Shocked at how many families in nice DMV neighborhoods are living in relatives' homes

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Anonymous wrote:None of this is rocket science and it is baffling that the OP got any traction on the original post that doesn't seem to be credible.

I doubt that in one year (kindergarten) at his kids upscale neighborhood school, he had TWELVE separate families confide the financial arrangements of their households. If you have been on a pcick up line or on a playground, you know that does not happen, even for the most aggressively curious among us.

But, OP does presume that we will believe that folks have confessed these intimacies and then he goes on to OUT them by posting a “shocked” post on DCUM. All of this seems creepy.

Who knows why OP exaggerated facts to create a "SHOCKED" post leading to banal conclusions. But we all fell for a pretty low level of tabloid click bait ....

I think it's probably just a bit of jealousy and also probably being triggered by the reactions (or lack thereof) of the old money types in his neighborhood. Probably the people back home in Kansas think it's absolutely amazing that OP worked so hard in school and got to their position in biglaw or whatever, and now they're living in *OMG* Chevy Chase. Then contrast that to the 40-something non-profit worker who breezes past OP in their khakis and polo shirt, unconcerned with whether they'll get a Christmas bonus, living in the same neighborhood despite not caring about money or achievements. That same person also has a higher status in the local social crowd because they went to a tony Northeastern boarding school, got into an Ivy-adjacent because of legacy or donations, and belongs to the most exclusive country club in the area. They hang out with a crowd that would probably find OP a grating nerd and try hard. This seems like a maddening up-ending of the natural order to someone like OP, who DESERVES that house in a way the inheritor did not. And an ultimate reminder that no matter how hard OP tries, there are some things he cannot work his way into.

Sure. And the Ivy adjacent country clubber can't raise his IQ two SDs, either.

The Ivy adjacent country clubber likely has a pretty high IQ. And if it wasn't any higher, it doesnt seem it would improve his quality of life nor happiness anyway.

really? based on what?

Have you ever interacted with these people? most of them have a fairly extensive vocabulary, can be pretty philosophical, etc. Much more so than the new money strivers, actually.

An “old money” artist or NPO child or whatever is living in a $10MM dollar house somewhere, not hoping to inherit their parent’s CC DC house.

The latter is just a failed adult.

Some of them are. You seem to have some kind of Hollywood idea of old money families, no actual experience in the real world.

No, my idea of old money is rich…and certainly survives more than one generation…and while CC DC is UMC, it ain’t a place with lots of truly rich people.

For every elderly person who owns a home in CCDC that has some $$$s, there are 10 that were able to buy their house 40 years ago and could never afford that house today and have limited incomes. Their kids aren’t members of some gilded class.

Okay, some kind of caricature from a Ralph Lauren ad? I think you'll be sorely disappointed by the reality of most old money people. Theyre not swanning around in Kardashian gowns in marble mansions, most of them prefer to live low key, belonging to the most exclusive clubs, using hand me down furniture that would be worth thousands per piece, and maybe driving a Volvo. You wouldnt get it because your a striver and a middle America type

Huh…you still didn’t describe nearly anyone in CC DC who belong to zero CCs or any exclusive club.

Not sure why you are creating a fictional group of people supposedly living in CC DC.

Just because you dont belong to this crowd and never will doesnt mean it doesnt exist.

You just keep digging….its clear you don’t live here and are likely poor as you think CC DC is filled with old money.

I’m getting it now.

Aw. Dont be mad because youre never going to be accepted within certain crowds. Just accept it and move on. Dont even think about it

Hey…sorry you are poor…you should probably comment on the thread about how hard it is for you to afford a 20% down payment.

Sucks to be poor like you.

Hey, sorry you're declasse and tacky. I know it probably grates on you constantly, especially when you pass old money types who shun you and turn up their nose at you. Oh well. Maybe one day you can buy some manners, or maybe get that college degree.

Hey…again, sorry you are poor. At least you now acknowledge it.

Right back atcha. And that you're tacky on top of it. Bad combo.

Again…you admit you are poor…you are such a loser.

Please take your own advice. And a long look in the mirror

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Anonymous wrote:None of this is rocket science and it is baffling that the OP got any traction on the original post that doesn't seem to be credible.

I doubt that in one year (kindergarten) at his kids upscale neighborhood school, he had TWELVE separate families confide the financial arrangements of their households. If you have been on a pick up line or on a playground, you know that does not happen, even for the most aggressively curious among us.

