Tell me about redshirting your late summer/fall birthday son before Kindergarten

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

She only cares about her kid and can't stand the idea that others are doing what's best for their kids. I don't see a different at all.

Similar to how others only care about their own children? The difference is redshirted parents are taking a divergence with an underlying goal that hurts those who are not maltreating the system.

The goal is obviously not to hurt other kids, come on. And really many parenting choices "hurt" other kids. Are you advocating to shut down tutoring centers as well? Why not?

The goal does hurt other kids, no matter how pollyanish you want to be.
The tutoring centers suggestion from you is a reach but nice try.

Let’s not let pass unquestioned the assertion that being a classroom with more than a 12 month age span automatically hurts children. Mixed age classrooms have a long history and offer many benefits. Antiredshirters themselves will tell you all about how beneficial it is to a child’s development to be the youngest in the classroom, and how much they can learn from their older classmates. It helps them develop grit, right?

Those who are against redshirting, why do you want to deny these benefits to your children?

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

She only cares about her kid and can't stand the idea that others are doing what's best for their kids. I don't see a different at all.

Similar to how others only care about their own children? The difference is redshirted parents are taking a divergence with an underlying goal that hurts those who are not maltreating the system.

The goal is obviously not to hurt other kids, come on. And really many parenting choices "hurt" other kids. Are you advocating to shut down tutoring centers as well? Why not?

The goal does hurt other kids, no matter how pollyanish you want to be.
The tutoring centers suggestion from you is a reach but nice try.

Thought about as much. You just object to one tool at parents disposal to help their kids. Why is that?

You object to not creating an environment of disparity?

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

DP.
You must not be aware that there are other children in all classrooms. Perhaps you were home schooled.

I don’t see how my child who is 9.5 months older than the youngest child in her class is hurting the other children…

Either way, I worry about my kid and I let the other parents worry about the other kids.
Bye

You don’t see a lot is obvious. You aren’t “worried” about your kid, you are insecure. You aim to create a disparity to boost your kid.

You speak without knowing anything (about anything) about me and my kid. I am not insecure. One of my kids is the youngest in her grade because she is confident, secure, emotionally mature. It has zero to do with my insecurity and all to do with wanting what I believe will make my child happy

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

She only cares about her kid and can't stand the idea that others are doing what's best for their kids. I don't see a different at all.

Similar to how others only care about their own children? The difference is redshirted parents are taking a divergence with an underlying goal that hurts those who are not maltreating the system.

The goal is obviously not to hurt other kids, come on. And really many parenting choices "hurt" other kids. Are you advocating to shut down tutoring centers as well? Why not?

The goal does hurt other kids, no matter how pollyanish you want to be.
The tutoring centers suggestion from you is a reach but nice try.

Let’s not let pass unquestioned the assertion that being a classroom with more than a 12 month age span automatically hurts children. Mixed age classrooms have a long history and offer many benefits. Antiredshirters themselves will tell you all about how beneficial it is to a child’s development to be the youngest in the classroom, and how much they can learn from their older classmates. It helps them develop grit, right?

Those who are against redshirting, why do you want to deny these benefits to your children?

Where is the line drawn then? You yourself said “more than a 12 month age gap span automatically hurts children.”
There are already mixed age children in a classroom-within a year is appropriate.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

DP.
You must not be aware that there are other children in all classrooms. Perhaps you were home schooled.

I don’t see how my child who is 9.5 months older than the youngest child in her class is hurting the other children…

Either way, I worry about my kid and I let the other parents worry about the other kids.
Bye

You don’t see a lot is obvious. You aren’t “worried” about your kid, you are insecure. You aim to create a disparity to boost your kid.

You speak without knowing anything (about anything) about me and my kid. I am not insecure. One of my kids is the youngest in her grade because she is confident, secure, emotionally mature. It has zero to do with my insecurity and all to do with wanting what I believe will make my child happy

Bless your heart, you continue to tell yourself that.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

She only cares about her kid and can't stand the idea that others are doing what's best for their kids. I don't see a different at all.

Similar to how others only care about their own children? The difference is redshirted parents are taking a divergence with an underlying goal that hurts those who are not maltreating the system.

