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Anonymous wrote:I saw on the parent fb page some parents are sending their daughters cookies and / or flowers. Is this a thing?

I assume parents were not present for Bid Day. I know of out of state moms showing up for Bid Day at Southern universities. Seems a bit much, in my view.

Kind of like when kids get accepted and there is a pic on insta of a kids bedroom with 100+ balloons, $1K of college merch and snack food that matches the school colors. Last year it seemed each post topped the prior one.

So, yeah, some parents are thrilled that their kids are now in the “top tier” of society and will send them presents that they will then hopefully post on social media so the moms can repost and brag.

Geez parents are happy their kid got into any sorority, not top tier. I sent my kid some themed cookies after initiation.

I heard that a lot of girls dropped out of rush this year, which is a real shame. Sounds like way more than usual and they started with a smaller group rushing to begin with. Looks like it will be a busy COB season.

If your kid got into the lowest tier that only got 3 girls as opposed to their usual full house would you have sent themed cookies? Maybe you would have - but I am seeing the usual tier hierarchy play out.

What I am seeing on social media is just so eye opening…and depressing. I feel so bad for the kids with everything so in your face on social media. And from what I am seeing the parents are the worst.

I am also seeing tons of posts from kids who were just accepted into college listing all of the sororities in their girls school begging for letters of recommendation. It’s January... 😳
And their kid is not yet in college.

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Anonymous wrote:I saw on the parent fb page some parents are sending their daughters cookies and / or flowers. Is this a thing?

I assume parents were not present for Bid Day. I know of out of state moms showing up for Bid Day at Southern universities. Seems a bit much, in my view.

Kind of like when kids get accepted and there is a pic on insta of a kids bedroom with 100+ balloons, $1K of college merch and snack food that matches the school colors. Last year it seemed each post topped the prior one.

So, yeah, some parents are thrilled that their kids are now in the “top tier” of society and will send them presents that they will then hopefully post on social media so the moms can repost and brag.

Geez parents are happy their kid got into any sorority, not top tier. I sent my kid some themed cookies after initiation.

I heard that a lot of girls dropped out of rush this year, which is a real shame. Sounds like way more than usual and they started with a smaller group rushing to begin with. Looks like it will be a busy COB season.

If your kid got into the lowest tier that only got 3 girls as opposed to their usual full house would you have sent themed cookies? Maybe you would have - but I am seeing the usual tier hierarchy play out.

What I am seeing on social media is just so eye opening…and depressing. I feel so bad for the kids with everything so in your face on social media. And from what I am seeing the parents are the worst.

I am also seeing tons of posts from kids who were just accepted into college listing all of the sororities in their girls school begging for letters of recommendation. It’s January... 😳
And their kid is not yet in college.

Where do you live?! We live in DC and no one does this. I saw one friend from home ask for letters for Alabama a few years ago but that’s it.

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Anonymous wrote:I saw on the parent fb page some parents are sending their daughters cookies and / or flowers. Is this a thing?

I assume parents were not present for Bid Day. I know of out of state moms showing up for Bid Day at Southern universities. Seems a bit much, in my view.

Kind of like when kids get accepted and there is a pic on insta of a kids bedroom with 100+ balloons, $1K of college merch and snack food that matches the school colors. Last year it seemed each post topped the prior one.

So, yeah, some parents are thrilled that their kids are now in the “top tier” of society and will send them presents that they will then hopefully post on social media so the moms can repost and brag.

Geez parents are happy their kid got into any sorority, not top tier. I sent my kid some themed cookies after initiation.

I heard that a lot of girls dropped out of rush this year, which is a real shame. Sounds like way more than usual and they started with a smaller group rushing to begin with. Looks like it will be a busy COB season.

If your kid got into the lowest tier that only got 3 girls as opposed to their usual full house would you have sent themed cookies? Maybe you would have - but I am seeing the usual tier hierarchy play out.

What I am seeing on social media is just so eye opening…and depressing. I feel so bad for the kids with everything so in your face on social media. And from what I am seeing the parents are the worst.

I am also seeing tons of posts from kids who were just accepted into college listing all of the sororities in their girls school begging for letters of recommendation. It’s January... 😳
And their kid is not yet in college.

These types of parents are nuts!! Omg

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Anonymous wrote:I saw on the parent fb page some parents are sending their daughters cookies and / or flowers. Is this a thing?

