Tell me about redshirting your late summer/fall birthday son before Kindergarten

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Anonymous wrote:^ Actually to amend that one of the more vocal insane anti-redshirters has admitted they have no kids and no skin in this game whatsoever. That person has no idea what they are talking about and probably just shows up to stir the pot. I wouldn't be surprised if that is the outraged PP.

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Your post is a red flag that you are a vocal insane whatever label you are. Walk away from your device.

Trolls stay trolling.

Guess you won’t ever leave then.

You don’t get to control other people, sorry! That’s what this whole debate is about.

Exactly, and now you admit you don’t control me. Not sorry.

Ok feel free to redshirt then. Like so many other parents already do.

I am a responsible person like so many other parents.

Then what are you worried about?

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

She only cares about her kid and can't stand the idea that others are doing what's best for their kids. I don't see a different at all.

Similar to how others only care about their own children? The difference is redshirted parents are taking a divergence with an underlying goal that hurts those who are not maltreating the system.

The goal is obviously not to hurt other kids, come on. And really many parenting choices "hurt" other kids. Are you advocating to shut down tutoring centers as well? Why not?

The goal does hurt other kids, no matter how pollyanish you want to be.
The tutoring centers suggestion from you is a reach but nice try.

Thought about as much. You just object to one tool at parents disposal to help their kids. Why is that?

You object to not creating an environment of disparity?

It’s insane to be talking about disparities from redshirting on a private school board. If you want to argue that particular line, take it to the public school boards because it’s pure nonsense here.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

DP.
You must not be aware that there are other children in all classrooms. Perhaps you were home schooled.

I don’t see how my child who is 9.5 months older than the youngest child in her class is hurting the other children…

Either way, I worry about my kid and I let the other parents worry about the other kids.
Bye

You don’t see a lot is obvious. You aren’t “worried” about your kid, you are insecure. You aim to create a disparity to boost your kid.

You speak without knowing anything (about anything) about me and my kid. I am not insecure. One of my kids is the youngest in her grade because she is confident, secure, emotionally mature. It has zero to do with my insecurity and all to do with wanting what I believe will make my child happy

Bless your heart, you continue to tell yourself that.

Wow! You are either a 12 year old trolling or a crazy old lady with nothing to do. It’s clear that 90% of the anti redshirting posts are yours (or more). Why are you spending so much time and energy arguing on an anonymous forum?

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

DP.
You must not be aware that there are other children in all classrooms. Perhaps you were home schooled.

I don’t see how my child who is 9.5 months older than the youngest child in her class is hurting the other children…

Either way, I worry about my kid and I let the other parents worry about the other kids.
Bye

You don’t see a lot is obvious. You aren’t “worried” about your kid, you are insecure. You aim to create a disparity to boost your kid.

You speak without knowing anything (about anything) about me and my kid. I am not insecure. One of my kids is the youngest in her grade because she is confident, secure, emotionally mature. It has zero to do with my insecurity and all to do with wanting what I believe will make my child happy

Bless your heart, you continue to tell yourself that.

Wow! You are either a 12 year old trolling or a crazy old lady with nothing to do. It’s clear that 90% of the anti redshirting posts are yours (or more). Why are you spending so much time and energy arguing on an anonymous forum?

I am pretty sure that this poster gets so upset because of the violation of natural law that dictates that a classroom must have an age span of no more than 364 days. It’s deep magic from before the dawn of time.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

DP.
You must not be aware that there are other children in all classrooms. Perhaps you were home schooled.

I don’t see how my child who is 9.5 months older than the youngest child in her class is hurting the other children…

Either way, I worry about my kid and I let the other parents worry about the other kids.
Bye

You don’t see a lot is obvious. You aren’t “worried” about your kid, you are insecure. You aim to create a disparity to boost your kid.

You speak without knowing anything (about anything) about me and my kid. I am not insecure. One of my kids is the youngest in her grade because she is confident, secure, emotionally mature. It has zero to do with my insecurity and all to do with wanting what I believe will make my child happy

Bless your heart, you continue to tell yourself that.

