Since this is anonymous, why did you REALLY redshirt your kid?

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Anonymous wrote:People who are bent out of shape about other people's kids being redshirted win the worst parents of the year award. Every kid is different and every family is different. There is no one reason people keep their kid home an extra year, just as there is no one reason your kid lost the election for class president, OP! There is no one reason they weren't picked as homecoming king or queen!! Just love them anyway and stop focusing on the redshirted kids as your excuse. Your kids are fine they way they are.

I'm not trying to stop parents from redshirting their kids. I just don't think the redshirted kid should be allowed to enter a situation where they're getting compared to their age-appropriate classmates, because of course they're going to come out on top.

The range of "appropriate" age is closer to 18mo than it is to 12mo. You just have to accept that, I'm afraid. If you're super worried about your kid coming out "on top" then I guess you just have to time your conception carefully.

Also, I'm sorry that you see life as a cage match.

A year is 12 months, not 18 months. The cut-offs are there to ensure that the oldest student in grade n is younger than the youngest student in grade n+1. Do you disagree that that's important for an efficient educational structure? The moment there's overlap, everything falls to shambles, because it's a violation of nature if a student in grade n is older than a student in grade n+1.

It's the parents who redshirt who should've been more careful about when they conceived. If their kid was born in the last quarter of the year, it's because they conceived in the first quarter of the year. That was their choice. They could have conceived in the second quarter of the year, which would have caused their kid to be born in the first quarter of the year. When you make a mistake or plan poorly, the proper thing to do is own up to it, instead of violating the rules that experienced professionals have worked so hard to put in place.

Man, lady, you are off your rocker. Can you tell me about yourself? What happened to you that you are so weird?

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Anonymous wrote:People who are bent out of shape about other people's kids being redshirted win the worst parents of the year award. Every kid is different and every family is different. There is no one reason people keep their kid home an extra year, just as there is no one reason your kid lost the election for class president, OP! There is no one reason they weren't picked as homecoming king or queen!! Just love them anyway and stop focusing on the redshirted kids as your excuse. Your kids are fine they way they are.

I'm not trying to stop parents from redshirting their kids. I just don't think the redshirted kid should be allowed to enter a situation where they're getting compared to their age-appropriate classmates, because of course they're going to come out on top.

The range of "appropriate" age is closer to 18mo than it is to 12mo. You just have to accept that, I'm afraid. If you're super worried about your kid coming out "on top" then I guess you just have to time your conception carefully.

Also, I'm sorry that you see life as a cage match.

A year is 12 months, not 18 months. The cut-offs are there to ensure that the oldest student in grade n is younger than the youngest student in grade n+1. Do you disagree that that's important for an efficient educational structure? The moment there's overlap, everything falls to shambles, because it's a violation of nature if a student in grade n is older than a student in grade n+1.

It's the parents who redshirt who should've been more careful about when they conceived. If their kid was born in the last quarter of the year, it's because they conceived in the first quarter of the year. That was their choice. They could have conceived in the second quarter of the year, which would have caused their kid to be born in the first quarter of the year. When you make a mistake or plan poorly, the proper thing to do is own up to it, instead of violating the rules that experienced professionals have worked so hard to put in place.

Here's where you're confused. It's not a year. It's never been a year. Why do you think it is? There is no natural law dictating that classrooms should span 12 months. Throughout most of human history, mixed-age classrooms have been the norm. 18mo is still pretty restrictive. Why do you think you're entitled to a 12 month span? Did an angel with a flaming sword tell you that "natural law" (lol) dictates that all classrooms must have a 12 month age range?

No rules are being violated. The rules explicitly permit what redshirting parents are doing. If the rules were being violated, it wouldn't be permitted. Why do I have to explain this to you?

And redshirting parents don't have to change our behavior, because we're not the one unhappy with the current system. If you don't like it, change your behavior so your kid is the oldest, or choose a school that actually does not permit a larger than 12-mo age span. Good luck with that!

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Anonymous wrote:People who are bent out of shape about other people's kids being redshirted win the worst parents of the year award. Every kid is different and every family is different. There is no one reason people keep their kid home an extra year, just as there is no one reason your kid lost the election for class president, OP! There is no one reason they weren't picked as homecoming king or queen!! Just love them anyway and stop focusing on the redshirted kids as your excuse. Your kids are fine they way they are.

I'm not trying to stop parents from redshirting their kids. I just don't think the redshirted kid should be allowed to enter a situation where they're getting compared to their age-appropriate classmates, because of course they're going to come out on top.