I assume parents were not present for Bid Day. I know of out of state moms showing up for Bid Day at Southern universities. Seems a bit much, in my view.

Kind of like when kids get accepted and there is a pic on insta of a kids bedroom with 100+ balloons, $1K of college merch and snack food that matches the school colors. Last year it seemed each post topped the prior one.

So, yeah, some parents are thrilled that their kids are now in the “top tier” of society and will send them presents that they will then hopefully post on social media so the moms can repost and brag.

Geez parents are happy their kid got into any sorority, not top tier. I sent my kid some themed cookies after initiation.

I heard that a lot of girls dropped out of rush this year, which is a real shame. Sounds like way more than usual and they started with a smaller group rushing to begin with. Looks like it will be a busy COB season.

If your kid got into the lowest tier that only got 3 girls as opposed to their usual full house would you have sent themed cookies? Maybe you would have - but I am seeing the usual tier hierarchy play out.

What I am seeing on social media is just so eye opening…and depressing. I feel so bad for the kids with everything so in your face on social media. And from what I am seeing the parents are the worst.

I am also seeing tons of posts from kids who were just accepted into college listing all of the sororities in their girls school begging for letters of recommendation. It’s January... 😳
And their kid is not yet in college.

These types of parents are nuts!! Omg

I will add I would send my kid cookies and flowers no matter where she ended up! I was at the top sorority at my school btw but I could care less where my daughter would end up if she was happy!

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Anonymous wrote:I saw on the parent fb page some parents are sending their daughters cookies and / or flowers. Is this a thing?

I assume parents were not present for Bid Day. I know of out of state moms showing up for Bid Day at Southern universities. Seems a bit much, in my view.

Kind of like when kids get accepted and there is a pic on insta of a kids bedroom with 100+ balloons, $1K of college merch and snack food that matches the school colors. Last year it seemed each post topped the prior one.

So, yeah, some parents are thrilled that their kids are now in the “top tier” of society and will send them presents that they will then hopefully post on social media so the moms can repost and brag.

Geez parents are happy their kid got into any sorority, not top tier. I sent my kid some themed cookies after initiation.

I heard that a lot of girls dropped out of rush this year, which is a real shame. Sounds like way more than usual and they started with a smaller group rushing to begin with. Looks like it will be a busy COB season.

If your kid got into the lowest tier that only got 3 girls as opposed to their usual full house would you have sent themed cookies? Maybe you would have - but I am seeing the usual tier hierarchy play out.

What I am seeing on social media is just so eye opening…and depressing. I feel so bad for the kids with everything so in your face on social media. And from what I am seeing the parents are the worst.

I am also seeing tons of posts from kids who were just accepted into college listing all of the sororities in their girls school begging for letters of recommendation. It’s January... 😳
And their kid is not yet in college.

These types of parents are nuts!! Omg

+1. It is the southern moms who think they are Kardashians, who are trying to perpetuate this toxic BS, living vicariously through their daughter/s.

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Anonymous wrote:I saw on the parent fb page some parents are sending their daughters cookies and / or flowers. Is this a thing?

I assume parents were not present for Bid Day. I know of out of state moms showing up for Bid Day at Southern universities. Seems a bit much, in my view.

Kind of like when kids get accepted and there is a pic on insta of a kids bedroom with 100+ balloons, $1K of college merch and snack food that matches the school colors. Last year it seemed each post topped the prior one.

So, yeah, some parents are thrilled that their kids are now in the “top tier” of society and will send them presents that they will then hopefully post on social media so the moms can repost and brag.

Geez parents are happy their kid got into any sorority, not top tier. I sent my kid some themed cookies after initiation.

I heard that a lot of girls dropped out of rush this year, which is a real shame. Sounds like way more than usual and they started with a smaller group rushing to begin with. Looks like it will be a busy COB season.

If your kid got into the lowest tier that only got 3 girls as opposed to their usual full house would you have sent themed cookies? Maybe you would have - but I am seeing the usual tier hierarchy play out.

What I am seeing on social media is just so eye opening…and depressing. I feel so bad for the kids with everything so in your face on social media. And from what I am seeing the parents are the worst.

I am also seeing tons of posts from kids who were just accepted into college listing all of the sororities in their girls school begging for letters of recommendation. It’s January... 😳
And their kid is not yet in college.

These types of parents are nuts!! Omg

I will add I would send my kid cookies and flowers no matter where she ended up! I was at the top sorority at my school btw but I could care less where my daughter would end up if she was happy!