Wow! You are either a 12 year old trolling or a crazy old lady with nothing to do. It’s clear that 90% of the anti redshirting posts are yours (or more). Why are you spending so much time and energy arguing on an anonymous forum?

I am pretty sure that this poster gets so upset because of the violation of natural law that dictates that a classroom must have an age span of no more than 364 days. It’s deep magic from before the dawn of time.

I think it’s sad you dumb down you kids academically and socially and don’t get them the help they need. Your kids are not smarter, bigger, faster or better. Just older. That is not natural and if anything they are less mature as the are with a younger peer group that artificially makes them seem like they are doing better than they are. When you have a 13 vs 15 year old in the same math class with the same grades your 15 year old is not smarter.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

She only cares about her kid and can't stand the idea that others are doing what's best for their kids. I don't see a different at all.

Similar to how others only care about their own children? The difference is redshirted parents are taking a divergence with an underlying goal that hurts those who are not maltreating the system.

The goal is obviously not to hurt other kids, come on. And really many parenting choices "hurt" other kids. Are you advocating to shut down tutoring centers as well? Why not?

The goal does hurt other kids, no matter how pollyanish you want to be.
The tutoring centers suggestion from you is a reach but nice try.

Let’s not let pass unquestioned the assertion that being a classroom with more than a 12 month age span automatically hurts children. Mixed age classrooms have a long history and offer many benefits. Antiredshirters themselves will tell you all about how beneficial it is to a child’s development to be the youngest in the classroom, and how much they can learn from their older classmates. It helps them develop grit, right?

Those who are against redshirting, why do you want to deny these benefits to your children?

Far more negatives than this reach you’ve conjured up as a benefit.

The only benefit would be to kids who have true academic and behavioral issues and in that case those thing will continue without a lot of help as ignoring the problems certainly don’t fix them.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

DP.
You must not be aware that there are other children in all classrooms. Perhaps you were home schooled.

I don’t see how my child who is 9.5 months older than the youngest child in her class is hurting the other children…

Either way, I worry about my kid and I let the other parents worry about the other kids.
Bye

You don’t see a lot is obvious. You aren’t “worried” about your kid, you are insecure. You aim to create a disparity to boost your kid.

You speak without knowing anything (about anything) about me and my kid. I am not insecure. One of my kids is the youngest in her grade because she is confident, secure, emotionally mature. It has zero to do with my insecurity and all to do with wanting what I believe will make my child happy

Bless your heart, you continue to tell yourself that.

Wow! You are either a 12 year old trolling or a crazy old lady with nothing to do. It’s clear that 90% of the anti redshirting posts are yours (or more). Why are you spending so much time and energy arguing on an anonymous forum?

I am pretty sure that this poster gets so upset because of the violation of natural law that dictates that a classroom must have an age span of no more than 364 days. It’s deep magic from before the dawn of time.

I think it’s sad you dumb down you kids academically and socially and don’t get them the help they need. Your kids are not smarter, bigger, faster or better. Just older. That is not natural and if anything they are less mature as the are with a younger peer group that artificially makes them seem like they are doing better than they are. When you have a 13 vs 15 year old in the same math class with the same grades your 15 year old is not smarter.

Yes! They will better than your kid and will get into better colleges! Happy now? Can you stop please?

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

DP.
You must not be aware that there are other children in all classrooms. Perhaps you were home schooled.

I don’t see how my child who is 9.5 months older than the youngest child in her class is hurting the other children…

Either way, I worry about my kid and I let the other parents worry about the other kids.
Bye

You don’t see a lot is obvious. You aren’t “worried” about your kid, you are insecure. You aim to create a disparity to boost your kid.

You speak without knowing anything (about anything) about me and my kid. I am not insecure. One of my kids is the youngest in her grade because she is confident, secure, emotionally mature. It has zero to do with my insecurity and all to do with wanting what I believe will make my child happy

Bless your heart, you continue to tell yourself that.