But, OP does presume that we will believe that folks have confessed these intimacies and then he goes on to OUT them by posting a “shocked” post on DCUM. All of this seems creepy.

Who knows why OP exaggerated facts to create a "SHOCKED" post leading to banal conclusions. But we all fell for a pretty low level of tabloid click bait ....

I think it's probably just a bit of jealousy and also probably being triggered by the reactions (or lack thereof) of the old money types in his neighborhood. Probably the people back home in Kansas think it's absolutely amazing that OP worked so hard in school and got to their position in biglaw or whatever, and now they're living in *OMG* Chevy Chase. Then contrast that to the 40-something non-profit worker who breezes past OP in their khakis and polo shirt, unconcerned with whether they'll get a Christmas bonus, living in the same neighborhood despite not caring about money or achievements. That same person also has a higher status in the local social crowd because they went to a tony Northeastern boarding school, got into an Ivy-adjacent because of legacy or donations, and belongs to the most exclusive country club in the area. They hang out with a crowd that would probably find OP a grating nerd and try hard. This seems like a maddening up-ending of the natural order to someone like OP, who DESERVES that house in a way the inheritor did not. And an ultimate reminder that no matter how hard OP tries, there are some things he cannot work his way into.

Sure. And the Ivy adjacent country clubber can't raise his IQ two SDs, either.

The Ivy adjacent country clubber likely has a pretty high IQ. And if it wasn't any higher, it doesnt seem it would improve his quality of life nor happiness anyway.

really? based on what?

Have you ever interacted with these people? most of them have a fairly extensive vocabulary, can be pretty philosophical, etc. Much more so than the new money strivers, actually.

An “old money” artist or NPO child or whatever is living in a $10MM dollar house somewhere, not hoping to inherit their parent’s CC DC house.

The latter is just a failed adult.

Some of them are. You seem to have some kind of Hollywood idea of old money families, no actual experience in the real world.

No, my idea of old money is rich…and certainly survives more than one generation…and while CC DC is UMC, it ain’t a place with lots of truly rich people.

For every elderly person who owns a home in CCDC that has some $$$s, there are 10 that were able to buy their house 40 years ago and could never afford that house today and have limited incomes. Their kids aren’t members of some gilded class.

Okay, some kind of caricature from a Ralph Lauren ad? I think you'll be sorely disappointed by the reality of most old money people. Theyre not swanning around in Kardashian gowns in marble mansions, most of them prefer to live low key, belonging to the most exclusive clubs, using hand me down furniture that would be worth thousands per piece, and maybe driving a Volvo. You wouldnt get it because your a striver and a middle America type

Huh…you still didn’t describe nearly anyone in CC DC who belong to zero CCs or any exclusive club.

Not sure why you are creating a fictional group of people supposedly living in CC DC.

Just because you dont belong to this crowd and never will doesnt mean it doesnt exist.

Again…you believe this exists in CC DC? This isn’t an “old” money neighborhood or the homes would be worth a ton more for the median.

Oh. You sweet thing. Yes CC DC and MD is old money. Very old money. If you dont get it... just stop worrying about.

That’s stupid…and of course CC MD is actually quite different from CC DC…but again, another person that doesn’t live here and has no clue of what they say.

Oh sweetie. That's right, it doesn't exist, there are no parties in old money houses and at old money clubs that you arent invited to... whatever you need to tell yourself. Bless.

Give me the address of one old money house in CC DC.

Are you insane?

So you can’t name one…got it.

Im supposed to post someone's private actress on a public website to someone who appears to be deeply mentally and obsessed with old money types? No thanks.

So, you can’t. Can’t even name a general block.

Keep digging.

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Anonymous wrote:None of this is rocket science and it is baffling that the OP got any traction on the original post that doesn't seem to be credible.

I doubt that in one year (kindergarten) at his kids upscale neighborhood school, he had TWELVE separate families confide the financial arrangements of their households. If you have been on a pcick up line or on a playground, you know that does not happen, even for the most aggressively curious among us.

But, OP does presume that we will believe that folks have confessed these intimacies and then he goes on to OUT them by posting a “shocked” post on DCUM. All of this seems creepy.

Who knows why OP exaggerated facts to create a "SHOCKED" post leading to banal conclusions. But we all fell for a pretty low level of tabloid click bait ....

