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Anonymous wrote:Without hearing her side of the story, yes she sounds unreasonable. It sounds like you have an amazing, unicorn job. I have a pretty flexible job too and I take full advantage of the flexibility to be with my kids, but one reason I still keep getting promoted is I show up when it matters. And I have childcare in place to enable me to do that.
That being said, she’s on maternity leave, home with a 3mo all day, probably feeling a mix of frustration from being out of the adult/working world + blues from having to return to work soon. So cut her some slack and be gentle about her irrationality. Don’t give in though.
This! Perfect answer. Your wife is living at a time when thousands of people are being called in to 9 to 5 in office work and are lucky to even have jobs. I hope you both value the situation you currently have and try to shore up the problem spots for her so you guys can both Thrive. You’re living through a difficult period of having very small children and a newborn and part of this may be your wife having to retool her expectations and get a cold hard dose of reality. I’ll never forget being alone with our toddler and our newborn from 6 AM until 7 PM because my husband was in the office full-time. That certainly taught me not to complain when his evening meetings run over From his amazing work from home situation is that they are 11 and 9. When the kids complain I remind them they are lucky they don’t remember the days when their daddy didn’t see them during their waking hours for 2-3 days in a row or longer due to his in office commute time from Potomac to Arlington and long work days. Perspective is everything.
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