Since this is anonymous, why did you REALLY redshirt your kid?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I redshirted to give my kid an advantage academically and physically, and to make it socially easier since it's much easier to be among the oldest in a group than to be the youngest. Let some other kid deal with always being the shortest and the slowest.

That's it. It's the same reason anyone redshirts. I don't understand wha the debate even is. People want what is best for their kid.

Because it’s not really a true advantage and socially they should be with peers.

If people truly believed that there would be no debate.

The research on the subject indicates that it does provide a short-term advantage but overall is a negative.

That's not true. I have good reason to believe that I am living a much happier life than I would be if I hadn't been redshirted. Growing up, I thought I wanted to get married and have children like most people. However, because I was redshirted, I finished my schooling a year later, and thus, started my career a year later, and by the time I became financially stable enough to support a family, I realized that I would be much happier being single and childless. Had I not been redshirted, I may very well have had children before coming to the realization that I didn't want any, by which time it would've been too late.

It is true. Younger kids, for their grades, consistently go on to achieve more, whereas red-shirts advantage tends to wane by 9 or 10. There's a lot written on the subject, but overall it seems like these parents are doing their child a disseverice.

Cool, then I will expect these argument to cease. It's like any other parenting choice then. If people want to feed their kids junk food then so be it.

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Anonymous wrote:I redshirted to give my kid an advantage academically and physically, and to make it socially easier since it's much easier to be among the oldest in a group than to be the youngest. Let some other kid deal with always being the shortest and the slowest.

That's it. It's the same reason anyone redshirts. I don't understand wha the debate even is. People want what is best for their kid.

Because it’s not really a true advantage and socially they should be with peers.

If people truly believed that there would be no debate.

The research on the subject indicates that it does provide a short-term advantage but overall is a negative.

That's not true. I have good reason to believe that I am living a much happier life than I would be if I hadn't been redshirted. Growing up, I thought I wanted to get married and have children like most people. However, because I was redshirted, I finished my schooling a year later, and thus, started my career a year later, and by the time I became financially stable enough to support a family, I realized that I would be much happier being single and childless. Had I not been redshirted, I may very well have had children before coming to the realization that I didn't want any, by which time it would've been too late.

It is true. Younger kids, for their grades, consistently go on to achieve more, whereas red-shirts advantage tends to wane by 9 or 10. There's a lot written on the subject, but overall it seems like these parents are doing their child a disseverice.

How is being saved from making a regrettable irreversible life choice being done a disservice?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I redshirted to give my kid an advantage academically and physically, and to make it socially easier since it's much easier to be among the oldest in a group than to be the youngest. Let some other kid deal with always being the shortest and the slowest.

That's it. It's the same reason anyone redshirts. I don't understand wha the debate even is. People want what is best for their kid.

Because it’s not really a true advantage and socially they should be with peers.

If people truly believed that there would be no debate.

The research on the subject indicates that it does provide a short-term advantage but overall is a negative.

That's not true. I have good reason to believe that I am living a much happier life than I would be if I hadn't been redshirted. Growing up, I thought I wanted to get married and have children like most people. However, because I was redshirted, I finished my schooling a year later, and thus, started my career a year later, and by the time I became financially stable enough to support a family, I realized that I would be much happier being single and childless. Had I not been redshirted, I may very well have had children before coming to the realization that I didn't want any, by which time it would've been too late.

It is true. Younger kids, for their grades, consistently go on to achieve more, whereas red-shirts advantage tends to wane by 9 or 10. There's a lot written on the subject, but overall it seems like these parents are doing their child a disseverice.

How is being saved from making a regrettable irreversible life choice being done a disservice?

Huh? Please provide your paraphrase of the text you are responding to.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I redshirted to give my kid an advantage academically and physically, and to make it socially easier since it's much easier to be among the oldest in a group than to be the youngest. Let some other kid deal with always being the shortest and the slowest.

