How to deal with neighbor's loud bass from videogames 24/7

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask him to turn down the bass specifically, not just the volume. Or ask if he would mind using headphones after a certain time, like 10PM.

If not, then complain to the building manager. I'm sure there are some rules in your lease that stipulate noise levels.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He sounds depressed. Are you sure he's employed?

He might be in college or unemployed, just that he is gone from 9-5 for some days of the week. I agree that depression or a mental health issue seems likely

OK, troll post confirmed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s the price of shared walls.

no it’s not. It’s the price of living next to an entitled prick. I had the exact same issue and complained to management and it would stop for a day or two and start back up. Finally met the neighbor at one point and told him straight up his music or tv was keeping me awake really late, and I have to work (with kids) really early. I seldom hear him anymore. He seemed really surprised I could hear him.

Thank you. This is really good advice. I should mention that another reason I'm afraid to speak to him is because I'm a conventionally attractive young woman, and I get incel-ish vibes from his habits/schedule, so I want to avoid some weird situation where he hates me or is extra douchey because i'm a female. I think if I were a man I would have no issue going over and addressing him directly.

And now you lost me. I was going to suggest building management and then noise complaint with police, but since you're so pretty, figure it out on your own

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s the price of shared walls.

no it’s not. It’s the price of living next to an entitled prick. I had the exact same issue and complained to management and it would stop for a day or two and start back up. Finally met the neighbor at one point and told him straight up his music or tv was keeping me awake really late, and I have to work (with kids) really early. I seldom hear him anymore. He seemed really surprised I could hear him.

Thank you. This is really good advice. I should mention that another reason I'm afraid to speak to him is because I'm a conventionally attractive young woman, and I get incel-ish vibes from his habits/schedule, so I want to avoid some weird situation where he hates me or is extra douchey because i'm a female. I think if I were a man I would have no issue going over and addressing him directly.

And now you lost me. I was going to suggest building management and then noise complaint with police, but since you're so pretty, figure it out on your own

NP but why on earth did this make you so angry?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s the price of shared walls.

no it’s not. It’s the price of living next to an entitled prick. I had the exact same issue and complained to management and it would stop for a day or two and start back up. Finally met the neighbor at one point and told him straight up his music or tv was keeping me awake really late, and I have to work (with kids) really early. I seldom hear him anymore. He seemed really surprised I could hear him.

Thank you. This is really good advice. I should mention that another reason I'm afraid to speak to him is because I'm a conventionally attractive young woman, and I get incel-ish vibes from his habits/schedule, so I want to avoid some weird situation where he hates me or is extra douchey because i'm a female. I think if I were a man I would have no issue going over and addressing him directly.

And now you lost me. I was going to suggest building management and then noise complaint with police, but since you're so pretty, figure it out on your own

NP but why on earth did this make you so angry?

Because how dare a woman know that she is attractive and openly acknowledge it! Women’s self-esteem should only come from the scraps men throw them from time to time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s the price of shared walls.

no it’s not. It’s the price of living next to an entitled prick. I had the exact same issue and complained to management and it would stop for a day or two and start back up. Finally met the neighbor at one point and told him straight up his music or tv was keeping me awake really late, and I have to work (with kids) really early. I seldom hear him anymore. He seemed really surprised I could hear him.

Thank you. This is really good advice. I should mention that another reason I'm afraid to speak to him is because I'm a conventionally attractive young woman, and I get incel-ish vibes from his habits/schedule, so I want to avoid some weird situation where he hates me or is extra douchey because i'm a female. I think if I were a man I would have no issue going over and addressing him directly.

And now you lost me. I was going to suggest building management and then noise complaint with police, but since you're so pretty, figure it out on your own

NP but why on earth did this make you so angry?

Because how dare a woman know that she is attractive and openly acknowledge it! Women’s self-esteem should only come from the scraps men throw them from time to time.

Wtf does her “attractiveness” have to do with her noise issue?!?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s the price of shared walls.

no it’s not. It’s the price of living next to an entitled prick. I had the exact same issue and complained to management and it would stop for a day or two and start back up. Finally met the neighbor at one point and told him straight up his music or tv was keeping me awake really late, and I have to work (with kids) really early. I seldom hear him anymore. He seemed really surprised I could hear him.