Former sorority member here. Apparently a top 3 in the country too, which I never know. Sending flowers and cookies was def not a thing when I went through rush/ initiation. And, frankly, it's weird.

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Anonymous wrote:I saw on the parent fb page some parents are sending their daughters cookies and / or flowers. Is this a thing?

I assume parents were not present for Bid Day. I know of out of state moms showing up for Bid Day at Southern universities. Seems a bit much, in my view.

Kind of like when kids get accepted and there is a pic on insta of a kids bedroom with 100+ balloons, $1K of college merch and snack food that matches the school colors. Last year it seemed each post topped the prior one.

So, yeah, some parents are thrilled that their kids are now in the “top tier” of society and will send them presents that they will then hopefully post on social media so the moms can repost and brag.

Geez parents are happy their kid got into any sorority, not top tier. I sent my kid some themed cookies after initiation.

I heard that a lot of girls dropped out of rush this year, which is a real shame. Sounds like way more than usual and they started with a smaller group rushing to begin with. Looks like it will be a busy COB season.

If your kid got into the lowest tier that only got 3 girls as opposed to their usual full house would you have sent themed cookies? Maybe you would have - but I am seeing the usual tier hierarchy play out.

What I am seeing on social media is just so eye opening…and depressing. I feel so bad for the kids with everything so in your face on social media. And from what I am seeing the parents are the worst.

I am also seeing tons of posts from kids who were just accepted into college listing all of the sororities in their girls school begging for letters of recommendation. It’s January... 😳
And their kid is not yet in college.

These types of parents are nuts!! Omg

I will add I would send my kid cookies and flowers no matter where she ended up! I was at the top sorority at my school btw but I could care less where my daughter would end up if she was happy!

Former sorority member here. Apparently a top 3 in the country too, which I never know. Sending flowers and cookies was def not a thing when I went through rush/ initiation. And, frankly, it's weird.

PP I also did not know it was a thing but I would do it if that’s what others were doing! Ha

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Anonymous wrote:I saw on the parent fb page some parents are sending their daughters cookies and / or flowers. Is this a thing?

I assume parents were not present for Bid Day. I know of out of state moms showing up for Bid Day at Southern universities. Seems a bit much, in my view.

Kind of like when kids get accepted and there is a pic on insta of a kids bedroom with 100+ balloons, $1K of college merch and snack food that matches the school colors. Last year it seemed each post topped the prior one.

So, yeah, some parents are thrilled that their kids are now in the “top tier” of society and will send them presents that they will then hopefully post on social media so the moms can repost and brag.

Geez parents are happy their kid got into any sorority, not top tier. I sent my kid some themed cookies after initiation.

I heard that a lot of girls dropped out of rush this year, which is a real shame. Sounds like way more than usual and they started with a smaller group rushing to begin with. Looks like it will be a busy COB season.

If your kid got into the lowest tier that only got 3 girls as opposed to their usual full house would you have sent themed cookies? Maybe you would have - but I am seeing the usual tier hierarchy play out.

What I am seeing on social media is just so eye opening…and depressing. I feel so bad for the kids with everything so in your face on social media. And from what I am seeing the parents are the worst.

I am also seeing tons of posts from kids who were just accepted into college listing all of the sororities in their girls school begging for letters of recommendation. It’s January... 😳
And their kid is not yet in college.

These types of parents are nuts!! Omg

+1. It is the southern moms who think they are Kardashians, who are trying to perpetuate this toxic BS, living vicariously through their daughter/s.

PP- all of the posts I was referring to are southern moms/southern schools (plus UVA).

I had no idea what a big deal getting into a “top tier” was.

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Anonymous wrote:I saw on the parent fb page some parents are sending their daughters cookies and / or flowers. Is this a thing?

I assume parents were not present for Bid Day. I know of out of state moms showing up for Bid Day at Southern universities. Seems a bit much, in my view.

Kind of like when kids get accepted and there is a pic on insta of a kids bedroom with 100+ balloons, $1K of college merch and snack food that matches the school colors. Last year it seemed each post topped the prior one.

So, yeah, some parents are thrilled that their kids are now in the “top tier” of society and will send them presents that they will then hopefully post on social media so the moms can repost and brag.

Geez parents are happy their kid got into any sorority, not top tier. I sent my kid some themed cookies after initiation.

I heard that a lot of girls dropped out of rush this year, which is a real shame. Sounds like way more than usual and they started with a smaller group rushing to begin with. Looks like it will be a busy COB season.