That's it. It's the same reason anyone redshirts. I don't understand wha the debate even is. People want what is best for their kid.

Because it’s not really a true advantage and socially they should be with peers.

If people truly believed that there would be no debate.

The research on the subject indicates that it does provide a short-term advantage but overall is a negative.

That's not true. I have good reason to believe that I am living a much happier life than I would be if I hadn't been redshirted. Growing up, I thought I wanted to get married and have children like most people. However, because I was redshirted, I finished my schooling a year later, and thus, started my career a year later, and by the time I became financially stable enough to support a family, I realized that I would be much happier being single and childless. Had I not been redshirted, I may very well have had children before coming to the realization that I didn't want any, by which time it would've been too late.

It is true. Younger kids, for their grades, consistently go on to achieve more, whereas red-shirts advantage tends to wane by 9 or 10. There's a lot written on the subject, but overall it seems like these parents are doing their child a disseverice.

How is being saved from making a regrettable irreversible life choice being done a disservice?

Huh? Please provide your paraphrase of the text you are responding to.

Growing up, I thought I wanted to get married and have children like most people. However, because I was redshirted, I finished my schooling a year later, and thus, started my career a year later, and by the time I became financially stable enough to support a family, I realized that I would be much happier being single and childless. Had I not been redshirted, I may very well have had children before coming to the realization that I didn't want any, by which time it would've been too late.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I redshirted to give my kid an advantage academically and physically, and to make it socially easier since it's much easier to be among the oldest in a group than to be the youngest. Let some other kid deal with always being the shortest and the slowest.

That's it. It's the same reason anyone redshirts. I don't understand wha the debate even is. People want what is best for their kid.

Because it’s not really a true advantage and socially they should be with peers.

If people truly believed that there would be no debate.

The research on the subject indicates that it does provide a short-term advantage but overall is a negative.

That's not true. I have good reason to believe that I am living a much happier life than I would be if I hadn't been redshirted. Growing up, I thought I wanted to get married and have children like most people. However, because I was redshirted, I finished my schooling a year later, and thus, started my career a year later, and by the time I became financially stable enough to support a family, I realized that I would be much happier being single and childless. Had I not been redshirted, I may very well have had children before coming to the realization that I didn't want any, by which time it would've been too late.

Glad it worked out for you, but the majority of cases it ends up being a disadvantage in the long term based on actual statistics and data.

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Anonymous wrote:I redshirted to give my kid an advantage academically and physically, and to make it socially easier since it's much easier to be among the oldest in a group than to be the youngest. Let some other kid deal with always being the shortest and the slowest.

That's it. It's the same reason anyone redshirts. I don't understand wha the debate even is. People want what is best for their kid.

Because it’s not really a true advantage and socially they should be with peers.

If people truly believed that there would be no debate.

The research on the subject indicates that it does provide a short-term advantage but overall is a negative.

That's not true. I have good reason to believe that I am living a much happier life than I would be if I hadn't been redshirted. Growing up, I thought I wanted to get married and have children like most people. However, because I was redshirted, I finished my schooling a year later, and thus, started my career a year later, and by the time I became financially stable enough to support a family, I realized that I would be much happier being single and childless. Had I not been redshirted, I may very well have had children before coming to the realization that I didn't want any, by which time it would've been too late.

Glad it worked out for you, but the majority of cases it ends up being a disadvantage in the long term based on actual statistics and data.

I’m not the PP (who I think is bizarre) but I am someone very familiar with the studies and statistics in this area and you are wildly incorrect about redshirting being a long-term disadvantage. That isn’t to say it is a long-term advantage, but it certainly is not a long-term disadvantage.

More specifically, if you want to make that argument, you need to link the statistically strong longitudinal studies that demonstrate your point conclusively.

I’m very familiar with the conclusions, strengths, and weaknesses of the NBER studies, the ADHD cohort studies, the 1950s-70s HS student “leadership” studies, the Bocconi university study, and others related or in the field. Note that calling some of these “studies” is a true stretch, but some are statistically solid.

