Men in your 50s, do you find women in their 50s attractive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who wants a 1998 Chevy Impala when you could have a 2015 BMW 325 XI?

But when you yourself are a 1998 Chevy Impala with dents, what Beemer hottie is checking that out?

Only if they know there is a stash of gold in the Impala.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

I’m a 42yr old woman. The idea of dating someone 20 yrs older than me seems odd. I think of the long term. When I’m 62, you’d be 81. Do you find many 40 yr old women to date?

40 year old woman here and I was just thinking the same thing. 61 is too old for me. My limit would be about 53, but preferably 40-45.

I am 47 female, and I would not date a 60+ year old unless he looked much younger, around 50 (maybe). My DH is in his early 50's, but looks a bit younger. He's got a bit of a belly but other than that is in pretty good shape. I am a size 4 and am about the same weight as when I got married in my early 30's.

The only way a 60+ yr old man can get a 40 yr old woman is:

1. he has lots and lots of money
2. he is very fit and looks much younger than 60
3. the woman is very very desperate

I know you want to believe that but you are so wrong.

Really? Well since this is an anonymous forum I suppose you could lie and tell me some story that "proves" me wrong. As I said, I'm 47.. I have many female friends who are my age and no way would they date a 60 yr old who weren't either #1 or #2, and none of my friends are that desperate.

OK, so your friends are not who I'm going to date. But as for #1, it's nice to know that you would all whore yourself out for the right guy, no matter his age. Some of you sound threatened that an older man like myself dates younger women in part for their better looks as if that's bad thing to choose when given the choice, or it's somehow immoral. But at least I'm choosing someone based on who she is, which includes other factors than looks. But your friends would date a man they would never choose if he has lots of money? Wow, that's really sad.

OH, please, you are choosing a younger woman because of her physical attributes mostly. That makes you shallow. How is that any worse than a woman choosing a man because he is able to financially support her and her children? I bet if an older woman had a better personality and other non physical attributes that were better than the younger, more attractive woman, you'd still pick the younger woman simply because of her looks. You are shallow. Just admit it. I don't care if you date only younger woman. I'm just informing you that no 40 year old woman would date a 60 yr old man unless the situation was one of the three.

I don’t understand why someone is shallow for wanting a person with certain physical attributes. That would make one shallow if that’s how he chose whom to hire or even befriend, but that doesn’t have anything to do with which people attract us. We can choose whom to hire or whom to befriend, but we can’t choose what people we are attracted to. Attraction just is what it is.

Then why call a woman a whore for wanting to find a man who can support her and her children? It's not like most women want a sugar daddy so they can do nothing but shop all day. Most women just want a man who can financially support the family because they know that women do the majority of child care and house chores. You try doing the majority of that and wor full time. And no, take out, warming up leftovers, not having your kids bathe for a week, etc. doesn't count as doing the "majority of housework/childcare".

It's not shallow to be attracted to physical beauty. It is shallow to have that your #1 priority.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:61 yo man. Sorry but 40s is the age I look to date. Very few woman I've seen hold up well into their 50s and past menopause.

I’m a 42yr old woman. The idea of dating someone 20 yrs older than me seems odd. I think of the long term. When I’m 62, you’d be 81. Do you find many 40 yr old women to date?

40 year old woman here and I was just thinking the same thing. 61 is too old for me. My limit would be about 53, but preferably 40-45.

I am 47 female, and I would not date a 60+ year old unless he looked much younger, around 50 (maybe). My DH is in his early 50's, but looks a bit younger. He's got a bit of a belly but other than that is in pretty good shape. I am a size 4 and am about the same weight as when I got married in my early 30's.

The only way a 60+ yr old man can get a 40 yr old woman is:

1. he has lots and lots of money
2. he is very fit and looks much younger than 60.
3. the woman is very very desperate

I know you want to believe that but you are so wrong.

Really? Well since this is an anonymous forum I suppose you could lie and tell me some story that "proves" me wrong. As I said, I'm 47.. I have many female friends who are my age and no way would they date a 60 yr old who weren't either #1 or #2, and none of my friends are that desperate.