If your kid got into the lowest tier that only got 3 girls as opposed to their usual full house would you have sent themed cookies? Maybe you would have - but I am seeing the usual tier hierarchy play out.

What I am seeing on social media is just so eye opening…and depressing. I feel so bad for the kids with everything so in your face on social media. And from what I am seeing the parents are the worst.

I am also seeing tons of posts from kids who were just accepted into college listing all of the sororities in their girls school begging for letters of recommendation. It’s January... 😳
And their kid is not yet in college.

These types of parents are nuts!! Omg

I will add I would send my kid cookies and flowers no matter where she ended up! I was at the top sorority at my school btw but I could care less where my daughter would end up if she was happy!

Former sorority member here. Apparently a top 3 in the country too, which I never know. Sending flowers and cookies was def not a thing when I went through rush/ initiation. And, frankly, it's weird.

What are the top 3 national sororities?

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Anonymous wrote:This thread had me go down the rabbit hole of uva sorority IG pages. I went there in the late 90s. The pics make it look like it was exactly the same as it was then. Wasn’t my thing then and it really makes me wonder if it’s the place for DD.

Well, perhaps you can be a good parent, and tell your UVA student (like I did) about your concerns. I was President of my sorority back in the day. Huge. huge mistake. Both my kids know that. My UVA kid never pledged and never, ever went into one of the houses, which is easy because they are not on campus and only 30% participate.

Perhaps talk to your children and share your concerns instead of judging here. Lots of great students go to UVA and never participate - it's not like the big Greek houses in the south.

Meanwhile, my kid graduated UVA with highest honors and is overseas getting a doctorate. It can happen. Then law school. Imagine that.

There’s that adjective “only” again. 30% is a huge proportion. Your effort to be dismissive of its presence and influence is unconvincing… no, it’s not for everyone but the Greek system is omnipresent, influential, and mainstream. It’s probably the most popular activity on grounds — can you think of another activity that attracts 30% of the student population?

The activity of avoiding frats attracts 74 percent of the student population. So there’s your answer.

No, that’s it an answer. It sounds like some desperate attempt by you to downplay the significance of the Greek presence on grounds. So you obviously care a whole lot about the Greek system — you have this fantasy that it’s insignificant when the opposite is demonstrably true.

No one is downplaying anything. You aren't aware there are schools like Wash & Lee which is 86 percent greek. 30 percent is small. I don't even remember what my SLACs was but it was not a big deal on campus

DP. 30 percent can feel pretty huge when you’re a first year trying to find where you fit in, and 6 out of 18 girls on your hall suddenly have brand new groups of friends and tons of social opportunities. It really can feel pretty devastating for some, not necessarily because they desperately want to be in a particular sorority, but because they want to find a crowd, or because it disrupts relationships they’ve already formed. I really feel for these kids having to go through this with social media now, too.

Well they could’ve rushed and be at bid day today if they didn’t have some particular pre conceived notion of where they belonged.

Maybe they were not familiar with greek life (I wasn't when I was a freshman). I didn't really know what it was. I also didn't think, once i found out, I could afford it. There are lots of reasons people may not have rushed beyond the "preconceived notion" of the poor, oppressed sororities.

There was some very pointed bad mouthing of one sorority all week on social media. This is a healthy sorority that normally does fine, though they are “low tier”, they got three girls. They normally get a normal sized pledge class. So no I think it’s not innocent reasons, it’s badmouthing on social media which led to girls dropping rather than go to this house. Really awful, why anyone feels the need to put others down, especially those who are no threat to anyone, I have no idea.

Where are kids bad mouthing the houses? My ask is not to read behind but curious were people posting and reading it if it really influenced girls. I would not think people would want to put their name to speaking poorly of other houses?

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Anonymous wrote:This thread had me go down the rabbit hole of uva sorority IG pages. I went there in the late 90s. The pics make it look like it was exactly the same as it was then. Wasn’t my thing then and it really makes me wonder if it’s the place for DD.

Well, perhaps you can be a good parent, and tell your UVA student (like I did) about your concerns. I was President of my sorority back in the day. Huge. huge mistake. Both my kids know that. My UVA kid never pledged and never, ever went into one of the houses, which is easy because they are not on campus and only 30% participate.

Perhaps talk to your children and share your concerns instead of judging here. Lots of great students go to UVA and never participate - it's not like the big Greek houses in the south.

