Does anyone else get frustrated with play dates with "only" children?
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Anonymous
| I remember the days before my second came along. I forget how self centered ( wish there was another word) a child can be who doesn't have to share life experiences 24/7 with other kids, on the other hand - lucky them. We have a lot of friends with only children, while easy to arrange playdates, the kids can be annoying with their dominant behavior. How do you work around this, the parents I know seem oblivious. |
Anonymous
| Don't do play dates with kids who are obnoxious, only or otherwise. |
Anonymous
Huh? I am a mom of twins and this doesn't resonate with me at all. My kids can be just as self centered and demanding as any only child they are with. If there is one kid who is a super brat, maybe its just his personality and not is birth order. |
Anonymous
| Hahahah!! (Please see previous only children playgroup request threads where moms of onlies referred to their children as special therefore needing to be with other onlies). |
Anonymous
| I think you need to tune out their play. Your kid will have to learn to deal with all sorts of people. And only kids need practice, too. |
Anonymous
This. My only started preschool this fall, and at the fall parent-teacher conference her teachers said their primary goal for her was to learn how to stick up for herself, because she's anything but self-centered. Spoiled, self-centered children can be onlies or have a host of similarly spoiled siblings. Blame the parent, not the child. |
Anonymous
So, I guess we also should blame you for your daughter's lack of confident and assertiveness. 
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Anonymous
| I have a four year old only (at least up until August) and she plays great with other kids. She's also in preschool and has to play with and share with other kids on a daily basis. Sounds more like a parenting issue with certain children as opposed to all only children being dominent and self-centered. Hate to burst your bubble but I know numerous kids that have multiple siblings that have dominent behavior and I know only children who are very shy and passive. |
Anonymous
| My bigger issue with only children when they come over is that they tend to not be nice at all to the younger siblings. I guess they just develop the tolerance ! |
Anonymous
Omg, this is total BS. My only loves, LOVES other kids....especially toddlers and babies. If anything she tries to be overly helpful with them. Since she doesn't have little ones following her around at home she loves the dynamic at other peoples houses. Yes, all only's are just a bunch of insufferable brats!!!
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Anonymous
| i just don't get frustrated with children on playdates period. they are kids. having fun. lighten up! geez. |
Anonymous
| i just don't get frustrated with children on playdates period. they are kids. having fun. lighten up! geez. |
Anonymous
+1, my only is exactly the same way, loves babies, always tries to help with younger kids and always asking me for a brother/sister. She's also a kid I've had to work with on assertiveness, I don't think the traits OP speaks of are specific to or exclusive to only children. |
Anonymous
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I find it hilarious when grown women want to be judgey about small children.
Of course your precious little one is a special snowflake and other kids are awful...lmao! |
Anonymous
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That's funny, OP. I don't like when my only plays with kids who have siblings. They're so competitive since they have to compete for attention at home, and they're always disheveled because their parents aren't able to give them the time and attention required to tidy them up.
Get a life and stop reinforcing negative stereotypes. You may think us parents of onlies are self-centered (and sure, some are) but you're a straight up B. |