you dont know if its EA (dont need to commit until May 1st, so totally acceptable to wait and see about financial aid packages, scholarships etc) or ED (need to withdraw all applications)

2. HYPS are single choice EA, so NO NEED TO WITHDRAW OTHER RD APPLICATIONS.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am sure it’s ED. He plans to attend, just wants to see where else he gets in.

That is a stupid risk. But I would not waste my time on it. Calling out one cheat in all of this probably has more downside for your kid than upside. At some point, that kid will find out that unethical behavior will have consequences.

Oh for Pete sakes. The kid is not a "cheat" and this is hardly "unethical behavior." OP is just nervous about her own kids' chances. I get it - I have a DS who is very much on the bubble at a number of schools that he likes. But if he doesn't get it, it will be due to his own deficiencies, not because Charlie down the hall, who has better grades and is overall a more attractive candidate, was accepted instead.

It is absolutely a risk.

No. It's an excuse.

[Anonymous]

OP here, I will say it again, it's ED!!!! the school's EA decision hasn't come out yet.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am sure it’s ED. He plans to attend, just wants to see where else he gets in.

Honestly, I can understand this. Assuming he worked hard on the individual essays - and paid an admissions fee for his application to be reviewed -- why shouldn't he find out how he did at all of the schools, if even just for fun?

When you sign the ED agreement as a parent as well as a school counselor you agree that the kid would promptly withdraw the other applications. So, the counsellor at the school is not doing their job. But it is also probably not enforceable and left to the honour code

[Anonymous]

Katharine Fretwell, dean of admission and financial aid at Amherst College, another Massachusetts institution, says her school and about 30 other colleges share lists of students admitted through early decision.


That is from a us news article about the situation being described. Not sure if other groups of institutions have similar arrangements but why risk it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tacky and I’m surprised the school doesn’t make him pull his other applications (is this public or private) as it may affect the chances of his classmates being admitted.

This. Post the name of the school. They want to get those other applications pulled to help out their other students. This is considered bad form.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DS just found out that a classmate was accepted early to a school but still hasn’t withdrawn his applications for RD to other schools, just to see if he gets in. My son is livid b/c this is a top student in his class and some of those applications are at schools to which my son is also applying.

Isn’t this considered bad form? He told the school’s college counselors and they didn’t seem to care, should we make a stink?

1. you dont know if its EA (dont need to commit until May 1st, so totally acceptable to wait and see about financial aid packages, scholarships etc) or ED (need to withdraw all applications)

2. HYPS are single choice EA, so NO NEED TO WITHDRAW OTHER RD APPLICATIONS.

OP already said they know its ED. Counselor needs to do its job and pull the other applications

[Anonymous]

Not a smart thing to do.

[Anonymous]

Parent signed the ED form too, saying would pull others if accepted.

Parent needs to do their job also, not just counselor.

[Anonymous]

How does the kid not know he HAS to withdraw the other applications? Did he think "withdraw applications" meant turn down other acceptances? Yikes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DS just found out that a classmate was accepted early to a school but still hasn’t withdrawn his applications for RD to other schools, just to see if he gets in. My son is livid b/c this is a top student in his class and some of those applications are at schools to which my son is also applying.

Isn’t this considered bad form? He told the school’s college counselors and they didn’t seem to care, should we make a stink?

1. you dont know if its EA (dont need to commit until May 1st, so totally acceptable to wait and see about financial aid packages, scholarships etc) or ED (need to withdraw all applications)

2. HYPS are single choice EA, so NO NEED TO WITHDRAW OTHER RD APPLICATIONS.

OP already said they know its ED. Counselor needs to do its job and pull the other applications

Does the counselor know? Ours sends regular emails reminding students to let them know when they hear from schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DS just found out that a classmate was accepted early to a school but still hasn’t withdrawn his applications for RD to other schools, just to see if he gets in. My son is livid b/c this is a top student in his class and some of those applications are at schools to which my son is also applying.

Isn’t this considered bad form? He told the school’s college counselors and they didn’t seem to care, should we make a stink?

1. you dont know if its EA (dont need to commit until May 1st, so totally acceptable to wait and see about financial aid packages, scholarships etc) or ED (need to withdraw all applications)

2. HYPS are single choice EA, so NO NEED TO WITHDRAW OTHER RD APPLICATIONS.

OP already said they know its ED. Counselor needs to do its job and pull the other applications

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am sure it’s ED. He plans to attend, just wants to see where else he gets in.

Honestly, I can understand this. Assuming he worked hard on the individual essays - and paid an admissions fee for his application to be reviewed -- why shouldn't he find out how he did at all of the schools, if even just for fun?

Because he could literally cause another child (who wants to attend) to be rejected. You must be self centered, like the child in question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS just found out that a classmate was accepted early to a school but still hasn’t withdrawn his applications for RD to other schools, just to see if he gets in. My son is livid b/c this is a top student in his class and some of those applications are at schools to which my son is also applying.

Isn’t this considered bad form? He told the school’s college counselors and they didn’t seem to care, should we make a stink?

Maybe kid is saving face and did not really get accepted early but did not want to admit it. Are you sure about that acceptance? Did you see the letter?

[Anonymous]

If it is ED and school counselor knows, won’t the counselor stop sending mid year updates to other colleges the student applied but the ED school?