Parents who are overwhelmed with one or two kids

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand how it can be so difficult with just one or two kid. I have 3 and at one point had a newborn, 3 year old and 4 year old. I did 75% of things solo when DH was in the office.

Every time one of my kids is at a playdate or with friends and I only have 2 kids it feels like I have all this extra time and it’s so easy.

I feel bad and would never vocalize this since most of my friends have only 1 or 2 kids but whenever they complain at how hard it is I am always so confused. I don’t find 3 very difficult either and have always wanted more but that probably won’t happen.

[Anonymous]

Are you a SAHM?

[Anonymous]

Different kids have different temperaments and it sounds like you have kids on the easier side. You must know the not all kids are built the same!

[Anonymous]

Having 3 & 4 kids the hardest for me.

Now, I’m four months postpartum with #8 (other kids are 14,13,11,9,6,5,2) and it’s much easier.

[Anonymous]

Good for you, hon.

[Anonymous]

*was

[Anonymous]

You are probably just better than everyone else or you have easy kids.

[Anonymous]

Wow, it's almost like people are different

[Anonymous]

Different kids are different. Different parents respond differently to the stimuli of parenting. Families have varying support systems and resources. Also parents can feel overwhelmed by one stage of parenting and handling another stage better -- you clearly liked/handled the newborn and toddler stage well but you may feel quite differently when you have three teens, whereas your friends who feel overwhelmed by 1-2 young kids could love that stage and privately wonder why you don't.

A good mantra for every parent when thinking about the ways in which other families may struggle is "there but for the grace of god go I." You never know how or when you may be humbled, but most of us are humbled at some point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you a SAHM?

Op here - no I work full time. And yes I realize for the most part my kids are easy but kids, especially newborns through toddler years are all sort of the same. They demand a lot and are physically taxing.

Again I would never say this out loud (hence the anonymous board post) but I still think. I have done solo trips and outings with my kids since they were babies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you a SAHM?

Op here - no I work full time. And yes I realize for the most part my kids are easy but kids, especially newborns through toddler years are all sort of the same. They demand a lot and are physically taxing.

Again I would never say this out loud (hence the anonymous board post) but I still think. I have done solo trips and outings with my kids since they were babies.

This says a lot about you.

[Anonymous]

You simply don’t know what other people have going on and it’s incredibly arrogant to think you can judge based on your limited experience.

[Anonymous]

Cookie for you! Choke it down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Having 3 & 4 kids the hardest for me.

Now, I’m four months postpartum with #8 (other kids are 14,13,11,9,6,5,2) and it’s much easier.

Let's hear from the older kids how their lives are easier with each new sibling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand how it can be so difficult with just one or two kid. I have 3 and at one point had a newborn, 3 year old and 4 year old. I did 75% of things solo when DH was in the office.

Every time one of my kids is at a playdate or with friends and I only have 2 kids it feels like I have all this extra time and it’s so easy.

I feel bad and would never vocalize this since most of my friends have only 1 or 2 kids but whenever they complain at how hard it is I am always so confused. I don’t find 3 very difficult either and have always wanted more but that probably won’t happen.

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