Dating at gender-lopsided universities

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is a freshman at a state school and no one she knows is hooking up with anyone. This is a sample of maybe 10 girls, all well adjusted, pretty, social. They hang out with only girls so far. They would go out with boys but no one is asking.

Similar to my son. He hangs out with guys, playing intramurals and watching sports, etc.

[Anonymous]

DD at an SLAC says all the straight males say they are “polyamorous” and the straight girls have to be okay with them seriously dating multiple girls at the same time. Yuck. She’s going to wait for the real world to start dating I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD at an SLAC says all the straight males say they are “polyamorous” and the straight girls have to be okay with them seriously dating multiple girls at the same time. Yuck. She’s going to wait for the real world to start dating I guess.

This is a weird thing to lie about.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DD at an SLAC says all the straight males say they are “polyamorous” and the straight girls have to be okay with them seriously dating multiple girls at the same time. Yuck. She’s going to wait for the real world to start dating I guess.

This is a weird thing to lie about.

Ha! You obviously don’t have a DD at an SLAC currently. It is wild. It might help if I name the institution, but I won’t. You can guess.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DD at an SLAC says all the straight males say they are “polyamorous” and the straight girls have to be okay with them seriously dating multiple girls at the same time. Yuck. She’s going to wait for the real world to start dating I guess.

This is a weird thing to lie about.

Ha! You obviously don’t have a DD at an SLAC currently. It is wild. It might help if I name the institution, but I won’t. You can guess.

please name it so DD can avoid! she's looking at SLACs and now I'm worried about the vibe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD at an SLAC says all the straight males say they are “polyamorous” and the straight girls have to be okay with them seriously dating multiple girls at the same time. Yuck. She’s going to wait for the real world to start dating I guess.

I mean…it’s hard enough to truly date one girl in college…why would you want to seriously date more than one…or do guys think women will find it more palatable to use this label on just hooking up a ton.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DD at an SLAC says all the straight males say they are “polyamorous” and the straight girls have to be okay with them seriously dating multiple girls at the same time. Yuck. She’s going to wait for the real world to start dating I guess.

I mean…it’s hard enough to truly date one girl in college…why would you want to seriously date more than one…or do guys think women will find it more palatable to use this label on just hooking up a ton.

I think that’s what we used to call it - hooking up! They’ve just found a more pretentious term.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DD at an SLAC says all the straight males say they are “polyamorous” and the straight girls have to be okay with them seriously dating multiple girls at the same time. Yuck. She’s going to wait for the real world to start dating I guess.

I mean…it’s hard enough to truly date one girl in college…why would you want to seriously date more than one…or do guys think women will find it more palatable to use this label on just hooking up a ton.

I think that’s what we used to call it - hooking up! They’ve just found a more pretentious term.

There are also “situationships” now which is just having a girlfriend or boyfriend that they can freely cheat on without repercussion because they aren’t “official”.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DD at an SLAC says all the straight males say they are “polyamorous” and the straight girls have to be okay with them seriously dating multiple girls at the same time. Yuck. She’s going to wait for the real world to start dating I guess.

I mean…it’s hard enough to truly date one girl in college…why would you want to seriously date more than one…or do guys think women will find it more palatable to use this label on just hooking up a ton.

I think that’s what we used to call it - hooking up! They’ve just found a more pretentious term.

I would use a term like "conscious multi-coupling" because it would confuse someone so when they are pissed when you cheat you have your alibi...didn't Gwyneth and Chris Martin use the term conscious uncoupling when they broke up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD at an SLAC says all the straight males say they are “polyamorous” and the straight girls have to be okay with them seriously dating multiple girls at the same time. Yuck. She’s going to wait for the real world to start dating I guess.

Why don’t you believe they are truthful about it? Dating and marriage norms change over time, they will for sure change over the course of your lifetime.

Waiting for the”real world” won’t change much if she wants to date a college educated man of her own age. It’s not like this demographic magically increase the fraction of the population post graduation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD at an SLAC says all the straight males say they are “polyamorous” and the straight girls have to be okay with them seriously dating multiple girls at the same time. Yuck. She’s going to wait for the real world to start dating I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD at an SLAC says all the straight males say they are “polyamorous” and the straight girls have to be okay with them seriously dating multiple girls at the same time. Yuck. She’s going to wait for the real world to start dating I guess.

