How to deal with neighbor's loud bass from videogames 24/7

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s the price of shared walls.

no it’s not. It’s the price of living next to an entitled prick. I had the exact same issue and complained to management and it would stop for a day or two and start back up. Finally met the neighbor at one point and told him straight up his music or tv was keeping me awake really late, and I have to work (with kids) really early. I seldom hear him anymore. He seemed really surprised I could hear him.

Thank you. This is really good advice. I should mention that another reason I'm afraid to speak to him is because I'm a conventionally attractive young woman, and I get incel-ish vibes from his habits/schedule, so I want to avoid some weird situation where he hates me or is extra douchey because i'm a female. I think if I were a man I would have no issue going over and addressing him directly.

And now you lost me. I was going to suggest building management and then noise complaint with police, but since you're so pretty, figure it out on your own

NP but why on earth did this make you so angry?

It’s funny but he illustrated exactly why she’s hesitant to talk to the guy. There’s a type of man who can get very triggered by requests from women—especially attractive women.

[Anonymous]

I'm the most attractive person in my complex and because of that, I don't feel comfortable talking to incels. Why is that so hard for you to understand?

Why haven't I gotten a good plan-of-action for my issue yet? I am getting random suggestions. That's not good enough. You all were supposed to help me. The bass is stressing me out. It kept me up all night.

[Anonymous]

1) do not engage with the guy further. Document the approximate time you talked to him but he is obviously an asshioe, knows the noise bothers you, and just doesn't care
2) every time his noise disturbs you, write down date and time.
3) follow up with management next day if unable to do at that time
4) review your lease for terms about quiet enjoyment. If you are unable to enjoy your apartment, you can break the lease.

Try to see if other neighbors are bothered the noise. You can write a letter to management with all parties signing the letter. Can just be an email with your names at the bottom with all parties CC'd

You aren't a nuisance for wanting to have some peace in the place you are probably paying dearly for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s the price of shared walls.

no it’s not. It’s the price of living next to an entitled prick. I had the exact same issue and complained to management and it would stop for a day or two and start back up. Finally met the neighbor at one point and told him straight up his music or tv was keeping me awake really late, and I have to work (with kids) really early. I seldom hear him anymore. He seemed really surprised I could hear him.

Thank you. This is really good advice. I should mention that another reason I'm afraid to speak to him is because I'm a conventionally attractive young woman, and I get incel-ish vibes from his habits/schedule, so I want to avoid some weird situation where he hates me or is extra douchey because i'm a female. I think if I were a man I would have no issue going over and addressing him directly.

And now you lost me. I was going to suggest building management and then noise complaint with police, but since you're so pretty, figure it out on your own

Haha. Now we know you are a man or a conventionally very unattractive woman. Freaks like that really turn nasty to women in a way they would NEVER do to a man. Of any age or attractiveness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the most attractive person in my complex and because of that, I don't feel comfortable talking to incels. Why is that so hard for you to understand?

Why haven't I gotten a good plan-of-action for my issue yet? I am getting random suggestions. That's not good enough. You all were supposed to help me. The bass is stressing me out. It kept me up all night.

I take it you are pretending to be OP in order to drive home the point that OP is, in your estimation, acting entitled because she’s pretty.

You might want to examine your own motives and why you hold pretty women to different standards you would anyone else. OP has not been whiny, entitled, or unreasonable. But somehow people have just lost their freaking minds because she dares to say that she is pretty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just moved into a very nice apartment building, and over the past couple weeks I have slowly begun to realize that the person next door loves to pick random nights where he (I'm assuming) plays video games either all day or all night long (till 6am) at incredibly loud levels. The apartments are relatively well sound proofed but his bass manages to vibrate my apartment walls all the way into my bedroom on the other side. His schedule seems to be unpredictable as sometimes he will do this all day, and sometimes all night. Sometimes he goes to work from normal hours, and the noises starts at 5 and ends at 10. but even that seems less than ideal and makes the apartment highly uncomfortable, although it's far preferable to the "all day/all night" random periods. It's also giving me low grade anxiety, as I never know what day he'll pick to blast the apartment with noise.

It seems to me that the guy doesnt have a lot going on in his life and his only hobby is playing video games, which is fine, I couldnt care less except for the fact that I have to hear/feel the rumblings of the bass from this while I'm trying to work from home/sleep. I actually passed a delivery man who was delivering 2 fast food bags and 2 bags from 7/11 and asking for directions to the guy's apartment, so I can only assume this is his lifestyle and it's not exactly productive or going to change anytime soon.

I brought it up to the apartment and he lowered the volume SLIGHTLY but still to the point of rumbling my room quite a lot. I dont want to start some crazy neighbor war, and, again, I doubt the guy is super reasonable and considerate and would be amenable to a conversation, considering his past behavior, so I dont want to speak to him personally.

My question is- what are my recourses? Should I keep complaining to the apartment every time he does this? I worry that they wont take it seriously and dont want to be a nuisance. I've never had this situation before

When we lived in our apt in downtown Bethesda, it was a lot of people in their 20's, and our bedroom backed up to the bedroom of the apartment next to ours.

Well, at least 5 nights a week the couple in that apartment would have REALLY loud sex between the hours of 3-5 am.
On the weekends, I didn't care, have at it, but during the week my (now) husband & I both had to be up at 6am for work... but how do you start that conversation with a neighbor you've never met before?

Well, my husband came up with a perfect solution...