OK, so your friends are not who I'm going to date. But as for #1, it's nice to know that you would all whore yourself out for the right guy, no matter his age. Some of you sound threatened that an older man like myself dates younger women in part for their better looks as if that's bad thing to choose when given the choice, or it's somehow immoral. But at least I'm choosing someone based on who she is, which includes other factors than looks. But your friends would date a man they would never choose if he has lots of money? Wow, that's really sad.

OH, please, you are choosing a younger woman because of her physical attributes mostly. That makes you shallow. How is that any worse than a woman choosing a man because he is able to financially support her and her children? I bet if an older woman had a better personality and other non physical attributes that were better than the younger, more attractive woman, you'd still pick the younger woman simply because of her looks. You are shallow. Just admit it. I don't care if you date only younger woman. I'm just informing you that no 40 year old woman would date a 60 yr old man unless the situation was one of the three.

I don’t understand why someone is shallow for wanting a person with certain physical attributes. That would make one shallow if that’s how he chose whom to hire or even befriend, but that doesn’t have anything to do with which people attract us. We can choose whom to hire or whom to befriend, but we can’t choose what people we are attracted to. Attraction just is what it is.

Then why call a woman a whore for wanting to find a man who can support her and her children? It's not like most women want a sugar daddy so they can do nothing but shop all day. Most women just want a man who can financially support the family because they know that women do the majority of child care and house chores. You try doing the majority of that and wor full time. And no, take out, warming up leftovers, not having your kids bathe for a week, etc. doesn't count as doing the "majority of housework/childcare".

It's not shallow to be attracted to physical beauty. It is shallow to have that your #1 priority.

You aren’t reading the posts correctly. The post which calls women whores and the pot about shallowness are to different posts from two different people. I never said women are whores for wanting someone who can support them. I’m saying the exact opposite. Women are not whores for wanting financial stability any more than men are shallow for wanting physical beauty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Then why call a woman a whore for wanting to find a man who can support her and her children? It's not like most women want a sugar daddy so they can do nothing but shop all day. Most women just want a man who can financially support the family because they know that women do the majority of child care and house chores. You try doing the majority of that and wor full time. And no, take out, warming up leftovers, not having your kids bathe for a week, etc. doesn't count as doing the "majority of housework/childcare".

They don't know that. They just think that. It certainly is not true in our household, though I would not be surprised if DW said it was.

Men learn through bitter experience not to expect women to give them credit for anything they do, and also to expect women to give themselves enormous credit for anything they do, including imaginary bullshit like "emotional labor".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Then why call a woman a whore for wanting to find a man who can support her and her children? It's not like most women want a sugar daddy so they can do nothing but shop all day. Most women just want a man who can financially support the family because they know that women do the majority of child care and house chores. You try doing the majority of that and wor full time. And no, take out, warming up leftovers, not having your kids bathe for a week, etc. doesn't count as doing the "majority of housework/childcare".

They don't know that. They just think that. It certainly is not true in our household, though I would not be surprised if DW said it was.

Men learn through bitter experience not to expect women to give them credit for anything they do, and also to expect women to give themselves enormous credit for anything they do, including imaginary bullshit like "emotional labor".

Stats say otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who wants a 1998 Chevy Impala when you could have a 2015 BMW 325 XI?

BMW has not sold any vehicle with the "25" engine designation since 2006. Clearly you know nothing about cars.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some men feel threatened by a mature, confident woman who shrugs off a man who's not attracted to her. It doesn't mean she's incapable of an intense, in-love relationship. It means she's not desperate, and she doesn't care about your approval. Mind-boggling concept to some men.

This is so true. Since I am threatened by the mature, confident women, I have to settle for young, tight women. Sometimes life is cruel.

You realize we're all tight if you're not tiny, right?

Sometimes life is cruel.

No, you aren't all tight. I'm really well-endowed, and I can tell the difference.

Well despite being “really well endowed,” (yeah, sure grandpa ), you have no sense of humor, so you fail.

ouch!