I think it's probably just a bit of jealousy and also probably being triggered by the reactions (or lack thereof) of the old money types in his neighborhood. Probably the people back home in Kansas think it's absolutely amazing that OP worked so hard in school and got to their position in biglaw or whatever, and now they're living in *OMG* Chevy Chase. Then contrast that to the 40-something non-profit worker who breezes past OP in their khakis and polo shirt, unconcerned with whether they'll get a Christmas bonus, living in the same neighborhood despite not caring about money or achievements. That same person also has a higher status in the local social crowd because they went to a tony Northeastern boarding school, got into an Ivy-adjacent because of legacy or donations, and belongs to the most exclusive country club in the area. They hang out with a crowd that would probably find OP a grating nerd and try hard. This seems like a maddening up-ending of the natural order to someone like OP, who DESERVES that house in a way the inheritor did not. And an ultimate reminder that no matter how hard OP tries, there are some things he cannot work his way into.

Sure. And the Ivy adjacent country clubber can't raise his IQ two SDs, either.

The Ivy adjacent country clubber likely has a pretty high IQ. And if it wasn't any higher, it doesnt seem it would improve his quality of life nor happiness anyway.

really? based on what?

Have you ever interacted with these people? most of them have a fairly extensive vocabulary, can be pretty philosophical, etc. Much more so than the new money strivers, actually.

An “old money” artist or NPO child or whatever is living in a $10MM dollar house somewhere, not hoping to inherit their parent’s CC DC house.

The latter is just a failed adult.

Some of them are. You seem to have some kind of Hollywood idea of old money families, no actual experience in the real world.

No, my idea of old money is rich…and certainly survives more than one generation…and while CC DC is UMC, it ain’t a place with lots of truly rich people.

For every elderly person who owns a home in CCDC that has some $$$s, there are 10 that were able to buy their house 40 years ago and could never afford that house today and have limited incomes. Their kids aren’t members of some gilded class.

Okay, some kind of caricature from a Ralph Lauren ad? I think you'll be sorely disappointed by the reality of most old money people. Theyre not swanning around in Kardashian gowns in marble mansions, most of them prefer to live low key, belonging to the most exclusive clubs, using hand me down furniture that would be worth thousands per piece, and maybe driving a Volvo. You wouldnt get it because your a striver and a middle America type

Huh…you still didn’t describe nearly anyone in CC DC who belong to zero CCs or any exclusive club.

Not sure why you are creating a fictional group of people supposedly living in CC DC.

Just because you dont belong to this crowd and never will doesnt mean it doesnt exist.

You just keep digging….its clear you don’t live here and are likely poor as you think CC DC is filled with old money.

I’m getting it now.

Aw. Dont be mad because youre never going to be accepted within certain crowds. Just accept it and move on. Dont even think about it

Hey…sorry you are poor…you should probably comment on the thread about how hard it is for you to afford a 20% down payment.

Sucks to be poor like you.

Hey, sorry you're declasse and tacky. I know it probably grates on you constantly, especially when you pass old money types who shun you and turn up their nose at you. Oh well. Maybe one day you can buy some manners, or maybe get that college degree.

Hey…again, sorry you are poor. At least you now acknowledge it.

Right back atcha. And that you're tacky on top of it. Bad combo.

Again…you admit you are poor…you are such a loser.

Please take your own advice. And a long look in the mirror

You are losing it…this is hysterical.

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Anonymous wrote:None of this is rocket science and it is baffling that the OP got any traction on the original post that doesn't seem to be credible.

I doubt that in one year (kindergarten) at his kids upscale neighborhood school, he had TWELVE separate families confide the financial arrangements of their households. If you have been on a pick up line or on a playground, you know that does not happen, even for the most aggressively curious among us.

But, OP does presume that we will believe that folks have confessed these intimacies and then he goes on to OUT them by posting a “shocked” post on DCUM. All of this seems creepy.

Who knows why OP exaggerated facts to create a "SHOCKED" post leading to banal conclusions. But we all fell for a pretty low level of tabloid click bait ....

I think it's probably just a bit of jealousy and also probably being triggered by the reactions (or lack thereof) of the old money types in his neighborhood. Probably the people back home in Kansas think it's absolutely amazing that OP worked so hard in school and got to their position in biglaw or whatever, and now they're living in *OMG* Chevy Chase. Then contrast that to the 40-something non-profit worker who breezes past OP in their khakis and polo shirt, unconcerned with whether they'll get a Christmas bonus, living in the same neighborhood despite not caring about money or achievements. That same person also has a higher status in the local social crowd because they went to a tony Northeastern boarding school, got into an Ivy-adjacent because of legacy or donations, and belongs to the most exclusive country club in the area. They hang out with a crowd that would probably find OP a grating nerd and try hard. This seems like a maddening up-ending of the natural order to someone like OP, who DESERVES that house in a way the inheritor did not. And an ultimate reminder that no matter how hard OP tries, there are some things he cannot work his way into.

