Am I Awesome or Terrible?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband leaves his stuff around the house. Everywhere. I warn him that if he doesn't pick up after himself, I will throw his stuff in the trash.

And I do it. And he's adapted and doesn't leave his hats, shoes, underwear all over the house any longer because he wants to keep his stuff.

Another nutter.

I don't understand anyone in relationships like this.

They’ve found each other and I just expect more crazy women bragging how awful they are.

[Anonymous]

First time: “Hey, you forgot to move the bag and animals got into the trash. I cleaned it up, but please remember next time.”

Next time it looks like he’s going to forget: “Hey, you forgot last time and I had to clean it up and it was disgusting. Can you please do it now?”

Second time you have to clean up: “Larlo, you forgot to take the trash to the bin again, it’s not fair to make me clean up that horrible mess.”

Honestly I’d leave the mess for him to clean up unless it’s actively dangerous (like chicken bones and you have a dog). If you have to do it, you say “Larlo, you keep forgetting and the animals make a huge mess that I have to clean up so the dogs don’t get hurt. I’m really frustrated. Something needs to happen differently.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Put a trash can on the deck so he can put the garbage bag in there and the animals can’t get to it. Move it to the front on trash day.

This is crazy. Husband is SO lazy, he can't just walk to the trash can and put the bag in? He lets it get ripped up by animals and then his wife has to clean it up?!?!?!?!. MORE THAN ONCE?? He's a jerk. He deserves to have his coat covered in trash.

He doesn't respect his partner at all, and because society generally lets men get away with not doing their fair share of housework -- somehow DW is crazy because she has to make a statement by trashing his coat to get his attention!\

Sorry but that is insane. He needs to get his act together and grow up. Walk the 20 feet (hell, maybe 100 feet!!) to the trashcan! Infuriating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First time: “Hey, you forgot to move the bag and animals got into the trash. I cleaned it up, but please remember next time.”

Next time it looks like he’s going to forget: “Hey, you forgot last time and I had to clean it up and it was disgusting. Can you please do it now?”

Second time you have to clean up: “Larlo, you forgot to take the trash to the bin again, it’s not fair to make me clean up that horrible mess.”

Honestly I’d leave the mess for him to clean up unless it’s actively dangerous (like chicken bones and you have a dog). If you have to do it, you say “Larlo, you keep forgetting and the animals make a huge mess that I have to clean up so the dogs don’t get hurt. I’m really frustrated. Something needs to happen differently.”

NP - I get this approach except the trash will attract rats and vermin and it's completely unsanitary. Plus what if they have guests??? Trash all over the deck is one of those things that needs to be cleaned up ASAP. Her husband sucks.

[Anonymous]

What's the thought here? You trash his stuff and then...he starts taking the trash to the bin? I don't see how one logically follows the other.

"Oh, silly me! I've been wrong this whole time! Thank you for bringing this to my attention in such a reasonable way. I shall now correct my behavior in a manner suitable to you"

His crazy is the logical follow-up to your crazy. Neither crazy thing solves the problem of the trash in the bin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband leaves his stuff around the house. Everywhere. I warn him that if he doesn't pick up after himself, I will throw his stuff in the trash.

And I do it. And he's adapted and doesn't leave his hats, shoes, underwear all over the house any longer because he wants to keep his stuff.

Another nutter.

I don't understand anyone in relationships like this.

Why do I have to live in a filthy house? When I have asked nicely and many, many times? Why isn't he the one who is crazy for being disrespectful? Jesus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First time: “Hey, you forgot to move the bag and animals got into the trash. I cleaned it up, but please remember next time.”

Next time it looks like he’s going to forget: “Hey, you forgot last time and I had to clean it up and it was disgusting. Can you please do it now?”

Second time you have to clean up: “Larlo, you forgot to take the trash to the bin again, it’s not fair to make me clean up that horrible mess.”

Honestly I’d leave the mess for him to clean up unless it’s actively dangerous (like chicken bones and you have a dog). If you have to do it, you say “Larlo, you keep forgetting and the animals make a huge mess that I have to clean up so the dogs don’t get hurt. I’m really frustrated. Something needs to happen differently.”

NP - I get this approach except the trash will attract rats and vermin and it's completely unsanitary. Plus what if they have guests??? Trash all over the deck is one of those things that needs to be cleaned up ASAP. Her husband sucks.

Depends on the timing. If he’s going to get home an hour or two after her, I don’t think it’s a huge difference and the unsanitary condition is not substantially worse. If he’s going to be home the next week, yeah, it needs to be cleaned up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First time: “Hey, you forgot to move the bag and animals got into the trash. I cleaned it up, but please remember next time.”

Next time it looks like he’s going to forget: “Hey, you forgot last time and I had to clean it up and it was disgusting. Can you please do it now?”

