What Would You Say is Inappropriate Touching Between Opposite Friends

[Anonymous]

You're obviously confused, as is she.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, in this case, you are into the signals she is sending, and she is sending the signals that she is interested in being more than friends.

I'm feeling a bit confused, because we have both had mutual attraction but I backed off because she told me awhile back she just wanted to be friends, and yet.... here we are.

That was then, this is now. Use Bayesian reasoning and update your assumptions. If she told you several hours ago she didn't want anything to eat, but you just a few minutes ago heard her stomach growling and saw her staring in the fridge would you be "confused" as to whether or not she wanted something to eat?

[Anonymous]

Hugging is mostly considered sexual/non-platonic in Latin cultures. Kissing cheek has no significant connotation.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, in this case, you are into the signals she is sending, and she is sending the signals that she is interested in being more than friends.

I'm feeling a bit confused, because we have both had mutual attraction but I backed off because she told me awhile back she just wanted to be friends, and yet.... here we are. [/quot


I can see grabbing your arm while hiking to steady herself but chest kissing? Not at all platonic. Time for a chat

[Anonymous]

What kind of chat? Are we just friends or do you really want to be more than friends as you told me a few weeks ago?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What kind of chat? Are we just friends or do you really want to be more than friends as you told me a few weeks ago?

How are you feeling about the just friends thing these days? Deliver in a playful way. That way if she says something noncommittal you can back off, if she says she’s confused you can listen. Think of it less as a chat with a goal on your end and more as a listening tour. If she asks why you’re asking, say oh just curious and smile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you ask?

I have an opposite sex friend. I’m trying to interpret her physical touch with me. We went hiking Saturday and she was taking my arm, holding my hand as we sat on a rick in a stream. She’s not a very tall woman and at one point she falls into my arms from a rock and is hugging me and starts kissing my chest (through my shirt). She also called me a little pet name - my peludito in Spanish. She is Mexican.

Return the favor and kiss her chest (through her shirt). See how she responds. That will give you your answer right there.

[Anonymous]

In your case it’s clear she wants to be more than friends, OP.

I’m French, and the one, two, three or four side-cheek kisses are common for friends, colleagues or acquaintances (number depends on region). But there are no hugs like here, no hand holding, etc…

[Anonymous]

Holding hands - 10
Walking arm in arm - 6/7
Hugging - 1
Hugging with a kiss to the chest - 10
Kissing on the cheek - depends on your culture
Kissing in the lips 10
Cuddling 10

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you ask?

I have an opposite sex friend. I’m trying to interpret her physical touch with me. We went hiking Saturday and she was taking my arm, holding my hand as we sat on a rick in a stream. She’s not a very tall woman and at one point she falls into my arms from a rock and is hugging me and starts kissing my chest (through my shirt). She also called me a little pet name - my peludito in Spanish. She is Mexican.

Return the favor and kiss her chest (through her shirt). See how she responds. That will give you your answer right there.

This is good advice. Heck, maybe even GREAT advice

[Anonymous]

Nipple play is totally inappropriate. Tongue action is also totally inappropriate. So is dry humping.

If you have to put your hands inside someone pants because you are cold...I think this can go both ways.

[Anonymous]

I would consider all of these to be inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
In your case it’s clear she wants to be more than friends, OP.

I’m French, and the one, two, three or four side-cheek kisses are common for friends, colleagues or acquaintances (number depends on region). But there are no hugs like here, no hand holding, etc…

I am just confused. We were romantically involved for about two months and then she said "let's just be friends." We've seen each other twice since that "just be friends" talk. First meeting was very "just friends." Second meeting is as I describe here. We probably won't see each other again for about a month. She's traveling. I have family visiting. So, I am going to see what happens at the next meeting. If it continues I am going to ask are we just friends, somewhere in between, etc.

Last talk we had she said she just needed some space, and that was in the context of all this hugging, handholding, etc., but it was a circle back to our earlier discussions. In the meantime, I am going on other dates unti she figures this out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
In your case it’s clear she wants to be more than friends, OP.

I’m French, and the one, two, three or four side-cheek kisses are common for friends, colleagues or acquaintances (number depends on region). But there are no hugs like here, no hand holding, etc…

I am just confused. We were romantically involved for about two months and then she said "let's just be friends." We've seen each other twice since that "just be friends" talk. First meeting was very "just friends." Second meeting is as I describe here. We probably won't see each other again for about a month. She's traveling. I have family visiting. So, I am going to see what happens at the next meeting. If it continues I am going to ask are we just friends, somewhere in between, etc.

Last talk we had she said she just needed some space, and that was in the context of all this hugging, handholding, etc., but it was a circle back to our earlier discussions. In the meantime, I am going on other dates unti she figures this out.

If she acts flirty the next time you see her I would just take her lead and go for the kiss. Many women still prefer to have the guy make the first move.

If she is not receptive to the kiss I would stop participating in her hot/cold mind games and just not reach out anymore.