How do you tell a child they life they knew is over?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like how OP went from "she is NEVER going to be able to travel. She is NEVER going to be able to do x,y,z" to "omg I would totally take her to a playground if they were open!".

It's like two completely different OPs are posting at this point

It's not the virus. It's the restrictions.

[Anonymous]

I can’t believe the op though new normal meant permanent. Wow, how’d ya get this far in life, OP? Is that some kind of learning disability where you take everything super literally and are extremely rigid? Aspergers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Listen, at some point people are just going to start ignoring the “new normal” and just revert back to our “old normal”. Yes, people will get sick and some will die, but eventually we’ll reach herd immunity and things will be back to normal. Many people will not allow this to become a long term way of life, no way.

Won't happen. Can't happen. To many government restrictions.

I am guessing your are really young and weren’t an adult during 9/11

Things changed in the immediate aftermath and then for a couple years
Gradually many of the safeguards and changes were ultimately relaxed
The one thing that has remained is airport security
You used to be able to freely walk to the gates and wait even if you had no ticket

By this time next year mask use will have become less and less frequent
News stories will rarely mention covid
And the vaccine will still get a mention every now and again but those clinical trials will still be going on

By the time Op’s child is a teen, this whole time will have faded from their memory
They will do so many things and have so much going on in their lives that when they look back at pictures of this time they won’t even
This is such a teeny tiny moment in little kids lives

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It won’t ever go back? Are you this dramatic in real life? Life will eventually go back to normal. That’s how you explain it.

It wont go back for my son. He is a rising senior and will miss another semester with his friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe the op though new normal meant permanent. Wow, how’d ya get this far in life, OP? Is that some kind of learning disability where you take everything super literally and are extremely rigid? Aspergers?

If it wasn't permanent, they'd call it temporary.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why would you do this? A six year old has limited understanding of time. Sounds like you are expecting her to make some mature acceptance which is unfair. This is not forever; we will distance and wear masks as long as the infection continues to be community acquired. They are working on vaccines which will help. Sounds like you want to upset her, to put adult problems on her shoulders. No reason to increase any anxiety she has; you’re her mom, it’s your job to make her life better not worse.

Excuse me? I said I haven't brought this up for exactly the reasons you stated - but at some point, she'll need to know the life she knew is gone and isn't coming back.

Meh. Life is changing. We are evolving. She is 6. She will adapt.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe the op though new normal meant permanent. Wow, how’d ya get this far in life, OP? Is that some kind of learning disability where you take everything super literally and are extremely rigid? Aspergers?

If it wasn't permanent, they'd call it temporary.

No, stupid. "New" is not an antonym for "temporary." A thing can be both new and temporary, as many thing are. Consider: new fashion, new political administration, new trends in literature, your latest new car. None of those things are permanent, but all represent a (temporary) new normal.

You have serious language/reading comprehension issues.

"New normal" is not permanent. It is simply new. It will pass.

I really hope you aren't bleating this idiocy at your children because right now they need positivity and stability, as well as an adult with competent reading comprehension skills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe the op though new normal meant permanent. Wow, how’d ya get this far in life, OP? Is that some kind of learning disability where you take everything super literally and are extremely rigid? Aspergers?

+1

I feel so sorry for her kids. I remember when 9/11 happened and the mom of one of my friends was sobbing at the kitchen table, moaning about how "things will never be the same!" That scared me more than what we were seeing on the news. And she--like OP--was wrong.

I hope OP can get the therapeutic support she so clearly needs. Anti-anxiety meds work wonders these days, I hear. Please seek help before you damage your child, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So... mine is 6 too. We talk about it a lot, but in a certain way. Factual but light...we set the tone, they adopt it. "yeah this might be one really weird school year! but one out of life isnt that bad right? at least we get to hang out!" "Its so awesome we have zoom to talk to grandpa during the germ problem, imagine if we didnt!" and I tell them we do not know if a vaccine will come for years, but, the scientists are working and will probably find some good treatments and things will ease up in a year. We have sprinkled these comments throughout the last few months adn it has helped. At first they thought it would be better by summer, but now they know its taking longer and we all just float on.

