He searched “how married couples split bills” — we already have a house and a baby?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your mistake was having a baby and buying a house before marriage. He is never going to marry you. Time to move on. He probably wants you to pay more.

Why are you so sure he won’t marry her? Don’t be so negative plenty of people get married after they have a baby together.

[Anonymous]

Everything changes when you're married, dear heart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everything changes when you're married, dear heart.

They own a home together, have been together for years, and the biggest thing is they have a child; they quite literally are bonded for life now because of their baby. No, a piece of paper won’t make things that different for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everything changes when you're married, dear heart.

They own a home together, have been together for years, and the biggest thing is they have a child; they quite literally are bonded for life now because of their baby. No, a piece of paper won’t make things that different for them.

Unless OP and her BF have other legal documents in place, there are many things that wouldn't apply to them like they would if they were married. For example, OP can't handle medical decisions for her BF if he is not in a place to do so. That is just the tip of the iceberg.

[Anonymous]

It may be as simple as he's wondering if it makes sense for you two to have one checking account or separate accounts. When I got married my H and I decided to get separate accounts within the first year because it was too difficult keeping track of the balance when we both used the same account.

It also made sense for me to pay all household bills from my account because it was simpler even though we combined our funds.

Talk to him and find out what's on his mind. Lots of other PPs are speculating about everything in your life, they are just guessing what's going on, only you two know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everything changes when you're married, dear heart.

They own a home together, have been together for years, and the biggest thing is they have a child; they quite literally are bonded for life now because of their baby. No, a piece of paper won’t make things that different for them.

Unless OP and her BF have other legal documents in place, there are many things that wouldn't apply to them like they would if they were married. For example, OP can't handle medical decisions for her BF if he is not in a place to do so. That is just the tip of the iceberg.

+1 as someone who drug my feet on marrying because “it’s just a piece of paper,” all it took was him wrecking his motorcycle and me being at the mercy of his parents (who he had a horrible relationship with) to even let me know how surgery went to change my tune. We had looked into the legal docs we needed to create the effect of marriage and it was far easier to get married and have all that automatically than hope we didn’t miss something important (POA, transfers on death, beneficiary of a long forgotten 401k, etc).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: A lot can change once you are married, you might be kidding yourself there.

As to why he was searching, maybe he thinks you don't contribute enough and is hoping things might change once you get married.

This.

[Anonymous]

He’s thinking about marriage and how it will impact things.

Thing is, it will be your marriage and yiu both can decide on how to split finances. Every couple handles things differently from the next.