Girl's School and Gender Pronouns

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter who attends a very strong local private girls school (one that we have been very happy with) reports that girls in her student government, led by the adult Director of Student Life, are having conversations about how using the terms 'girls' when addressing the students there is 'exclusive' and not gender-identity inclusive. There are discussions about changing the handbook to restrict the use of 'girls,' as well as the Director of Student Life actively advocating to the girls actually taking down school-purchased signs on campus the denote that it is a girls school. While I am left-leaning and certainly think that people should be able to choose their own pronouns, this seems over the top. We chose a girls school precisely for it being one. And we have deeply appreciated the strengths that that her girls school education has provided to her. Has anyone else with a daughter in a girl's school heard about this?

Either Stone Ridge or Holton. Either way, it’s ridiculous.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are they saying that they want to start admitting actual boys to the school, or just abandon the word "girls," out of respect to girls who don't identify as girls?

If you don't identify as a girl then you need to go to a different school. A girl's school is for girls.

[Anonymous]

Who is director or student life? Is this upper school? I couldn’t find the position for Holton, sr, or ncs online. Which school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are they saying that they want to start admitting actual boys to the school, or just abandon the word "girls," out of respect to girls who don't identify as girls?

If you don't identify as a girl then you need to go to a different school. A girl's school is for girls.

Students often aren't out to their parents. The parents enroll them. They don't identify as girls. It's not always the students' choice.

I agree with pp, tho, that too much of this is a trend that denigrates what it is to be a girl and distracts from folks who have actual body dysmorphia.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter who attends a very strong local private girls school (one that we have been very happy with) reports that girls in her student government, led by the adult Director of Student Life, are having conversations about how using the terms 'girls' when addressing the students there is 'exclusive' and not gender-identity inclusive. There are discussions about changing the handbook to restrict the use of 'girls,' as well as the Director of Student Life actively advocating to the girls actually taking down school-purchased signs on campus the denote that it is a girls school. While I am left-leaning and certainly think that people should be able to choose their own pronouns, this seems over the top. We chose a girls school precisely for it being one. And we have deeply appreciated the strengths that that her girls school education has provided to her. Has anyone else with a daughter in a girl's school heard about this?

Either Stone Ridge or Holton. Either way, it’s ridiculous.

I want to know so we don’t apply in the future. These schools need to get a grip.

[Anonymous]

I went to Wellesley, and this came up a tiny bit in terms of trans students. I think Barnard settled a lawsuit with a transwoman who applied to the school. Wellesley is and was very 'woke' but they continued to take pride and advertise as a women's school. I had a few classmates who identified as male and this was a nonissue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are they saying that they want to start admitting actual boys to the school, or just abandon the word "girls," out of respect to girls who don't identify as girls?

If you don't identify as a girl then you need to go to a different school. A girl's school is for girls.

Students often aren't out to their parents. The parents enroll them. They don't identify as girls. It's not always the students' choice.

I agree with pp, tho, that too much of this is a trend that denigrates what it is to be a girl and distracts from folks who have actual body dysmorphia.

All you need is an internet influencer and self diagnosis as a 12 yo yo have “gender confusion dysmorphia.”

And look- Changing genders didn’t solve Jazz Jennings mental disorders; it just masked them and the therapists and family went along with it and how he/she has major mental health problems, obesity, depression, attitude problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is the latest fad. Girls suddenly think it’s cool to be male or non-binary. I’m actually hoping the all-girls schools take a hard stand against this nonsense. It’s disrespectful to the people who have legitimate gender differences. I need two hands to count the number of my DD’s friends who are sucked in by this (including mine). There is zero chance this is due to a medical issue affecting sex and gender dysmorphia.

