Injured during sex (trying to be non-explicit)
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Anonymous
| Epsom salt bath and script for Triamcinolone OINTMENT not cream. Maybe 0.025% or 0.05% |
Anonymous
This might take while to heal though. Be patient, it's OK. |
Anonymous
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OP here again. You guys are all so supportive and nice. I love when DCUM works like this. I ended up having a video visit and the doc prescribed bactrim and some ointment.
While I was trying to get a look at the pimple/cyst it ended up sort of draining anyway - it got kind of bloody around the edges and I guess serum or lymphatic fluid or whatever that clear liquid is that comes out of a pimple/cyst is started to drain out. And darn if the pain didn’t start to subside. The video visit doc said that part of the reason why pimples are so painful on your clitoris (or other parts of your gentians) is because there are so so so many nerve endings and even a little pressure under the skin can be unbearable. Anyway I feel so much better and I’m going to start telling my sexual partners in the future - at the very least - if something hurts. I need to work on being able to tell mt boyfriend what I actually like. Typically we are compatible in bed - I have no idea what the teeth thing was and I’ll talk to him about that too. |
Anonymous
| Wait, so your partner was essentially sucking on a genital pimple? |
Anonymous
I don’t think so. He was giving me oral sex on Thursday and as he was doing it it felt like he was scraping me with his teeth. It was painful and I didn’t like it but I appreciated the effort and faked an orgasm. I was sore the next morning but it felt like chafing after rough-ish sex. I expected it to get better over the next day or so but it kept hurting more and more. My doc thinks as other PPs suspected above that he had bacteria in his mouth that infected me when he scraped me with his teeth and the drainage I saw today helped relieve the pressure. She prescribed antibiotics and hopefully I can tell my boyfriend without making him feel bad that teeth are a bad addition to the mix when it comes to oral sex. I know he wouldn’t like it if I used me teeth on him. So hopefully he doesn’t take it personally. |
Anonymous
| OP, how old is your bf? |
Anonymous
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OP, if it's at the hood of the clitoris, I'm >99% sure it's a keratin pearl, not a "pimple." It's a sort of foreign body type of keratin protein that builds up. There's usually a bit of adhesed tissue around or near it, but not always. Sometimes you can remove them, but sometimes you need a little repetitive topical corticosteroid or estrogen cream to release the mini adhesions.
Google "keratin pearl" and add "clitoris" if needed. It may have nothing to do with the oral sex, or the tissue might have been a little irritated and adhered to itself. Almost (not quite, but almost) not bacterial or pus-related at all. |
Anonymous
^^Ah, caught up. Never mind. 
I am glad you are better. |
Anonymous
| Facial hair (stubble), and not teeth? |
Anonymous
| OP here. It has gotten worse. It felt better for a couple days and this morning I woke up in pain. I have to leave town Monday for a week for work. I’m positive I need this drained and cleaned and I can’t wait until I get back from my work trip. Does anyone have advice? Should I go to ER? I can’t figure out if urgent care could do it and since it’s my clitoris I’m afraid of making the wrong move. Thank you |
Anonymous
| I personally would go to urgent care. They should be able to address infections and you will wait forever in the ER. |
Anonymous
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OP here. I ended up going to the ER. There was almost no one there (so i feel less guilty about taking up the staff's time). I got very good care and now I feel confident that I'll start to heal.
Not to get political but I CANNOT believe that female genital mutilation exists in this world. I love my clitoris. And if it is cut (as mine is) the pain is excruciating. I can't imagine how awful it must feel to have it intentionally cut and then not be able to orgasm. UGH. Awful, terrible and disgusting. This experience that I'm going through has lit a fire under me that I'm going to start donating or volunteering some way to a charity that aims to end FGM. Any referrals would be awesome. |
Anonymous
| Have you mentioned anything to your BF? |
Anonymous
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If the pain is getting worse, you need to see a doctor.
There could well be an infection that needs topical or systemic treatment. Mouths are full of germs. You also have your own germs near where he was...active. Try not to be embarrassed. Doctors have seen and heard it all. Emergency rooms in particular have much more outrageous stories about sex-related injuries. If need be, just go to a Free standing ambulatory care center (like Minute clinic). That way you will be examined by a stranger who you never have to see again. (But really, you have done nothing wrong.) In the long run, you have to find your voice and start believing that your needs matter too. |
Anonymous
It is great that you are turning this experience into something positive. https://www.equalitynow.org/end_fgm https://www.un.org/en/observances/female-genital-mutilation-day https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/female-genital-mutilation |