I don't want my kid to be the only white student . . .

[Anonymous]

This is just a post for my information. The post referencing the Brent boundary's had the OP mentioning that they did not want their kid being the only white kid in the class. A phrase I have seen in the DCPS/dcumd threads before. Most of the time I can clearly just define the racist beliefs or better than that the distinction to have the children not associate with a certain class of non-white people. I just wonder why or how people who consider themselves not to be racist move into a city that is majority black and a school system that is majority poor make judgments not about test scores, not about safety but only about skin color.

My children attend Tyler and I didn't choose it because of how many white students or but based off Tyler's ability to meet my children's special needs.

[Anonymous]

Your post is unintelligible.

[Anonymous]

I didn't see the post in question, but assuming the best from that poster, I can understand how he/she feels. I am a black physician, and have spent my whole school/college career as "the only" in predominantly white schools. At receptions and such, I don't even notice that I'm the only black professional in attendance anymore. It is not a good feeling having everyone turn to you when a lecture is about poverty, or drugs, or teenage pregnancy, or black people in general.

Socialization also matters...having people say "you're trying to act white" because of the way I dress or speak was a painful and confusing experience for me, and many others in my situation through school. Even in a predominantly black city, it shouldn't be too much to expect some diversity in the city's schools. Being "the only" in a class is hardly ever a desirable situation, regardless of one's race/ethnicity (albeit, for different reasons, depending on the race of the child).

If I'm totally off the mark about the poster who didn't want her child to be the only white kid in class, please disregard all that I've said!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your post is unintelligible.

Sorry if you didn't understand, the question would be over your head for an answer. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your post is unintelligible.

Sorry if you didn't understand, the question would be over your head for an answer. Move on.

New poster, and I agree with PP. I wasn't able to follow your post either. It seemed disjointed or something...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your post is unintelligible.

Sorry if you didn't understand, the question would be over your head for an answer. Move on.

This is also unintelligible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid was the only white student in her class last year. We blithely assumed she would be fine, because kids are color blind, right? She ate alone every day. She told me (and the teacher confirmed) that she tried to join the other children at recess but was rebuffed. More than once, she came home crying because another elementary school child told her to take her "white ass" and get lost. (Well, the first time, she asked me what "ass" meant, because she had never heard it before.) We stuck it out through the rest of the year, but changed schools this past fall. Her new classroom has a good mix of kids, and a great inclusive vibe; she has many friends in her class, not just white kids. Any kind of homogeny is bad for the "only".

But you might not be aware of that tendency, because there are lots of stupid bitches around, so you've always been in good company.

I disagree that any kind of homogeny is bad for the only. Frankly, I think being the only black kid at an otherwise all-white schools is probably easier, since no white child would dare tell a black child to "take your black ass and get lost." White children, frankly, do not speak that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid was the only white student in her class last year. We blithely assumed she would be fine, because kids are color blind, right? She ate alone every day. She told me (and the teacher confirmed) that she tried to join the other children at recess but was rebuffed. More than once, she came home crying because another elementary school child told her to take her "white ass" and get lost. (Well, the first time, she asked me what "ass" meant, because she had never heard it before.) We stuck it out through the rest of the year, but changed schools this past fall. Her new classroom has a good mix of kids, and a great inclusive vibe; she has many friends in her class, not just white kids. Any kind of homogeny is bad for the "only".

But you might not be aware of that tendency, because there are lots of stupid bitches around, so you've always been in good company.

I disagree that any kind of homogeny is bad for the only. Frankly, I think being the only black kid at an otherwise all-white schools is probably easier, since no white child would dare tell a black child to "take your black ass and get lost." White children, frankly, do not speak that way.

No, white kids don't speak that way. They just call you a nigger and keep it moving. Trust me, I got called quite a few growing up. If your kid has never heard the word ass before and she goes to ANY school, you live in a bubble.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid was the only white student in her class last year. We blithely assumed she would be fine, because kids are color blind, right? She ate alone every day. She told me (and the teacher confirmed) that she tried to join the other children at recess but was rebuffed. More than once, she came home crying because another elementary school child told her to take her "white ass" and get lost. (Well, the first time, she asked me what "ass" meant, because she had never heard it before.) We stuck it out through the rest of the year, but changed schools this past fall. Her new classroom has a good mix of kids, and a great inclusive vibe; she has many friends in her class, not just white kids. Any kind of homogeny is bad for the "only".

But you might not be aware of that tendency, because there are lots of stupid bitches around, so you've always been in good company.

I disagree that any kind of homogeny is bad for the only. Frankly, I think being the only black kid at an otherwise all-white schools is probably easier, since no white child would dare tell a black child to "take your black ass and get lost." White children, frankly, do not speak that way.

White children in DC don't, maybe, but there's a whoooole lot of 'em in the rest of the country that do.

[Anonymous]

I dont want my kid being the only black student. I'm sure most people prefer either all of their own or a good mix of kids with different backgrounds. It's probably pretty rare for someone to actually want their kid to be the only "insert race" kid in the class. Sadly, sometimes there is no choice.

[Anonymous]

^^ depends where you live, but I agree it's not likely in DC.

Agree with PP about black girls being overly aggressive and mean to my DD, which puzzled and hurt her since she had been bathed in antidiscriminatory teaching/lessons in DCPS. Her eyes were opened to the fact that "inclusion" does not include her.

[Anonymous]

I agree that it is hard for a kid to be the "only" of a certain race in a school but I wouldn't reject a school out of hand for that without knowing more about the place. That's what concerns me about statements like this. I think some white parents don't even look closely at a school because they make assumptions about the climate.

Yes, if my kid experienced what 14:06's did, I would pull her out of that school. But I wouldn't refuse to consider a school because of the racial makeup without doing a thorough investigation first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your post is unintelligible.

Sorry if you didn't understand, the question would be over your head for an answer. Move on.

New poster, and I agree with PP. I wasn't able to follow your post either. It seemed disjointed or something...

me too. agreed. OP, come back when you can make your point clearly and aren't just looking to stir up the same old tired "I'm gonna shame you" argument.

[Anonymous]

This:

[q]Any kind of homogeny is bad for the "only".[/q]

really captures the issue.

And to the "white kids don't talk like that" PP - don't be an idiot. Racists and low-class people are everywhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid was the only white student in her class last year. We blithely assumed she would be fine, because kids are color blind, right? She ate alone every day. She told me (and the teacher confirmed) that she tried to join the other children at recess but was rebuffed. More than once, she came home crying because another elementary school child told her to take her "white ass" and get lost. (Well, the first time, she asked me what "ass" meant, because she had never heard it before.) We stuck it out through the rest of the year, but changed schools this past fall. Her new classroom has a good mix of kids, and a great inclusive vibe; she has many friends in her class, not just white kids. Any kind of homogeny is bad for the "only".

But you might not be aware of that tendency, because there are lots of stupid bitches around, so you've always been in good company.

I disagree that any kind of homogeny is bad for the only. Frankly, I think being the only black kid at an otherwise all-white schools is probably easier, since no white child would dare tell a black child to "take your black ass and get lost." White children, frankly, do not speak that way.

No, white kids don't speak that way. They just call you a nigger and keep it moving. Trust me, I got called quite a few growing up. If your kid has never heard the word ass before and she goes to ANY school, you live in a bubble.

Why is it a bubble if you do not curse in your home and do not spend time with people who do?