How to deal with neighbor's loud bass from videogames 24/7

[Anonymous]

This guy sounds pretty cool. Do u know his gaming name?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This guy sounds pretty cool. Do u know his gaming name?

Maybe you can find him on 4chan or reddit...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s the price of shared walls.

no it’s not. It’s the price of living next to an entitled prick. I had the exact same issue and complained to management and it would stop for a day or two and start back up. Finally met the neighbor at one point and told him straight up his music or tv was keeping me awake really late, and I have to work (with kids) really early. I seldom hear him anymore. He seemed really surprised I could hear him.

Thank you. This is really good advice. I should mention that another reason I'm afraid to speak to him is because I'm a conventionally attractive young woman, and I get incel-ish vibes from his habits/schedule, so I want to avoid some weird situation where he hates me or is extra douchey because i'm a female. I think if I were a man I would have no issue going over and addressing him directly.

Aaaaaaand….you just lost me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s the price of shared walls.

no it’s not. It’s the price of living next to an entitled prick. I had the exact same issue and complained to management and it would stop for a day or two and start back up. Finally met the neighbor at one point and told him straight up his music or tv was keeping me awake really late, and I have to work (with kids) really early. I seldom hear him anymore. He seemed really surprised I could hear him.

Thank you. This is really good advice. I should mention that another reason I'm afraid to speak to him is because I'm a conventionally attractive young woman, and I get incel-ish vibes from his habits/schedule, so I want to avoid some weird situation where he hates me or is extra douchey because i'm a female. I think if I were a man I would have no issue going over and addressing him directly.

Aaaaaaand….you just lost me

Well then it wasn't for you. Many other women (and men) will know what I'm talking about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s the price of shared walls.

no it’s not. It’s the price of living next to an entitled prick. I had the exact same issue and complained to management and it would stop for a day or two and start back up. Finally met the neighbor at one point and told him straight up his music or tv was keeping me awake really late, and I have to work (with kids) really early. I seldom hear him anymore. He seemed really surprised I could hear him.

Thank you. This is really good advice. I should mention that another reason I'm afraid to speak to him is because I'm a conventionally attractive young woman, and I get incel-ish vibes from his habits/schedule, so I want to avoid some weird situation where he hates me or is extra douchey because i'm a female. I think if I were a man I would have no issue going over and addressing him directly.

Aaaaaaand….you just lost me

Sadly, she's right. Video gamers are statistically more likely to be anti-women than the general population. I would still go talk to him, though, OP.

[Anonymous]

I just moved into a very nice apartment building,

It's also giving me low grade anxiety

It seems to me that the guy doesnt have a lot going on in his life and his only hobby is playing video games, which is fine

I actually passed a delivery man who was delivering 2 fast food bags and 2 bags from 7/11 and asking for directions to the guy's apartment, so I can only assume this is his lifestyle and it's not exactly productive

I doubt the guy is super reasonable and considerate and would be amenable to a conversation, considering his past behavior, so I dont want to speak to him personally.

I'm a conventionally attractive young woman, and I get incel-ish vibes from his habits/schedule, so I want to avoid some weird situation where he hates me or is extra douchey because i'm a female.

Uh huh. I think whoever this is will see through you very quickly with this attitude.

Look, just keep going to the apartment building, or move.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I just moved into a very nice apartment building,

It's also giving me low grade anxiety

It seems to me that the guy doesnt have a lot going on in his life and his only hobby is playing video games, which is fine

I actually passed a delivery man who was delivering 2 fast food bags and 2 bags from 7/11 and asking for directions to the guy's apartment, so I can only assume this is his lifestyle and it's not exactly productive

I doubt the guy is super reasonable and considerate and would be amenable to a conversation, considering his past behavior, so I dont want to speak to him personally.

I'm a conventionally attractive young woman, and I get incel-ish vibes from his habits/schedule, so I want to avoid some weird situation where he hates me or is extra douchey because i'm a female.

Uh huh. I think whoever this is will see through you very quickly with this attitude.

Look, just keep going to the apartment building, or move.

See through what exactly?

[Anonymous]

He sounds depressed. Are you sure he's employed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s the price of shared walls.

no it’s not. It’s the price of living next to an entitled prick. I had the exact same issue and complained to management and it would stop for a day or two and start back up. Finally met the neighbor at one point and told him straight up his music or tv was keeping me awake really late, and I have to work (with kids) really early. I seldom hear him anymore. He seemed really surprised I could hear him.

Thank you. This is really good advice. I should mention that another reason I'm afraid to speak to him is because I'm a conventionally attractive young woman, and I get incel-ish vibes from his habits/schedule, so I want to avoid some weird situation where he hates me or is extra douchey because i'm a female. I think if I were a man I would have no issue going over and addressing him directly.

Aaaaaaand….you just lost me

She lost me in her OP. No need to be so judgmental about someone she knows nothing about.

[Anonymous]

Are you the only neighbor who hears him? If so, how? In my building if one neighbor is loud, about 10 neighbors can hear it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you the only neighbor who hears him? If so, how? In my building if one neighbor is loud, about 10 neighbors can hear it.

Like I said the building has pretty good noise protection (it's a new build) and you cant hear your neighbors most of the time. I share one small wall with him but that seems to be enough. It seems to be a combination of the volume of his noise and the bass. Like I said, when you walk down the hall, his is the only door with noise blaring from it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He sounds depressed. Are you sure he's employed?

He might be in college or unemployed, just that he is gone from 9-5 for some days of the week. I agree that depression or a mental health issue seems likely

[Anonymous]

That bass is infuriating. I was on a ROAD once (great outdoors) stopped at a series of lights and we were all looking at each other like, wtf, is that you? My teethe were on EDGE and it was only about six minutes of my life! Finally, as I waited to turn left, the sound faded and I could tell it was a shitty Honda or something going straight. I actually felt the rage die down as the bass did…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That bass is infuriating. I was on a ROAD once (great outdoors) stopped at a series of lights and we were all looking at each other like, wtf, is that you? My teethe were on EDGE and it was only about six minutes of my life! Finally, as I waited to turn left, the sound faded and I could tell it was a shitty Honda or something going straight. I actually felt the rage die down as the bass did…

Yes!! I am not a rageful person and dont have any anger issues but the bass is truly infuriating. I feel it in my bones, so even with headphones or earplugs it's incredibly irritating and hard to focus or sleep. I dont know why it's so disrupting, I assume there's some biological/bodily reason. But it is truly horrible.

[Anonymous]

Call the police and document document document. Write down all the times of the music and email it to yourself each night.