Meanwhile, my kid graduated UVA with highest honors and is overseas getting a doctorate. It can happen. Then law school. Imagine that.

There’s that adjective “only” again. 30% is a huge proportion. Your effort to be dismissive of its presence and influence is unconvincing… no, it’s not for everyone but the Greek system is omnipresent, influential, and mainstream. It’s probably the most popular activity on grounds — can you think of another activity that attracts 30% of the student population?

The activity of avoiding frats attracts 74 percent of the student population. So there’s your answer.

No, that’s it an answer. It sounds like some desperate attempt by you to downplay the significance of the Greek presence on grounds. So you obviously care a whole lot about the Greek system — you have this fantasy that it’s insignificant when the opposite is demonstrably true.

No one is downplaying anything. You aren't aware there are schools like Wash & Lee which is 86 percent greek. 30 percent is small. I don't even remember what my SLACs was but it was not a big deal on campus

DP. 30 percent can feel pretty huge when you’re a first year trying to find where you fit in, and 6 out of 18 girls on your hall suddenly have brand new groups of friends and tons of social opportunities. It really can feel pretty devastating for some, not necessarily because they desperately want to be in a particular sorority, but because they want to find a crowd, or because it disrupts relationships they’ve already formed. I really feel for these kids having to go through this with social media now, too.

Well they could’ve rushed and be at bid day today if they didn’t have some particular pre conceived notion of where they belonged.

Maybe they were not familiar with greek life (I wasn't when I was a freshman). I didn't really know what it was. I also didn't think, once i found out, I could afford it. There are lots of reasons people may not have rushed beyond the "preconceived notion" of the poor, oppressed sororities.

There was some very pointed bad mouthing of one sorority all week on social media. This is a healthy sorority that normally does fine, though they are “low tier”, they got three girls. They normally get a normal sized pledge class. So no I think it’s not innocent reasons, it’s badmouthing on social media which led to girls dropping rather than go to this house. Really awful, why anyone feels the need to put others down, especially those who are no threat to anyone, I have no idea.

Where are kids bad mouthing the houses? My ask is not to read behind but curious were people posting and reading it if it really influenced girls. I would not think people would want to put their name to speaking poorly of other houses?

Yik Yak

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Anonymous wrote:This thread had me go down the rabbit hole of uva sorority IG pages. I went there in the late 90s. The pics make it look like it was exactly the same as it was then. Wasn’t my thing then and it really makes me wonder if it’s the place for DD.

Well, perhaps you can be a good parent, and tell your UVA student (like I did) about your concerns. I was President of my sorority back in the day. Huge. huge mistake. Both my kids know that. My UVA kid never pledged and never, ever went into one of the houses, which is easy because they are not on campus and only 30% participate.

Perhaps talk to your children and share your concerns instead of judging here. Lots of great students go to UVA and never participate - it's not like the big Greek houses in the south.

Meanwhile, my kid graduated UVA with highest honors and is overseas getting a doctorate. It can happen. Then law school. Imagine that.

There’s that adjective “only” again. 30% is a huge proportion. Your effort to be dismissive of its presence and influence is unconvincing… no, it’s not for everyone but the Greek system is omnipresent, influential, and mainstream. It’s probably the most popular activity on grounds — can you think of another activity that attracts 30% of the student population?

The activity of avoiding frats attracts 74 percent of the student population. So there’s your answer.

No, that’s it an answer. It sounds like some desperate attempt by you to downplay the significance of the Greek presence on grounds. So you obviously care a whole lot about the Greek system — you have this fantasy that it’s insignificant when the opposite is demonstrably true.

No one is downplaying anything. You aren't aware there are schools like Wash & Lee which is 86 percent greek. 30 percent is small. I don't even remember what my SLACs was but it was not a big deal on campus

DP. 30 percent can feel pretty huge when you’re a first year trying to find where you fit in, and 6 out of 18 girls on your hall suddenly have brand new groups of friends and tons of social opportunities. It really can feel pretty devastating for some, not necessarily because they desperately want to be in a particular sorority, but because they want to find a crowd, or because it disrupts relationships they’ve already formed. I really feel for these kids having to go through this with social media now, too.

Well they could’ve rushed and be at bid day today if they didn’t have some particular pre conceived notion of where they belonged.

