Tell me about redshirting your late summer/fall birthday son before Kindergarten

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Anonymous wrote:Ah ha, now it comes out. Anti-red shirters aren’t in the least concerned with what’s best for the redshirted kids. They’re concerned about their non-summer kids who are no longer looking good next to the summer birthday kids. They’re just afraid of the stiffening of the (gag) “competition”. Because they want their non-summer birthday kids to be able to win kindergarten.

This post was about what is best for late summer or fall birthday kids, and I think you have your answer, OP.

In all fairness, though, the individual child and especially the environment matters a lot. Find out what is common in the particular school your child will be attending, and start from there. And completely ignore all these public school parents who are going nuts, because their insecurities have absolutely nothing to do with your son’s education. And they assuredly don’t have his best interest at heart.

Late summer kids in private schools. The parents you refer to who are going nuts are private school parents. Parents at your kid’s school.

Yep

Why don't these concerned parents take it up with their schools? Why are they even at schools with values so different from their own? They can always just go to the public schools where supposedly this isn't even an issue.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

No, I said OP was asking for people’s personal experiences having redshirted.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

DP.
You must not be aware that there are other children in all classrooms. Perhaps you were home schooled.

I don’t see how my child who is 9.5 months older than the youngest child in her class is hurting the other children…

Either way, I worry about my kid and I let the other parents worry about the other kids.
Bye

You don’t see a lot is obvious. You aren’t “worried” about your kid, you are insecure. You aim to create a disparity to boost your kid.

You speak without knowing anything (about anything) about me and my kid. I am not insecure. One of my kids is the youngest in her grade because she is confident, secure, emotionally mature. It has zero to do with my insecurity and all to do with wanting what I believe will make my child happy

Bless your heart, you continue to tell yourself that.

Wow! You are either a 12 year old trolling or a crazy old lady with nothing to do. It’s clear that 90% of the anti redshirting posts are yours (or more). Why are you spending so much time and energy arguing on an anonymous forum?

I am pretty sure that this poster gets so upset because of the violation of natural law that dictates that a classroom must have an age span of no more than 364 days. It’s deep magic from before the dawn of time.

I think it’s sad you dumb down you kids academically and socially and don’t get them the help they need. Your kids are not smarter, bigger, faster or better. Just older. That is not natural and if anything they are less mature as the are with a younger peer group that artificially makes them seem like they are doing better than they are. When you have a 13 vs 15 year old in the same math class with the same grades your 15 year old is not smarter.

😂 You are a ridiculous human being.

But honestly, I don’t care whether you think my kid is smarter, bigger, faster, or better. I care that my kid is getting a great education, loving learning and enjoying school. I am not fixated on him seeming “better”. I care that he’s getting a great education and having a good experience along the way.

So feel free to grieve the tragic sadness of my kid “not getting the help he needs”. May all children “not get the help” to be happy, thriving, and learning the way he is. You might want to save some of your grief for things that are actually wrong in the world.

Have a great day!

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

DP.
You must not be aware that there are other children in all classrooms. Perhaps you were home schooled.

I don’t see how my child who is 9.5 months older than the youngest child in her class is hurting the other children…

Either way, I worry about my kid and I let the other parents worry about the other kids.
Bye

You don’t see a lot is obvious. You aren’t “worried” about your kid, you are insecure. You aim to create a disparity to boost your kid.

You speak without knowing anything (about anything) about me and my kid. I am not insecure. One of my kids is the youngest in her grade because she is confident, secure, emotionally mature. It has zero to do with my insecurity and all to do with wanting what I believe will make my child happy

Bless your heart, you continue to tell yourself that.

Wow! You are either a 12 year old trolling or a crazy old lady with nothing to do. It’s clear that 90% of the anti redshirting posts are yours (or more). Why are you spending so much time and energy arguing on an anonymous forum?

I am pretty sure that this poster gets so upset because of the violation of natural law that dictates that a classroom must have an age span of no more than 364 days. It’s deep magic from before the dawn of time.