Wow! You are either a 12 year old trolling or a crazy old lady with nothing to do. It’s clear that 90% of the anti redshirting posts are yours (or more). Why are you spending so much time and energy arguing on an anonymous forum?

I am pretty sure that this poster gets so upset because of the violation of natural law that dictates that a classroom must have an age span of no more than 364 days. It’s deep magic from before the dawn of time.

I think it’s sad you dumb down you kids academically and socially and don’t get them the help they need. Your kids are not smarter, bigger, faster or better. Just older. That is not natural and if anything they are less mature as the are with a younger peer group that artificially makes them seem like they are doing better than they are. When you have a 13 vs 15 year old in the same math class with the same grades your 15 year old is not smarter.

I'm the mom with the kid at MIT. He took calculus in 8th grade, so your kid was already left in the dust. Mine is positively smarter.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

DP.
You must not be aware that there are other children in all classrooms. Perhaps you were home schooled.

I don’t see how my child who is 9.5 months older than the youngest child in her class is hurting the other children…

Either way, I worry about my kid and I let the other parents worry about the other kids.
Bye

You don’t see a lot is obvious. You aren’t “worried” about your kid, you are insecure. You aim to create a disparity to boost your kid.

You speak without knowing anything (about anything) about me and my kid. I am not insecure. One of my kids is the youngest in her grade because she is confident, secure, emotionally mature. It has zero to do with my insecurity and all to do with wanting what I believe will make my child happy

Bless your heart, you continue to tell yourself that.

Wow! You are either a 12 year old trolling or a crazy old lady with nothing to do. It’s clear that 90% of the anti redshirting posts are yours (or more). Why are you spending so much time and energy arguing on an anonymous forum?

I am pretty sure that this poster gets so upset because of the violation of natural law that dictates that a classroom must have an age span of no more than 364 days. It’s deep magic from before the dawn of time.

I think it’s sad you dumb down you kids academically and socially and don’t get them the help they need. Your kids are not smarter, bigger, faster or better. Just older. That is not natural and if anything they are less mature as the are with a younger peer group that artificially makes them seem like they are doing better than they are. When you have a 13 vs 15 year old in the same math class with the same grades your 15 year old is not smarter.

I'm the mom with the kid at MIT. He took calculus in 8th grade, so your kid was already left in the dust. Mine is positively smarter.

No privates or public offer that. But again, your kid is older so, no they did not. Lots of kids in this area start algebra in 6th and were not held back.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

DP.
You must not be aware that there are other children in all classrooms. Perhaps you were home schooled.

I don’t see how my child who is 9.5 months older than the youngest child in her class is hurting the other children…

Either way, I worry about my kid and I let the other parents worry about the other kids.
Bye

You don’t see a lot is obvious. You aren’t “worried” about your kid, you are insecure. You aim to create a disparity to boost your kid.

You speak without knowing anything (about anything) about me and my kid. I am not insecure. One of my kids is the youngest in her grade because she is confident, secure, emotionally mature. It has zero to do with my insecurity and all to do with wanting what I believe will make my child happy

Bless your heart, you continue to tell yourself that.

Wow! You are either a 12 year old trolling or a crazy old lady with nothing to do. It’s clear that 90% of the anti redshirting posts are yours (or more). Why are you spending so much time and energy arguing on an anonymous forum?

I am pretty sure that this poster gets so upset because of the violation of natural law that dictates that a classroom must have an age span of no more than 364 days. It’s deep magic from before the dawn of time.

I think it’s sad you dumb down you kids academically and socially and don’t get them the help they need. Your kids are not smarter, bigger, faster or better. Just older. That is not natural and if anything they are less mature as the are with a younger peer group that artificially makes them seem like they are doing better than they are. When you have a 13 vs 15 year old in the same math class with the same grades your 15 year old is not smarter.

Yes! They will better than your kid and will get into better colleges! Happy now? Can you stop please?

