Confessions

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I wish my husband would die so I could have the big life insurance policy and never have to deal with him again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Since I had my son a few years ago, I have mostly been a SAHM (minus a one year stint back to work) not because I love being home with my kid but more as an escape from being in a career I hate. I'd rather be working doing something I love but can't figure out what that is.

At the same time, I have a wonderful husband but some days I resent that he's not willing to work more hours in a higher paying job (he makes about $150K now) so that I don't have pressure to go back to a job I hate in order for us to be able to afford the life that we've become accustomed to on two incomes. He's very smart and has a high(er) earning potential than what he makes now, but he just doesn't want to do it. So, my life is a daily struggle between being a temporary SAHM but never really getting into it because I always have the need/pressure to go back to my dreaded career hanging over my head, though I find constant excuses as to why I can't apply for jobs I see or am very lame about following up on them. Meanwhile, we are watching our savings start to dwindle which makes me feel horrible as well. I feel very jealous of people I know whose husbands make tons of money while they stay home and play with their kids with no pressure to work and can still go on vacations, drive nice cars, etc. I also feel very envious of moms who don't have a lot of trouble going back to work after kids because they love their jobs. I so wish that was me.

DH is so wonderful I feel awful even writing that stuff because I know he'd be very hurt if he knew I felt resentment in this way (and more that I wished him to be a money-making machine for our family) but I realized one day recently that this is what I truly feel sometimes.

This struck me, because I confess that I hate my job and only stay in it, making about $170k a year, because I want to support my family in the style they have become accustomed. If I worked more hours -- like some others do at my work place -- I could make $350k. My wife (who works PT) would like me to make more but also complains that I am often not around and when I aam home I am often not in a pleasant mood. I don't think she cares that this job is killing me. I keep thinking that if she wanted the big money she should have gone to law school, gotten the law firm job, worked the hours to make partner and then continue to work at the firm, instead of expecting me to just bring it home. I wish I could be a SAHD. I think I am going to leave my job and let the chisp fall where they may.

Sounds like you made some bad decisions buddy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I confess that I suspect at least some of the lesbian lust threads were written by men.

I was part of it and 100% woman!!!!

Oh, I believe you. . . . I just know that lesbian fantasies rate up there pretty high for lots of men. I wouldn't be surprised if some men were adding to the mix. At the same time, I know they rate high for women too. More power to you, sister!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no respect for SAHMs. I can barely disguise my disgust.

The majority look bored and checked out even though they think they are projecting the perfect happy SAHM imagine.

I don't feel bad for them when their husbands are asking what are they dong all day...I wonder the same thing. Their houses are a mess and their kids are not well behaved and the are mostly running around to moms groups and classes so they can avoid actually having one on one interaction with their child.

I don't feel bad when their husbands of 10+ years cheat or leave them. What do they expect? They spend 10 years going to mom's groups and PTAs and gossiping and worrying about mommy drama. Do you really think your husband gives a crap about that shit? They are bored senseless by it and see you a boring blob after a while of listening to you complain about it and couple that with the only other conversation you can come up with is the litany of activities you are enrolling junior in this year.

I can and do "do it all". Work as a successful professional, keep a nice house, cook meals, have a happy family, have well behaved children. If I can do it, I expect others to be able to do it.

I work. I have no desire to further the "mommy wars," and in fact I wish everyone would read Miriam Peskowitz's "The Truth Behind te Mommy Wars" and stop fighting. But. . . . I think PP is deluded if she thinks SAHMs are any more boring than WMs whose conversation is dominated by office gossip, complaining, self-aggrandizement, or discussion of TV shows. So I confess: I think many DC professionals, male and female, have a hugely exaggerated sense of self-importance.

[Anonymous]

19:20 - Applause! Applause! Standing ovation! Bravo! Very nice!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am young (22), pregnant with my second child by 2 different men, not married (soon to be engaged I am suspecting!), work full time, live pretty much paycheck to paycheck, rent the upstairs of my grandmothers old house and have 3 bedrooms, 1 1/2 bath and a big beautiful yard (uncle lives downstairs-but never see or hear from him), have no college education (and won't until the newest baby gets a little older), send my DD to a great private daycare acadamy for working lower income families (you couldn't tell this school from a school you would pay 17k a year for),and yet am happier and MORE GRATEFUL than 98% of these sahm and 1.2 mil dollar home owning moms!! What is with you guys? You have children, be blessed. Who cares if you work or sah? You do what it takes to care for your kids and everyone has different means of doing that! Just be lucky and thankful!!! I love my life and no matter how much it may be frustrating or trying to work and juggle kids and bills and everything else I can't wait ot have more. It's about LOVE-not money or status. Maybe all of you are the ones that shouldn't have kid, as ungrateful as you are. YOU MAKE ME SICK!