What? Anorexia is out and being trans/non-binary is in? Coolio.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter who attends a very strong local private girls school (one that we have been very happy with) reports that girls in her student government, led by the adult Director of Student Life, are having conversations about how using the terms 'girls' when addressing the students there is 'exclusive' and not gender-identity inclusive. There are discussions about changing the handbook to restrict the use of 'girls,' as well as the Director of Student Life actively advocating to the girls actually taking down school-purchased signs on campus the denote that it is a girls school. While I am left-leaning and certainly think that people should be able to choose their own pronouns, this seems over the top. We chose a girls school precisely for it being one. And we have deeply appreciated the strengths that that her girls school education has provided to her. Has anyone else with a daughter in a girl's school heard about this?

Either Stone Ridge or Holton. Either way, it’s ridiculous.

I want to know so we don’t apply in the future. These schools need to get a grip.

This doesn't start with the schools. It's students advocating for these changes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter who attends a very strong local private girls school (one that we have been very happy with) reports that girls in her student government, led by the adult Director of Student Life, are having conversations about how using the terms 'girls' when addressing the students there is 'exclusive' and not gender-identity inclusive. There are discussions about changing the handbook to restrict the use of 'girls,' as well as the Director of Student Life actively advocating to the girls actually taking down school-purchased signs on campus the denote that it is a girls school. While I am left-leaning and certainly think that people should be able to choose their own pronouns, this seems over the top. We chose a girls school precisely for it being one. And we have deeply appreciated the strengths that that her girls school education has provided to her. Has anyone else with a daughter in a girl's school heard about this?

Either Stone Ridge or Holton. Either way, it’s ridiculous.

I want to know so we don’t apply in the future. These schools need to get a grip.

This doesn't start with the schools. It's students advocating for these changes.

The schools can squash anything they want, and I hope they squash this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter who attends a very strong local private girls school (one that we have been very happy with) reports that girls in her student government, led by the adult Director of Student Life, are having conversations about how using the terms 'girls' when addressing the students there is 'exclusive' and not gender-identity inclusive. There are discussions about changing the handbook to restrict the use of 'girls,' as well as the Director of Student Life actively advocating to the girls actually taking down school-purchased signs on campus the denote that it is a girls school. While I am left-leaning and certainly think that people should be able to choose their own pronouns, this seems over the top. We chose a girls school precisely for it being one. And we have deeply appreciated the strengths that that her girls school education has provided to her. Has anyone else with a daughter in a girl's school heard about this?

Either Stone Ridge or Holton. Either way, it’s ridiculous.

I want to know so we don’t apply in the future. These schools need to get a grip.

This doesn't start with the schools. It's students advocating for these changes.

The schools can squash anything they want, and I hope they squash this.

How?

[Anonymous]

So should we be ashamed of the word girls and women? We are doing more damage to ourselves as a sex and gender with allowing all this nonsense.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter who attends a very strong local private girls school (one that we have been very happy with) reports that girls in her student government, led by the adult Director of Student Life, are having conversations about how using the terms 'girls' when addressing the students there is 'exclusive' and not gender-identity inclusive. There are discussions about changing the handbook to restrict the use of 'girls,' as well as the Director of Student Life actively advocating to the girls actually taking down school-purchased signs on campus the denote that it is a girls school. While I am left-leaning and certainly think that people should be able to choose their own pronouns, this seems over the top. We chose a girls school precisely for it being one. And we have deeply appreciated the strengths that that her girls school education has provided to her. Has anyone else with a daughter in a girl's school heard about this?

Either Stone Ridge or Holton. Either way, it’s ridiculous.

I want to know so we don’t apply in the future. These schools need to get a grip.

This doesn't start with the schools. It's students advocating for these changes.

The schools can squash anything they want, and I hope they squash this.

How?

By a acting like the adult leadership they are supposed to be rather than cowering in fear over the idea that they might offend someone

[Anonymous]

Choose your battles wisely. What that school is NOT teaching.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Choose your battles wisely. What that school is NOT teaching.

Frankly, I think this is a hill worth dying on. If we can't refer to it as a "girl's school" enrolled with "girls," what the hell is the point?