I think it’s sad you dumb down you kids academically and socially and don’t get them the help they need. Your kids are not smarter, bigger, faster or better. Just older. That is not natural and if anything they are less mature as the are with a younger peer group that artificially makes them seem like they are doing better than they are. When you have a 13 vs 15 year old in the same math class with the same grades your 15 year old is not smarter.

I'm the mom with the kid at MIT. He took calculus in 8th grade, so your kid was already left in the dust. Mine is positively smarter.

No privates or public offer that. But again, your kid is older so, no they did not. Lots of kids in this area start algebra in 6th and were not held back.

Another lie. Mine were at Haycock and walked to Longfellow starting in elementary school and then went to their assigned HS for math. VA will bus you for advanced math.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

DP.
You must not be aware that there are other children in all classrooms. Perhaps you were home schooled.

I don’t see how my child who is 9.5 months older than the youngest child in her class is hurting the other children…

Either way, I worry about my kid and I let the other parents worry about the other kids.
Bye

You don’t see a lot is obvious. You aren’t “worried” about your kid, you are insecure. You aim to create a disparity to boost your kid.

You speak without knowing anything (about anything) about me and my kid. I am not insecure. One of my kids is the youngest in her grade because she is confident, secure, emotionally mature. It has zero to do with my insecurity and all to do with wanting what I believe will make my child happy

Bless your heart, you continue to tell yourself that.

Wow! You are either a 12 year old trolling or a crazy old lady with nothing to do. It’s clear that 90% of the anti redshirting posts are yours (or more). Why are you spending so much time and energy arguing on an anonymous forum?

I am pretty sure that this poster gets so upset because of the violation of natural law that dictates that a classroom must have an age span of no more than 364 days. It’s deep magic from before the dawn of time.

I think it’s sad you dumb down you kids academically and socially and don’t get them the help they need. Your kids are not smarter, bigger, faster or better. Just older. That is not natural and if anything they are less mature as the are with a younger peer group that artificially makes them seem like they are doing better than they are. When you have a 13 vs 15 year old in the same math class with the same grades your 15 year old is not smarter.

I'm the mom with the kid at MIT. He took calculus in 8th grade, so your kid was already left in the dust. Mine is positively smarter.

No privates or public offer that. But again, your kid is older so, no they did not. Lots of kids in this area start algebra in 6th and were not held back.

Another lie. Mine were at Haycock and walked to Longfellow starting in elementary school and then went to their assigned HS for math. VA will bus you for advanced math.

So, you held your kids back to insist they get acceleration. Makes no sense.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

DP.
You must not be aware that there are other children in all classrooms. Perhaps you were home schooled.

I don’t see how my child who is 9.5 months older than the youngest child in her class is hurting the other children…

Either way, I worry about my kid and I let the other parents worry about the other kids.
Bye

You don’t see a lot is obvious. You aren’t “worried” about your kid, you are insecure. You aim to create a disparity to boost your kid.

You speak without knowing anything (about anything) about me and my kid. I am not insecure. One of my kids is the youngest in her grade because she is confident, secure, emotionally mature. It has zero to do with my insecurity and all to do with wanting what I believe will make my child happy

Bless your heart, you continue to tell yourself that.

Wow! You are either a 12 year old trolling or a crazy old lady with nothing to do. It’s clear that 90% of the anti redshirting posts are yours (or more). Why are you spending so much time and energy arguing on an anonymous forum?

I am pretty sure that this poster gets so upset because of the violation of natural law that dictates that a classroom must have an age span of no more than 364 days. It’s deep magic from before the dawn of time.

I think it’s sad you dumb down you kids academically and socially and don’t get them the help they need. Your kids are not smarter, bigger, faster or better. Just older. That is not natural and if anything they are less mature as the are with a younger peer group that artificially makes them seem like they are doing better than they are. When you have a 13 vs 15 year old in the same math class with the same grades your 15 year old is not smarter.

😂 You are a ridiculous human being.

But honestly, I don’t care whether you think my kid is smarter, bigger, faster, or better. I care that my kid is getting a great education, loving learning and enjoying school. I am not fixated on him seeming “better”. I care that he’s getting a great education and having a good experience along the way.

So feel free to grieve the tragic sadness of my kid “not getting the help he needs”. May all children “not get the help” to be happy, thriving, and learning the way he is. You might want to save some of your grief for things that are actually wrong in the world.