Sure. And the Ivy adjacent country clubber can't raise his IQ two SDs, either.

The Ivy adjacent country clubber likely has a pretty high IQ. And if it wasn't any higher, it doesnt seem it would improve his quality of life nor happiness anyway.

really? based on what?

Have you ever interacted with these people? most of them have a fairly extensive vocabulary, can be pretty philosophical, etc. Much more so than the new money strivers, actually.

An “old money” artist or NPO child or whatever is living in a $10MM dollar house somewhere, not hoping to inherit their parent’s CC DC house.

The latter is just a failed adult.

Some of them are. You seem to have some kind of Hollywood idea of old money families, no actual experience in the real world.

No, my idea of old money is rich…and certainly survives more than one generation…and while CC DC is UMC, it ain’t a place with lots of truly rich people.

For every elderly person who owns a home in CCDC that has some $$$s, there are 10 that were able to buy their house 40 years ago and could never afford that house today and have limited incomes. Their kids aren’t members of some gilded class.

Okay, some kind of caricature from a Ralph Lauren ad? I think you'll be sorely disappointed by the reality of most old money people. Theyre not swanning around in Kardashian gowns in marble mansions, most of them prefer to live low key, belonging to the most exclusive clubs, using hand me down furniture that would be worth thousands per piece, and maybe driving a Volvo. You wouldnt get it because your a striver and a middle America type

Huh…you still didn’t describe nearly anyone in CC DC who belong to zero CCs or any exclusive club.

Not sure why you are creating a fictional group of people supposedly living in CC DC.

Just because you dont belong to this crowd and never will doesnt mean it doesnt exist.

Again…you believe this exists in CC DC? This isn’t an “old” money neighborhood or the homes would be worth a ton more for the median.

Oh. You sweet thing. Yes CC DC and MD is old money. Very old money. If you dont get it... just stop worrying about.

That’s stupid…and of course CC MD is actually quite different from CC DC…but again, another person that doesn’t live here and has no clue of what they say.

Oh sweetie. That's right, it doesn't exist, there are no parties in old money houses and at old money clubs that you arent invited to... whatever you need to tell yourself. Bless.

Give me the address of one old money house in CC DC.

Are you insane?

So you can’t name one…got it.

Im supposed to post someone's private actress on a public website to someone who appears to be deeply mentally and obsessed with old money types? No thanks.

So, you can’t. Can’t even name a general block.

Keep digging.

if anything, the neighborhood has an active interest in keeping out derangement, low class strivers like yourself. So sorry, no I will not be naming people's addreses so you can stalk them. What a ghastly weirdo you are.

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Anonymous wrote:None of this is rocket science and it is baffling that the OP got any traction on the original post that doesn't seem to be credible.

I doubt that in one year (kindergarten) at his kids upscale neighborhood school, he had TWELVE separate families confide the financial arrangements of their households. If you have been on a pcick up line or on a playground, you know that does not happen, even for the most aggressively curious among us.

But, OP does presume that we will believe that folks have confessed these intimacies and then he goes on to OUT them by posting a “shocked” post on DCUM. All of this seems creepy.

Who knows why OP exaggerated facts to create a "SHOCKED" post leading to banal conclusions. But we all fell for a pretty low level of tabloid click bait ....

I think it's probably just a bit of jealousy and also probably being triggered by the reactions (or lack thereof) of the old money types in his neighborhood. Probably the people back home in Kansas think it's absolutely amazing that OP worked so hard in school and got to their position in biglaw or whatever, and now they're living in *OMG* Chevy Chase. Then contrast that to the 40-something non-profit worker who breezes past OP in their khakis and polo shirt, unconcerned with whether they'll get a Christmas bonus, living in the same neighborhood despite not caring about money or achievements. That same person also has a higher status in the local social crowd because they went to a tony Northeastern boarding school, got into an Ivy-adjacent because of legacy or donations, and belongs to the most exclusive country club in the area. They hang out with a crowd that would probably find OP a grating nerd and try hard. This seems like a maddening up-ending of the natural order to someone like OP, who DESERVES that house in a way the inheritor did not. And an ultimate reminder that no matter how hard OP tries, there are some things he cannot work his way into.

