Do you judge other women’s engagement rings?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do.

Sometimes when I see a woman with a tiny diamond I wonder how cheap her husband must be to not bother to get her something nicer.

The larger the diamond the more I think her husband wanted to impress her/ show his love. Also that he’s rich.

wow...sometimes when I see posts like this, I wonder how insecure a woman must be to judge others based on the size of a piece of jewelery.

[Anonymous]

Only if they are huge or gaudy. I typically assume the man cheated and tried to buy his way back into her good graces. Or he's actively cheating and trying to keep her pacified.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My single lesbian SIL took the 1.5 carat diamond ring my husband was going to use to make my engagement ring off her dead grandma's finger and claimed it for herself, so there's that. I'm not complaining though because I have a custom made 7mm pink sapphire with a diamond halo and pave band that suits me much better.

Her grandmother would probably like that it's on a blood family member's finger-instead of a grand DIL. I know I would.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My single lesbian SIL took the 1.5 carat diamond ring my husband was going to use to make my engagement ring off her dead grandma's finger and claimed it for herself, so there's that. I'm not complaining though because I have a custom made 7mm pink sapphire with a diamond halo and pave band that suits me much better.

Her grandmother would probably like that it's on a blood family member's finger-instead of a grand DIL. I know I would.

My husband's grandmother told him it was for him, but SIL took it anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On the contrary, I judge women with huge rings. Husband have a tiny peen? Married for money? Incredibly insecure? Shallow and kind of pathetic?

LOL!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do.

Sometimes when I see a woman with a tiny diamond I wonder how cheap her husband must be to not bother to get her something nicer.

The larger the diamond the more I think her husband wanted to impress her/ show his love. Also that he’s rich.

wow...sometimes when I see posts like this, I wonder how insecure a woman must be to judge others based on the size of a piece of jewelery.

As someone who intentionally chose a very understated ring with a "tiny diamond" (I will not wear rings daily that are raised up off my finger at all, and I wanted a ring I would wear daily for my engagement ring) I actually appreciate that some people can admit this to themselves. Sometimes I encounter people who are going out of their way to tell me my ring is okay and it's so weird, like "yes, I know? I picked it out and it's exactly what I wanted."

I honestly feel sad for anyone who thinks a man needs to impress her or "show his love" by buying a larger diamond. Like if someone said that out loud to me I'd just feel so bad for them. I guess I hope their rings bring them joy, but I tend to think that outlook on marriage and love is not going to make you very happy in the long run.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I judge people who judge, I guess. I once had a 13 year old 9th grader mock the size of my ring, telling me my husband must not love me. So there’s that. I suppose I think those who judge rings are juvenile.

For those of you with big showy diamonds: Many people don’t notice or care. If you’re trying to make some impression, just know that plenty of people never look.

A child noticed.
Many people notice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I judge people who judge, I guess. I once had a 13 year old 9th grader mock the size of my ring, telling me my husband must not love me. So there’s that. I suppose I think those who judge rings are juvenile.

For those of you with big showy diamonds: Many people don’t notice or care. If you’re trying to make some impression, just know that plenty of people never look.

A child noticed.
Many people notice.

Yes, and there are a lot of immature people with messed up values. Your point?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t even notice their ring. I did in my 20s when a lot of people were getting engaged, but now I never really look. And so many people just wear their wedding band anyhow.

+100. Now that I’m in my 50s, I never notice unless it’s a huge ring and looks gaudy. Most of the women I know only wear their band.

+ I kind of judge (usually older) women who still daily wear their engagement ring as a stack. Agree most women I know only wear their band, maybe with the occasional e-ring day on weekends or occasions. We are in a well-educated/UMC circle of people mostly making high six to seven figures.

I sometimes see recently engaged gen-z women on my team sporting large oval cut e-rings and they are open that they are lab diamonds or moissanites because this seems to be the trend now, none of them want blood diamonds. Others have very uniquely designed e-rings that are more about the design than the stone. So size is no longer really a signifier of anything.

You judge people for wearing the rings together? I thought most people did. My grandmother born in the 19th century wore hers until her fingers were so skeletal they fell off. And my mom was ho has been married 75 years wears both together all the time.
I personally don’t wear rings. But the two stacked together is I thought how almost everyone has done it forever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My single lesbian SIL took the 1.5 carat diamond ring my husband was going to use to make my engagement ring off her dead grandma's finger and claimed it for herself, so there's that. I'm not complaining though because I have a custom made 7mm pink sapphire with a diamond halo and pave band that suits me much better.

Her grandmother would probably like that it's on a blood family member's finger-instead of a grand DIL. I know I would.

My husband's grandmother told him it was for him, but SIL took it anyway.

Jewelry is usually left to women. Yes, even lesbians.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t even notice their ring. I did in my 20s when a lot of people were getting engaged, but now I never really look. And so many people just wear their wedding band anyhow.

+100. Now that I’m in my 50s, I never notice unless it’s a huge ring and looks gaudy. Most of the women I know only wear their band.

+ I kind of judge (usually older) women who still daily wear their engagement ring as a stack. Agree most women I know only wear their band, maybe with the occasional e-ring day on weekends or occasions. We are in a well-educated/UMC circle of people mostly making high six to seven figures.

I sometimes see recently engaged gen-z women on my team sporting large oval cut e-rings and they are open that they are lab diamonds or moissanites because this seems to be the trend now, none of them want blood diamonds. Others have very uniquely designed e-rings that are more about the design than the stone. So size is no longer really a signifier of anything.

You judge people for wearing the rings together? I thought most people did. My grandmother born in the 19th century wore hers until her fingers were so skeletal they fell off. And my mom was ho has been married 75 years wears both together all the time.
I personally don’t wear rings. But the two stacked together is I thought how almost everyone has done it forever.

Stacking is very hot right now. PP has no idea what she's taking about, she's stuck in the 90s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do.

Sometimes when I see a woman with a tiny diamond I wonder how cheap her husband must be to not bother to get her something nicer.

The larger the diamond the more I think her husband wanted to impress her/ show his love. Also that he’s rich.

If size or cost of a ring or a wedding was a good measure of a couple's love or predictor of quality or length of the marriage, lives would be so easy.

Same goes for financial status. Just because a couple is frugal or carefree, doesn't mean they don't have higher income, investments or inheritance than schlubs with heavy loans flaunting their extravagant diamond.

I'm always amazed at American's idea of inheritance. Do you mean some cash? Because, for us, it means valuable real estate (no mortgage), good art and jewelry, not just some cash from a generation or two - liar here.

Fixed that for you.

Ohh, the nouveau riche feels insecure. I bet one of those with a grandma from West Virginia, with an outhouse.

[Anonymous]

I have a 1/3 carat ring and I love it because of the meaning- it was my husband's mom and she passed away when he was young. It is super simple and it was meant to be a placeholder so I could pick out what I wanted but I never changed it.

[Anonymous]

Isn't stacking your wedding and engagement ring...normal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn't stacking your wedding and engagement ring...normal?

Yes!