Anyone facing jealous friends now that your kids are in private school?

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The fact that you are posting this, saying they are jealous tells me all I need to know.

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Anonymous wrote:Depends on the school district. In Bethesda/Chevy Chase most of the kids going to private are special needs or come from snooty families. On the DC side of the border, it's people that want a good education for their kids without the fear of violence. No judgment. Families try to do what's best for their children. Certainly not jealous of families that choose private school

If you are wealthy why wouldn't you send your kids to private schools?

Is the money better spent on fancy German and Italian sports cars? If you have excess cash flow after savings, why not? I want to give my kids the best of everything. I still save and have a high net worth by even country club standards.

Because they're not better

Do you really think that some kid coming out of Landon is better prepared for college and life generally than next door Whitman? Or Walter Johnson? Or Churchill?

Do you think the families that send their kids to those schools don't value education? Or could afford private?

It's the difficult kids that are sent to private

The level of wealth at Bethesda private schools and the network kids get is far superior to any W school. The lunches served are actually healthy. Most problem kids are not allowed to continue. At public schools problem kids are allowed to stay.

And sports are far superior at the local private schools...about 18% of the graduating class at several Bethesda private schools signed to play college sports. At Whitman it was around 3%.

So you admit that the advantages of private are from making social connections and not necessarily the school quality.

Both can be true at the same time.

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t think $1 million a year is impressive???? I sure do. Most people I know who make that much are working lots of hours and sacrificing time with their families. That’s what people do to make that much money. There are trade offs.

No. Not really. And most lawyers earn it in very unappetizing ways. Grinding on documents, or compliance programs or litigation prep. I feel sorry for the BigLaw parents. It’s a tough grind.

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t think $1 million a year is impressive???? I sure do. Most people I know who make that much are working lots of hours and sacrificing time with their families. That’s what people do to make that much money. There are trade offs.

No. Not really. And most lawyers earn it in very unappetizing ways. Grinding on documents, or compliance programs or litigation prep. I feel sorry for the BigLaw parents. It’s a tough grind.

Do you know many big law partners?? Like actual partners, not of counsel or non equity or what have you? They are not doing what you think they’re doing. This is what junior associates do. The ones I know, who earn a lot and are at actual big law firms, do a lot of advisory work, presentations and deal making. I don’t think you have much salient experience.

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t think $1 million a year is impressive???? I sure do. Most people I know who make that much are working lots of hours and sacrificing time with their families. That’s what people do to make that much money. There are trade offs.

No. Not really. And most lawyers earn it in very unappetizing ways. Grinding on documents, or compliance programs or litigation prep. I feel sorry for the BigLaw parents. It’s a tough grind.

Do you know many big law partners?? Like actual partners, not of counsel or non equity or what have you? They are not doing what you think they’re doing. This is what junior associates do. The ones I know, who earn a lot and are at actual big law firms, do a lot of advisory work, presentations and deal making. I don’t think you have much salient experience.

I look down on lawyers. It is an awful job that is very unappealing.

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t think $1 million a year is impressive???? I sure do. Most people I know who make that much are working lots of hours and sacrificing time with their families. That’s what people do to make that much money. There are trade offs.

No. Not really. And most lawyers earn it in very unappetizing ways. Grinding on documents, or compliance programs or litigation prep. I feel sorry for the BigLaw parents. It’s a tough grind.

Do you know many big law partners?? Like actual partners, not of counsel or non equity or what have you? They are not doing what you think they’re doing. This is what junior associates do. The ones I know, who earn a lot and are at actual big law firms, do a lot of advisory work, presentations and deal making. I don’t think you have much salient experience.

I look down on lawyers. It is an awful job that is very unappealing.

Private schools are full of lawyer parents. Do you look down at your kids’ friends’ parents??

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Anonymous wrote:We went through this a couple of times with both kids. There is jealousy and anger involved, especially if you tell them it is because of substandard MCPS.

We told people we wanted religious element in education and the satisfied them. But know that they are still steaming about it. One time I posted something on Facebook about common core and how I am glad my kids don't deal with it, and this rabid mom attacked me. She is one who asked my why I pulled my daughter out of MCPS before anyone. She also seemed happy to hear that it was religious reasons. But now she knows there are other benefits we enjoy and she is angry.

Why would you do that? You bait people and then whine when they respond. Not very smart.

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Anonymous wrote:I always think that the private schools parents are showing their own uncertainty about whether they are doing the right thing when they start these threads...

+1,000,000

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Op I had a friend like you. She moved her kids into private and talked on and on how much better it was than our public school - to parents of kids in public school. We thought she became insufferable and didn’t want to be around her anymore. In other words, it’s you not them.

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t think $1 million a year is impressive???? I sure do. Most people I know who make that much are working lots of hours and sacrificing time with their families. That’s what people do to make that much money. There are trade offs.