So…hooking up. That’s not serious.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Specify which is 60% and which sex is 40%.

I don't know of any notable 60m/40w colleges

You aren't thinking broadly.
Tech colleges. MIT has been in this range.

Caltech is probably more lopsided with men than 60/40

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Anonymous wrote:I do agree with some of the conclusions here. I have both boys and girls, so you won't catch me bashing either.

My daughter would love to be "asked out" in the old-fashioned way. Dinner, coffee, whatever. She's sick of "talking to" guys.

My son is definitely a bit afraid to ask out a girl and either be shot down or shamed. He has friends who are gay and bisexual, but he admits to being confused about whether it's OK to pursue a girl who has said she's bi.

I don’t really understand sort of extreme reactions like this.

My two sons attended DCPS and while they shrugged at some of the social engineering, neither felt oppressed or overwhelmed by the messaging. Maybe in the scheme of things DCPS isn’t that crazy.

Neither has ever had an issue reading social cues and asking women out…sometimes a rejection happens but I guess they ask out normal people because there is no public shaming.

I don't think he'd get shamed, either, but HE thinks he would!

I totally agree.

The guys (thanks to social media in my opinion) think they are going to be mocked and shamed if they make a misstep.

Social media has destroyed dating relationships.

Social media, and more specifically influencers and podcasters are feeding your children crap information.

It is the female centered influencers, mostly.

I have boys, and I listen to guy focused social media, which is mostly right leaning.

Almost all of them are telling young men to get off video games, stop watching porn, exercise, get a job, go to church, learn about the world and make yourself worthy of the young women you want to be with, with a bunch of sports and things like aliens and moon landing conspiracies thrown in.


The girl social media is heavily skewed to cutting out any guy from your life who is not hard left.

Just read the Facebook posts of your adult female friends and neighbors. They say the exact same thing. I can't tell you how many times women post here and on their identifiable Facebook pages things like "I would divorce my husband if I found out he was conservative/voted for Trump."

That polarization by women is not good for dating or for society at large.

My girls do not want to date maga guys and has nothing to do with social influencers. It affects their lives and they have the right to want to date soneone closer to their ideals rather than soneone who wants five kids and a trad wife. Are you suggesting otherwise?

There are very few red hat MAGA men at top 20 colleges. Most young men are center left if you press them on issues. I don’t think politics is the problem.

Eh… they may not wear the hats, but that’s where their hearts and votes are. But it’s the same for white women, so not really a big deal.

It’s not for either…why would their hearts support idiotic policies like tariffs, cutting funding for their own colleges and other policies that completely work against their interests?

They aren’t morons like farmers who can expect a bailout when they elect someone who is destroying their livelihood.

DP the white women did not vote for HRC. They voted for Trump. Go look at the data.

Yeah…the data shows that white college women voted for Harris.

Also, this was specifically about top 20 schools. Like 90% of the top 20 schools were 80%+ for Harris. Even Vanderbilt was like 60%+.

You can’t get to those numbers without a lot of white men and women.

The honesty of those polls is highly questionable.

Why would college-educated women vote for a POS like Trump?

People who did vote for Trump aren’t going to admit it to some pollster.

This is stupid and you know it. Nearly 50% of the country did not vote for Trump. It's odd that you think that if nearly 50% of the entire country did not vote for Trump...somehow, the vast majority of students of Top 20 university students didn't vote for Harris.

DP. I mean, you realize you could completely turn around this "argument," right?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DD at an SLAC says all the straight males say they are “polyamorous” and the straight girls have to be okay with them seriously dating multiple girls at the same time. Yuck. She’s going to wait for the real world to start dating I guess.

I mean…it’s hard enough to truly date one girl in college…why would you want to seriously date more than one…or do guys think women will find it more palatable to use this label on just hooking up a ton.

DP. I think a certain type of woman who goes to a certain type of school would find that label (and all the other sexual/gender labels and -isms) attractive. Which is exactly why my kids (son and daughter) avoided SLACs like the plague.