Do men really not care about a woman’s career?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There’s one annoying woman who keeps talking about what men should like and throwing out examples of careers of her friends who objectively aren’t the “big careers” that women care about. Which actually belies the point, men don’t care about careers the same way. I agree that high school teaching is a very important societal job, but women looking to marry up probably won’t date a high school teacher while men would.

Are you a SAHM? You sound really insecure.

[Anonymous]

Career, no. I don’t care as long as she has some kind of professional job. I would not seriously date someone without a college degree even if she is hot. I’d hook up but wouldn’t be serious with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s one annoying woman who keeps talking about what men should like and throwing out examples of careers of her friends who objectively aren’t the “big careers” that women care about. Which actually belies the point, men don’t care about careers the same way. I agree that high school teaching is a very important societal job, but women looking to marry up probably won’t date a high school teacher while men would.

Are you a SAHM? You sound really insecure.

NP I agree with pp. There is very obviously a gendered component to all of this. Plenty of high achieving male professionals have educated, smart wives that make far, far less and have less demanding jobs. The opposite isn’t as common at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men do NOT care about a woman's job/career in the same way that a woman cares about a mans job/career/social status.
Women, in general, use a mans job/career/social status (either achieved or potential) as a qualifier for entering into a relationship.
They do this because the paradigm is that the man is primarily responsible for providing to her (and her children) the standard of living that she desires. A man which she believes is incapable of providing to her that standard of living is not an acceptable partner.
Men understand this and we know that women, in general, will not accept being the primary bread winner and we are selected based on our ability to provide and therefore we, in general, do NO select women based on their job/career/social status because that is not their role.
This is not "old order" thinking in as much as it is pragmatically what is happening in the marketplace between men and women.
This is NOT driven by primarily by men. Rather, women are selecting men based on their success and we understand this so we strive to achieve success at a level which will make us attractive to a woman.
Women mistakenly think that if they themselves become successful, in the same way as a man, then men will find them attractive, in the same way women find successful men attractive. In general, this is NOT the case.

I know of only 1 man that selected his wife based on her career. He was objectively a 10. He was a gymnast and very well built, but not career oriented. He chose to marry a very overweight woman that was an optometrist. He has never held a job and became overweight himself. It was literally a tradeoff. Her money for his looks (which went away real fast).

+1

[Anonymous]

I’m male and graduated from a T10 college. Feminism has ruined children and family as we once knew it. Every woman that is being truthful will tell you they wanted equality in child rearing and home responsibilities, but it’s gone too far. Men are feminized. Woman are acting like dudes. It was better 50 years ago as we now deny our biology.

[Anonymous]

You want the truth. Here it is. Steinam can yap all she wants. But this is the way women and men are made. Marilyn Monroe said:

“Don’t you know that a man being rich is like a girl being pretty? You wouldn’t marry a girl just because she’s pretty, but my goodness, doesn’t it help?”

[Anonymous]

No - they don’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m male and graduated from a T10 college. Feminism has ruined children and family as we once knew it. Every woman that is being truthful will tell you they wanted equality in child rearing and home responsibilities, but it’s gone too far. Men are feminized. Woman are acting like dudes. It was better 50 years ago as we now deny our biology.

I don't think this is true at all.

[Anonymous]

I'm so confused. So in this thread all men say that they don't care if their wives make any money, as long as they are pretty and nice. Then why do you guys complain about paying alimony after the divorce? There are so many threads about men being angry about having to support the wife after the divorce, having to split the assets, the wife not wanting to work. Isn't this what you wanted?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm so confused. So in this thread all men say that they don't care if their wives make any money, as long as they are pretty and nice. Then why do you guys complain about paying alimony after the divorce? There are so many threads about men being angry about having to support the wife after the divorce, having to split the assets, the wife not wanting to work. Isn't this what you wanted?

Easy. Because one is a wife. The other is an ex wife. Divorced guys would hate the ex wife who works too and find something to complain about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm so confused. So in this thread all men say that they don't care if their wives make any money, as long as they are pretty and nice. Then why do you guys complain about paying alimony after the divorce? There are so many threads about men being angry about having to support the wife after the divorce, having to split the assets, the wife not wanting to work. Isn't this what you wanted?

Easy. Because one is a wife. The other is an ex wife. Divorced guys would hate the ex wife who works too and find something to complain about.

So the woman is allowed not to work outside the home only if she's servicing the husband? And as soon as she's no longer usable, she needs to start supporting herself? Wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm so confused. So in this thread all men say that they don't care if their wives make any money, as long as they are pretty and nice. Then why do you guys complain about paying alimony after the divorce? There are so many threads about men being angry about having to support the wife after the divorce, having to split the assets, the wife not wanting to work. Isn't this what you wanted?

Easy. Because one is a wife. The other is an ex wife. Divorced guys would hate the ex wife who works too and find something to complain about.

So the woman is allowed not to work outside the home only if she's servicing the husband? And as soon as she's no longer usable, she needs to start supporting herself? Wow.

Welcome to the harsh truth of the world. Everyone is inherently out for themselves man or woman. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Then why do you guys complain about paying alimony after the divorce?

She’s no longer my wife, she’s not my responsibility. Oh and if she’s dating some other guy, why the hell am I subsidizing her? She’s his problem now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Then why do you guys complain about paying alimony after the divorce?

She’s no longer my wife, she’s not my responsibility. Oh and if she’s dating some other guy, why the hell am I subsidizing her? She’s his problem now.

The stories I hear about stay at home moms living in poverty with kids after divorce due to affairs and physical abuse has been amazing. I honestly think there are more women just so overwhelmed by men’s poor treatment of women who then retreat or fight against men than there are women who want feminized men. When men can’t act responsibly this often happens. Why would you want to give up your career to someone who would do this to you and your kids? Women want men who can have tempered masculinity and who can act responsibly with their masculinity not someone who is out of control with it and only thinks of themselves. After hearing story after story of what men have done to women in marriage I have stopped thinking of the US as a developed nation. And dream of living a golden girls life free from abuse by men and I was brought up by many loving responsible men. Apps and guns have made men crazy. What men liked in Trump was that he made money and had sex while still being crude and not respecting women. All the benefits of hot women and money but no responsibility to society and family. His family ran brothels and I’m sure that take on women was passed down. So now all these men get the idea that they don’t owe society and women anything and sadly it’s to their detriment as well.

[Anonymous]

You can tell how evolved a society is by how their women are treated and I don’t mean how masculinized women are but how respected women are.