The range of "appropriate" age is closer to 18mo than it is to 12mo. You just have to accept that, I'm afraid. If you're super worried about your kid coming out "on top" then I guess you just have to time your conception carefully.

Also, I'm sorry that you see life as a cage match.

A year is 12 months, not 18 months. The cut-offs are there to ensure that the oldest student in grade n is younger than the youngest student in grade n+1. Do you disagree that that's important for an efficient educational structure? The moment there's overlap, everything falls to shambles, because it's a violation of nature if a student in grade n is older than a student in grade n+1.

It's the parents who redshirt who should've been more careful about when they conceived. If their kid was born in the last quarter of the year, it's because they conceived in the first quarter of the year. That was their choice. They could have conceived in the second quarter of the year, which would have caused their kid to be born in the first quarter of the year. When you make a mistake or plan poorly, the proper thing to do is own up to it, instead of violating the rules that experienced professionals have worked so hard to put in place.

Man, lady, you are off your rocker. Can you tell me about yourself? What happened to you that you are so weird?

What's weird about thinking it's important to be organized?

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Anonymous wrote:People who are bent out of shape about other people's kids being redshirted win the worst parents of the year award. Every kid is different and every family is different. There is no one reason people keep their kid home an extra year, just as there is no one reason your kid lost the election for class president, OP! There is no one reason they weren't picked as homecoming king or queen!! Just love them anyway and stop focusing on the redshirted kids as your excuse. Your kids are fine they way they are.

I'm not trying to stop parents from redshirting their kids. I just don't think the redshirted kid should be allowed to enter a situation where they're getting compared to their age-appropriate classmates, because of course they're going to come out on top.

The range of "appropriate" age is closer to 18mo than it is to 12mo. You just have to accept that, I'm afraid. If you're super worried about your kid coming out "on top" then I guess you just have to time your conception carefully.

Also, I'm sorry that you see life as a cage match.

A year is 12 months, not 18 months. The cut-offs are there to ensure that the oldest student in grade n is younger than the youngest student in grade n+1. Do you disagree that that's important for an efficient educational structure? The moment there's overlap, everything falls to shambles, because it's a violation of nature if a student in grade n is older than a student in grade n+1.

It's the parents who redshirt who should've been more careful about when they conceived. If their kid was born in the last quarter of the year, it's because they conceived in the first quarter of the year. That was their choice. They could have conceived in the second quarter of the year, which would have caused their kid to be born in the first quarter of the year. When you make a mistake or plan poorly, the proper thing to do is own up to it, instead of violating the rules that experienced professionals have worked so hard to put in place.

Man, lady, you are off your rocker. Can you tell me about yourself? What happened to you that you are so weird?

What's weird about thinking it's important to be organized?

Please continue. At this point I am kind of fascinated. Tell me more!

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Anonymous wrote:We are considering it for our current 4 year-old. He has a July birthday. His older brother with a July birthday went in time and it was the right decision for him. His younger brother is just very immature, a very sensitive kid who still needs lots of one on one attention to stay on task. His preschool teacher supports redshirting him. Some kids do fine as the youngest. Some would do better on the older end.

I know this is an old comment, but I just want to point out that preschool teachers are not the best source to ask about redshirting. Of course they want your business, and teaching a child they already know who is more mature than the other kids will make their job a lot easier.

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Anonymous wrote:People who are bent out of shape about other people's kids being redshirted win the worst parents of the year award. Every kid is different and every family is different. There is no one reason people keep their kid home an extra year, just as there is no one reason your kid lost the election for class president, OP! There is no one reason they weren't picked as homecoming king or queen!! Just love them anyway and stop focusing on the redshirted kids as your excuse. Your kids are fine they way they are.

I'm not trying to stop parents from redshirting their kids. I just don't think the redshirted kid should be allowed to enter a situation where they're getting compared to their age-appropriate classmates, because of course they're going to come out on top.

The range of "appropriate" age is closer to 18mo than it is to 12mo. You just have to accept that, I'm afraid. If you're super worried about your kid coming out "on top" then I guess you just have to time your conception carefully.

Also, I'm sorry that you see life as a cage match.

A year is 12 months, not 18 months. The cut-offs are there to ensure that the oldest student in grade n is younger than the youngest student in grade n+1. Do you disagree that that's important for an efficient educational structure? The moment there's overlap, everything falls to shambles, because it's a violation of nature if a student in grade n is older than a student in grade n+1.