Sure. And the Ivy adjacent country clubber can't raise his IQ two SDs, either.

The Ivy adjacent country clubber likely has a pretty high IQ. And if it wasn't any higher, it doesnt seem it would improve his quality of life nor happiness anyway.

really? based on what?

Have you ever interacted with these people? most of them have a fairly extensive vocabulary, can be pretty philosophical, etc. Much more so than the new money strivers, actually.

An “old money” artist or NPO child or whatever is living in a $10MM dollar house somewhere, not hoping to inherit their parent’s CC DC house.

The latter is just a failed adult.

Some of them are. You seem to have some kind of Hollywood idea of old money families, no actual experience in the real world.

No, my idea of old money is rich…and certainly survives more than one generation…and while CC DC is UMC, it ain’t a place with lots of truly rich people.

For every elderly person who owns a home in CCDC that has some $$$s, there are 10 that were able to buy their house 40 years ago and could never afford that house today and have limited incomes. Their kids aren’t members of some gilded class.

Okay, some kind of caricature from a Ralph Lauren ad? I think you'll be sorely disappointed by the reality of most old money people. Theyre not swanning around in Kardashian gowns in marble mansions, most of them prefer to live low key, belonging to the most exclusive clubs, using hand me down furniture that would be worth thousands per piece, and maybe driving a Volvo. You wouldnt get it because your a striver and a middle America type

Huh…you still didn’t describe nearly anyone in CC DC who belong to zero CCs or any exclusive club.

Not sure why you are creating a fictional group of people supposedly living in CC DC.

Just because you dont belong to this crowd and never will doesnt mean it doesnt exist.

You just keep digging….its clear you don’t live here and are likely poor as you think CC DC is filled with old money.

I’m getting it now.

Aw. Dont be mad because youre never going to be accepted within certain crowds. Just accept it and move on. Dont even think about it

Hey…sorry you are poor…you should probably comment on the thread about how hard it is for you to afford a 20% down payment.

Sucks to be poor like you.

Hey, sorry you're declasse and tacky. I know it probably grates on you constantly, especially when you pass old money types who shun you and turn up their nose at you. Oh well. Maybe one day you can buy some manners, or maybe get that college degree.

Hey…again, sorry you are poor. At least you now acknowledge it.

Right back atcha. And that you're tacky on top of it. Bad combo.

Again…you admit you are poor…you are such a loser.

Please take your own advice. And a long look in the mirror

You are losing it…this is hysterical.

Once again, take all those and direct them right back to yourself. Maybe see a therapist.

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I gotta stop looking at threads like this, it's like watching pigs wrestle in the mud

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Anonymous wrote:Always amazes me how people like OP feel entitled to other people's things.

OP here: we actually saved a six figure down-payment and closing costs without any family help. Paid for our own wedding too. Also paid off our student loans. But we got "lucky" by pivoting multiple times in our careers for better jobs, striving for big promotions, etc.

Vast majority of our friends who had a similar profile as us - i.e., had to pay for their own house, their own wedding, their own student loans - had to leave the area completely or moved very far out to make it work.

So, no, I do not feel entitled to other people's things. But it wasn't until our kid was in school that we really had no idea how "things really work" in nicer DMV neighborhoods.

I don’t think there is anything wrong with your statements. I am related to someone who is living in a $2 million home in NW gifted by parents a few years ago. The cost of the house and today’s interest rates would put the house completely out of this family’s reach if not for the gift. They are not high achievers and are in careers that are low stress, low risk, and moderate pay. The grandparents also donated a ton of money to private school to get their grandchildren in the door because they are unexceptional to the point of their preschool saying they wouldn’t do well at a Big 3. And now the grandparents are paying tuition. This has happened forever. It’s just that you weren’t aware of it.

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Anonymous wrote:Our kid (only-child) just finished kindergarten at a school in an upscale DMV neighborhood.

We've met at least a dozen families at our school who are living in a childhood home or a living in a house own by an elderly parent/relative and "paying rent" (whatever that means)

Though extracurricular activities we've met other families with the same arrangements in Chevy Chase, Bethesda, and upper NW DC. This is, in fact, pretty widespread.

So, if you're slogging away saving for that down payment, paying for child care and wondering "how do all these people do it????"....just know that this is one of the ways you're getting shut out. I'm honestly surprised at how widespread this is happening.

Yep, my friend moved into her DH's childhood home. The parents helped their son out and provide her/DH free babysitting to take trips.
I'm so jealous.
They really have the perfect set up.

