How many men have you slept with?

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Anonymous wrote:How come men care about a woman's previous sex life but unless the guy was a porn star, women couldn't care less about a man's previous history? Seriously, I have never heard of a woman saying a man had too many sex partners.

I'd love to hear someone explain this. DH freaked out over my number (30), but his number is 60-70. He thought 3 would have been a more acceptable number for me.

Your DH is a hypocrite. But here is why some men freak out or become incensed by women with high numbers (as viewed by a man who once felt this way when I was young and insecure):

For your average man, sex isn't that easy to come by. Lots of asking women out, lots of approaching women in bars, coffee shops, and lots of rejection. When you find the right woman, and she actually returns your interest, for the average guy, it takes time to then build the connection, to be thoughtful and creative and win her over. Then, when the connection is established, it leads (hopefully) to sex.

So when average guy finds out he is number 37. He assumes most of guys 1-36 were the hot jocks, bad boy, wall st. trader cocky guys who did nothing other than be hot, confident and talk a good game and sealed the deal with minimal effort. Average guy feels duped, like he had to jump through a million hoops and while the sex is special to him, it isn't to her, or so it seems.

Or look at it this way. How a woman would feel if she had to push her boyfriend to take her out on a date, any date, only to find out he had taken 35 other women on lavish European vacations.

I was the nice guy in high school and college, the honest, fun, nice guy (not the brooding entitled nice guy). A bit chubby, kind of funny, lots of friends. I had sex with the occasional long term girlfriend, but again, lots of effort to find someone interested in me. And it did sting to find out she slept with the football players, the frat guys, etc. Then, after I got my MBA, lost weight, hit the mid-20s DC scene, got some confidence - women were suddenly everywhere.

My numbers are in the 40s. I met my DW, hers are in the teens. I wouldn't have cared if hers were higher because I played in the same pond, I had the fun of pre-marital sex, with lots of fun and not so fun nights. If I missed that, I could see being resentful.

Make sense?

It TOTALLY makes sense.

Girls, it's important to steer clear of the guys who are all super concerned about your number. They don't have game, they have little experience (i.e. they will suck in bed), and furthermore, I actually also think they are more likely to cheat - as soon as they have a little money, they want to go back and experience what they missed out on in their younger years.

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6.

4 before husband. One husband. One middle of the marriage affair.

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Between 30 and 35 (I'd actually have to sit down and think about it for a while), two women, and made out with a third woman, but her girlfriend was waiting so we didn't have time for more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How come men care about a woman's previous sex life but unless the guy was a porn star, women couldn't care less about a man's previous history? Seriously, I have never heard of a woman saying a man had too many sex partners.

I'd love to hear someone explain this. DH freaked out over my number (30), but his number is 60-70. He thought 3 would have been a more acceptable number for me.

Your DH is a hypocrite. But here is why some men freak out or become incensed by women with high numbers (as viewed by a man who once felt this way when I was young and insecure):

For your average man, sex isn't that easy to come by. Lots of asking women out, lots of approaching women in bars, coffee shops, and lots of rejection. When you find the right woman, and she actually returns your interest, for the average guy, it takes time to then build the connection, to be thoughtful and creative and win her over. Then, when the connection is established, it leads (hopefully) to sex.

So when average guy finds out he is number 37. He assumes most of guys 1-36 were the hot jocks, bad boy, wall st. trader cocky guys who did nothing other than be hot, confident and talk a good game and sealed the deal with minimal effort. Average guy feels duped, like he had to jump through a million hoops and while the sex is special to him, it isn't to her, or so it seems.

Or look at it this way. How a woman would feel if she had to push her boyfriend to take her out on a date, any date, only to find out he had taken 35 other women on lavish European vacations.

I was the nice guy in high school and college, the honest, fun, nice guy (not the brooding entitled nice guy). A bit chubby, kind of funny, lots of friends. I had sex with the occasional long term girlfriend, but again, lots of effort to find someone interested in me. And it did sting to find out she slept with the football players, the frat guys, etc. Then, after I got my MBA, lost weight, hit the mid-20s DC scene, got some confidence - women were suddenly everywhere.

My numbers are in the 40s. I met my DW, hers are in the teens. I wouldn't have cared if hers were higher because I played in the same pond, I had the fun of pre-marital sex, with lots of fun and not so fun nights. If I missed that, I could see being resentful.

Make sense?

It TOTALLY makes sense.

Girls, it's important to steer clear of the guys who are all super concerned about your number. They don't have game, they have little experience (i.e. they will suck in bed), and furthermore, I actually also think they are more likely to cheat - as soon as they have a little money, they want to go back and experience what they missed out on in their younger years.

Except my DH slept with twice as many people as me....

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Anonymous wrote:27 year old female here......I've slept with 0 men/women. I hope I get laid before 30, and hopefully it will not be with my future husband. I want to explore my sexuality and at least sleep with 10+ guys before I settle down.

And no, I am not ugly or overweight. Most men find me really attractive and I get hit on quite often, but I have yet to find someone I really like.