Thank you. This is really good advice. I should mention that another reason I'm afraid to speak to him is because I'm a conventionally attractive young woman, and I get incel-ish vibes from his habits/schedule, so I want to avoid some weird situation where he hates me or is extra douchey because i'm a female. I think if I were a man I would have no issue going over and addressing him directly.

And now you lost me. I was going to suggest building management and then noise complaint with police, but since you're so pretty, figure it out on your own

NP but why on earth did this make you so angry?

Because how dare a woman know that she is attractive and openly acknowledge it! Women’s self-esteem should only come from the scraps men throw them from time to time.

Wtf does her “attractiveness” have to do with her noise issue?!?

That wasn’t the question that I was answering, because it wasn’t the question that was asked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That bass is infuriating. I was on a ROAD once (great outdoors) stopped at a series of lights and we were all looking at each other like, wtf, is that you? My teethe were on EDGE and it was only about six minutes of my life! Finally, as I waited to turn left, the sound faded and I could tell it was a shitty Honda or something going straight. I actually felt the rage die down as the bass did…

Yes!! I am not a rageful person and dont have any anger issues but the bass is truly infuriating. I feel it in my bones, so even with headphones or earplugs it's incredibly irritating and hard to focus or sleep. I dont know why it's so disrupting, I assume there's some biological/bodily reason. But it is truly horrible.

Yes, you feel it in your bones. Should be illegal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s the price of shared walls.

no it’s not. It’s the price of living next to an entitled prick. I had the exact same issue and complained to management and it would stop for a day or two and start back up. Finally met the neighbor at one point and told him straight up his music or tv was keeping me awake really late, and I have to work (with kids) really early. I seldom hear him anymore. He seemed really surprised I could hear him.

Thank you. This is really good advice. I should mention that another reason I'm afraid to speak to him is because I'm a conventionally attractive young woman, and I get incel-ish vibes from his habits/schedule, so I want to avoid some weird situation where he hates me or is extra douchey because i'm a female. I think if I were a man I would have no issue going over and addressing him directly.

And now you lost me. I was going to suggest building management and then noise complaint with police, but since you're so pretty, figure it out on your own

NP but why on earth did this make you so angry?

Because how dare a woman know that she is attractive and openly acknowledge it! Women’s self-esteem should only come from the scraps men throw them from time to time.

Wtf does her “attractiveness” have to do with her noise issue?!?

NP. If you don’t understand how a woman’s appearance impacts the way others treat her, you’re out of your mind. (This is also true for men, of course, but to a different degree.) Attractive, unattractive, arty, corporate, preppy, whatever. And, the truth is that women—much more so than men, by and large—need to evaluate potential risks as much as possible when figuring out how to approach situations. I agree it seems like OP may be stereotyping this guy and/or judging him but he’s also an inconsiderate jerk who is making her living situation uncomfortable, so I can’t blame her too much for that.

That said, the fact that a bunch of you instantly lost all sympathy for a person just because she is a woman who calls herself attractive is disappointingly typical. Of course, if you met her in real life, you’d also likely be more primed to be sympathetic toward her than a less attractive woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s the price of shared walls.

no it’s not. It’s the price of living next to an entitled prick. I had the exact same issue and complained to management and it would stop for a day or two and start back up. Finally met the neighbor at one point and told him straight up his music or tv was keeping me awake really late, and I have to work (with kids) really early. I seldom hear him anymore. He seemed really surprised I could hear him.

Thank you. This is really good advice. I should mention that another reason I'm afraid to speak to him is because I'm a conventionally attractive young woman, and I get incel-ish vibes from his habits/schedule, so I want to avoid some weird situation where he hates me or is extra douchey because i'm a female. I think if I were a man I would have no issue going over and addressing him directly.

And now you lost me. I was going to suggest building management and then noise complaint with police, but since you're so pretty, figure it out on your own

NP but why on earth did this make you so angry?

Because how dare a woman know that she is attractive and openly acknowledge it! Women’s self-esteem should only come from the scraps men throw them from time to time.

Wtf does her “attractiveness” have to do with her noise issue?!?