Have a great day!

They can have that by going to school on time and getting the right support they need. Basically you are the parent that held back for bragging rights and think your kids are going great when they are not in the development mentally appropriate grade or peers.

It’s sad you will not get your kids help after you identify the need.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

She only cares about her kid and can't stand the idea that others are doing what's best for their kids. I don't see a different at all.

Similar to how others only care about their own children? The difference is redshirted parents are taking a divergence with an underlying goal that hurts those who are not maltreating the system.

The goal is obviously not to hurt other kids, come on. And really many parenting choices "hurt" other kids. Are you advocating to shut down tutoring centers as well? Why not?

The goal does hurt other kids, no matter how pollyanish you want to be.
The tutoring centers suggestion from you is a reach but nice try.

Let’s not let pass unquestioned the assertion that being a classroom with more than a 12 month age span automatically hurts children. Mixed age classrooms have a long history and offer many benefits. Antiredshirters themselves will tell you all about how beneficial it is to a child’s development to be the youngest in the classroom, and how much they can learn from their older classmates. It helps them develop grit, right?

Those who are against redshirting, why do you want to deny these benefits to your children?

Dude, mixed room age/grade one room schoolhouses or Montessori had tons of differentiation, class heads, students teaching younger students, etc. Not at all a single grade classroom learning the same materials, same lesson.

Very different situation. A 14 year old was taught 14 year old material, not 12-13 material.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

DP.
You must not be aware that there are other children in all classrooms. Perhaps you were home schooled.

I don’t see how my child who is 9.5 months older than the youngest child in her class is hurting the other children…

Either way, I worry about my kid and I let the other parents worry about the other kids.
Bye

You don’t see a lot is obvious. You aren’t “worried” about your kid, you are insecure. You aim to create a disparity to boost your kid.

You speak without knowing anything (about anything) about me and my kid. I am not insecure. One of my kids is the youngest in her grade because she is confident, secure, emotionally mature. It has zero to do with my insecurity and all to do with wanting what I believe will make my child happy

Bless your heart, you continue to tell yourself that.

Wow! You are either a 12 year old trolling or a crazy old lady with nothing to do. It’s clear that 90% of the anti redshirting posts are yours (or more). Why are you spending so much time and energy arguing on an anonymous forum?

I am pretty sure that this poster gets so upset because of the violation of natural law that dictates that a classroom must have an age span of no more than 364 days. It’s deep magic from before the dawn of time.

I think it’s sad you dumb down you kids academically and socially and don’t get them the help they need. Your kids are not smarter, bigger, faster or better. Just older. That is not natural and if anything they are less mature as the are with a younger peer group that artificially makes them seem like they are doing better than they are. When you have a 13 vs 15 year old in the same math class with the same grades your 15 year old is not smarter.

😂 You are a ridiculous human being.

But honestly, I don’t care whether you think my kid is smarter, bigger, faster, or better. I care that my kid is getting a great education, loving learning and enjoying school. I am not fixated on him seeming “better”. I care that he’s getting a great education and having a good experience along the way.

So feel free to grieve the tragic sadness of my kid “not getting the help he needs”. May all children “not get the help” to be happy, thriving, and learning the way he is. You might want to save some of your grief for things that are actually wrong in the world.

Have a great day!

They can have that by going to school on time and getting the right support they need. Basically you are the parent that held back for bragging rights and think your kids are going great when they are not in the development mentally appropriate grade or peers.

It’s sad you will not get your kids help after you identify the need.

What support do you think kids will be offered at school? If the kid is doing great why do you keep insisting they need help? I think it is you who needs help.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

DP.
You must not be aware that there are other children in all classrooms. Perhaps you were home schooled.

I don’t see how my child who is 9.5 months older than the youngest child in her class is hurting the other children…

Either way, I worry about my kid and I let the other parents worry about the other kids.
Bye

You don’t see a lot is obvious. You aren’t “worried” about your kid, you are insecure. You aim to create a disparity to boost your kid.

