Appropriate child support for this situation

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Based on the info you gave here, the va calculator says you should get $1,100

Already knew the calculator gives a pittance.
I’m not wondering what is legally mandated, I’m wondering what is fair.
X wants kids to live in a nice place, play sports, eat good food (and teens eat a lot!!) and thinks those things happen by magic.
If I picked what I would consider to be an affordable neighborhood, X would accuse me of placing the kids in danger.
I do wonder if a certain poster is familiar at all with housing costs in DC area.
It is not as if a 3 bedroom apartment or house is something every person would just easily have, unlike in rural areas where a house can be rented for 1k or less.

If you need to move, why don't you move. Fair is what you are getting, plus Dad is paying extra's on top of that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Child support is not payment for caring for your kids. You are not a babysitter. It is to help pay for the basics.

No, but if it means i am using my sick pay, taking time off for kid stuff, not quite able to devote 100% to job like other parent is, that is a measurable negative economic effect.

It’s called being a parent. Grow up.

WTF? Why are you letting the other parent off the hook?

That's on OP. They are off the hook as OP refuses to let the kids live with the other parent or visit. If its such an issue, the kids need to go live with the other parent. Child support is by formula which takes timeshare into consideration. They wanted and got full custody. So, with full custody that lets the other parent off the hook.

Yeah sorry I’m not making my kids go live in Iraq. Sheesh.

Then, stop complain he isn't taking the kids 25% of the time. What do you want?

I want to receive child support proportionate to the de facto amount of time I have them.
We did the agreement 1300 a month but that he would be taking them 25% of the time.

You are refusing to let them visit, so he cannot take them.

You are receiving over guidelines per the other poster. What you are getting is fair. If you want more for something, talk to him. Ask him to pay the sports directly and tell him how, for example.

[Anonymous]

You are divorced. You cannot expect to have the same lifestyle that you once had on two incomes vs. one.

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Anonymous wrote:Child support is not payment for caring for your kids. You are not a babysitter. It is to help pay for the basics.

No, but if it means i am using my sick pay, taking time off for kid stuff, not quite able to devote 100% to job like other parent is, that is a measurable negative economic effect.

It’s called being a parent. Grow up.

WTF? Why are you letting the other parent off the hook?

That's on OP. They are off the hook as OP refuses to let the kids live with the other parent or visit. If its such an issue, the kids need to go live with the other parent. Child support is by formula which takes timeshare into consideration. They wanted and got full custody. So, with full custody that lets the other parent off the hook.

Yeah sorry I’m not making my kids go live in Iraq. Sheesh.

Then, stop complain he isn't taking the kids 25% of the time. What do you want?

I want to receive child support proportionate to the de facto amount of time I have them.
We did the agreement 1300 a month but that he would be taking them 25% of the time.

If you ex is deployed you can't drag him to court. There are actual laws that protect military from these kinds of actions. The answer to your question is you already are getting more than a court would award you so it doesn't matter what you think is fair.

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Anonymous wrote:Child support is not payment for caring for your kids. You are not a babysitter. It is to help pay for the basics.

No, but if it means i am using my sick pay, taking time off for kid stuff, not quite able to devote 100% to job like other parent is, that is a measurable negative economic effect.

It’s called being a parent. Grow up.

WTF? Why are you letting the other parent off the hook?

That's on OP. They are off the hook as OP refuses to let the kids live with the other parent or visit. If its such an issue, the kids need to go live with the other parent. Child support is by formula which takes timeshare into consideration. They wanted and got full custody. So, with full custody that lets the other parent off the hook.

Yeah sorry I’m not making my kids go live in Iraq. Sheesh.

Then, stop complain he isn't taking the kids 25% of the time. What do you want?

There is a poster who regularly complains about this same exact situation. This is probably fake. There are some troops left in Iraq but very very few. It would have been more real if they picked somewhere else. And originally the story in the first post was kids don't want to see dad (not they can't).

I want to receive child support proportionate to the de facto amount of time I have them.
We did the agreement 1300 a month but that he would be taking them 25% of the time.

If you ex is deployed you can't drag him to court. There are actual laws that protect military from these kinds of actions. The answer to your question is you already are getting more than a court would award you so it doesn't matter what you think is fair.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Based on the info you gave here, the va calculator says you should get $1,100

Already knew the calculator gives a pittance.
I’m not wondering what is legally mandated, I’m wondering what is fair.
X wants kids to live in a nice place, play sports, eat good food (and teens eat a lot!!) and thinks those things happen by magic.
If I picked what I would consider to be an affordable neighborhood, X would accuse me of placing the kids in danger.
I do wonder if a certain poster is familiar at all with housing costs in DC area.
It is not as if a 3 bedroom apartment or house is something every person would just easily have, unlike in rural areas where a house can be rented for 1k or less.

