Getting Divorced. People Say “I’m sorry.” Why?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m getting divorced. When I tell people this they say, “I’m so sorry.” But honestly, I don’t feel bad. This is the best decision I have made since marrying my STBX. My life is going to be so much more peaceful than it has been in years. No more putting up with narcissistic/borderline abuse. Just want it done. I don’t anyone to feel sorry for me. Why do people say they that?

Because your marriage FAILED.

The state of being married is neither a success or failure.

Actually, it is.

No, it is not. The state of being married dies not equal success. The state of being divorced is not a failure.
If someone is married and miserable, that’s not a success. That’s a failure. If someone gets out of a bad marriage, that’s not a failure that success. You can’t measure success or failure on marital status.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m getting divorced. When I tell people this they say, “I’m so sorry.” But honestly, I don’t feel bad. This is the best decision I have made since marrying my STBX. My life is going to be so much more peaceful than it has been in years. No more putting up with narcissistic/borderline abuse. Just want it done. I don’t anyone to feel sorry for me. Why do people say they that?

I got divorced this year. I heard this too. I think people say it because, it IS sad that a marriage didn't work out. I mean, I'm sorry mine didn't - I wanted to be married till the end, but it didn't happen that way. I'm very happy though and thriving through this twist in life! When someone says 'I'm sorry' about the divorce to me, I say, Thank You, I'm doing really well now. If it's someone I'm close to, I add that the kids and ex are all happy and thriving also.

OP, your life IS going to be more peaceful! It's going to be good and you will be happy.