Maybe they were not familiar with greek life (I wasn't when I was a freshman). I didn't really know what it was. I also didn't think, once i found out, I could afford it. There are lots of reasons people may not have rushed beyond the "preconceived notion" of the poor, oppressed sororities.

There was some very pointed bad mouthing of one sorority all week on social media. This is a healthy sorority that normally does fine, though they are “low tier”, they got three girls. They normally get a normal sized pledge class. So no I think it’s not innocent reasons, it’s badmouthing on social media which led to girls dropping rather than go to this house. Really awful, why anyone feels the need to put others down, especially those who are no threat to anyone, I have no idea.

Where are kids bad mouthing the houses? My ask is not to read behind but curious were people posting and reading it if it really influenced girls. I would not think people would want to put their name to speaking poorly of other houses?

Yik Yak

That is so mean. I don’t even know what yik yak is? So mean and sad they didn’t get more than 3 girls. Makes me sad.

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Anonymous wrote:I saw on the parent fb page some parents are sending their daughters cookies and / or flowers. Is this a thing?

I assume parents were not present for Bid Day. I know of out of state moms showing up for Bid Day at Southern universities. Seems a bit much, in my view.

Kind of like when kids get accepted and there is a pic on insta of a kids bedroom with 100+ balloons, $1K of college merch and snack food that matches the school colors. Last year it seemed each post topped the prior one.

So, yeah, some parents are thrilled that their kids are now in the “top tier” of society and will send them presents that they will then hopefully post on social media so the moms can repost and brag.

Geez parents are happy their kid got into any sorority, not top tier. I sent my kid some themed cookies after initiation.

I heard that a lot of girls dropped out of rush this year, which is a real shame. Sounds like way more than usual and they started with a smaller group rushing to begin with. Looks like it will be a busy COB season.

If your kid got into the lowest tier that only got 3 girls as opposed to their usual full house would you have sent themed cookies? Maybe you would have - but I am seeing the usual tier hierarchy play out.

What I am seeing on social media is just so eye opening…and depressing. I feel so bad for the kids with everything so in your face on social media. And from what I am seeing the parents are the worst.

I am also seeing tons of posts from kids who were just accepted into college listing all of the sororities in their girls school begging for letters of recommendation. It’s January... 😳
And their kid is not yet in college.

These types of parents are nuts!! Omg

I will add I would send my kid cookies and flowers no matter where she ended up! I was at the top sorority at my school btw but I could care less where my daughter would end up if she was happy!

Former sorority member here. Apparently a top 3 in the country too, which I never know. Sending flowers and cookies was def not a thing when I went through rush/ initiation. And, frankly, it's weird.

What are the top 3 national sororities?

DP. It’s more by school to be honest. Theta is big in the south but not in the north for example. I would say in my experience the two that are top tier in most places are KKG and Tri Delta

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Anonymous wrote:This thread had me go down the rabbit hole of uva sorority IG pages. I went there in the late 90s. The pics make it look like it was exactly the same as it was then. Wasn’t my thing then and it really makes me wonder if it’s the place for DD.

Well, perhaps you can be a good parent, and tell your UVA student (like I did) about your concerns. I was President of my sorority back in the day. Huge. huge mistake. Both my kids know that. My UVA kid never pledged and never, ever went into one of the houses, which is easy because they are not on campus and only 30% participate.

Perhaps talk to your children and share your concerns instead of judging here. Lots of great students go to UVA and never participate - it's not like the big Greek houses in the south.

Meanwhile, my kid graduated UVA with highest honors and is overseas getting a doctorate. It can happen. Then law school. Imagine that.

There’s that adjective “only” again. 30% is a huge proportion. Your effort to be dismissive of its presence and influence is unconvincing… no, it’s not for everyone but the Greek system is omnipresent, influential, and mainstream. It’s probably the most popular activity on grounds — can you think of another activity that attracts 30% of the student population?

The activity of avoiding frats attracts 74 percent of the student population. So there’s your answer.

No, that’s it an answer. It sounds like some desperate attempt by you to downplay the significance of the Greek presence on grounds. So you obviously care a whole lot about the Greek system — you have this fantasy that it’s insignificant when the opposite is demonstrably true.

No one is downplaying anything. You aren't aware there are schools like Wash & Lee which is 86 percent greek. 30 percent is small. I don't even remember what my SLACs was but it was not a big deal on campus

DP. 30 percent can feel pretty huge when you’re a first year trying to find where you fit in, and 6 out of 18 girls on your hall suddenly have brand new groups of friends and tons of social opportunities. It really can feel pretty devastating for some, not necessarily because they desperately want to be in a particular sorority, but because they want to find a crowd, or because it disrupts relationships they’ve already formed. I really feel for these kids having to go through this with social media now, too.