Second time you have to clean up: “Larlo, you forgot to take the trash to the bin again, it’s not fair to make me clean up that horrible mess.”

Honestly I’d leave the mess for him to clean up unless it’s actively dangerous (like chicken bones and you have a dog). If you have to do it, you say “Larlo, you keep forgetting and the animals make a huge mess that I have to clean up so the dogs don’t get hurt. I’m really frustrated. Something needs to happen differently.”

NP - I get this approach except the trash will attract rats and vermin and it's completely unsanitary. Plus what if they have guests??? Trash all over the deck is one of those things that needs to be cleaned up ASAP. Her husband sucks.

Depends on the timing. If he’s going to get home an hour or two after her, I don’t think it’s a huge difference and the unsanitary condition is not substantially worse. If he’s going to be home the next week, yeah, it needs to be cleaned up.

But she said he doesn't clean up the mess when the bag is ripped open and she has to do it. So it sounds like he leaves the bag, it gets ripped up, then she has to clean it because he won't. That's absolutely terrible. Divorce him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Put a trash can on the deck so he can put the garbage bag in there and the animals can’t get to it. Move it to the front on trash day.

This is crazy. Husband is SO lazy, he can't just walk to the trash can and put the bag in? He lets it get ripped up by animals and then his wife has to clean it up?!?!?!?!. MORE THAN ONCE?? He's a jerk. He deserves to have his coat covered in trash.

He doesn't respect his partner at all, and because society generally lets men get away with not doing their fair share of housework -- somehow DW is crazy because she has to make a statement by trashing his coat to get his attention!\

Sorry but that is insane. He needs to get his act together and grow up. Walk the 20 feet (hell, maybe 100 feet!!) to the trashcan! Infuriating.

Youre psycho.

Just don’t clean it up and he has to.

Stop acting like everybody has to be perfect all the time and you have to go behind them and fix it.

Let.it.go

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Woah. Terrible. I’d leave the mess for him to take care of but what you did is insane.

+1. You’re terrible. And immature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First time: “Hey, you forgot to move the bag and animals got into the trash. I cleaned it up, but please remember next time.”

Next time it looks like he’s going to forget: “Hey, you forgot last time and I had to clean it up and it was disgusting. Can you please do it now?”

Second time you have to clean up: “Larlo, you forgot to take the trash to the bin again, it’s not fair to make me clean up that horrible mess.”

Honestly I’d leave the mess for him to clean up unless it’s actively dangerous (like chicken bones and you have a dog). If you have to do it, you say “Larlo, you keep forgetting and the animals make a huge mess that I have to clean up so the dogs don’t get hurt. I’m really frustrated. Something needs to happen differently.”

NP - I get this approach except the trash will attract rats and vermin and it's completely unsanitary. Plus what if they have guests??? Trash all over the deck is one of those things that needs to be cleaned up ASAP. Her husband sucks.

Depends on the timing. If he’s going to get home an hour or two after her, I don’t think it’s a huge difference and the unsanitary condition is not substantially worse. If he’s going to be home the next week, yeah, it needs to be cleaned up.

But she said he doesn't clean up the mess when the bag is ripped open and she has to do it. So it sounds like he leaves the bag, it gets ripped up, then she has to clean it because he won't. That's absolutely terrible. Divorce him.

I doubt she ever waited to see she just wants to be a martyr.

She has serious anger issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Put a trash can on the deck so he can put the garbage bag in there and the animals can’t get to it. Move it to the front on trash day.

This is crazy. Husband is SO lazy, he can't just walk to the trash can and put the bag in? He lets it get ripped up by animals and then his wife has to clean it up?!?!?!?!. MORE THAN ONCE?? He's a jerk. He deserves to have his coat covered in trash.

He doesn't respect his partner at all, and because society generally lets men get away with not doing their fair share of housework -- somehow DW is crazy because she has to make a statement by trashing his coat to get his attention!\

Sorry but that is insane. He needs to get his act together and grow up. Walk the 20 feet (hell, maybe 100 feet!!) to the trashcan! Infuriating.

Youre psycho.

Just don’t clean it up and he has to.

Stop acting like everybody has to be perfect all the time and you have to go behind them and fix it.

Let.it.go

She said he doesn't clean it up even if the bag is ripped open. Who is talking about being perfect? You would let trash get all over your deck because you can't walk to the alley to put it in a can? People like that are dysfunctional. Why bother taking it out at all? Just leave it inside.

[Anonymous]

2 wrongs don't make it right.

[Anonymous]

Awesome. Vote for awesome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Really surprised to see the responses. Are you just supposed to clean up after him like he is a child?

Why not just have him clean it up?

This was passive-aggressive and childish. That's worse than him being lazy.