It's the parents who redshirt who should've been more careful about when they conceived. If their kid was born in the last quarter of the year, it's because they conceived in the first quarter of the year. That was their choice. They could have conceived in the second quarter of the year, which would have caused their kid to be born in the first quarter of the year. When you make a mistake or plan poorly, the proper thing to do is own up to it, instead of violating the rules that experienced professionals have worked so hard to put in place.

Man, lady, you are off your rocker. Can you tell me about yourself? What happened to you that you are so weird?

What's weird about thinking it's important to be organized?

Please continue. At this point I am kind of fascinated. Tell me more!

Ikr? At first I thought she was just hyper competitive and afraid of a mean old redshirted kid besting her precious little Larla, but now I’m thinking that she’s actually advanced OCD and just can’t stand the thought of a classroom age span that does not exactly match the time it takes the earth to make one revolution around the sun. Bet leap years drive her crazy.

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Anonymous wrote:People who are bent out of shape about other people's kids being redshirted win the worst parents of the year award. Every kid is different and every family is different. There is no one reason people keep their kid home an extra year, just as there is no one reason your kid lost the election for class president, OP! There is no one reason they weren't picked as homecoming king or queen!! Just love them anyway and stop focusing on the redshirted kids as your excuse. Your kids are fine they way they are.

I'm not trying to stop parents from redshirting their kids. I just don't think the redshirted kid should be allowed to enter a situation where they're getting compared to their age-appropriate classmates, because of course they're going to come out on top.

The range of "appropriate" age is closer to 18mo than it is to 12mo. You just have to accept that, I'm afraid. If you're super worried about your kid coming out "on top" then I guess you just have to time your conception carefully.

Also, I'm sorry that you see life as a cage match.

A year is 12 months, not 18 months. The cut-offs are there to ensure that the oldest student in grade n is younger than the youngest student in grade n+1. Do you disagree that that's important for an efficient educational structure? The moment there's overlap, everything falls to shambles, because it's a violation of nature if a student in grade n is older than a student in grade n+1.

It's the parents who redshirt who should've been more careful about when they conceived. If their kid was born in the last quarter of the year, it's because they conceived in the first quarter of the year. That was their choice. They could have conceived in the second quarter of the year, which would have caused their kid to be born in the first quarter of the year. When you make a mistake or plan poorly, the proper thing to do is own up to it, instead of violating the rules that experienced professionals have worked so hard to put in place.

Man, lady, you are off your rocker. Can you tell me about yourself? What happened to you that you are so weird?

What's weird about thinking it's important to be organized?

Please continue. At this point I am kind of fascinated. Tell me more!

Ikr? At first I thought she was just hyper competitive and afraid of a mean old redshirted kid besting her precious little Larla, but now I’m thinking that she’s actually advanced OCD and just can’t stand the thought of a classroom age span that does not exactly match the time it takes the earth to make one revolution around the sun. Bet leap years drive her crazy.

I don't care what the age-span of a classroom is as long as there isn't any overlap. What's of the utmost importance is that the oldest student in a given cohort is younger than the youngest student in the cohort immediate above.

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Anonymous wrote:We are considering it for our current 4 year-old. He has a July birthday. His older brother with a July birthday went in time and it was the right decision for him. His younger brother is just very immature, a very sensitive kid who still needs lots of one on one attention to stay on task. His preschool teacher supports redshirting him. Some kids do fine as the youngest. Some would do better on the older end.

I know this is an old comment, but I just want to point out that preschool teachers are not the best source to ask about redshirting. Of course they want your business, and teaching a child they already know who is more mature than the other kids will make their job a lot easier.

I agree they aren’t the best source, but I disagree with your reasoning.

First, around here, they aren’t going to have trouble filling your spot. Second, one extra known/older kid isn’t going to make a meaningful difference in the class as a whole. Finally, most people aren’t that calculating that they are going to tell you to hold your kid back just to make their life a tiny bit better.

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Anonymous wrote:People who are bent out of shape about other people's kids being redshirted win the worst parents of the year award. Every kid is different and every family is different. There is no one reason people keep their kid home an extra year, just as there is no one reason your kid lost the election for class president, OP! There is no one reason they weren't picked as homecoming king or queen!! Just love them anyway and stop focusing on the redshirted kids as your excuse. Your kids are fine they way they are.

I'm not trying to stop parents from redshirting their kids. I just don't think the redshirted kid should be allowed to enter a situation where they're getting compared to their age-appropriate classmates, because of course they're going to come out on top.