Better? The best college for your child is the one they are happy at and thrive. You think colleges don’t look at age when it comes to classes. My kid started algebra in 6th so I think they are on track for a good school.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

She only cares about her kid and can't stand the idea that others are doing what's best for their kids. I don't see a different at all.

Similar to how others only care about their own children? The difference is redshirted parents are taking a divergence with an underlying goal that hurts those who are not maltreating the system.

The goal is obviously not to hurt other kids, come on. And really many parenting choices "hurt" other kids. Are you advocating to shut down tutoring centers as well? Why not?

The goal does hurt other kids, no matter how pollyanish you want to be.
The tutoring centers suggestion from you is a reach but nice try.

Everyone will have to do what New York did and parents who want their Ld kid or behavior problem kid or Extra Confidence kid will go to private school. Sadly in many cities private schools are magnets for concerned parents kids. Not academic and athletic superstars. dc private schools don’t have the lock in that at all, but do get a lot of lower school issues kids. And that’s fine, the business model works for both sides of those children. What it will do is push out non-issues kids. Those won’t want to be in a basket case class or grade, red shirting or not.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

She only cares about her kid and can't stand the idea that others are doing what's best for their kids. I don't see a different at all.

Similar to how others only care about their own children? The difference is redshirted parents are taking a divergence with an underlying goal that hurts those who are not maltreating the system.

The goal is obviously not to hurt other kids, come on. And really many parenting choices "hurt" other kids. Are you advocating to shut down tutoring centers as well? Why not?

The goal does hurt other kids, no matter how pollyanish you want to be.
The tutoring centers suggestion from you is a reach but nice try.

Lia Thomas didn’t hurt nobody. Same thing, bigger and stronger but the child needs it and has to.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh and lots of parents will say “no one ever regrets holding them back!” And I’m sure that’s true sometimes but I’ve noticed the boys who were held back are the boys who are bigger/taller now in 2nd grade and they act out , aren’t always very inclusive, etc. They seem , on average, to have “king of the castle” mentality and I hope their parents recognize it and help them dial it back before the end up as teenagers with the same behaviors and the same “I’m biggest and best” mentality.

That’s what the parents want. They “need” this boost.

King if the castle mentality is winning.

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And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

She only cares about her kid and can't stand the idea that others are doing what's best for their kids. I don't see a different at all.

Similar to how others only care about their own children? The difference is redshirted parents are taking a divergence with an underlying goal that hurts those who are not maltreating the system.

The goal is obviously not to hurt other kids, come on. And really many parenting choices "hurt" other kids. Are you advocating to shut down tutoring centers as well? Why not?

The goal does hurt other kids, no matter how pollyanish you want to be.
The tutoring centers suggestion from you is a reach but nice try.

Let’s not let pass unquestioned the assertion that being a classroom with more than a 12 month age span automatically hurts children. Mixed age classrooms have a long history and offer many benefits. Antiredshirters themselves will tell you all about how beneficial it is to a child’s development to be the youngest in the classroom, and how much they can learn from their older classmates. It helps them develop grit, right?

Those who are against redshirting, why do you want to deny these benefits to your children?

Dude, mixed room age/grade one room schoolhouses or Montessori had tons of differentiation, class heads, students teaching younger students, etc. Not at all a single grade classroom learning the same materials, same lesson.

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Anonymous wrote:Ah ha, now it comes out. Anti-red shirters aren’t in the least concerned with what’s best for the redshirted kids. They’re concerned about their non-summer kids who are no longer looking good next to the summer birthday kids. They’re just afraid of the stiffening of the (gag) “competition”. Because they want their non-summer birthday kids to be able to win kindergarten.

This post was about what is best for late summer or fall birthday kids, and I think you have your answer, OP.

In all fairness, though, the individual child and especially the environment matters a lot. Find out what is common in the particular school your child will be attending, and start from there. And completely ignore all these public school parents who are going nuts, because their insecurities have absolutely nothing to do with your son’s education. And they assuredly don’t have his best interest at heart.

Late summer kids in private schools. The parents you refer to who are going nuts are private school parents. Parents at your kid’s school.

Yep