You speak without knowing anything (about anything) about me and my kid. I am not insecure. One of my kids is the youngest in her grade because she is confident, secure, emotionally mature. It has zero to do with my insecurity and all to do with wanting what I believe will make my child happy

Bless your heart, you continue to tell yourself that.

Wow! You are either a 12 year old trolling or a crazy old lady with nothing to do. It’s clear that 90% of the anti redshirting posts are yours (or more). Why are you spending so much time and energy arguing on an anonymous forum?

I am pretty sure that this poster gets so upset because of the violation of natural law that dictates that a classroom must have an age span of no more than 364 days. It’s deep magic from before the dawn of time.

I think it’s sad you dumb down you kids academically and socially and don’t get them the help they need. Your kids are not smarter, bigger, faster or better. Just older. That is not natural and if anything they are less mature as the are with a younger peer group that artificially makes them seem like they are doing better than they are. When you have a 13 vs 15 year old in the same math class with the same grades your 15 year old is not smarter.

😂 You are a ridiculous human being.

But honestly, I don’t care whether you think my kid is smarter, bigger, faster, or better. I care that my kid is getting a great education, loving learning and enjoying school. I am not fixated on him seeming “better”. I care that he’s getting a great education and having a good experience along the way.

So feel free to grieve the tragic sadness of my kid “not getting the help he needs”. May all children “not get the help” to be happy, thriving, and learning the way he is. You might want to save some of your grief for things that are actually wrong in the world.

Have a great day!

They can have that by going to school on time and getting the right support they need. Basically you are the parent that held back for bragging rights and think your kids are going great when they are not in the development mentally appropriate grade or peers.

It’s sad you will not get your kids help after you identify the need.

np. I redshirted my August 31st (in a sept 1 cutoff state) boy because he's very active and we thought he needed another year to mature. now he's a freshman in HS and a solidly "middle of the pack" kid. what "support" or help exactly was I supposed to get him?

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

DP.
You must not be aware that there are other children in all classrooms. Perhaps you were home schooled.

I don’t see how my child who is 9.5 months older than the youngest child in her class is hurting the other children…

Either way, I worry about my kid and I let the other parents worry about the other kids.
Bye

You don’t see a lot is obvious. You aren’t “worried” about your kid, you are insecure. You aim to create a disparity to boost your kid.

You speak without knowing anything (about anything) about me and my kid. I am not insecure. One of my kids is the youngest in her grade because she is confident, secure, emotionally mature. It has zero to do with my insecurity and all to do with wanting what I believe will make my child happy

Bless your heart, you continue to tell yourself that.

Wow! You are either a 12 year old trolling or a crazy old lady with nothing to do. It’s clear that 90% of the anti redshirting posts are yours (or more). Why are you spending so much time and energy arguing on an anonymous forum?

I am pretty sure that this poster gets so upset because of the violation of natural law that dictates that a classroom must have an age span of no more than 364 days. It’s deep magic from before the dawn of time.

I think it’s sad you dumb down you kids academically and socially and don’t get them the help they need. Your kids are not smarter, bigger, faster or better. Just older. That is not natural and if anything they are less mature as the are with a younger peer group that artificially makes them seem like they are doing better than they are. When you have a 13 vs 15 year old in the same math class with the same grades your 15 year old is not smarter.

😂 You are a ridiculous human being.

But honestly, I don’t care whether you think my kid is smarter, bigger, faster, or better. I care that my kid is getting a great education, loving learning and enjoying school. I am not fixated on him seeming “better”. I care that he’s getting a great education and having a good experience along the way.

So feel free to grieve the tragic sadness of my kid “not getting the help he needs”. May all children “not get the help” to be happy, thriving, and learning the way he is. You might want to save some of your grief for things that are actually wrong in the world.

Have a great day!

They can have that by going to school on time and getting the right support they need. Basically you are the parent that held back for bragging rights and think your kids are going great when they are not in the development mentally appropriate grade or peers.

It’s sad you will not get your kids help after you identify the need.

What support do you think kids will be offered at school? If the kid is doing great why do you keep insisting they need help? I think it is you who needs help.