With just three simple words, this PP has managed to encapsulate the OP's feelings -- resentment, bitterness and envy.

I'm. So. Jealous.

Envy is such an incredibly unattractive trait, as it conveys to the world that you've chosen to become rooted in bitterness, resentment, inferiority, and insecurity.

This post is predictable.

They always find a way to blame someone else for their own inadequacies & shortcomings, because they've deluded themselves into believing that life isn't fair.
They MUST live their lives as perpetual victims of unfairness & injustice⁸⁰.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't that the goal of this entire post?

It seemed like the OP was positively giddy for her GOTCHA! moment, in trying to expose the so-called "secrets" of legacy real estate in the DMV area (aka; inheretences of the rich & privileged).
However, it seems painfully obvious that OP was probably the only one who didn't know that the DMV has always been ripe with real estate legacies, and the three kind of people who react to them:

1. Those who get labeled entitled for having the benefit of legacy/nepo inheritances.
2. Those who feel bitter & resentful because they'll never receive those same privileges AND
3. Those who are happy for anyone who is fortunate enough to own their home... no matter how they got it.

Stop worrying so much about what other people have and how they got it.
Focus on yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:I gotta stop looking at threads like this, it's like watching pigs wrestle in the mud

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Anonymous wrote:Our kid (only-child) just finished kindergarten at a school in an upscale DMV neighborhood.

We've met at least a dozen families at our school who are living in a childhood home or a living in a house own by an elderly parent/relative and "paying rent" (whatever that means)

Though extracurricular activities we've met other families with the same arrangements in Chevy Chase, Bethesda, and upper NW DC. This is, in fact, pretty widespread.

So, if you're slogging away saving for that down payment, paying for child care and wondering "how do all these people do it????"....just know that this is one of the ways you're getting shut out. I'm honestly surprised at how widespread this is happening.

Yep, my friend moved into her DH's childhood home. The parents helped their son out and provide her/DH free babysitting to take trips.
I'm so jealous.
They really have the perfect set up.

With just three simple words, this PP has managed to encapsulate the OP's feelings -- resentment, bitterness and envy.

I'm. So. Jealous.

Envy is such an incredibly unattractive trait, as it conveys to the world that you've chosen to become rooted in bitterness, resentment, inferiority, and insecurity.

This post is predictable.

They always find a way to blame someone else for their own inadequacies & shortcomings, because they've deluded themselves into believing that life isn't fair.
They MUST live their lives as perpetual victims of unfairness & injustice⁸⁰.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't that the goal of this entire post?

It seemed like the OP was positively giddy for her GOTCHA! moment, in trying to expose the so-called "secrets" of legacy real estate in the DMV area (aka; inheretences of the rich & privileged).
However, it seems painfully obvious that OP was probably the only one who didn't know that the DMV has always been ripe with real estate legacies, and the three kind of people who react to them:

1. Those who get labeled entitled for having the benefit of legacy/nepo inheritances.
2. Those who feel bitter & resentful because they'll never receive those same privileges AND
3. Those who are happy for anyone who is fortunate enough to own their home... no matter how they got it.

Stop worrying so much about what other people have and how they got it.
Focus on yourself.

DP. We live in a deeply unequal society and I don’t see how needing to move into a childhood home because you can’t afford DC real estate is enviable. These people are all downwardly mobile. I would not want to live in my childhood home with my parents providing free childcare or my childhood home. It’s the biggest admission of the fact that despite having every advantage imaginable these nepo babies can’t even touch the success of their parents. I don’t have high hopes for their children.

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Anonymous wrote:Our kid (only-child) just finished kindergarten at a school in an upscale DMV neighborhood.

We've met at least a dozen families at our school who are living in a childhood home or a living in a house own by an elderly parent/relative and "paying rent" (whatever that means)

Though extracurricular activities we've met other families with the same arrangements in Chevy Chase, Bethesda, and upper NW DC. This is, in fact, pretty widespread.

So, if you're slogging away saving for that down payment, paying for child care and wondering "how do all these people do it????"....just know that this is one of the ways you're getting shut out. I'm honestly surprised at how widespread this is happening.

Yep, my friend moved into her DH's childhood home. The parents helped their son out and provide her/DH free babysitting to take trips.
I'm so jealous.
They really have the perfect set up.

With just three simple words, this PP has managed to encapsulate the OP's feelings -- resentment, bitterness and envy.

I'm. So. Jealous.

Envy is such an incredibly unattractive trait, as it conveys to the world that you've chosen to become rooted in bitterness, resentment, inferiority, and insecurity.