Well they could’ve rushed and be at bid day today if they didn’t have some particular pre conceived notion of where they belonged.

Maybe they were not familiar with greek life (I wasn't when I was a freshman). I didn't really know what it was. I also didn't think, once i found out, I could afford it. There are lots of reasons people may not have rushed beyond the "preconceived notion" of the poor, oppressed sororities.

There was some very pointed bad mouthing of one sorority all week on social media. This is a healthy sorority that normally does fine, though they are “low tier”, they got three girls. They normally get a normal sized pledge class. So no I think it’s not innocent reasons, it’s badmouthing on social media which led to girls dropping rather than go to this house. Really awful, why anyone feels the need to put others down, especially those who are no threat to anyone, I have no idea.

Where are kids bad mouthing the houses? My ask is not to read behind but curious were people posting and reading it if it really influenced girls. I would not think people would want to put their name to speaking poorly of other houses?

Yik Yak

That is so mean. I don’t even know what yik yak is? So mean and sad they didn’t get more than 3 girls. Makes me sad.

I thought Yik Yak died more than 5 years ago b/c no one used? Guess not.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread had me go down the rabbit hole of uva sorority IG pages. I went there in the late 90s. The pics make it look like it was exactly the same as it was then. Wasn’t my thing then and it really makes me wonder if it’s the place for DD.

Well, perhaps you can be a good parent, and tell your UVA student (like I did) about your concerns. I was President of my sorority back in the day. Huge. huge mistake. Both my kids know that. My UVA kid never pledged and never, ever went into one of the houses, which is easy because they are not on campus and only 30% participate.

Perhaps talk to your children and share your concerns instead of judging here. Lots of great students go to UVA and never participate - it's not like the big Greek houses in the south.

Meanwhile, my kid graduated UVA with highest honors and is overseas getting a doctorate. It can happen. Then law school. Imagine that.

There’s that adjective “only” again. 30% is a huge proportion. Your effort to be dismissive of its presence and influence is unconvincing… no, it’s not for everyone but the Greek system is omnipresent, influential, and mainstream. It’s probably the most popular activity on grounds — can you think of another activity that attracts 30% of the student population?

The activity of avoiding frats attracts 74 percent of the student population. So there’s your answer.

No, that’s it an answer. It sounds like some desperate attempt by you to downplay the significance of the Greek presence on grounds. So you obviously care a whole lot about the Greek system — you have this fantasy that it’s insignificant when the opposite is demonstrably true.

No one is downplaying anything. You aren't aware there are schools like Wash & Lee which is 86 percent greek. 30 percent is small. I don't even remember what my SLACs was but it was not a big deal on campus

DP. 30 percent can feel pretty huge when you’re a first year trying to find where you fit in, and 6 out of 18 girls on your hall suddenly have brand new groups of friends and tons of social opportunities. It really can feel pretty devastating for some, not necessarily because they desperately want to be in a particular sorority, but because they want to find a crowd, or because it disrupts relationships they’ve already formed. I really feel for these kids having to go through this with social media now, too.

Well they could’ve rushed and be at bid day today if they didn’t have some particular pre conceived notion of where they belonged.

Maybe they were not familiar with greek life (I wasn't when I was a freshman). I didn't really know what it was. I also didn't think, once i found out, I could afford it. There are lots of reasons people may not have rushed beyond the "preconceived notion" of the poor, oppressed sororities.

There was some very pointed bad mouthing of one sorority all week on social media. This is a healthy sorority that normally does fine, though they are “low tier”, they got three girls. They normally get a normal sized pledge class. So no I think it’s not innocent reasons, it’s badmouthing on social media which led to girls dropping rather than go to this house. Really awful, why anyone feels the need to put others down, especially those who are no threat to anyone, I have no idea.

Where are kids bad mouthing the houses? My ask is not to read behind but curious were people posting and reading it if it really influenced girls. I would not think people would want to put their name to speaking poorly of other houses?

Yik Yak

That is so mean. I don’t even know what yik yak is? So mean and sad they didn’t get more than 3 girls. Makes me sad.

I thought Yik Yak died more than 5 years ago b/c no one used? Guess not.

Oh it’s alive and well at UVA