TJ has always been inclusive and collegial

[Anonymous]

It’s extremely insulting that members of TJ AAG think they know the experiences of everyone’s child better than their parents do. Just because this small subset of alums lied to their parents doesn’t mean all TJ students do. These alums have a hubris and closed mindedness about them that tells me they didn’t expand their thinking in college.

[Anonymous]

The only reason people are anti-TJ is because it is heavily Asian. People don’t rail against private schools because they don’t have a ton of SN kids. Why? Because they are majority white.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only reason people are anti-TJ is because it is heavily Asian. People don’t rail against private schools because they don’t have a ton of SN kids. Why? Because they are majority white.

People don't rail against private schools because they are not taxpayer-funded. Nice try.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s extremely insulting that members of TJ AAG think they know the experiences of everyone’s child better than their parents do. Just because this small subset of alums lied to their parents doesn’t mean all TJ students do. These alums have a hubris and closed mindedness about them that tells me they didn’t expand their thinking in college.

You have it backwards. It is precisely because many TJ alums expanded their thinking in college - when in many cases they were exposed to legitimate diversity for the first time - that they are able to bring a perspective to the conversation that is outside of the myopic TJ bubble.

College is a breath of fresh air for most TJ students, and an eye-opening experience for those willing to approach it with an open mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Inclusive is not a word I would use. The number of students with IEPs or 504s is abysmal. There are many 2E students not included in the population.

That is disappointing. TJ of all schools should be able to follow and apply the neuroscience and pedagogical research on how to educate these students.

[Anonymous]

Collegial yes, inclusive no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s extremely insulting that members of TJ AAG think they know the experiences of everyone’s child better than their parents do. Just because this small subset of alums lied to their parents doesn’t mean all TJ students do. These alums have a hubris and closed mindedness about them that tells me they didn’t expand their thinking in college.

You have it backwards. It is precisely because many TJ alums expanded their thinking in college - when in many cases they were exposed to legitimate diversity for the first time - that they are able to bring a perspective to the conversation that is outside of the myopic TJ bubble.

College is a breath of fresh air for most TJ students, and an eye-opening experience for those willing to approach it with an open mind.

The type of posts by these alums on a parenting site that they stalk do not exhibit open mindedness. Repeatedly saying that everyone’s kid is lying to their parents is not a rational argument. It’s an extreme argument based on a small sample size of that poster and the small number of alums they associate with.

[Anonymous]

And my recent alum has shared that many other alums felt like they couldn’t express their positive opinion of their TJ experience because of the backlash they would receive from the TJ AAG types. That’s not open minded— it’s the exact opposite.

Hundreds of TJ students signed onto a public letter the summer of 2020 sharing their positive experiences at TJ. I guess these alums would say those students are lying, too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s extremely insulting that members of TJ AAG think they know the experiences of everyone’s child better than their parents do. Just because this small subset of alums lied to their parents doesn’t mean all TJ students do. These alums have a hubris and closed mindedness about them that tells me they didn’t expand their thinking in college.

You have it backwards. It is precisely because many TJ alums expanded their thinking in college - when in many cases they were exposed to legitimate diversity for the first time - that they are able to bring a perspective to the conversation that is outside of the myopic TJ bubble.

College is a breath of fresh air for most TJ students, and an eye-opening experience for those willing to approach it with an open mind.

The type of posts by these alums on a parenting site that they stalk do not exhibit open mindedness. Repeatedly saying that everyone’s kid is lying to their parents is not a rational argument. It’s an extreme argument based on a small sample size of that poster and the small number of alums they associate with.

You're right, of course.

But every other teenager lies to their parents. It's what kids do. And teenagers who go to college learn in college, even the ones who peaked in high school, such as TJ kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And my recent alum has shared that many other alums felt like they couldn’t express their positive opinion of their TJ experience because of the backlash they would receive from the TJ AAG types. That’s not open minded— it’s the exact opposite.

Hundreds of TJ students signed onto a public letter the summer of 2020 sharing their positive experiences at TJ. I guess these alums would say those students are lying, too?

Good for them. This is the thread for them. You can post their positive experiences here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s extremely insulting that members of TJ AAG think they know the experiences of everyone’s child better than their parents do. Just because this small subset of alums lied to their parents doesn’t mean all TJ students do. These alums have a hubris and closed mindedness about them that tells me they didn’t expand their thinking in college.

You have it backwards. It is precisely because many TJ alums expanded their thinking in college - when in many cases they were exposed to legitimate diversity for the first time - that they are able to bring a perspective to the conversation that is outside of the myopic TJ bubble.

College is a breath of fresh air for most TJ students, and an eye-opening experience for those willing to approach it with an open mind.

The type of posts by these alums on a parenting site that they stalk do not exhibit open mindedness. Repeatedly saying that everyone’s kid is lying to their parents is not a rational argument. It’s an extreme argument based on a small sample size of that poster and the small number of alums they associate with.

No one is saying that everyone's kid is lying to their parents. What I and others are saying is that it shouldn't surprise parents to know that when they ask their kid how their day at school was, they don't respond with "well, my friends and I talked about how effed up it is that this kid got into Harvard because he's black" and instead they talk about the cool thing they got to do in their robotics lab.

This is not some grand illusion that only TJ kids are pulling on their parents, it's how children generally behave. Especially kids that want to please their parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And my recent alum has shared that many other alums felt like they couldn’t express their positive opinion of their TJ experience because of the backlash they would receive from the TJ AAG types. That’s not open minded— it’s the exact opposite.

Hundreds of TJ students signed onto a public letter the summer of 2020 sharing their positive experiences at TJ. I guess these alums would say those students are lying, too?

Just curious - can you link to that letter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And my recent alum has shared that many other alums felt like they couldn’t express their positive opinion of their TJ experience because of the backlash they would receive from the TJ AAG types. That’s not open minded— it’s the exact opposite.

Hundreds of TJ students signed onto a public letter the summer of 2020 sharing their positive experiences at TJ. I guess these alums would say those students are lying, too?

Just curious - can you link to that letter?

DP - it might be this one that they're referencing....

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1560is7cbJaAj6iKcHxvaJ34bBdHRaubuhJeYptFAWpQ/mobilebasic

If it is, it's worth noting that

a) it doesn't talk at all about any "positive experiences at TJ" - it references only the admissions process

b) there isn't a single co-signer to that letter who is Black and/or Hispanic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And my recent alum has shared that many other alums felt like they couldn’t express their positive opinion of their TJ experience because of the backlash they would receive from the TJ AAG types. That’s not open minded— it’s the exact opposite.

Hundreds of TJ students signed onto a public letter the summer of 2020 sharing their positive experiences at TJ. I guess these alums would say those students are lying, too?

Just curious - can you link to that letter?

DP - it might be this one that they're referencing....

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1560is7cbJaAj6iKcHxvaJ34bBdHRaubuhJeYptFAWpQ/mobilebasic

If it is, it's worth noting that

a) it doesn't talk at all about any "positive experiences at TJ" - it references only the admissions process

b) there isn't a single co-signer to that letter who is Black and/or Hispanic

DP. No, not that letter. That letter is not about positive experiences. At this point in time (and at the time it was written), it's disgraceful. Those poor kids who thought it was a good idea.

[Anonymous]

Hey all, did you get the memo that the TJ admissions process was changed and the 2025 classis more diverse? More diverse than you will find at most FCPS schools like McLean and Langley. How about trying to fix those schools? The admissions process will works it way for each successive grade so let's see how things turn out. Not sure why you are all still griping. Do you have free time on your hands now?