If you are a gay woman....

[Anonymous]

And you dress like a man or don't do anything with your appearance otherwise, why?

[Anonymous]

Why don't you have more going on in your life? I welcome you to come take over some of my problems so that you actually have something to do instead of starting ridiculous threads like this!

[Anonymous]

Just hoping for some topics other than diaper pails and houseguest problems. Cheers!

[Anonymous]

I'm too busy traveling the world.

Why do you still dress like a teenager?

[Anonymous]

I know plenty of androgynous women. They do take care of the their appearance, just not in the traditional, feminine way.

They don't wear skirts, heels or makeup because they don't feel like that is an accurate representation of themselves.

If you like plain, solid-colored clothes, dressing in something covered in hot pink flowers and frills would feel awkward. Right?

[Anonymous]

Not talking about pink flowers. Talking about men's khakis , man-like shoes and man haircut.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not talking about pink flowers. Talking about men's khakis , man-like shoes and man haircut.

Obviously that is the type of clothing they are comfortable in.

Why do you dress in the manner you do?

[Anonymous]

I have always wondered about this too. I work with a gay women that buys only clothes in the mens dept and I think some people who don't know her assume she is a man when they first see her. I don't really understand the dynamic other than sexuality, gender identity are very fluid and there is a still a lot we don't undnerstand about the origins of either.

[Anonymous]

Me, too. Woman I work with who is professional, competent, bright, but she wears men's clothes and has hanky, gray hair. She is doing herself a disservice in her career.

[Anonymous]

I just wonder whether "butch" women are interested in "receiving" pleasure from their partners.

[Anonymous]

Holly Petraeus?

[Anonymous]

This isn't just restricted to gay women. I know two heterosexual, happily married women who dress like this. One is an ER doctor (but has always been a bit tomboyish) and the other is a microbiologist for the FDA. In both cases, they dress this way because they often need to move fast, put on labcoats or other protective covering over their clothes, have short hair because they frequently have hair nets over their hair which really messes up longer hair and generally find the clothing and hair style to be more convenient and conducive to their work and lives.

So, do you have a point, or do you just like to randomly stereotype for no reason other than to be offensive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This isn't just restricted to gay women. I know two heterosexual, happily married women who dress like this. One is an ER doctor (but has always been a bit tomboyish) and the other is a microbiologist for the FDA. In both cases, they dress this way because they often need to move fast, put on labcoats or other protective covering over their clothes, have short hair because they frequently have hair nets over their hair which really messes up longer hair and generally find the clothing and hair style to be more convenient and conducive to their work and lives.

So, do you have a point, or do you just like to randomly stereotype for no reason other than to be offensive?

Gosh, exactly! There is a range of feminine / androgynous style for straight, lesbian, and bi women.

[Anonymous]

Gay woman here.

Both. I dress casually for work (because I can) - cargo pants/khakis/ with cardigans/etc. But also own dresses and heels for when the occasion presents itself.

I have long hair that requires minimal upkeep and wear little make-up.

I would say that people don't always assume I am gay, but aren't surprised when they find out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not talking about pink flowers. Talking about men's khakis , man-like shoes and man haircut.

That was a question directed to you. If you always wore pastel, frilly stuff, would you feel uncomfortable in plain, androgynous clothing?

Is your issue that they opt of of a societal pressure to sometimes dress uncomfortably for show?