Be honest. How old are you. How old do you look?

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Anonymous wrote:When I was in my early-mid forties, I looked pretty much the same as I did in my 30s.

Now I am 52. I look 52.

Enjoy those 40s, ladies.

This. Time comes for everyone.

I believe this. Still in 30s and this is my worry!!

Exactly me. I was carded up until early 40s. Now at 53 I could look like a youngish grandma. I am thinking ND teeth are fine. But I don't color my grays. I just look 53.

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I’m 38. It depends on:

1. Whether or not I’m wearing my mask (naso labial folds ftw)

2. How well I have applied my under eye concealer and inner corner highlight

3. What I’m wearing. When I’m in jeans and vans and a tshirt I look youngest. Next is athletic wear. Oldest is a dressier outfit but it’s rare that I wear that.

4. Whether or not I have really interacted with somebody. I have a pretty immature manner when I’m talking to somebody. My husband says I act flirty and ditzy. My daughter (12) says she and her friends can’t believe I am almost 40. I would like to act more mature but I really don’t know how.


I would say I can go anywhere from late twenties to early forties.

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I’m 49. I could pass for 60. Covid has not been kind - I work in public health and am burnt out. I am sensitive to all kinds of lotions and creams and so haven’t used sunscreen or moisturizer as much as I should and it shows in my skin. My hair is thick and curly but now all gray - it’s actually rather lovely, but it does age me. So there you go - I’m the one and only woman on DCUM who looks older than she is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 38. It depends on:

1. Whether or not I’m wearing my mask (naso labial folds ftw)

2. How well I have applied my under eye concealer and inner corner highlight

3. What I’m wearing. When I’m in jeans and vans and a tshirt I look youngest. Next is athletic wear. Oldest is a dressier outfit but it’s rare that I wear that.

4. Whether or not I have really interacted with somebody. I have a pretty immature manner when I’m talking to somebody. My husband says I act flirty and ditzy. My daughter (12) says she and her friends can’t believe I am almost 40. I would like to act more mature but I really don’t know how.


I would say I can go anywhere from late twenties to early forties.

Wait actually about six months ago I was accused of having a fake ID when at the grocery store with my daughter. The cashier thought I was her big sister. So I guess for people who are terrible judges of age, I can go for 20.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone on dcum looks more than a decade younger, duh

True but that's because we are mostly upper income folks who either stay at home or who have desk jobs. Access to good health care, and not doing back breaking work for decades, make all the difference in the world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 49. I could pass for 60. Covid has not been kind - I work in public health and am burnt out. I am sensitive to all kinds of lotions and creams and so haven’t used sunscreen or moisturizer as much as I should and it shows in my skin. My hair is thick and curly but now all gray - it’s actually rather lovely, but it does age me. So there you go - I’m the one and only woman on DCUM who looks older than she is.

Thank you for all you do. The stress is real.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 49. I could pass for 60. Covid has not been kind - I work in public health and am burnt out. I am sensitive to all kinds of lotions and creams and so haven’t used sunscreen or moisturizer as much as I should and it shows in my skin. My hair is thick and curly but now all gray - it’s actually rather lovely, but it does age me. So there you go - I’m the one and only woman on DCUM who looks older than she is.

If you're interested, I've heard good things about Cerave AM moisturizer with SPF 30. Cerave is generally good for sensitive skin. I use Kiehl's Ultra Facial Moisturizer with SPF 30 and it doesn't irritate my skin (also doesn't burn my eyes when I use on my eyelids).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone on dcum looks more than a decade younger, duh

True but that's because we are mostly upper income folks who either stay at home or who have desk jobs. Access to good health care, and not doing back breaking work for decades, make all the difference in the world.

All this. Plus selection bias - the people responding who look younger are more willing to say so. Sort of like all the people with big HHIs and high net worths on the Money and Finance board.

[Anonymous]

50 and look 50. Up until 48 I could probably pass for early 40s. These bags showed up under my eyes and they are aging me. I always look tired even though my skin looks decent. I never really thought much about them until Zoom. Sigh...

[Anonymous]

I have exactly one friend who looks significantly younger than her age, and my friends all take care of themselves and do the usual maintenance in terms of things like highlights, light Botox, that sort of thing (we're late 30s / early 40s for the most part). I think when people think of what those ages "should" look like they are picturing norms from the past.

[Anonymous]

I’m 46 and look at least that. But I did look about 10 years younger up until age 36 or 37.

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49. I probably look at least every minute of that. The people I know who look young at this age have kids in elementary school. I have a 20 year old and a 24 year old. I've seen some things lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone on dcum looks more than a decade younger, duh

True but that's because we are mostly upper income folks who either stay at home or who have desk jobs. Access to good health care, and not doing back breaking work for decades, make all the difference in the world.

Unless you are brown, black or had plastic surgery you don’t look 10 years younger no matter how much money you have. You may look good and healthy but not younger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:50 and look 50. Up until 48 I could probably pass for early 40s. These bags showed up under my eyes and they are aging me. I always look tired even though my skin looks decent. I never really thought much about them until Zoom. Sigh...

51 and look my age, or at best late 40s. Right until about 50 I still looked great and youthful. Boy can things change quickly. Some of it is that I definitely let covid stress get to me, and stopped taking care of myself in terms of exercise and diet. But mostly, yeah, just good old middle age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone on dcum looks more than a decade younger, duh

True but that's because we are mostly upper income folks who either stay at home or who have desk jobs. Access to good health care, and not doing back breaking work for decades, make all the difference in the world.

DP. This describes everyone I know and none of them look younger than their age. But perhaps I am biased as the entire pool of comparison is white collar UMC types and not day laborers or whoever some of you are comparing yourselves to in order to conclude you look 10 years younger.