The goal is obviously not to hurt other kids, come on. And really many parenting choices "hurt" other kids. Are you advocating to shut down tutoring centers as well? Why not?

The goal does hurt other kids, no matter how pollyanish you want to be.
The tutoring centers suggestion from you is a reach but nice try.

Let’s not let pass unquestioned the assertion that being a classroom with more than a 12 month age span automatically hurts children. Mixed age classrooms have a long history and offer many benefits. Antiredshirters themselves will tell you all about how beneficial it is to a child’s development to be the youngest in the classroom, and how much they can learn from their older classmates. It helps them develop grit, right?

Those who are against redshirting, why do you want to deny these benefits to your children?

Then let 16 year olds mix with 1st, 3rd, 6th graders. Do you not have any boundaries?

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Anonymous wrote:^ Actually to amend that one of the more vocal insane anti-redshirters has admitted they have no kids and no skin in this game whatsoever. That person has no idea what they are talking about and probably just shows up to stir the pot. I wouldn't be surprised if that is the outraged PP.

DP
Your post is a red flag that you are a vocal insane whatever label you are. Walk away from your device.

Trolls stay trolling.

Guess you won’t ever leave then.

You don’t get to control other people, sorry! That’s what this whole debate is about.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

She only cares about her kid and can't stand the idea that others are doing what's best for their kids. I don't see a different at all.

Similar to how others only care about their own children? The difference is redshirted parents are taking a divergence with an underlying goal that hurts those who are not maltreating the system.

The goal is obviously not to hurt other kids, come on. And really many parenting choices "hurt" other kids. Are you advocating to shut down tutoring centers as well? Why not?

The goal does hurt other kids, no matter how pollyanish you want to be.
The tutoring centers suggestion from you is a reach but nice try.

Let’s not let pass unquestioned the assertion that being a classroom with more than a 12 month age span automatically hurts children. Mixed age classrooms have a long history and offer many benefits. Antiredshirters themselves will tell you all about how beneficial it is to a child’s development to be the youngest in the classroom, and how much they can learn from their older classmates. It helps them develop grit, right?

Those who are against redshirting, why do you want to deny these benefits to your children?

Far more negatives than this reach you’ve conjured up as a benefit.

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Anonymous wrote:^ Actually to amend that one of the more vocal insane anti-redshirters has admitted they have no kids and no skin in this game whatsoever. That person has no idea what they are talking about and probably just shows up to stir the pot. I wouldn't be surprised if that is the outraged PP.

DP
Your post is a red flag that you are a vocal insane whatever label you are. Walk away from your device.

Trolls stay trolling.

Guess you won’t ever leave then.

You don’t get to control other people, sorry! That’s what this whole debate is about.

Exactly, and now you admit you don’t control me. Not sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

She only cares about her kid and can't stand the idea that others are doing what's best for their kids. I don't see a different at all.

Similar to how others only care about their own children? The difference is redshirted parents are taking a divergence with an underlying goal that hurts those who are not maltreating the system.

The goal is obviously not to hurt other kids, come on. And really many parenting choices "hurt" other kids. Are you advocating to shut down tutoring centers as well? Why not?

The goal does hurt other kids, no matter how pollyanish you want to be.
The tutoring centers suggestion from you is a reach but nice try.

Thought about as much. You just object to one tool at parents disposal to help their kids. Why is that?

You object to not creating an environment of disparity?

But for redshirting there wouldn’t be disparity? In a private school? Ok.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^ Actually to amend that one of the more vocal insane anti-redshirters has admitted they have no kids and no skin in this game whatsoever. That person has no idea what they are talking about and probably just shows up to stir the pot. I wouldn't be surprised if that is the outraged PP.

DP
Your post is a red flag that you are a vocal insane whatever label you are. Walk away from your device.

Trolls stay trolling.

Guess you won’t ever leave then.

You don’t get to control other people, sorry! That’s what this whole debate is about.

Exactly, and now you admit you don’t control me. Not sorry.

Ok feel free to redshirt then. Like so many other parents already do.

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Anonymous wrote:^ Actually to amend that one of the more vocal insane anti-redshirters has admitted they have no kids and no skin in this game whatsoever. That person has no idea what they are talking about and probably just shows up to stir the pot. I wouldn't be surprised if that is the outraged PP.