The range of "appropriate" age is closer to 18mo than it is to 12mo. You just have to accept that, I'm afraid. If you're super worried about your kid coming out "on top" then I guess you just have to time your conception carefully.

Also, I'm sorry that you see life as a cage match.

A year is 12 months, not 18 months. The cut-offs are there to ensure that the oldest student in grade n is younger than the youngest student in grade n+1. Do you disagree that that's important for an efficient educational structure? The moment there's overlap, everything falls to shambles, because it's a violation of nature if a student in grade n is older than a student in grade n+1.

It's the parents who redshirt who should've been more careful about when they conceived. If their kid was born in the last quarter of the year, it's because they conceived in the first quarter of the year. That was their choice. They could have conceived in the second quarter of the year, which would have caused their kid to be born in the first quarter of the year. When you make a mistake or plan poorly, the proper thing to do is own up to it, instead of violating the rules that experienced professionals have worked so hard to put in place.

Man, lady, you are off your rocker. Can you tell me about yourself? What happened to you that you are so weird?

What's weird about thinking it's important to be organized?

Please continue. At this point I am kind of fascinated. Tell me more!

Ikr? At first I thought she was just hyper competitive and afraid of a mean old redshirted kid besting her precious little Larla, but now I’m thinking that she’s actually advanced OCD and just can’t stand the thought of a classroom age span that does not exactly match the time it takes the earth to make one revolution around the sun. Bet leap years drive her crazy.

I don't care what the age-span of a classroom is as long as there isn't any overlap. What's of the utmost importance is that the oldest student in a given cohort is younger than the youngest student in the cohort immediate above.

Oh, honey.

Out of curiosity, do you want all kids in totally identical uniforms too? What about haircuts? Exactly the same? If your child colors outside the lines, just how much does it bother you?

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Anonymous wrote:People who are bent out of shape about other people's kids being redshirted win the worst parents of the year award. Every kid is different and every family is different. There is no one reason people keep their kid home an extra year, just as there is no one reason your kid lost the election for class president, OP! There is no one reason they weren't picked as homecoming king or queen!! Just love them anyway and stop focusing on the redshirted kids as your excuse. Your kids are fine they way they are.

I'm not trying to stop parents from redshirting their kids. I just don't think the redshirted kid should be allowed to enter a situation where they're getting compared to their age-appropriate classmates, because of course they're going to come out on top.

The range of "appropriate" age is closer to 18mo than it is to 12mo. You just have to accept that, I'm afraid. If you're super worried about your kid coming out "on top" then I guess you just have to time your conception carefully.

Also, I'm sorry that you see life as a cage match.

+1 What parents are keeping track of other kids' birthdays and whether they come out on top? Your kid is fine the way they are. They shouldn't have to come out on top to win your approval.

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Anonymous wrote:People who are bent out of shape about other people's kids being redshirted win the worst parents of the year award. Every kid is different and every family is different. There is no one reason people keep their kid home an extra year, just as there is no one reason your kid lost the election for class president, OP! There is no one reason they weren't picked as homecoming king or queen!! Just love them anyway and stop focusing on the redshirted kids as your excuse. Your kids are fine they way they are.

I'm not trying to stop parents from redshirting their kids. I just don't think the redshirted kid should be allowed to enter a situation where they're getting compared to their age-appropriate classmates, because of course they're going to come out on top.

The range of "appropriate" age is closer to 18mo than it is to 12mo. You just have to accept that, I'm afraid. If you're super worried about your kid coming out "on top" then I guess you just have to time your conception carefully.

Also, I'm sorry that you see life as a cage match.

A year is 12 months, not 18 months. The cut-offs are there to ensure that the oldest student in grade n is younger than the youngest student in grade n+1. Do you disagree that that's important for an efficient educational structure? The moment there's overlap, everything falls to shambles, because it's a violation of nature if a student in grade n is older than a student in grade n+1.

It's the parents who redshirt who should've been more careful about when they conceived. If their kid was born in the last quarter of the year, it's because they conceived in the first quarter of the year. That was their choice. They could have conceived in the second quarter of the year, which would have caused their kid to be born in the first quarter of the year. When you make a mistake or plan poorly, the proper thing to do is own up to it, instead of violating the rules that experienced professionals have worked so hard to put in place.

OK, now I'm sure this is satire. Or do people actually live with brains like this????