NP. If you don’t understand how a woman’s appearance impacts the way others treat her, you’re out of your mind. (This is also true for men, of course, but to a different degree.) Attractive, unattractive, arty, corporate, preppy, whatever. And, the truth is that women—much more so than men, by and large—need to evaluate potential risks as much as possible when figuring out how to approach situations. I agree it seems like OP may be stereotyping this guy and/or judging him but he’s also an inconsiderate jerk who is making her living situation uncomfortable, so I can’t blame her too much for that.

That said, the fact that a bunch of you instantly lost all sympathy for a person just because she is a woman who calls herself attractive is disappointingly typical. Of course, if you met her in real life, you’d also likely be more primed to be sympathetic toward her than a less attractive woman.

Sorry. I couldn’t disagree more. Her level of attractiveness has zero bearing on the situation. Zero.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s the price of shared walls.

no it’s not. It’s the price of living next to an entitled prick. I had the exact same issue and complained to management and it would stop for a day or two and start back up. Finally met the neighbor at one point and told him straight up his music or tv was keeping me awake really late, and I have to work (with kids) really early. I seldom hear him anymore. He seemed really surprised I could hear him.

Thank you. This is really good advice. I should mention that another reason I'm afraid to speak to him is because I'm a conventionally attractive young woman, and I get incel-ish vibes from his habits/schedule, so I want to avoid some weird situation where he hates me or is extra douchey because i'm a female. I think if I were a man I would have no issue going over and addressing him directly.

And now you lost me. I was going to suggest building management and then noise complaint with police, but since you're so pretty, figure it out on your own

NP but why on earth did this make you so angry?

Because how dare a woman know that she is attractive and openly acknowledge it! Women’s self-esteem should only come from the scraps men throw them from time to time.

Wtf does her “attractiveness” have to do with her noise issue?!?

NP. If you don’t understand how a woman’s appearance impacts the way others treat her, you’re out of your mind. (This is also true for men, of course, but to a different degree.) Attractive, unattractive, arty, corporate, preppy, whatever. And, the truth is that women—much more so than men, by and large—need to evaluate potential risks as much as possible when figuring out how to approach situations. I agree it seems like OP may be stereotyping this guy and/or judging him but he’s also an inconsiderate jerk who is making her living situation uncomfortable, so I can’t blame her too much for that.

That said, the fact that a bunch of you instantly lost all sympathy for a person just because she is a woman who calls herself attractive is disappointingly typical. Of course, if you met her in real life, you’d also likely be more primed to be sympathetic toward her than a less attractive woman.

Sorry. I couldn’t disagree more. Her level of attractiveness has zero bearing on the situation. Zero.

People get so angry on this board when women state that they are attractive. Are they not supposed to know? It's like that stupid song, "you don't know you're beautiful, that's what makes you beautiful"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s the price of shared walls.

no it’s not. It’s the price of living next to an entitled prick. I had the exact same issue and complained to management and it would stop for a day or two and start back up. Finally met the neighbor at one point and told him straight up his music or tv was keeping me awake really late, and I have to work (with kids) really early. I seldom hear him anymore. He seemed really surprised I could hear him.

Thank you. This is really good advice. I should mention that another reason I'm afraid to speak to him is because I'm a conventionally attractive young woman, and I get incel-ish vibes from his habits/schedule, so I want to avoid some weird situation where he hates me or is extra douchey because i'm a female. I think if I were a man I would have no issue going over and addressing him directly.

And now you lost me. I was going to suggest building management and then noise complaint with police, but since you're so pretty, figure it out on your own

Yikes. And people are curious why a woman would factor in their appearance when evaluating the best way to approach a situation. FWIW, a woman who is unattractive or overweight also has to make such calculations, though through a different lens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s the price of shared walls.

no it’s not. It’s the price of living next to an entitled prick. I had the exact same issue and complained to management and it would stop for a day or two and start back up. Finally met the neighbor at one point and told him straight up his music or tv was keeping me awake really late, and I have to work (with kids) really early. I seldom hear him anymore. He seemed really surprised I could hear him.

Thank you. This is really good advice. I should mention that another reason I'm afraid to speak to him is because I'm a conventionally attractive young woman, and I get incel-ish vibes from his habits/schedule, so I want to avoid some weird situation where he hates me or is extra douchey because i'm a female. I think if I were a man I would have no issue going over and addressing him directly.