This post is predictable.

They always find a way to blame someone else for their own inadequacies & shortcomings, because they've deluded themselves into believing that life isn't fair.
They MUST live their lives as perpetual victims of unfairness & injustice⁸⁰.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't that the goal of this entire post?

It seemed like the OP was positively giddy for her GOTCHA! moment, in trying to expose the so-called "secrets" of legacy real estate in the DMV area (aka; inheretences of the rich & privileged).
However, it seems painfully obvious that OP was probably the only one who didn't know that the DMV has always been ripe with real estate legacies, and the three kind of people who react to them:

1. Those who get labeled entitled for having the benefit of legacy/nepo inheritances.
2. Those who feel bitter & resentful because they'll never receive those same privileges AND
3. Those who are happy for anyone who is fortunate enough to own their home... no matter how they got it.

Stop worrying so much about what other people have and how they got it.
Focus on yourself.

Exactly. It's so transparent. Especially because said legacy/inheriting families will often have other advantages, like a built in-childhood social circle that the OP could never buy their way into. The world is unfair but seething over someone else getting blessings from their parents is truly pathetic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our kid (only-child) just finished kindergarten at a school in an upscale DMV neighborhood.

We've met at least a dozen families at our school who are living in a childhood home or a living in a house own by an elderly parent/relative and "paying rent" (whatever that means)

Though extracurricular activities we've met other families with the same arrangements in Chevy Chase, Bethesda, and upper NW DC. This is, in fact, pretty widespread.

So, if you're slogging away saving for that down payment, paying for child care and wondering "how do all these people do it????"....just know that this is one of the ways you're getting shut out. I'm honestly surprised at how widespread this is happening.

Yep, my friend moved into her DH's childhood home. The parents helped their son out and provide her/DH free babysitting to take trips.
I'm so jealous.
They really have the perfect set up.

With just three simple words, this PP has managed to encapsulate the OP's feelings -- resentment, bitterness and envy.

I'm. So. Jealous.

Envy is such an incredibly unattractive trait, as it conveys to the world that you've chosen to become rooted in bitterness, resentment, inferiority, and insecurity.

This post is predictable.

They always find a way to blame someone else for their own inadequacies & shortcomings, because they've deluded themselves into believing that life isn't fair.
They MUST live their lives as perpetual victims of unfairness & injustice⁸⁰.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't that the goal of this entire post?

It seemed like the OP was positively giddy for her GOTCHA! moment, in trying to expose the so-called "secrets" of legacy real estate in the DMV area (aka; inheretences of the rich & privileged).
However, it seems painfully obvious that OP was probably the only one who didn't know that the DMV has always been ripe with real estate legacies, and the three kind of people who react to them:

1. Those who get labeled entitled for having the benefit of legacy/nepo inheritances.
2. Those who feel bitter & resentful because they'll never receive those same privileges AND
3. Those who are happy for anyone who is fortunate enough to own their home... no matter how they got it.

Stop worrying so much about what other people have and how they got it.
Focus on yourself.

DP. We live in a deeply unequal society and I don’t see how needing to move into a childhood home because you can’t afford DC real estate is enviable. These people are all downwardly mobile. I would not want to live in my childhood home with my parents providing free childcare or my childhood home. It’s the biggest admission of the fact that despite having every advantage imaginable these nepo babies can’t even touch the success of their parents. I don’t have high hopes for their children.

I agree with this. It’s also sad to watch people squander the wealth their ancestors worked so hard to build. I’ve also noticed freeloaders marrying into these situations and spending like there is no tomorrow, basically stealing from the next generation. This is why my kids will not know our financial situation until after they are grown and married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our kid (only-child) just finished kindergarten at a school in an upscale DMV neighborhood.

We've met at least a dozen families at our school who are living in a childhood home or a living in a house own by an elderly parent/relative and "paying rent" (whatever that means)

Though extracurricular activities we've met other families with the same arrangements in Chevy Chase, Bethesda, and upper NW DC. This is, in fact, pretty widespread.

So, if you're slogging away saving for that down payment, paying for child care and wondering "how do all these people do it????"....just know that this is one of the ways you're getting shut out. I'm honestly surprised at how widespread this is happening.

Yep, my friend moved into her DH's childhood home. The parents helped their son out and provide her/DH free babysitting to take trips.
I'm so jealous.
They really have the perfect set up.

With just three simple words, this PP has managed to encapsulate the OP's feelings -- resentment, bitterness and envy.