Kids are held back due to social or other issues or why would you do that? They are doing great compared to their peers if they are 1-2 years older, which means grade wise they are doing great but not age wise. You child is not in an age appropriate situation.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

DP.
You must not be aware that there are other children in all classrooms. Perhaps you were home schooled.

I don’t see how my child who is 9.5 months older than the youngest child in her class is hurting the other children…

Either way, I worry about my kid and I let the other parents worry about the other kids.
Bye

You don’t see a lot is obvious. You aren’t “worried” about your kid, you are insecure. You aim to create a disparity to boost your kid.

You speak without knowing anything (about anything) about me and my kid. I am not insecure. One of my kids is the youngest in her grade because she is confident, secure, emotionally mature. It has zero to do with my insecurity and all to do with wanting what I believe will make my child happy

Bless your heart, you continue to tell yourself that.

Wow! You are either a 12 year old trolling or a crazy old lady with nothing to do. It’s clear that 90% of the anti redshirting posts are yours (or more). Why are you spending so much time and energy arguing on an anonymous forum?

I am pretty sure that this poster gets so upset because of the violation of natural law that dictates that a classroom must have an age span of no more than 364 days. It’s deep magic from before the dawn of time.

I think it’s sad you dumb down you kids academically and socially and don’t get them the help they need. Your kids are not smarter, bigger, faster or better. Just older. That is not natural and if anything they are less mature as the are with a younger peer group that artificially makes them seem like they are doing better than they are. When you have a 13 vs 15 year old in the same math class with the same grades your 15 year old is not smarter.

😂 You are a ridiculous human being.

But honestly, I don’t care whether you think my kid is smarter, bigger, faster, or better. I care that my kid is getting a great education, loving learning and enjoying school. I am not fixated on him seeming “better”. I care that he’s getting a great education and having a good experience along the way.

So feel free to grieve the tragic sadness of my kid “not getting the help he needs”. May all children “not get the help” to be happy, thriving, and learning the way he is. You might want to save some of your grief for things that are actually wrong in the world.

Have a great day!

They can have that by going to school on time and getting the right support they need. Basically you are the parent that held back for bragging rights and think your kids are going great when they are not in the development mentally appropriate grade or peers.

It’s sad you will not get your kids help after you identify the need.

np. I redshirted my August 31st (in a sept 1 cutoff state) boy because he's very active and we thought he needed another year to mature. now he's a freshman in HS and a solidly "middle of the pack" kid. what "support" or help exactly was I supposed to get him?

He needs help to mature. Sounds like if he is in the middle of the pack and a year older, tutoring as well. He should be at the top.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

DP.
You must not be aware that there are other children in all classrooms. Perhaps you were home schooled.

I don’t see how my child who is 9.5 months older than the youngest child in her class is hurting the other children…

Either way, I worry about my kid and I let the other parents worry about the other kids.
Bye

You don’t see a lot is obvious. You aren’t “worried” about your kid, you are insecure. You aim to create a disparity to boost your kid.

You speak without knowing anything (about anything) about me and my kid. I am not insecure. One of my kids is the youngest in her grade because she is confident, secure, emotionally mature. It has zero to do with my insecurity and all to do with wanting what I believe will make my child happy

Bless your heart, you continue to tell yourself that.

Wow! You are either a 12 year old trolling or a crazy old lady with nothing to do. It’s clear that 90% of the anti redshirting posts are yours (or more). Why are you spending so much time and energy arguing on an anonymous forum?

I am pretty sure that this poster gets so upset because of the violation of natural law that dictates that a classroom must have an age span of no more than 364 days. It’s deep magic from before the dawn of time.

I think it’s sad you dumb down you kids academically and socially and don’t get them the help they need. Your kids are not smarter, bigger, faster or better. Just older. That is not natural and if anything they are less mature as the are with a younger peer group that artificially makes them seem like they are doing better than they are. When you have a 13 vs 15 year old in the same math class with the same grades your 15 year old is not smarter.

😂 You are a ridiculous human being.

But honestly, I don’t care whether you think my kid is smarter, bigger, faster, or better. I care that my kid is getting a great education, loving learning and enjoying school. I am not fixated on him seeming “better”. I care that he’s getting a great education and having a good experience along the way.

