Parents of kids w/ later bedtimes (9pm or later, say): How do you have couple time?

Anonymous
You are getting lots of time now. Way more than most people. But in the future, movies and playdates and sleepovers and dropoff activities. DH and I drop out kids at orchestra practice and go out for donuts and coffee every Saturday. The kids are none the wiser.
Anonymous
And maybe your husband likes to go to bed by 10 but if he really values couple time as much as you do then he can stretch himself to stay up a bit longer with you.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Is couple time a code phrase for sex? Or do you genuinely mean time for the two of you to just talk without kid interruption?

That’s still a TON of time to have sex, unless they’re into Tantric marathons.
Anonymous
Good responses here, and yes, perhaps I'm more spoiled for couple time than I realized. Thanks everyone!

And no, couple time was meant in a G-rated way, lol, as in quality time talking/bonding. I don't anticipate problems making time for the non-G-rated version.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Good responses here, and yes, perhaps I'm more spoiled for couple time than I realized. Thanks everyone!

And no, couple time was meant in a G-rated way, lol, as in quality time talking/bonding. I don't anticipate problems making time for the non-G-rated version.


As the PP who asked whether couple time was code, thanks for the clarification.

Our kids are older (sort of: 9, 7, and 5) and we still do relatively early bedtimes for all three, between 7:30 and 8pm. The five year old usually sacks out quickly, the seven year old will read or draw for a bit and and the nine year old will do whatever (play music, draw, read, etc.), but all in their rooms before they actually go to bed. DH and I usually watch a show together and hang out - G-rated couple time - and look forward to it. Occasionally a kid will wander downstairs and need redirection, but we still have plenty of time together.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Good responses here, and yes, perhaps I'm more spoiled for couple time than I realized. Thanks everyone!

And no, couple time was meant in a G-rated way, lol, as in quality time talking/bonding. I don't anticipate problems making time for the non-G-rated version.


As the PP who asked whether couple time was code, thanks for the clarification.

Our kids are older (sort of: 9, 7, and 5) and we still do relatively early bedtimes for all three, between 7:30 and 8pm. The five year old usually sacks out quickly, the seven year old will read or draw for a bit and and the nine year old will do whatever (play music, draw, read, etc.), but all in their rooms before they actually go to bed. DH and I usually watch a show together and hang out - G-rated couple time - and look forward to it. Occasionally a kid will wander downstairs and need redirection, but we still have plenty of time together.


This is reassuring, thanks! I predict DD will probably stick with an earlyish bedtime for a long time -- esp when she has a set time to get to school in the morning; right now daycare is just "drop off anytime by 9:30" so there's no real rush -- so I may be worrying for nothing.
Anonymous
OP this thread is a serious humble brag wrapped up in a pretend worry about the future that may or may not come to fruition. Why anyone is bothering to weigh in on this post is truly baffling.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP this thread is a serious humble brag wrapped up in a pretend worry about the future that may or may not come to fruition. Why anyone is bothering to weigh in on this post is truly baffling.


+1
Personally I can't imagine wanting to spend that much time with my spouse but YMMV
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