Tell me about redshirting your late summer/fall birthday son before Kindergarten

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't do it. You want your kid to be 19 at graduation? Since you asked.

As usual DCUM anti-redshirters cannot do math. It’s like clockwork.

Well, some are 19 at graduation, as April/May birthdays are also red-shirted sometimes. The flip side is you have a 17 year old going to college. There are a lot of other factors like personality, aptitude, size, which are not necessarily tied to age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't do it. You want your kid to be 19 at graduation? Since you asked.

As usual DCUM anti-redshirters cannot do math. It’s like clockwork.

Well, some are 19 at graduation, as April/May birthdays are also red-shirted sometimes. The flip side is you have a 17 year old going to college. There are a lot of other factors like personality, aptitude, size, which are not necessarily tied to age.

OP literally stated when her child was born. There is no way for her child to be 19 at graduation. It is a mathematical impossibility. But DCUM anti-redshirters can’t do simple math, so they don’t understand that.

[Anonymous]

My kid has a June birthday and will be 15 as he starts 9th grade. He's usually one of the older kids in his class, but seldom the oldest. It's only been an issue once, when a neighborhood mean girl found it funny that he was seven in 1st grade and mocked him whenever she could (until one day she did it within my hearing... that was a very, very satisfying day for me).

[Anonymous]

Friend did not redshirt her December bday DD…also in a place with a end of the year cut off. at the end of 1st grade now this week, I think they have mixed feelings about it. DD is much younger (some of her classmates are 8 and she’s 6). She’s struggling with making friends, she’s a little behind academically…it’s a mixed bag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We redshirted our summer birthday son with a Sept 1 cut off and it was a great decision. He has a fabulous year in K and all his teachers said it was the right decision for him. Kids do differ, but talk to his pre-K teacher. They have seen a lot of kids and will get a sense of whether or not he is a kid who would benefit.

It was for the benefit of the teachers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't do it. You want your kid to be 19 at graduation? Since you asked.

As usual DCUM anti-redshirters cannot do math. It’s like clockwork.

Well, some are 19 at graduation, as April/May birthdays are also red-shirted sometimes. The flip side is you have a 17 year old going to college. There are a lot of other factors like personality, aptitude, size, which are not necessarily tied to age.

OP literally stated when her child was born. There is no way for her child to be 19 at graduation. It is a mathematical impossibility. But DCUM anti-redshirters can’t do simple math, so they don’t understand that.

Red-shirters are far more incompetent in more than “anti red-shirters.” Hence the “need” to red-shirt.

[Anonymous]

Every redshirter parent will say that it was “the best decision.” What else are they going to say?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every redshirter parent will say that it was “the best decision.” What else are they going to say?

Why would you not expect those who didn’t redshirt to also say that it’s the best decision, if you think it is entirely driven by the need to justify a choice already made? I hear far more parents regretting not redshirting than redshirting.

But I think it does depend on both the child and the environment. Where we are it’s extremely common and there is zero social stigma. That may not be the case everywhere. We also knew that the school our kid would be attending had instruction that was sufficiently differentiated so that he would not be bored in class. Again, not the case everywhere.

Kid is going into 7th grade and we couldn’t ask for a better experience for him, so no regrets!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every redshirter parent will say that it was “the best decision.” What else are they going to say?

Why would you not expect those who didn’t redshirt to also say that it’s the best decision, if you think it is entirely driven by the need to justify a choice already made? I hear far more parents regretting not redshirting than redshirting.

But I think it does depend on both the child and the environment. Where we are it’s extremely common and there is zero social stigma. That may not be the case everywhere. We also knew that the school our kid would be attending had instruction that was sufficiently differentiated so that he would not be bored in class. Again, not the case everywhere.

Kid is going into 7th grade and we couldn’t ask for a better experience for him, so no regrets!

You just inadvertently cemented that every red-shirter will only always say it’s the “best decision.” What else would they say?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every redshirter parent will say that it was “the best decision.” What else are they going to say?

Why would you not expect those who didn’t redshirt to also say that it’s the best decision, if you think it is entirely driven by the need to justify a choice already made? I hear far more parents regretting not redshirting than redshirting.

But I think it does depend on both the child and the environment. Where we are it’s extremely common and there is zero social stigma. That may not be the case everywhere. We also knew that the school our kid would be attending had instruction that was sufficiently differentiated so that he would not be bored in class. Again, not the case everywhere.

Kid is going into 7th grade and we couldn’t ask for a better experience for him, so no regrets!

You don’t hear far more parents saying they regretted not redshirting. I’ve never heard anyone say that and it’s just a convenient thing for you to say. Did you put out a survey or something?

[Anonymous]

We did with a June birthday. We just knew he wasn’t ready. Best decision ever. Turns out he has some leaning disabilities. Had we sent him on time he would have struggled even more than he is now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We redshirted our summer birthday son with a Sept 1 cut off and it was a great decision. He has a fabulous year in K and all his teachers said it was the right decision for him. Kids do differ, but talk to his pre-K teacher. They have seen a lot of kids and will get a sense of whether or not he is a kid who would benefit.

It was for the benefit of the teachers.

It is usually this. We had a kid past the cut off who I knew should go but we were pushed by flexible schools to hold back. Child did so well that year in the school we picked we ended up skipping k and going directly to first. I regretted not being more pushy. Years later I cannot imagine being a grade behind and kid is in the highest math and far more capable than most choose to see early on. When I ask him, he thinks he is in the right grade. It’s possible to guess a child’s outcome or future. Pre school teachers have no training to and if your child needs to be held back they need an evaluation and therapies and tutoring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We did with a June birthday. We just knew he wasn’t ready. Best decision ever. Turns out he has some leaning disabilities. Had we sent him on time he would have struggled even more than he is now.

Here’s that “best decision ever” that earlier post correctly stated every red-shirter just automatically says.

[Anonymous]

Ask the admissions office what the birthday range is in older grades. They should be able to show you where your son's birthday would fall in those classes to get an idea of how old/young he would be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We did with a June birthday. We just knew he wasn’t ready. Best decision ever. Turns out he has some leaning disabilities. Had we sent him on time he would have struggled even more than he is now.

Here’s that “best decision ever” that earlier post correctly stated every red-shirter just automatically says.

The best decision would have been to get that child evaluated early on and get them help.