I'm. So. Jealous.

Envy is such an incredibly unattractive trait, as it conveys to the world that you've chosen to become rooted in bitterness, resentment, inferiority, and insecurity.

This post is predictable.

They always find a way to blame someone else for their own inadequacies & shortcomings, because they've deluded themselves into believing that life isn't fair.
They MUST live their lives as perpetual victims of unfairness & injustice⁸⁰.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't that the goal of this entire post?

It seemed like the OP was positively giddy for her GOTCHA! moment, in trying to expose the so-called "secrets" of legacy real estate in the DMV area (aka; inheretences of the rich & privileged).
However, it seems painfully obvious that OP was probably the only one who didn't know that the DMV has always been ripe with real estate legacies, and the three kind of people who react to them:

1. Those who get labeled entitled for having the benefit of legacy/nepo inheritances.
2. Those who feel bitter & resentful because they'll never receive those same privileges AND
3. Those who are happy for anyone who is fortunate enough to own their home... no matter how they got it.

Stop worrying so much about what other people have and how they got it.
Focus on yourself.

Exactly. It's so transparent. Especially because said legacy/inheriting families will often have other advantages, like a built in-childhood social circle that the OP could never buy their way into. The world is unfair but seething over someone else getting blessings from their parents is truly pathetic

I don’t think OP is seething. It’s like watching a slow motion train wreck. My husband’s family was like this - all ivy educated society Mayflower types then a generation full of spending, alcohol and drugs squandered it all. People without purpose pick up bad habits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I gotta stop looking at threads like this, it's like watching pigs wrestle in the mud

+1
So glad am neither old money nor successful striver.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our kid (only-child) just finished kindergarten at a school in an upscale DMV neighborhood.

We've met at least a dozen families at our school who are living in a childhood home or a living in a house own by an elderly parent/relative and "paying rent" (whatever that means)

Though extracurricular activities we've met other families with the same arrangements in Chevy Chase, Bethesda, and upper NW DC. This is, in fact, pretty widespread.

So, if you're slogging away saving for that down payment, paying for child care and wondering "how do all these people do it????"....just know that this is one of the ways you're getting shut out. I'm honestly surprised at how widespread this is happening.

Yep, my friend moved into her DH's childhood home. The parents helped their son out and provide her/DH free babysitting to take trips.
I'm so jealous.
They really have the perfect set up.

With just three simple words, this PP has managed to encapsulate the OP's feelings -- resentment, bitterness and envy.

I'm. So. Jealous.

Envy is such an incredibly unattractive trait, as it conveys to the world that you've chosen to become rooted in bitterness, resentment, inferiority, and insecurity.

This post is predictable.

They always find a way to blame someone else for their own inadequacies & shortcomings, because they've deluded themselves into believing that life isn't fair.
They MUST live their lives as perpetual victims of unfairness & injustice⁸⁰.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't that the goal of this entire post?

It seemed like the OP was positively giddy for her GOTCHA! moment, in trying to expose the so-called "secrets" of legacy real estate in the DMV area (aka; inheretences of the rich & privileged).
However, it seems painfully obvious that OP was probably the only one who didn't know that the DMV has always been ripe with real estate legacies, and the three kind of people who react to them:

1. Those who get labeled entitled for having the benefit of legacy/nepo inheritances.
2. Those who feel bitter & resentful because they'll never receive those same privileges AND
3. Those who are happy for anyone who is fortunate enough to own their home... no matter how they got it.

Stop worrying so much about what other people have and how they got it.
Focus on yourself.

Exactly. It's so transparent. Especially because said legacy/inheriting families will often have other advantages, like a built in-childhood social circle that the OP could never buy their way into. The world is unfair but seething over someone else getting blessings from their parents is truly pathetic

I don’t think OP is seething. It’s like watching a slow motion train wreck. My husband’s family was like this - all ivy educated society Mayflower types then a generation full of spending, alcohol and drugs squandered it all. People without purpose pick up bad habits.

I think they are. Because the harsh reality is, there's nothing trainwreck about a guy with an easy non-profit job and a trust fund living a great life in a nice Chevy Chase or Kalorama with his family. There's nothing trainwreck about belonging to a tony country or university club and socializing (and getting valuable connections) with your boarding school buddies. It can be infuriating and enraging to watch these people get handed all the things so many others have worked so hard for, striven their whole lives for. And these guys just get it handed to them on a silver platter, with a maddening insouciance that makes it even worse.