Be careful. Guys will think they can put the WHAM on you and get you dickmatized. And one might be able to if you don't always keep the upper hand and control of your emotions. Don't tell them you are a virgin.

I try not to tell them that I'm a virgin, but they always ask by the 3rd date. Do you think I should lie about it?

I'm not sure what it is about me that screams virgin.....

I waited until I was 23 and then just decided it was best to get it over with because the first time is rarely, if ever great. So I did with a decent guy who didn't know I was a virgin but probably figured it out. I was much better with the next two guys and then when I met my I DH I was experienced enough to be competent but definitely open to new adventures. I've been with no one but DH for many years and we always find fun ways to keep it fresh.

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Anonymous wrote:How come men care about a woman's previous sex life but unless the guy was a porn star, women couldn't care less about a man's previous history? Seriously, I have never heard of a woman saying a man had too many sex partners.

The answer is so obvious if you will see it without looking through politically correct goggles.

Men are expected to try to sleep with as many women as possible. If they are successful and have a high number, that makes them attractive to a woman because other women have desired their man. They are a hot commodity.

Women are expected to be a lot more selective because, let's be honest, finding sex partners isn't exactly hard for women. They can have it whenever and wherever they choose, so a high number is a sign of a lack of self control. Even an undesirable mate could have just about as many partners as she wants.

Dislike it all you want, it won't be changing in the foreseeable future. Truth doesn't adhere to a politically correct agenda.

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Anonymous wrote:Has anyone slept with a man who was trangender and eventually became a woman? How do you count that?

You don't, you pretend that never happened

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Around 12. Met husband at 19, together 21 years.

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Anonymous wrote:Ashamed to say, about 50. I was a big slut in college. Married my DH at age 26.

You're not marriage material

Obviously her husband disagrees.

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Anonymous wrote:Stop having sex with men who haven't spent at least $2,000 on you and that's being generous. These men are getting off too easy. Don't be shamed into making them step up and give something besides dirty sheets.

Sex whoever you want as long as they are healthy, clean, and paying your bills. Keep your money. Spend his.

I can pay my own bills, I can't fuck myself.

In these modern times there are plenty of electronics to spare you dragging some loser home in hopes he will gratify you tonight - really what are the odds he will do better than you.

You're obviously unfamiliar with good sex if you actually think there are electronics that measure up.

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Anonymous wrote:Ashamed to say, about 50. I was a big slut in college. Married my DH at age 26.

You're not marriage material

Obviously her husband disagrees.

What did her husband say when he found out she was the biggest slut in college? If someone told me that I would imagine trains, drunken casual sex, sex tapes, etc. but maybe her hubby wants to be a cuck? I don't see an alpha guy wanting someone like that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop having sex with men who haven't spent at least $2,000 on you and that's being generous. These men are getting off too easy. Don't be shamed into making them step up and give something besides dirty sheets.

Sex whoever you want as long as they are healthy, clean, and paying your bills. Keep your money. Spend his.

I can pay my own bills, I can't fuck myself.

In these modern times there are plenty of electronics to spare you dragging some loser home in hopes he will gratify you tonight - really what are the odds he will do better than you.

You're obviously unfamiliar with good sex if you actually think there are electronics that measure up.

some people don't want to give it away as easy as you might like to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How come men care about a woman's previous sex life but unless the guy was a porn star, women couldn't care less about a man's previous history? Seriously, I have never heard of a woman saying a man had too many sex partners.

The answer is so obvious if you will see it without looking through politically correct goggles.

Men are expected to try to sleep with as many women as possible. If they are successful and have a high number, that makes them attractive to a woman because other women have desired their man. They are a hot commodity.

Women are expected to be a lot more selective because, let's be honest, finding sex partners isn't exactly hard for women. They can have it whenever and wherever they choose, so a high number is a sign of a lack of self control. Even an undesirable mate could have just about as many partners as she wants.

Dislike it all you want, it won't be changing in the foreseeable future. Truth doesn't adhere to a politically correct agenda.

What does getting it easily have to do with anything? It's fun!

You know, some women make choices because of what they want instead of what they think makes them desirable to men.

I think food is a very good analogy. Rich people (beautiful, desirable women in my analogy) still want and enjoy naughty, cheap food (fun sex with hot, smoldering guys who are not husband material) even when they can afford organic, locally farmed everything (a good quality long-term mate).

Now, I agree that moderation and self control is important. Which is why it makes sense to differentiate between the woman who's had several STDs, abortions, and children outside of marriage from one who responsibly enjoyed herself before selecting someone appropriate from a mult-dimensional point of view for marriage.

But if you are too risk averse about this, you'll end up with a woman who just doesn't like sex all that much. Many men learn this the hard way.

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I am writing a screenplay called the whores of DCUM. Anyone want to tell their story on camera?

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For the same of hunanity, I really hope al of the responses attacking posters with high numbers were written by the same (obviousky bitter) person.