I can't remember the exact wording, but he changed our wifi name to something like:

22D_Every1CanHearYouHavnSex

They QUICKLY got the message and quieted down. 😉

🤣🤣🤣🤣
How mortifying!
🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Anonymous]

Well it sounds like everyone has tolerated him long enough. I would log and record his loud bass. Suggest headphones and as a last resort call the police non-emergency number.

If no remedy is found you can take the apartment building to small claims court and get out of your lease and have your next move paid for. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just moved into a very nice apartment building, and over the past couple weeks I have slowly begun to realize that the person next door loves to pick random nights where he (I'm assuming) plays video games either all day or all night long (till 6am) at incredibly loud levels. The apartments are relatively well sound proofed but his bass manages to vibrate my apartment walls all the way into my bedroom on the other side. His schedule seems to be unpredictable as sometimes he will do this all day, and sometimes all night. Sometimes he goes to work from normal hours, and the noises starts at 5 and ends at 10. but even that seems less than ideal and makes the apartment highly uncomfortable, although it's far preferable to the "all day/all night" random periods. It's also giving me low grade anxiety, as I never know what day he'll pick to blast the apartment with noise.

It seems to me that the guy doesnt have a lot going on in his life and his only hobby is playing video games, which is fine, I couldnt care less except for the fact that I have to hear/feel the rumblings of the bass from this while I'm trying to work from home/sleep. I actually passed a delivery man who was delivering 2 fast food bags and 2 bags from 7/11 and asking for directions to the guy's apartment, so I can only assume this is his lifestyle and it's not exactly productive or going to change anytime soon.

I brought it up to the apartment and he lowered the volume SLIGHTLY but still to the point of rumbling my room quite a lot. I dont want to start some crazy neighbor war, and, again, I doubt the guy is super reasonable and considerate and would be amenable to a conversation, considering his past behavior, so I dont want to speak to him personally.

My question is- what are my recourses? Should I keep complaining to the apartment every time he does this? I worry that they wont take it seriously and dont want to be a nuisance. I've never had this situation before

When we lived in our apt in downtown Bethesda, it was a lot of people in their 20's, and our bedroom backed up to the bedroom of the apartment next to ours.

Well, at least 5 nights a week the couple in that apartment would have REALLY loud sex between the hours of 3-5 am.
On the weekends, I didn't care, have at it, but during the week my (now) husband & I both had to be up at 6am for work... but how do you start that conversation with a neighbor you've never met before?

Well, my husband came up with a perfect solution...

I can't remember the exact wording, but he changed our wifi name to something like:

22D_Every1CanHearYouHavnSex

They QUICKLY got the message and quieted down. 😉

I LOVE this. This is genius and hilarious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the most attractive person in my complex and because of that, I don't feel comfortable talking to incels. Why is that so hard for you to understand?

Why haven't I gotten a good plan-of-action for my issue yet? I am getting random suggestions. That's not good enough. You all were supposed to help me. The bass is stressing me out. It kept me up all night.

I take it you are pretending to be OP in order to drive home the point that OP is, in your estimation, acting entitled because she’s pretty.

You might want to examine your own motives and why you hold pretty women to different standards you would anyone else. OP has not been whiny, entitled, or unreasonable. But somehow people have just lost their freaking minds because she dares to say that she is pretty.

To be ckear, OP was the one making assumptions about her neighbor based on sterotypes. It was ok for her to do that about others, it's ok for others to do that back to her. Turnabout is fair play.

[Anonymous]

Tell the building that it hasn’t been resolved and see if they’ll let you move to a different unit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm the most attractive person in my complex and because of that, I don't feel comfortable talking to incels. Why is that so hard for you to understand?

Why haven't I gotten a good plan-of-action for my issue yet? I am getting random suggestions. That's not good enough. You all were supposed to help me. The bass is stressing me out. It kept me up all night.

I take it you are pretending to be OP in order to drive home the point that OP is, in your estimation, acting entitled because she’s pretty.

You might want to examine your own motives and why you hold pretty women to different standards you would anyone else. OP has not been whiny, entitled, or unreasonable. But somehow people have just lost their freaking minds because she dares to say that she is pretty.

The OP is a troll post. All you have to do is read it. It's obviously a troll.

[Anonymous]

Not helpful to you here, but this reminds me of when my son and his roommates in college had an off-campus apartment. Once when I visited, a young woman from the next door apartment appeared, demanded to know if I was "one of their moms", then went off on a rant about how loud and obnoxious the boys were late into the night, every night, leaving her too tired for her morning classes. I gave her my phone number and told her to call me directly if she ever heard them again.

Then I told the boys that they needed to make sure that their music and video games were NEVER loud enough to disturb the neighbor. I called her to check up on this a few times.

Again, not helpful to you, but it's a story my son hates me to tell. His friends think it is hilarious, though.

[Anonymous]

Ooof. Im sorry OP. you gotta move

[Anonymous]

He stops at 6 a.m. At 6:05 am you start playing loud polka music, religious revivals, dogs barking, or babies crying, perhaps a combination of all these.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He stops at 6 a.m. At 6:05 am you start playing loud polka music, religious revivals, dogs barking, or babies crying, perhaps a combination of all these.

As a man, I would understand this message. I would also respect the sender of this message.

If an attractive woman came to me and made the request to turn down my music, all the blood would go to my smaller head and I would not hear a word that she is saying.