I think I'm the grandpa of this thread and that is not me making those claims about my endowment, or commenting on anyone being tight.

BTW, I've never seen any correlation at all in tightness between older, younger, never had children, or had a few. I think I've only been with one woman who really had an issue there, like a huge issue (and sure, she could just say I have a small issue) and she never had children. Another I remember was really young and thin, when I was really young, and hadn't had any children yet. As for the rest, all but two were just average which is to say they were great. Those two, who were extraordinarily tight, both had two children. Both had a tilted uterus too so I assume there is some connection there. I could be wrong.

How on earth did that come up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I think I'm the grandpa of this thread and that is not me making those claims about my endowment, or commenting on anyone being tight.

BTW, I've never seen any correlation at all in tightness between older, younger, never had children, or had a few. I think I've only been with one woman who really had an issue there, like a huge issue (and sure, she could just say I have a small issue) and she never had children. Another I remember was really young and thin, when I was really young, and hadn't had any children yet. As for the rest, all but two were just average which is to say they were great. Those two, who were extraordinarily tight, both had two children. Both had a tilted uterus too so I assume there is some connection there. I could be wrong.

How on earth did that come up?

I'm not sure but I don't think it's unusual for women to talk about their body or anatomy with a lover. It just came up. It may have been when I was remarking how unusually tight they were. Both knew they were, from hearing it before so it may have been a discussion to figure out how that happens. So on my very unscientific sampling size of two, I've come to believe there is some connection between the two things. If further research bears this out, I will be sure to keep you all informed. Maybe I should add that note to my dating profile as one of the things I'm seeking. Prefer a woman with a tilted uterus. Would that be too creepy? :-0

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I don’t understand why someone is shallow for wanting a person with certain physical attributes. That would make one shallow if that’s how he chose whom to hire or even befriend, but that doesn’t have anything to do with which people attract us. We can choose whom to hire or whom to befriend, but we can’t choose what people we are attracted to. Attraction just is what it is.

Then why call a woman a whore for wanting to find a man who can support her and her children? It's not like most women want a sugar daddy so they can do nothing but shop all day. Most women just want a man who can financially support the family because they know that women do the majority of child care and house chores. You try doing the majority of that and wor full time. And no, take out, warming up leftovers, not having your kids bathe for a week, etc. doesn't count as doing the "majority of housework/childcare".

It's not shallow to be attracted to physical beauty. It is shallow to have that your #1 priority.

Maybe this thread is running out of new commentary and winding down, because I feel like I'm just repeating myself. I'm the guy who used the word, whore. Actually, whoring. In response to several woman (or the same woman posting several times?) who agreed they would gladly choose a man who meets 1. even if she would otherwise have nothing to do with the man because of his: age, looks, sexual appeal or ability, personality, or other traits that make a good partner. This also applies to giving a guy consideration for a first date. The money is a door opener to a guy who would otherwise be rejected in a heartbeat.

1. he has lots and lots of money
2. he is very fit and looks much younger than 60
3. the woman is very very desperate

I'm too lazy to go back and find the posts of mine, but what I said, and repeated a few times (because it's necessary to repeat what you've said in these threads-reading comprehension and attention span being what it is) is that while men are called out for having standards that include attractiveness and youth as a first consideration, some women here are willing to ignore their own standards and will gladly whore themselves out for the guy with money. It's like looking at the guy as an ATM machine with a pot belly, bald head, remote in one hand, beer in the other, and somehow finding him attractive if it means he, "can support her and her children."

In the end, finding a partner for the long term is all about your priorities in life and whatever makes you happy. And I get it, I really do. Sometimes, compromises need to be made. Perhaps I should have used the less offensive word, compromise, instead of, whoring. BTW, if you are willing to choose #1 over a guy you are genuinely attracted to for reasons other than money, aren't you also the definition of #3?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who wants a 1998 Chevy Impala when you could have a 2015 BMW 325 XI?

BMW has not sold any vehicle with the "25" engine designation since 2006. Clearly you know nothing about cars.

