Condescending daycare/preschool teachers

[Anonymous]

Yes, being called “mom” is condescending as was the rest of her brush off.

But don’t look to daycare for answers like that, OP. Most of the teachers don’t even have AA degrees and even with a BA could only base their opinions on what they see.

[Anonymous]

Op, this is completely you. Teacher was very reasonable and gave you a factual answer.

[Anonymous]

Team teacher on this one.

[Anonymous]

Op, if you need a in depth analysis of your 3 year olds grip in class, schedule a meeting. The answer you received was appropriate. You were just needing more attention and likely had a pre-approved answer you imagined. The teacher is not your nanny. Respect her time and take the answer she gave you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I don't know. Our preschool never did that. But our public elementary does. I agree that it's a knee-jerk reaction to the helicopter parents but it's also lazy. You didn't ask if your DD would be fine, you asked for information, which they didn't give.

Also, I hate when adults, who are not my children, call me, "mom."

I hate that, too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP I don't know. Our preschool never did that. But our public elementary does. I agree that it's a knee-jerk reaction to the helicopter parents but it's also lazy. You didn't ask if your DD would be fine, you asked for information, which they didn't give.

Also, I hate when adults, who are not my children, call me, "mom."

I hate that, too.

They just don’t know/remember your name. It’s not an affront.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP I don't know. Our preschool never did that. But our public elementary does. I agree that it's a knee-jerk reaction to the helicopter parents but it's also lazy. You didn't ask if your DD would be fine, you asked for information, which they didn't give.

Also, I hate when adults, who are not my children, call me, "mom."

I hate that, too.

They just don’t know/remember your name. It’s not an affront.

I hate this, too. Or even worse, “mama”. If you don’t know my name (that’s fine!) can’t you just write the response without referring to me by name or as mom? “She’s fine. It’s a learning process”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP I don't know. Our preschool never did that. But our public elementary does. I agree that it's a knee-jerk reaction to the helicopter parents but it's also lazy. You didn't ask if your DD would be fine, you asked for information, which they didn't give.

Also, I hate when adults, who are not my children, call me, "mom."

I hate that, too.

They just don’t know/remember your name. It’s not an affront.

I hate this, too. Or even worse, “mama”. If you don’t know my name (that’s fine!) can’t you just write the response without referring to me by name or as mom? “She’s fine. It’s a learning process”

+100. Please don’t call me mom or mama if you are not my child. So weird that adults do this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP I don't know. Our preschool never did that. But our public elementary does. I agree that it's a knee-jerk reaction to the helicopter parents but it's also lazy. You didn't ask if your DD would be fine, you asked for information, which they didn't give.

Also, I hate when adults, who are not my children, call me, "mom."

I hate that, too.

They just don’t know/remember your name. It’s not an affront.

I hate this, too. Or even worse, “mama”. If you don’t know my name (that’s fine!) can’t you just write the response without referring to me by name or as mom? “She’s fine. It’s a learning process”

+100. Please don’t call me mom or mama if you are not my child. So weird that adults do this.

IDC one way or the other, I will say if this conversation is happening by app - its lazy not to say 'Mrs/Ms/Mr Smith' or just don't name them at all.

Anyone know if the app includes the parents name at the top or a header in all text exchanges?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP I don't know. Our preschool never did that. But our public elementary does. I agree that it's a knee-jerk reaction to the helicopter parents but it's also lazy. You didn't ask if your DD would be fine, you asked for information, which they didn't give.

Also, I hate when adults, who are not my children, call me, "mom."

I hate that, too.

They just don’t know/remember your name. It’s not an affront.

I hate this, too. Or even worse, “mama”. If you don’t know my name (that’s fine!) can’t you just write the response without referring to me by name or as mom? “She’s fine. It’s a learning process”

+100. Please don’t call me mom or mama if you are not my child. So weird that adults do this.

IDC one way or the other, I will say if this conversation is happening by app - its lazy not to say 'Mrs/Ms/Mr Smith' or just don't name them at all.

Anyone know if the app includes the parents name at the top or a header in all text exchanges?

Good grief. Mom is fine for this sort of exchange. How much attention do you need. Geez.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am a director and a real issue is that we expect teachers to be interacting with the children throughout the day, not answering messages in an app. These new communication apps have led to parents asking many more questions and expecting very quick responses. Teachers often need to rush to answer. If you have a concern you’ll get a better response if you call or email to schedule a time to talk.

Translation: The teachers never get time to lesson plan or respond to messages because the owners are cheap.

Translation. Teachers are too tied up with helicopter questions to properly prepare for classes.

Uh, no. They literally NEVER get a moment without the kids around to do anything.

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Anonymous wrote:OP I don't know. Our preschool never did that. But our public elementary does. I agree that it's a knee-jerk reaction to the helicopter parents but it's also lazy. You didn't ask if your DD would be fine, you asked for information, which they didn't give.

Also, I hate when adults, who are not my children, call me, "mom."

I hate that, too.

They just don’t know/remember your name. It’s not an affront.

I hate this, too. Or even worse, “mama”. If you don’t know my name (that’s fine!) can’t you just write the response without referring to me by name or as mom? “She’s fine. It’s a learning process”

+100. Please don’t call me mom or mama if you are not my child. So weird that adults do this.

IDC one way or the other, I will say if this conversation is happening by app - its lazy not to say 'Mrs/Ms/Mr Smith' or just don't name them at all.

Anyone know if the app includes the parents name at the top or a header in all text exchanges?

Good grief. Mom is fine for this sort of exchange. How much attention do you need. Geez.

At least they haven’t started calling us “mommy” yet…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean being concerned about the pencil grip of a 3yo is helicoptery, whether you think it is or not.

Yea this. But I was a first time Mom once too so I get it

[Anonymous]

The whole idea of a messaging app where parents are allowed to harass teachers with dumb questions is terrible and so unfair to teachers who are busy with kids.

The teachers answer was dismissive. She could have easily given you an actual answer; “larla is in the normal range for this, I’m not concerned”.

[Anonymous]

All of these helicopter questions should be funneled to one person offsite to answer with a script. There. Problem solved.