Injured during sex (trying to be non-explicit)

[Anonymous]

I’m in a lot of discomfort/pain. My boyfriend gave me oral sex and it felt like his teeth were scraping against my vagina. It hurt at the time but (and this is a problem, I know) I am too “polite” to tell him. It has been 4 days and the pain is getting worse. It seems like I’m going to have to see a doctor but has anyone been through this and have any advice on how to treat it myself? Im really hoping we can keep this thread up - i really need some help. Thanks in advance to any of you who can help.

[Anonymous]

Does it hurt all the time or just when something rubs it or you pee? Can you see any cuts/lacerations?

I’ve had plenty of injuries down there (sex-related, birth-related, hair-removal related). It can take a week or more to heal up. Only thing I can recommend is being gentle and not wiping. Try to wash with water (like with a peri-bottle) and just pat dry.

Hope you heal up quick and find courage to have that awkward conversation with your boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I say no to receiving oral sex because I find I have a tendency to get infections after and a lot of time the guys do something that irritates me down there.

You should tell him, at least before you have oral sex again with him. Which I wouldn’t frankly. Why is he using his teeth?

Try to get an on gyn appointment stat.

[Anonymous]

WTF is he doing down there? Why would he use his teeth? 🤢 WTF!!! What an idiot!

[Anonymous]

Coconut oil. Use it.

[Anonymous]

I bet he scratched thing all up and then his dirty mouth bacteria got into the scratched and now you have an infection.

Go to a doctor.

And ditch the boyfriend…the sex is terrible and you aren’t comfortable enough with him to speak up.

[Anonymous]

Always always speak up if a sex act is painful. If a guy reacts badly to that, you don’t want him anyway.

Go see a doctor. I’m sorry this happened to you.

[Anonymous]

I cannot even imagine how he could unintentionally hurt you. No sane person injures a woman during oral. Yes go see dr. They have seen it alll. Don’t worry.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like he thought oral sex = sucking and chewing on your clitoris. Very ignorant.

I would get in the bathtub with some Epsom salts and soak until you can get checked by your gyno. Try not to wear panties; wear a housedress or something loose.

You can also put an icepack down there. Alternate heat and ice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like he thought oral sex = sucking and chewing on your clitoris. Very ignorant.

I would get in the bathtub with some Epsom salts and soak until you can get checked by your gyno. Try not to wear panties; wear a housedress or something loose.

You can also put an icepack down there. Alternate heat and ice.

A really good suggestion!
Also have a look in a mirror - see what is going on, if it's just general redness this bathing should fix it (you'll need to repeat). But if there are actual lesions you may need an anti-biotic cream.
I don't think you should let this happen again.

[Anonymous]

You need to be seen by a doc. In the meantime a bit of A&D ointment might soothe it, or neosporin.

When my DD has a yeast infection while taking antibiotics the ped recommended we leave a cup of 1/4 white vinegar and 3/4 water by the toilet and gently wipe with that every time, but that might irritate you if you have open sores. I would get a mirror and take a look down there so you’re fully aware of what’s going on.

If you felt his teeth then he was nibbling/biting, either as puss-poor technique or because he’s getting off on being a bit rough. But PP is right - if you don’t feel like you can tell him, or say “ouch”, and if he generally reacts poorly in that situation, then you are *not* in a good relationship.

[Anonymous]

^PISS-poor, not puss-poor, but I guess both fit, haha.

[Anonymous]

What kind of a jerk uses his TEETH while going down on you?! WTAF?! 😱 My mind is blown by the idea of that. Like a horror show. He's lucky he didn't do that to me- he would have taken a knee to the face as an involuntary reaction the second his tooth started scraping. What a freaking loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What kind of a jerk uses his TEETH while going down on you?! WTAF?! 😱 My mind is blown by the idea of that. Like a horror show. He's lucky he didn't do that to me- he would have taken a knee to the face as an involuntary reaction the second his tooth started scraping. What a freaking loser.

I agree. And that he used his teeth to an extent that it actually hurt OP during the act means that he wasn’t just gently nibbling - he was being deliberately rough/biting. Could be he’s an a** or could be cluelessness/too much porn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bet he scratched thing all up and then his dirty mouth bacteria got into the scratched and now you have an infection.

Go to a doctor.

And ditch the boyfriend…the sex is terrible and you aren’t comfortable enough with him to speak up.

This. Teeth????