So you're happy and sick at the same time-amazing. From your post it just sounded like you were slutty and delusional at the same time-I'm glad I read your whole post through.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no respect for SAHMs. I can barely disguise my disgust.

The majority look bored and checked out even though they think they are projecting the perfect happy SAHM imagine.

I don't feel bad for them when their husbands are asking what are they dong all day...I wonder the same thing. Their houses are a mess and their kids are not well behaved and the are mostly running around to moms groups and classes so they can avoid actually having one on one interaction with their child.

I don't feel bad when their husbands of 10+ years cheat or leave them. What do they expect? They spend 10 years going to mom's groups and PTAs and gossiping and worrying about mommy drama. Do you really think your husband gives a crap about that shit? They are bored senseless by it and see you a boring blob after a while of listening to you complain about it and couple that with the only other conversation you can come up with is the litany of activities you are enrolling junior in this year.

I can and do "do it all". Work as a successful professional, keep a nice house, cook meals, have a happy family, have well behaved children. If I can do it, I expect others to be able to do it.

I work. I have no desire to further the "mommy wars," and in fact I wish everyone would read Miriam Peskowitz's "The Truth Behind te Mommy Wars" and stop fighting. But. . . . I think PP is deluded if she thinks SAHMs are any more boring than WMs whose conversation is dominated by office gossip, complaining, self-aggrandizement, or discussion of TV shows. So I confess: I think many DC professionals, male and female, have a hugely exaggerated sense of self-importance.

I have no desire to further the mommy wars.... but I'm gonna.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am young (22), pregnant with my second child by 2 different men, not married (soon to be engaged I am suspecting!), work full time, live pretty much paycheck to paycheck, rent the upstairs of my grandmothers old house and have 3 bedrooms, 1 1/2 bath and a big beautiful yard (uncle lives downstairs-but never see or hear from him), have no college education (and won't until the newest baby gets a little older), send my DD to a great private daycare acadamy for working lower income families (you couldn't tell this school from a school you would pay 17k a year for),and yet am happier and MORE GRATEFUL than 98% of these sahm and 1.2 mil dollar home owning moms!! What is with you guys? You have children, be blessed. Who cares if you work or sah? You do what it takes to care for your kids and everyone has different means of doing that! Just be lucky and thankful!!! I love my life and no matter how much it may be frustrating or trying to work and juggle kids and bills and everything else I can't wait ot have more. It's about LOVE-not money or status. Maybe all of you are the ones that shouldn't have kid, as ungrateful as you are. YOU MAKE ME SICK!

So you're happy and sick at the same time-amazing. From your post it just sounded like you were slutty and delusional at the same time-I'm glad I read your whole post through.

No no, read deeper - she's happy. God damn it. I know, it's easy to miss through the resentfulness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no respect for SAHMs. I can barely disguise my disgust.

The majority look bored and checked out even though they think they are projecting the perfect happy SAHM imagine.

I don't feel bad for them when their husbands are asking what are they dong all day...I wonder the same thing. Their houses are a mess and their kids are not well behaved and the are mostly running around to moms groups and classes so they can avoid actually having one on one interaction with their child.

I don't feel bad when their husbands of 10+ years cheat or leave them. What do they expect? They spend 10 years going to mom's groups and PTAs and gossiping and worrying about mommy drama. Do you really think your husband gives a crap about that shit? They are bored senseless by it and see you a boring blob after a while of listening to you complain about it and couple that with the only other conversation you can come up with is the litany of activities you are enrolling junior in this year.

I can and do "do it all". Work as a successful professional, keep a nice house, cook meals, have a happy family, have well behaved children. If I can do it, I expect others to be able to do it.

I work. I have no desire to further the "mommy wars," and in fact I wish everyone would read Miriam Peskowitz's "The Truth Behind te Mommy Wars" and stop fighting. But. . . . I think PP is deluded if she thinks SAHMs are any more boring than WMs whose conversation is dominated by office gossip, complaining, self-aggrandizement, or discussion of TV shows. So I confess: I think many DC professionals, male and female, have a hugely exaggerated sense of self-importance.

I have no desire to further the mommy wars.... but I'm gonna.

But I'm not, because I work. I'm implicating my own side here. I just don't understand why we think our conversation is so much more interesting than that of SAHMs.

And if you don't think most DC professionals have an exaggerated sense of their own importance, you haven't lived here very long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no respect for SAHMs. I can barely disguise my disgust.

The majority look bored and checked out even though they think they are projecting the perfect happy SAHM imagine.

I don't feel bad for them when their husbands are asking what are they dong all day...I wonder the same thing. Their houses are a mess and their kids are not well behaved and the are mostly running around to moms groups and classes so they can avoid actually having one on one interaction with their child.