Regardless of engine, it's still a brand driven mostly by douchebags who wear little golf hats on weekends, board shorts, and sandals with socks to out out and drink Stella Artois beer, if he even drinks beer.

[Anonymous]

Then why call a woman a whore for wanting to find a man who can support her and her children? It's not like most women want a sugar daddy so they can do nothing but shop all day. Most women just want a man who can financially support the family because they know that women do the majority of child care and house chores. You try doing the majority of that and work full time. And no, take out, warming up leftovers, not having your kids bathe for a week, etc. doesn't count as doing the "majority of housework/childcare".

It's not shallow to be attracted to physical beauty. It is shallow to have that your #1 priority.

I honestly believe that most women would choose exactly that if they could. I've heard several say just that. Many on this very board are often lamenting about how they wish they had married rich. The smart ones know they better have more going for them after it all goes away in the divorce, so they continue to work so as not to feel trapped in a bad marriage they can't leave and still expect to have the life they are accustomed to. But otherwise, who wouldn't choose that life? If I could find the woman of my dreams and she were rich enough to indulge me... nahh, still couldn't stop working but I'd probably retire sooner. But I still wouldn't choose that life with someone who I wouldn't otherwise want to be with. I'd rather be poorer and happier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Then why call a woman a whore for wanting to find a man who can support her and her children? It's not like most women want a sugar daddy so they can do nothing but shop all day. Most women just want a man who can financially support the family because they know that women do the majority of child care and house chores. You try doing the majority of that and wor full time. And no, take out, warming up leftovers, not having your kids bathe for a week, etc. doesn't count as doing the "majority of housework/childcare".

They don't know that. They just think that. It certainly is not true in our household, though I would not be surprised if DW said it was.

Men learn through bitter experience not to expect women to give them credit for anything they do, and also to expect women to give themselves enormous credit for anything they do, including imaginary bullshit like "emotional labor".

Stats say otherwise.

Haw, if you ask women "who does most of the housework" of course they are going to say that they do, but that doesn't mean they actually do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some men feel threatened by a mature, confident woman who shrugs off a man who's not attracted to her. It doesn't mean she's incapable of an intense, in-love relationship. It means she's not desperate, and she doesn't care about your approval. Mind-boggling concept to some men.

This is so true. Since I am threatened by the mature, confident women, I have to settle for young, tight women. Sometimes life is cruel.

You realize we're all tight if you're not tiny, right?

Sometimes life is cruel.

No, you aren't all tight. I'm really well-endowed, and I can tell the difference.

No, you aren't sweetie. And you know it

Sadly I don't think he does know it.

I'm the man you decided to dog-pile on. I typed up some of my experiences but decided not to post them.

Women are different on the inside just as men as different on the outside. Having children doesn't seem to matter much nor does age. Race matters somewhat. Plenty of women are apparently too small to handle me, which can be frustrating for both me and my partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some men feel threatened by a mature, confident woman who shrugs off a man who's not attracted to her. It doesn't mean she's incapable of an intense, in-love relationship. It means she's not desperate, and she doesn't care about your approval. Mind-boggling concept to some men.

This is so true. Since I am threatened by the mature, confident women, I have to settle for young, tight women. Sometimes life is cruel.

You realize we're all tight if you're not tiny, right?

Sometimes life is cruel.

No, you aren't all tight. I'm really well-endowed, and I can tell the difference.

No, you aren't sweetie. And you know it

Sadly I don't think he does know it.

I'm the man you decided to dog-pile on. I typed up some of my experiences but decided not to post them.

Women are different on the inside just as men as different on the outside. Having children doesn't seem to matter much nor does age. Race matters somewhat. Plenty of women are apparently too small to handle me, which can be frustrating for both me and my partner.

[Anonymous]

haha this guy, so hung that "plenty" of women are too small to handle him. An actual grown woman can stretch to handle quite a lot, up to and including babies. If you're built as big as a baby head, okay, you're not going to be pleasant to sleep with. I somehow doubt that's the case.

In any case, why get so defensive about 50-year-old women not caring whether you're interested in them, or about the size of your equipment. Holy screaming insecurities.