If you need to move, why don't you move. Fair is what you are getting, plus Dad is paying extra's on top of that.

Whoops, I used a calculator that didn’t take into account the 75/25 split. According to another one I found you should be getting close to $2000. But I obviously don’t have all the information. Can you google your states child support calculator?

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Who is this poster who sees that the OP is “refusing” to let the kids visit other parent? Is this a thing, to have kids on base in Iraq?

[Anonymous]

What state are you in? $1300/month sounds low to me for a base amount. And, the extras (medical care) should be split proportional to income - so higher earner would pay more. My ex and I split extras 50/50 because we make very similar incomes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What state are you in? $1300/month sounds low to me for a base amount. And, the extras (medical care) should be split proportional to income - so higher earner would pay more. My ex and I split extras 50/50 because we make very similar incomes.

You are forgetting that she earns nearly $90,000. His income isn’t that much more than hers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Based on the info you gave here, the va calculator says you should get $1,100

For 2 kids, if parent 2 has 7% time at the incomes provided, spouse 1 should get $2300/month.

Add a second child to the calculator. It’s not 1 kid, it changes with each additional child.

It only goes down a tiny bit if the other parent goes up to 21% time.

https://calculators.law/calculators/child-support/virginia

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If the child support calculator amount is lower than what you are currently receiving then you are getting more than an appropriate amount. Your income split is about 2/3 and 1/3 so you should be contributing approximately $600 to the support of the children on top of his $1,300. Are you telling me you can't raise two kids on $2K net per month?

Which one of you pays for the health insurance?

The lower earning spouse pays health insurance.
Also, the higher earning spouse does not have their own place, so when they “have” the kids they are actually staying at lower earning spouse’s house and “helping”.
Is the fact that the lower earning spouse is doing almost all the work, using their sick leave to take kids to appointments etc, to actually raise the kid not worth anything?

That's correct.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Based on the info you gave here, the va calculator says you should get $1,100

Already knew the calculator gives a pittance.
I’m not wondering what is legally mandated, I’m wondering what is fair.
X wants kids to live in a nice place, play sports, eat good food (and teens eat a lot!!) and thinks those things happen by magic.
If I picked what I would consider to be an affordable neighborhood, X would accuse me of placing the kids in danger.
I do wonder if a certain poster is familiar at all with housing costs in DC area.
It is not as if a 3 bedroom apartment or house is something every person would just easily have, unlike in rural areas where a house can be rented for 1k or less.

Whoever told you life was fair failed you.

The calculator tells you what you get. Period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Based on the info you gave here, the va calculator says you should get $1,100

Already knew the calculator gives a pittance.
I’m not wondering what is legally mandated, I’m wondering what is fair.
X wants kids to live in a nice place, play sports, eat good food (and teens eat a lot!!) and thinks those things happen by magic.
If I picked what I would consider to be an affordable neighborhood, X would accuse me of placing the kids in danger.
I do wonder if a certain poster is familiar at all with housing costs in DC area.
It is not as if a 3 bedroom apartment or house is something every person would just easily have, unlike in rural areas where a house can be rented for 1k or less.

Whoever told you life was fair failed you.

The calculator tells you what you get. Period.

Eh get a lawyer and go back to court. Calculators are just a guideline.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Based on the info you gave here, the va calculator says you should get $1,100

Already knew the calculator gives a pittance.
I’m not wondering what is legally mandated, I’m wondering what is fair.
X wants kids to live in a nice place, play sports, eat good food (and teens eat a lot!!) and thinks those things happen by magic.
If I picked what I would consider to be an affordable neighborhood, X would accuse me of placing the kids in danger.
I do wonder if a certain poster is familiar at all with housing costs in DC area.
It is not as if a 3 bedroom apartment or house is something every person would just easily have, unlike in rural areas where a house can be rented for 1k or less.

Whoever told you life was fair failed you.

The calculator tells you what you get. Period.

Eh get a lawyer and go back to court. Calculators are just a guideline.

NP and that's generally not correct. They are the presumptively correct amount which, as a practical matter, means you need to introduce evidence of extraordinary circumstances to warrant a deviation (i.e. special needs child).

[Anonymous]

Have higher earning parents also pay for Health insurance.