So feel free to grieve the tragic sadness of my kid “not getting the help he needs”. May all children “not get the help” to be happy, thriving, and learning the way he is. You might want to save some of your grief for things that are actually wrong in the world.

Have a great day!

They can have that by going to school on time and getting the right support they need. Basically you are the parent that held back for bragging rights and think your kids are going great when they are not in the development mentally appropriate grade or peers.

It’s sad you will not get your kids help after you identify the need.

What support do you think kids will be offered at school? If the kid is doing great why do you keep insisting they need help? I think it is you who needs help.

Kids are held back due to social or other issues or why would you do that? They are doing great compared to their peers if they are 1-2 years older, which means grade wise they are doing great but not age wise. You child is not in an age appropriate situation.

Says who, you? Nobody gives an eff what you think about it. The school helps by suggesting you enroll them later, so that's what people do. Your input is not needed or required. The schools and parents have it handled. Complain to your school if you disagree.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

DP.
You must not be aware that there are other children in all classrooms. Perhaps you were home schooled.

I don’t see how my child who is 9.5 months older than the youngest child in her class is hurting the other children…

Either way, I worry about my kid and I let the other parents worry about the other kids.
Bye

You don’t see a lot is obvious. You aren’t “worried” about your kid, you are insecure. You aim to create a disparity to boost your kid.

You speak without knowing anything (about anything) about me and my kid. I am not insecure. One of my kids is the youngest in her grade because she is confident, secure, emotionally mature. It has zero to do with my insecurity and all to do with wanting what I believe will make my child happy

Bless your heart, you continue to tell yourself that.

Wow! You are either a 12 year old trolling or a crazy old lady with nothing to do. It’s clear that 90% of the anti redshirting posts are yours (or more). Why are you spending so much time and energy arguing on an anonymous forum?

I am pretty sure that this poster gets so upset because of the violation of natural law that dictates that a classroom must have an age span of no more than 364 days. It’s deep magic from before the dawn of time.

I think it’s sad you dumb down you kids academically and socially and don’t get them the help they need. Your kids are not smarter, bigger, faster or better. Just older. That is not natural and if anything they are less mature as the are with a younger peer group that artificially makes them seem like they are doing better than they are. When you have a 13 vs 15 year old in the same math class with the same grades your 15 year old is not smarter.

😂 You are a ridiculous human being.

But honestly, I don’t care whether you think my kid is smarter, bigger, faster, or better. I care that my kid is getting a great education, loving learning and enjoying school. I am not fixated on him seeming “better”. I care that he’s getting a great education and having a good experience along the way.

So feel free to grieve the tragic sadness of my kid “not getting the help he needs”. May all children “not get the help” to be happy, thriving, and learning the way he is. You might want to save some of your grief for things that are actually wrong in the world.

Have a great day!

You do care that your kid is smarter, bigger, faster, or better. You just won’t admit it. You say you care that your kid is getting a great education, then why did you delay as if that’s only possible with redshirting. You are a despicable waste.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

DP.
You must not be aware that there are other children in all classrooms. Perhaps you were home schooled.

I don’t see how my child who is 9.5 months older than the youngest child in her class is hurting the other children…

Either way, I worry about my kid and I let the other parents worry about the other kids.
Bye

You don’t see a lot is obvious. You aren’t “worried” about your kid, you are insecure. You aim to create a disparity to boost your kid.

You speak without knowing anything (about anything) about me and my kid. I am not insecure. One of my kids is the youngest in her grade because she is confident, secure, emotionally mature. It has zero to do with my insecurity and all to do with wanting what I believe will make my child happy

Bless your heart, you continue to tell yourself that.

Wow! You are either a 12 year old trolling or a crazy old lady with nothing to do. It’s clear that 90% of the anti redshirting posts are yours (or more). Why are you spending so much time and energy arguing on an anonymous forum?

I am pretty sure that this poster gets so upset because of the violation of natural law that dictates that a classroom must have an age span of no more than 364 days. It’s deep magic from before the dawn of time.