No. Not really. And most lawyers earn it in very unappetizing ways. Grinding on documents, or compliance programs or litigation prep. I feel sorry for the BigLaw parents. It’s a tough grind.

Do you know many big law partners?? Like actual partners, not of counsel or non equity or what have you? They are not doing what you think they’re doing. This is what junior associates do. The ones I know, who earn a lot and are at actual big law firms, do a lot of advisory work, presentations and deal making. I don’t think you have much salient experience.

I look down on lawyers. It is an awful job that is very unappealing.

Private schools are full of lawyer parents. Do you look down at your kids’ friends’ parents??

We go to public.

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t think $1 million a year is impressive???? I sure do. Most people I know who make that much are working lots of hours and sacrificing time with their families. That’s what people do to make that much money. There are trade offs.

No. Not really. And most lawyers earn it in very unappetizing ways. Grinding on documents, or compliance programs or litigation prep. I feel sorry for the BigLaw parents. It’s a tough grind.

Do you know many big law partners?? Like actual partners, not of counsel or non equity or what have you? They are not doing what you think they’re doing. This is what junior associates do. The ones I know, who earn a lot and are at actual big law firms, do a lot of advisory work, presentations and deal making. I don’t think you have much salient experience.

As if none of this involves a grind? You’re not doing “advisory work” or “deal making” without tons of shit work behind it. Yes the associates have it worse but the vast majority of partners cannot wash their hands of that entirely. If the associate messes up, it’s on you.

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Anonymous wrote:Ever since my kids were recently admitted to private schools, many friends in my W cluster have been making snippy comments about me sending my kids to private school. Has anyone else faced a similar situation?

It’s all in your head. You think people care more than they actually do.

This. Just another critical case of Main Character Syndrome.

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Anonymous wrote:We went through this a couple of times with both kids. There is jealousy and anger involved, especially if you tell them it is because of substandard MCPS.

We told people we wanted religious element in education and the satisfied them. But know that they are still steaming about it. One time I posted something on Facebook about common core and how I am glad my kids don't deal with it, and this rabid mom attacked me. She is one who asked my why I pulled my daughter out of MCPS before anyone. She also seemed happy to hear that it was religious reasons. But now she knows there are other benefits we enjoy and she is angry.

So you post something inflammatory on Facebook, and are annoyed that someone reacted to it? You can’t even see your part in this, can you?

Of course I do. But it was effective at knowing true feelings. I am always looking for opportunities to purge toxic people in my life.

So clearly you did it on purpose, and are now claiming that the responder is the toxic one. You sure are something else.

Exactly. She wanted negative attention and she got it. Too bad she’s just showcasing her own insecurity. Sad.

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Anonymous wrote:We went through this a couple of times with both kids. There is jealousy and anger involved, especially if you tell them it is because of substandard MCPS.

We told people we wanted religious element in education and the satisfied them. But know that they are still steaming about it. One time I posted something on Facebook about common core and how I am glad my kids don't deal with it, and this rabid mom attacked me. She is one who asked my why I pulled my daughter out of MCPS before anyone. She also seemed happy to hear that it was religious reasons. But now she knows there are other benefits we enjoy and she is angry.

So you post something inflammatory on Facebook, and are annoyed that someone reacted to it? You can’t even see your part in this, can you?

Of course I do. But it was effective at knowing true feelings. I am always looking for opportunities to purge toxic people in my life.

So clearly you did it on purpose, and are now claiming that the responder is the toxic one. You sure are something else.

No not at all. It was a response to someone else's post on the subject, so just stating my opinion. But I really don't care because I knew all along there was fierce jealousy on her part. Her daughter exudes the jealousy to my daughter as well at the pool. She is always competing with her on things like what team she is on, etc. It is so funny to hear about.

That’s the thing - you do. You really really do. But since you are seriously lacking in self awareness, you’ll deny it ‘til the cows come home.

Nothing to deny. I clearly pointed out I knew exactly what is going on! Did I provoke her? No. She responded, and I knew right away I was right!

This is too effing funny. If you think you are making yourself look like you were in the right here, YOU ARE NOT.
If you think that saying something provocative will not provoke people, then there is no rational conversation to be had here. You keep doing what your doing, fighting against and purging those toxic people from your life!

I only agreed with the FB post and added an anecdote. That is not provocative. Why didn't she chime in before I did? It's because of the jealousy. No doubt in my mind.

We know there is “no doubt in your mind,” because there’s also no self-awareness in your mind. Too funny.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, they are not your tribe any longer. Accept it. Don't make it worse by assigning blame. Btw, you would seem clueless to not understand a basic fact: those neighborhood kids are your child's peers, only you're saying they're not good enough. You are seeking better. Or you are seeking a school environment better than what these have parents have chose. So that's criticism. Not spoken but it's there. Be gracious. You should never have to accept rude comments to your face but accept that the dynamic for you within the neighborhood has drastically changed. That's on you. You chose this.

Ew.