I don't feel bad when their husbands of 10+ years cheat or leave them. What do they expect? They spend 10 years going to mom's groups and PTAs and gossiping and worrying about mommy drama. Do you really think your husband gives a crap about that shit? They are bored senseless by it and see you a boring blob after a while of listening to you complain about it and couple that with the only other conversation you can come up with is the litany of activities you are enrolling junior in this year.

I can and do "do it all". Work as a successful professional, keep a nice house, cook meals, have a happy family, have well behaved children. If I can do it, I expect others to be able to do it.

I work. I have no desire to further the "mommy wars," and in fact I wish everyone would read Miriam Peskowitz's "The Truth Behind te Mommy Wars" and stop fighting. But. . . . I think PP is deluded if she thinks SAHMs are any more boring than WMs whose conversation is dominated by office gossip, complaining, self-aggrandizement, or discussion of TV shows. So I confess: I think many DC professionals, male and female, have a hugely exaggerated sense of self-importance.

I have no desire to further the mommy wars.... but I'm gonna.

But I'm not, because I work. I'm implicating my own side here. I just don't understand why we think our conversation is so much more interesting than that of SAHMs.

And if you don't think most DC professionals have an exaggerated sense of their own importance, you haven't lived here very long.

And thus you have missed the point completely. Carry on.

[Anonymous]

You people are funny. You create a thread where people can confess their inner thoughts and instead of doing the same and offering support, you come here to judge and defend yourself from people that weren't even attacking you personally. What started as a fun thread to read and kinda see that we all have wierd thoughts sometimes became an ugly source of attacking others to feel better about your own life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no respect for SAHMs. I can barely disguise my disgust.

The majority look bored and checked out even though they think they are projecting the perfect happy SAHM imagine.

I don't feel bad for them when their husbands are asking what are they dong all day...I wonder the same thing. Their houses are a mess and their kids are not well behaved and the are mostly running around to moms groups and classes so they can avoid actually having one on one interaction with their child.

I don't feel bad when their husbands of 10+ years cheat or leave them. What do they expect? They spend 10 years going to mom's groups and PTAs and gossiping and worrying about mommy drama. Do you really think your husband gives a crap about that shit? They are bored senseless by it and see you a boring blob after a while of listening to you complain about it and couple that with the only other conversation you can come up with is the litany of activities you are enrolling junior in this year.

I can and do "do it all". Work as a successful professional, keep a nice house, cook meals, have a happy family, have well behaved children. If I can do it, I expect others to be able to do it.

I work. I have no desire to further the "mommy wars," and in fact I wish everyone would read Miriam Peskowitz's "The Truth Behind te Mommy Wars" and stop fighting. But. . . . I think PP is deluded if she thinks SAHMs are any more boring than WMs whose conversation is dominated by office gossip, complaining, self-aggrandizement, or discussion of TV shows. So I confess: I think many DC professionals, male and female, have a hugely exaggerated sense of self-importance.

I have no desire to further the mommy wars.... but I'm gonna.

But I'm not, because I work. I'm implicating my own side here. I just don't understand why we think our conversation is so much more interesting than that of SAHMs.

And if you don't think most DC professionals have an exaggerated sense of their own importance, you haven't lived here very long.

Actually, I think YOU have missed the point. But please, do continue to feel superior to SAHMs.

And thus you have missed the point completely. Carry on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am young (22), pregnant with my second child by 2 different men, not married (soon to be engaged I am suspecting!), work full time, live pretty much paycheck to paycheck, rent the upstairs of my grandmothers old house and have 3 bedrooms, 1 1/2 bath and a big beautiful yard (uncle lives downstairs-but never see or hear from him), have no college education (and won't until the newest baby gets a little older), send my DD to a great private daycare acadamy for working lower income families (you couldn't tell this school from a school you would pay 17k a year for),and yet am happier and MORE GRATEFUL than 98% of these sahm and 1.2 mil dollar home owning moms!! What is with you guys? You have children, be blessed. Who cares if you work or sah? You do what it takes to care for your kids and everyone has different means of doing that! Just be lucky and thankful!!! I love my life and no matter how much it may be frustrating or trying to work and juggle kids and bills and everything else I can't wait ot have more. It's about LOVE-not money or status. Maybe all of you are the ones that shouldn't have kid, as ungrateful as you are. YOU MAKE ME SICK!

So you're happy and sick at the same time-amazing*. From your post it just sounded like you were slutty and delusional at the same time**-I'm glad I read your whole post through.

* She can be happy with her life but not happy with people on this forum. One thing has nothing to do with the other.

** Really? Was that REALLY necessary?

[Anonymous]

i have a crush on a dad of a kid in my kid's class.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, but she had me until she said all the other people who's lives were different from her own made her sick-it was a great post up until then. So I called her on it-sue me. She doesn't sound happy, she sounds jealous.