[Anonymous]

As an April baby I graduated high school two weeks after my 18th birthday. I remember being ecstatic to fly the nest and go to college that Fall. I was a relatively shy and introverted teenager who got on really well with my parents but I was ready to move out at 18! I really would have struggled if I was redshirted and forced to postpone that rite of passage for a year.

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Anonymous wrote:For sports. That’s the truth. And it worked - he got a baseball scholarship to college.

We have an honest answer here. I know many who did the same, but for tennis. Usually held back in 8th grade.

This is an aside--but I hate how people assume that only if you tell something sort of socially unacceptable you are being honest. Many of the replies seemed honest. I didn't redshirt my July birthday kid because he was tall, academically advanced and would have been bored with another year in preschool. But sports weren't ever remotely on my mind about the decision.

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As an April baby I graduated high school two weeks after my 18th birthday. I remember being ecstatic to fly the nest and go to college that Fall. I was a relatively shy and introverted teenager who got on really well with my parents but I was ready to move out at 18! I really would have struggled if I was redshirted and forced to postpone that rite of passage for a year.

You were already older than 2/3 to 3/4 of your classmates, so redshirting you wouldn't have made sense. It's only applicable to kids born between October and December, so this is irrelevant.

[Anonymous]

What ?

My Schools academic year began first week of September and Redshirting was most common for (white middle class boys ) born in August and July.

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As an April baby I graduated high school two weeks after my 18th birthday. I remember being ecstatic to fly the nest and go to college that Fall. I was a relatively shy and introverted teenager who got on really well with my parents but I was ready to move out at 18! I really would have struggled if I was redshirted and forced to postpone that rite of passage for a year.

You were already older than 2/3 to 3/4 of your classmates, so redshirting you wouldn't have made sense. It's only applicable to kids born between October and December, so this is irrelevant.

No. It's applicable to summer birthdays in the vast majority of places.

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As an April baby I graduated high school two weeks after my 18th birthday. I remember being ecstatic to fly the nest and go to college that Fall. I was a relatively shy and introverted teenager who got on really well with my parents but I was ready to move out at 18! I really would have struggled if I was redshirted and forced to postpone that rite of passage for a year.

You were already older than 2/3 to 3/4 of your classmates, so redshirting you wouldn't have made sense. It's only applicable to kids born between October and December, so this is irrelevant.

The vast majority of the country has cut off dates that occur near the start of school, Aug-Oct, with Sept 1 being the most common. The places with Dec-Jan cut offs are in the minority, nationally.

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Anonymous wrote:I redshirted to give my kid an advantage academically and physically, and to make it socially easier since it's much easier to be among the oldest in a group than to be the youngest. Let some other kid deal with always being the shortest and the slowest.

That's it. It's the same reason anyone redshirts. I don't understand wha the debate even is. People want what is best for their kid.

Because it’s not really a true advantage and socially they should be with peers.

If people truly believed that there would be no debate.

The research on the subject indicates that it does provide a short-term advantage but overall is a negative.

That's not true. I have good reason to believe that I am living a much happier life than I would be if I hadn't been redshirted. Growing up, I thought I wanted to get married and have children like most people. However, because I was redshirted, I finished my schooling a year later, and thus, started my career a year later, and by the time I became financially stable enough to support a family, I realized that I would be much happier being single and childless. Had I not been redshirted, I may very well have had children before coming to the realization that I didn't want any, by which time it would've been too late.

Glad it worked out for you, but the majority of cases it ends up being a disadvantage in the long term based on actual statistics and data.

Would you mind showing us these statistics and data?

[Anonymous]

In answer to OP's question:

It was laundry day and only had one clean shirt available--guess which color it was.

[Anonymous]

My boy was just not that mature. Sometimes I feel like he’s is still not, even being one the older kids now. Boys just mature later. It was a good decision for him and us.