DP
Your post is a red flag that you are a vocal insane whatever label you are. Walk away from your device.

Trolls stay trolling.

Guess you won’t ever leave then.

You don’t get to control other people, sorry! That’s what this whole debate is about.

Exactly, and now you admit you don’t control me. Not sorry.

Ok feel free to redshirt then. Like so many other parents already do.

I am a responsible person like so many other parents.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

She only cares about her kid and can't stand the idea that others are doing what's best for their kids. I don't see a different at all.

Similar to how others only care about their own children? The difference is redshirted parents are taking a divergence with an underlying goal that hurts those who are not maltreating the system.

The goal is obviously not to hurt other kids, come on. And really many parenting choices "hurt" other kids. Are you advocating to shut down tutoring centers as well? Why not?

The goal does hurt other kids, no matter how pollyanish you want to be.
The tutoring centers suggestion from you is a reach but nice try.

Thought about as much. You just object to one tool at parents disposal to help their kids. Why is that?

You object to not creating an environment of disparity?

But for redshirting there wouldn’t be disparity? In a private school? Ok.

God, you are dumb as a box of rocks.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone and everyone can say their child is emotionally delayed or maturing slower.

And? Parents with the option to redshirt don’t need to justify their choices - not to the school and not on this board.

This is about people’s personal experiences having chosen to redshirt, and whether they think it worked out for the best.

Personal choices are not brought into a classroom that affects others.

Of course they are. Every day.

That was the point. Someone said redshirting is personal implying it only affects their child, which is of course not true.

Having a kid in the class who is not ready from a social and emotional standpoint negatively affects other students, too.

All we can do is make the choices that we think will help our children learn best. And other parents have to do the same. A few posters have tried to frame redshirting as “cheating” or “not following the rules”, which is bizarre because in a private school setting it is not only explicitly allowed, it is strongly encouraged in many cases.

If you feel strongly that having redshirted kids in your class negatively affects your child, then choose a school that does not allow or encourage redshirting.

If you feel strongly that your child needs to be redshirted, then get him appropriate help.

Nope. Redshirting him worked out perfectly, with no downside at all, so why do differently? The help he needed was an extra year in the classroom, and he got it.

So, you neglected to get him help? Strange.

Yes, I “neglected” to get him help and redshirted him instead. And now he’s happy, thriving, loving school, and getting grades that indicate that he’s mastering the material very well. It’s hard to see what “help” could have done for him that an extra year of schooling didn’t. Your extreme urge to pathologize the fact that kids mature at different rates is baffling.

Good, if he is so confident and thriving, put him back in the appropriate grade that he should be in.

The arrogance here is appalling. Who appointed you czar of what is best for other peoples' kids?!

She only cares about her kid and can't stand the idea that others are doing what's best for their kids. I don't see a different at all.

Similar to how others only care about their own children? The difference is redshirted parents are taking a divergence with an underlying goal that hurts those who are not maltreating the system.

The goal is obviously not to hurt other kids, come on. And really many parenting choices "hurt" other kids. Are you advocating to shut down tutoring centers as well? Why not?

The goal does hurt other kids, no matter how pollyanish you want to be.
The tutoring centers suggestion from you is a reach but nice try.

Thought about as much. You just object to one tool at parents disposal to help their kids. Why is that?

You object to not creating an environment of disparity?

But for redshirting there wouldn’t be disparity? In a private school? Ok.

God, you are dumb as a box of rocks.

You make weak points and can’t back them up. It’s like a gift.

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Anonymous wrote:^ Actually to amend that one of the more vocal insane anti-redshirters has admitted they have no kids and no skin in this game whatsoever. That person has no idea what they are talking about and probably just shows up to stir the pot. I wouldn't be surprised if that is the outraged PP.

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Your post is a red flag that you are a vocal insane whatever label you are. Walk away from your device.

Trolls stay trolling.

Guess you won’t ever leave then.

You don’t get to control other people, sorry! That’s what this whole debate is about.

Exactly, and now you admit you don’t control me. Not sorry.

Ok feel free to redshirt then. Like so many other parents already do.

I am a responsible person like so many other parents.

And responsible people make the choices that help their children learn best, even if those choices offend internet randos.