Experienced professionals allow kids to stay back an extra year if they need it. It's not against the rules. It's the way life works. Your kids should get used to it.

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Anonymous wrote:People who are bent out of shape about other people's kids being redshirted win the worst parents of the year award. Every kid is different and every family is different. There is no one reason people keep their kid home an extra year, just as there is no one reason your kid lost the election for class president, OP! There is no one reason they weren't picked as homecoming king or queen!! Just love them anyway and stop focusing on the redshirted kids as your excuse. Your kids are fine they way they are.

I'm not trying to stop parents from redshirting their kids. I just don't think the redshirted kid should be allowed to enter a situation where they're getting compared to their age-appropriate classmates, because of course they're going to come out on top.

The range of "appropriate" age is closer to 18mo than it is to 12mo. You just have to accept that, I'm afraid. If you're super worried about your kid coming out "on top" then I guess you just have to time your conception carefully.

Also, I'm sorry that you see life as a cage match.

+1 What parents are keeping track of other kids' birthdays and whether they come out on top? Your kid is fine the way they are. They shouldn't have to come out on top to win your approval.

My kids have my approval as long as they play by the rules, regardless of where they come out. Coming out on top by cheating doesn't impress me one iota.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't care what the age-span of a classroom is as long as there isn't any overlap. What's of the utmost importance is that the oldest student in a given cohort is younger than the youngest student in the cohort immediate above.

Interesting. So how do you feel about parents who get exemptions to send their kids to kindergarten early? Because that also happens regularly. Is that also extremely distressing to you?

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Anonymous wrote:People who are bent out of shape about other people's kids being redshirted win the worst parents of the year award. Every kid is different and every family is different. There is no one reason people keep their kid home an extra year, just as there is no one reason your kid lost the election for class president, OP! There is no one reason they weren't picked as homecoming king or queen!! Just love them anyway and stop focusing on the redshirted kids as your excuse. Your kids are fine they way they are.

I'm not trying to stop parents from redshirting their kids. I just don't think the redshirted kid should be allowed to enter a situation where they're getting compared to their age-appropriate classmates, because of course they're going to come out on top.

The range of "appropriate" age is closer to 18mo than it is to 12mo. You just have to accept that, I'm afraid. If you're super worried about your kid coming out "on top" then I guess you just have to time your conception carefully.

Also, I'm sorry that you see life as a cage match.

+1 What parents are keeping track of other kids' birthdays and whether they come out on top? Your kid is fine the way they are. They shouldn't have to come out on top to win your approval.

My kids have my approval as long as they play by the rules, regardless of where they come out. Coming out on top by cheating doesn't impress me one iota.

I love how you decide that doing something in full accordance with the rules is “cheating” just because you personally think that due to “natural law” the rules should be different.

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Anonymous wrote:People who are bent out of shape about other people's kids being redshirted win the worst parents of the year award. Every kid is different and every family is different. There is no one reason people keep their kid home an extra year, just as there is no one reason your kid lost the election for class president, OP! There is no one reason they weren't picked as homecoming king or queen!! Just love them anyway and stop focusing on the redshirted kids as your excuse. Your kids are fine they way they are.

I'm not trying to stop parents from redshirting their kids. I just don't think the redshirted kid should be allowed to enter a situation where they're getting compared to their age-appropriate classmates, because of course they're going to come out on top.

The range of "appropriate" age is closer to 18mo than it is to 12mo. You just have to accept that, I'm afraid. If you're super worried about your kid coming out "on top" then I guess you just have to time your conception carefully.

Also, I'm sorry that you see life as a cage match.

A year is 12 months, not 18 months. The cut-offs are there to ensure that the oldest student in grade n is younger than the youngest student in grade n+1. Do you disagree that that's important for an efficient educational structure? The moment there's overlap, everything falls to shambles, because it's a violation of nature if a student in grade n is older than a student in grade n+1.

It's the parents who redshirt who should've been more careful about when they conceived. If their kid was born in the last quarter of the year, it's because they conceived in the first quarter of the year. That was their choice. They could have conceived in the second quarter of the year, which would have caused their kid to be born in the first quarter of the year. When you make a mistake or plan poorly, the proper thing to do is own up to it, instead of violating the rules that experienced professionals have worked so hard to put in place.

You do realize some kids fail a grade, too, right? We had a kid in elementary school who was head and shoulders taller than the other boys and sprouting peach fuzz. I learned as an adult that he had been held back a grade, which explained all that. What do you propose to do with those kids, PP?