And now you lost me. I was going to suggest building management and then noise complaint with police, but since you're so pretty, figure it out on your own

NP but why on earth did this make you so angry?

Because how dare a woman know that she is attractive and openly acknowledge it! Women’s self-esteem should only come from the scraps men throw them from time to time.

Wtf does her “attractiveness” have to do with her noise issue?!?

NP. If you don’t understand how a woman’s appearance impacts the way others treat her, you’re out of your mind. (This is also true for men, of course, but to a different degree.) Attractive, unattractive, arty, corporate, preppy, whatever. And, the truth is that women—much more so than men, by and large—need to evaluate potential risks as much as possible when figuring out how to approach situations. I agree it seems like OP may be stereotyping this guy and/or judging him but he’s also an inconsiderate jerk who is making her living situation uncomfortable, so I can’t blame her too much for that.

That said, the fact that a bunch of you instantly lost all sympathy for a person just because she is a woman who calls herself attractive is disappointingly typical. Of course, if you met her in real life, you’d also likely be more primed to be sympathetic toward her than a less attractive woman.

This right here is a truth bomb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just moved into a very nice apartment building, and over the past couple weeks I have slowly begun to realize that the person next door loves to pick random nights where he (I'm assuming) plays video games either all day or all night long (till 6am) at incredibly loud levels. The apartments are relatively well sound proofed but his bass manages to vibrate my apartment walls all the way into my bedroom on the other side. His schedule seems to be unpredictable as sometimes he will do this all day, and sometimes all night. Sometimes he goes to work from normal hours, and the noises starts at 5 and ends at 10. but even that seems less than ideal and makes the apartment highly uncomfortable, although it's far preferable to the "all day/all night" random periods. It's also giving me low grade anxiety, as I never know what day he'll pick to blast the apartment with noise.

It seems to me that the guy doesnt have a lot going on in his life and his only hobby is playing video games, which is fine, I couldnt care less except for the fact that I have to hear/feel the rumblings of the bass from this while I'm trying to work from home/sleep. I actually passed a delivery man who was delivering 2 fast food bags and 2 bags from 7/11 and asking for directions to the guy's apartment, so I can only assume this is his lifestyle and it's not exactly productive or going to change anytime soon.

I brought it up to the apartment and he lowered the volume SLIGHTLY but still to the point of rumbling my room quite a lot. I dont want to start some crazy neighbor war, and, again, I doubt the guy is super reasonable and considerate and would be amenable to a conversation, considering his past behavior, so I dont want to speak to him personally.

My question is- what are my recourses? Should I keep complaining to the apartment every time he does this? I worry that they wont take it seriously and dont want to be a nuisance. I've never had this situation before

When we lived in our apt in downtown Bethesda, it was a lot of people in their 20's, and our bedroom backed up to the bedroom of the apartment next to ours.

Well, at least 5 nights a week the couple in that apartment would have REALLY loud sex between the hours of 3-5 am.
On the weekends, I didn't care, have at it, but during the week my (now) husband & I both had to be up at 6am for work... but how do you start that conversation with a neighbor you've never met before?

Well, my husband came up with a perfect solution...

I can't remember the exact wording, but he changed our wifi name to something like:

22D_Every1CanHearYouHavnSex

They QUICKLY got the message and quieted down. 😉

[Anonymous]

Also I read this online:

A trick I suggest for renters struggling to sleep: Lumitex.

Originally developed to block out light in shades & curtains, Lumitex is a thick, *FAIRLY INEXPENSIVE* fabric that provides excellent acoustic absorption.
Instead of sewing it into window curtains, the designer insists on using the stuff to surround a canopy bed.

“A friend of my daughter’s has a great apartment, but they can hear the neighbors sneeze at night because the walls are so thin,” Schnitta says.
“I said, ‘Hey, you know, tell them to get a canopy bed, make curtains for it, line them with Lumitex, and they should be fine.’
Sure enough, that helped and they weren’t woken up in the middle of the night.”

A little soundproofed cocoon!
How sweet is that?
Before you go inserting sound-absorbing panels between your drywall, you could try creating a little haven for sleep in your apartment and it will give you back your precious shut-eye.