I think it’s sad you dumb down you kids academically and socially and don’t get them the help they need. Your kids are not smarter, bigger, faster or better. Just older. That is not natural and if anything they are less mature as the are with a younger peer group that artificially makes them seem like they are doing better than they are. When you have a 13 vs 15 year old in the same math class with the same grades your 15 year old is not smarter.

😂 You are a ridiculous human being.

But honestly, I don’t care whether you think my kid is smarter, bigger, faster, or better. I care that my kid is getting a great education, loving learning and enjoying school. I am not fixated on him seeming “better”. I care that he’s getting a great education and having a good experience along the way.

So feel free to grieve the tragic sadness of my kid “not getting the help he needs”. May all children “not get the help” to be happy, thriving, and learning the way he is. You might want to save some of your grief for things that are actually wrong in the world.

Have a great day!

They can have that by going to school on time and getting the right support they need. Basically you are the parent that held back for bragging rights and think your kids are going great when they are not in the development mentally appropriate grade or peers.

It’s sad you will not get your kids help after you identify the need.

np. I redshirted my August 31st (in a sept 1 cutoff state) boy because he's very active and we thought he needed another year to mature. now he's a freshman in HS and a solidly "middle of the pack" kid. what "support" or help exactly was I supposed to get him?

He needs help to mature. Sounds like if he is in the middle of the pack and a year older, tutoring as well. He should be at the top.

Such as?

And I thought you were against aiming to "create a disparity to boost your kids."

If my son were born 5 hours later on September 1st and met the cutoff, should he be at the top as well? Would I still need to get him tutoring? Gosh, this is all so confusing!!

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

DP.
You must not be aware that there are other children in all classrooms. Perhaps you were home schooled.

I don’t see how my child who is 9.5 months older than the youngest child in her class is hurting the other children…

Either way, I worry about my kid and I let the other parents worry about the other kids.
Bye

You don’t see a lot is obvious. You aren’t “worried” about your kid, you are insecure. You aim to create a disparity to boost your kid.

You speak without knowing anything (about anything) about me and my kid. I am not insecure. One of my kids is the youngest in her grade because she is confident, secure, emotionally mature. It has zero to do with my insecurity and all to do with wanting what I believe will make my child happy

Bless your heart, you continue to tell yourself that.

Wow! You are either a 12 year old trolling or a crazy old lady with nothing to do. It’s clear that 90% of the anti redshirting posts are yours (or more). Why are you spending so much time and energy arguing on an anonymous forum?

I am pretty sure that this poster gets so upset because of the violation of natural law that dictates that a classroom must have an age span of no more than 364 days. It’s deep magic from before the dawn of time.

I think it’s sad you dumb down you kids academically and socially and don’t get them the help they need. Your kids are not smarter, bigger, faster or better. Just older. That is not natural and if anything they are less mature as the are with a younger peer group that artificially makes them seem like they are doing better than they are. When you have a 13 vs 15 year old in the same math class with the same grades your 15 year old is not smarter.

😂 You are a ridiculous human being.

But honestly, I don’t care whether you think my kid is smarter, bigger, faster, or better. I care that my kid is getting a great education, loving learning and enjoying school. I am not fixated on him seeming “better”. I care that he’s getting a great education and having a good experience along the way.

So feel free to grieve the tragic sadness of my kid “not getting the help he needs”. May all children “not get the help” to be happy, thriving, and learning the way he is. You might want to save some of your grief for things that are actually wrong in the world.

Have a great day!

They can have that by going to school on time and getting the right support they need. Basically you are the parent that held back for bragging rights and think your kids are going great when they are not in the development mentally appropriate grade or peers.

It’s sad you will not get your kids help after you identify the need.

What support do you think kids will be offered at school? If the kid is doing great why do you keep insisting they need help? I think it is you who needs help.

Kids are held back due to social or other issues or why would you do that? They are doing great compared to their peers if they are 1-2 years older, which means grade wise they are doing great but not age wise. You child is not in an age appropriate situation.

Says who, you? Nobody gives an eff what you think about it. The school helps by suggesting you enroll them later, so that's what people do. Your input is not needed or required. The schools and parents have it handled. Complain to your school if you disagree.

Schools will suggest it because it’s easier for him. You can’t be that naive. Then again…