Parents who are overwhelmed with one or two kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought of this thread again as my two teen daughters continue to struggle/compete over our love and attention. No matter what we do, someone is not happy about it. It is impossible for my husband and I to make everyone happy. And we have comfortable finances and are very involved parents. I am so upset and stressed out and I see no end in sight.

You and your husband should talk to a therapist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you a SAHM?

Op here - no I work full time. And yes I realize for the most part my kids are easy but kids, especially newborns through toddler years are all sort of the same. They demand a lot and are physically taxing.

Again I would never say this out loud (hence the anonymous board post) but I still think. I have done solo trips and outings with my kids since they were babies.

Well good for you, you win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you a SAHM?

Op here - no I work full time. And yes I realize for the most part my kids are easy but kids, especially newborns through toddler years are all sort of the same. They demand a lot and are physically taxing.

Again I would never say this out loud (hence the anonymous board post) but I still think. I have done solo trips and outings with my kids since they were babies.

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OMG. We have two kids and we both worked full time. We had an 18mo and an infant.... who would not sleep for more than 50 minutes at a time. It's all a blur a decade later, but i think i have permanent memory loss from the lack of sleep. It was so incredibly challenging. Some moms end up being so sleep deprived that it would be illegal for POWs to be treated that way. A it turned out, I had two very very VERY very active fun loving girls. They loved life and being active and were non stop bundles of energy. Which was great! But also overwhelming.

Your kids have meek personalities. That's fine, the world needs followers. And clearly your meek proposition shows how clueless you are. Or are just a bored troll.

[Anonymous]

I wonder how this smunt is doing with the snow days!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so jealous of people with easy kids. You have no idea how good you have it and are often so smug about your parenting.

I don't actually think they have easy kids. I think they are just neglectful parents. All kids have their challenges. A parent who is like "oh my kid is pretty set it and forget it" is just a bad parent. Maybe if they have a good co-parent or really involved grandparents or an excellent nanny, it will shake out okay in the end. But it's not so much that their kids are easy as that they just aren't trying that hard at parenting.

Like haven't you ever had a coworker who was like "oh this job is so easy" but then you realize that actually they just don't do it very well? I worked with a woman like this when I was an associate editor and her job was easy because she made a lot of mistakes but was unaware of them and didn't care when supervisors caught them and were like "please do this again." Eventually she got fired, but in the meantime, she though her job was really simple.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m so jealous of people with easy kids. You have no idea how good you have it and are often so smug about your parenting.

I don't actually think they have easy kids. I think they are just neglectful parents. All kids have their challenges. A parent who is like "oh my kid is pretty set it and forget it" is just a bad parent. Maybe if they have a good co-parent or really involved grandparents or an excellent nanny, it will shake out okay in the end. But it's not so much that their kids are easy as that they just aren't trying that hard at parenting.

Like haven't you ever had a coworker who was like "oh this job is so easy" but then you realize that actually they just don't do it very well? I worked with a woman like this when I was an associate editor and her job was easy because she made a lot of mistakes but was unaware of them and didn't care when supervisors caught them and were like "please do this again." Eventually she got fired, but in the meantime, she though her job was really simple.

I am sure there is some of that, but I legit have kids that run the gamut between easy and hell on wheels. Easy remembers her homework, brushes her teeth, spontaneously practices her instrument, goes to bed on time, etc. Hell on Wheels does not do any of these things without a full military campaign.