What Would You Say is Inappropriate Touching Between Opposite Friends
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Anonymous
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On a scale of 0-5, please rate the level of inappropriate touching between opposite sex friends:
0 is highly appropriate. 5 highly inappropriate. Holding hands Walking arm in arm Hugging Hugging with a kiss to the chest Kissing on the cheek Kissing in the lips Cuddling |
Anonymous
| Why do you ask? |
Anonymous
Cultural, totally. In most of Europe kissing on the cheek would happen regularly between colleagues. America is weirdly puritanical. Within that context, only hugging between opposite sex friends seems to be deemed totally appropriate. I would also walk arm in arm with a close guy friend. Holding hands, kissing on the lips, cuddling — probably inappropriate if you’re married. |
Anonymous
No, it wouldn't. |
Anonymous
I have an opposite sex friend. I’m trying to interpret her physical touch with me. We went hiking Saturday and she was taking my arm, holding my hand as we sat on a rick in a stream. She’s not a very tall woman and at one point she falls into my arms from a rock and is hugging me and starts kissing my chest (through my shirt). She also called me a little pet name - my peludito in Spanish. She is Mexican. |
Anonymous
| 0 for all |
Anonymous
She’s trying not to be your friend, but your girlfriend. |
Anonymous
| The only pertinent question is whether any of her touching you in unwelcome or uncomfortable. If so, you need to clear the air between the two of you, and tell her to stop. |
Anonymous
This. |
Anonymous
| Hugging as a greeting only. The other things are totally inappropriate. If you don't want to date her, run for the hills. |
Anonymous
Yeah, she is into you, man. It's possible, if she's with someone and doesn't quite want to cheat (?) that she is pushing things as far as she can with you to maintain some plausible deniability, but still get a little thrill. Otherwise she straight up wants to be with you as more than a friend. |
Anonymous
+1. |
Anonymous
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To answer the actual questions as a thought experiment, I'd say they're all pretty culturally dependent. I'd say a white-leaning American median would deem hugging and maybe kissing briefly on the cheek as appropriate-- maybe very light cuddling if it's just watching a movie on the couch together and your bodies are incidentally touching in some way. Maybe. Everything else would be a no, exceptions for some people who peck everyone on the lips.
It's funny, because handholding/walking arm in arm is NBD and in many countries, it's very common among same sex adults (even men). But it's just not a thing in the US unless you're a couple or parent/child/etc.... occasionally adult female friends or family members. I can see there also being more leeway depending on the relationship. Like if it's fictive kinship (play brother, play cousin-- very close family friends that you grew up with and are like family)... I think with those, anything that would be okay with a brother/sister would usually not feel inappropriate. But even that is tricky. |
Anonymous
No. It is not unwelcome. It’s quite pleasant actually. |
Anonymous
| Wait- did your cock ever accidentally find its way into her mouth or V? |