Problem is, DH is telling her we can go see people next summer without masks. This is super irresponsible since we all know the restrictions won't ever be lifted, but I'm the one who'll get to comfort a crying child when she finds out he lied, so what does he care?

Really? You can see into the future and you KNOW we'll ALWAYS wear masks, forever and ever and ever? I'm not sure..... I don't think we need to obsess about the future, etc. Wear them now, we'll see what 12 months brings, then 18 months, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Listen, at some point people are just going to start ignoring the “new normal” and just revert back to our “old normal”. Yes, people will get sick and some will die, but eventually we’ll reach herd immunity and things will be back to normal. Many people will not allow this to become a long term way of life, no way.

Won't happen. Can't happen. To many government restrictions.

I am guessing your are really young and weren’t an adult during 9/11

Things changed in the immediate aftermath and then for a couple years
Gradually many of the safeguards and changes were ultimately relaxed
The one thing that has remained is airport security
You used to be able to freely walk to the gates and wait even if you had no ticket

By this time next year mask use will have become less and less frequent
News stories will rarely mention covid
And the vaccine will still get a mention every now and again but those clinical trials will still be going on

By the time Op’s child is a teen, this whole time will have faded from their memory
They will do so many things and have so much going on in their lives that when they look back at pictures of this time they won’t even
This is such a teeny tiny moment in little kids lives

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Listen, at some point people are just going to start ignoring the “new normal” and just revert back to our “old normal”. Yes, people will get sick and some will die, but eventually we’ll reach herd immunity and things will be back to normal. Many people will not allow this to become a long term way of life, no way.

Well, I’m in the camp of hoping it just goes away on its own. I have no faith in a longterm vaccine, because research is showing no antibodies after out 2-3 months. IF there is a vaccine that actually works, I look for people to need boosters every 1-2 months, and there’s no way for supply to keep up with demand.

That is not how this works. Stop with the stupidity.

+1. Goes away on it's own? I just can't ...

https://www.cdc.gov/sars/about/faq.html

You forgot about sars? It’s happened before, without herd immunity. That’s my hope.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It won’t ever go back? Are you this dramatic in real life? Life will eventually go back to normal. That’s how you explain it.

It wont go back for my son. He is a rising senior and will miss another semester with his friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It won’t ever go back? Are you this dramatic in real life? Life will eventually go back to normal. That’s how you explain it.

It wont go back for my son. He is a rising senior and will miss another semester with his friends.

High school is not the end of life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Listen, at some point people are just going to start ignoring the “new normal” and just revert back to our “old normal”. Yes, people will get sick and some will die, but eventually we’ll reach herd immunity and things will be back to normal. Many people will not allow this to become a long term way of life, no way.

Well, I’m in the camp of hoping it just goes away on its own. I have no faith in a longterm vaccine, because research is showing no antibodies after out 2-3 months. IF there is a vaccine that actually works, I look for people to need boosters every 1-2 months, and there’s no way for supply to keep up with demand.

That is not how this works. Stop with the stupidity.

+1. Goes away on it's own? I just can't ...

https://www.cdc.gov/sars/about/faq.html

You forgot about sars? It’s happened before, without herd immunity. That’s my hope.

No. It will be endemic. But that does not mean it will be a pandemic forever. It won’t. There is some seriously distorted thinking going on. Life will return to mostly normal after a period of time. There will probably be some holdovers. Hopefully people staying home when sick and wearing masks when contagious.

[Anonymous]

Your kids are so different from mine. Mine don’t give two poops about this. They still play Xbox. Still eat dinner together. Have fun family stuff. Maybe you were more interconnected and we never were. Our life hasn’t changed that much except for DL. Big deal. I wouldn’t damage your kid by having some big conversation.