Wife’s attempts to climb the social ladder and create a hierarchy are super concerning

[Anonymous]

Oh people like this exist. How do I know? When I'm in Ashburn- I see and hear their reactions to the fact I live in Manassas. And now...watch people on this thread pop off about it too. It doesn't hurt my feelings at all b.c I like it here. It's chill and the people are nice. We have a cute historic district and the train. And Ashburn people stay far away

[Anonymous]

OP - if Op is real .... you call her out. You call out this behavior when it's in front of your children. They are your children. You disagree with her.

Why wouldn't you speak your mind?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Amazing a guy would notice this at all.

He didn’t. OP is a troll. The thread title alone, please.

Agree!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Amazing a guy would notice this at all.

This is a troll. No male would utter the phrase including the term "super". It's the new replacement for "like" and makes one sound like an uneducated 12 year old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm really concerned why youre eavesdropping and so concerned about some stupid, throwaway conversation she had with a friend where she mentioned she didnt want to invite certain people.

Seems to me you're being nitpicky and fairly catty, trying to create a mean narrative about your wife rather than being loving and supportive.

Are you mad because you are unable to make enough money where your wife feels comfortable and secure? And now youre projecting that on her cause you cant measure up?

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Amazing a guy would notice this at all.

This is a troll. No male would utter the phrase including the term "super". It's the new replacement for "like" and makes one sound like an uneducated 12 year old.

I know men who use the word “super” in this way. That’s not the reason to call this person a troll.

[Anonymous]

Total troll, people!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wife hand I have been married nine years. We moved to a relatively wealthy area, albeit laid back, to raise our young family a couple years after getting married. We have three children. When wife and I married she was always very social and liked to be the person that planned everything and help people make connections with others. Nothing I saw that set off any alarm bells at that point.

She’s since become borderline obsessed with climbing the social ladder to the extent that there is one in our town. To be honest, it being so laid back around here it feel more like she’s trying to create a pecking order with other moms and other kids. For instance, I’ve overheard her remark to one of her friends that she wasn’t going to be inviting certain kids from the class to one of our daughter’s birthday parties because “you have to be careful about what having folks west of XYZ street in the group, it’s not a good look for us.” She’s also been telling the same and another one of our daughters to reconsider who they invite for play dates because of some really petty sounding reasons, like “oh, they’re quite a bit different in the way they dress and carry themselves, let’s ask so and so instead.”

It’s stuff like this constantly. She fought me tooth and nail to quit her job with our second child and is literally on her phone and social media all the time trying to own social events, so parent involvement in orgs, etc. This in and of itself wouldn’t trouble me at all but her whole demeanor toward others has changed and become a power play. She hasn’t really changed toward me but I hate that my children are seeing this from their mom. It’s not something I respect and want our kids to be open to everyone. I don’t know what to do, any advice would be appreciated.

Say this to your wife. Let her know how you feel about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh people like this exist. How do I know? When I'm in Ashburn- I see and hear their reactions to the fact I live in Manassas. And now...watch people on this thread pop off about it too. It doesn't hurt my feelings at all b.c I like it here. It's chill and the people are nice. We have a cute historic district and the train. And Ashburn people stay far away

C'mon...Manassas absolutely sucks.

[Anonymous]

Divorce her ASAP.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why so many posters are accusing OP of being a troll. Good for him for noticing his wife's behavior and wanting to do something about it. OP - why don't you discuss what you're observing with your wife in private with her? Tell her what you've noticed, explain what your perceptions are, and share why it's concerning to you. Give her a chance to explain. Maybe she really is trying to climb the social ladder this way. Or maybe there's something else going on. Her response will let you know and you can both go from there.

[Anonymous]

She’s a snob, mean girl and likes to stir the pot. Who does she think she is judging people? Good luck with that one…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She sounds like a racist.

All people are racist to varying degrees.

[Anonymous]

Who cares are you still getting the sex and bjs

[Anonymous]

Lol! So she watches soaps and wants to be like Opal or the Lord's. Make her get a job and apply that thinking to becoming a CEO.