Why is it "way over the top"?

[Anonymous]

I posted while ago about a pumpkin decorating party to get to know the parents in DC's school better and asked if PP's liked the invitation.

Now, reading the thread about the baby sprinkle I see people screaming "way over the top" to the poster who mentioned the blog with some pictures of a similar event.

When people say "way over the top" what do they mean? Aren't they pleased to attend a party where the host took a little time to put something meaningful together?

I enjoy making crafts, making an invitation like that doesn't take 5 minutes if you already have the file in our computer. I like getting glue and glitter on my hands. Is it really too much to have a cute topper on a cupcake at our party, or a banner with my child's name on it... a bunch of fresh flowers, a cute napkin matching the paper plates? Seriously? Too much? Who doesn't like matching cute stuff? It's once a year, why not have a yummy meal on a pretty set up table?

If we give away a plastic bag with crap from party express we're annoying but if we put a cute useful favor together with some personal touch we're "way over the top"?

I put DC's first birthday together in 3 nights. Seriously, I put DC to bed and in 3 nights I assembled the favors, the banner, made the cupcake toppers, ordered stuff online.. it was no big deal, I like doing it and for me it's easy. Then we invited people to celebrate with us and I hear that they think we exaggerated? I know for sure they're on DCUM and it breaks my heart to know that friends that I love and care about are as mean and vile like we read around here.

[Anonymous]

Don't think it's over the top. I'm crafty too and enjoying doing stuff like that. Some people don't, but they think they should. Or they want to be crafty but don't have time so they're pissed. And then again some people really do think it's too much and that our efforts are silly. Just keeping enjoying what you like to do. Most other people enjoy it too.

[Anonymous]

oops... should be "just keep enjoying..."

Don't want to set off any ridicule.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't think it's over the top. I'm crafty too and enjoying doing stuff like that. Some people don't, but they think they should. Or they want to be crafty but don't have time so they're pissed. And then again some people really do think it's too much and that our efforts are silly. Just keeping enjoying what you like to do. Most other people enjoy it too.

Thanks PP.

And don't get me wrong, our parties don't look like anything you'd pin on Pinterest or those gorgeous pics in mommy blogs that make us feel like we're such horrible moms. It's just regular cutesy stuff that bring a subtle smile when we look at.

I thought we would all be so much happier if we learned to enjoy small things in life.. Oh well...

[Anonymous]

Honestly, life is short--if there's a reason to celebrate, like having a baby--even if it is not your first, then have a party!

If someone has an artistic flair or can barely open a bag of chips--who cares?

There are way too many uptight people in DC--you can tell by the way they go on crazy, mean rants on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Is it " too much to have a cute topper on a cupcake at our party, or a banner with my child's name on it... a bunch of fresh flowers, a cute napkin matching the paper plates"?

It wouldn't be too much to do ONE of those things, but to do ALL of those things together? Yes, that's where I think it's too much. I put together my DD's 1st birthday in zero time. Literally - because we didn't celebrate it. The baby won't know. We were traveling for my job at the time.

I don't like glitter and glue and getting dirty. If you do stuff like that, I look at you and think "Wow, if you have time to do that then that is your priority over doing other things, and we have nothing in common." Also, you mentioned "cute" like four times. I HATE cute. I'm all for a goody bag with some bubbles and a kazoo or whatever, but don't need bubbles that have a label you made one night that has a picture of your DC holding a banner that says "Thanks for coming to Aiden's 2nd birthday party!" To me, that's too much.

If it makes you happy then knock yourself out. But make sure you're doing it for the right reasons - because YOU enjoy the creative side of it. Not because of what people will think of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it " too much to have a cute topper on a cupcake at our party, or a banner with my child's name on it... a bunch of fresh flowers, a cute napkin matching the paper plates"?

It wouldn't be too much to do ONE of those things, but to do ALL of those things together? Yes, that's where I think it's too much. I put together my DD's 1st birthday in zero time. Literally - because we didn't celebrate it. The baby won't know. We were traveling for my job at the time.

I don't like glitter and glue and getting dirty. If you do stuff like that, I look at you and think "Wow, if you have time to do that then that is your priority over doing other things, and we have nothing in common." Also, you mentioned "cute" like four times. I HATE cute. I'm all for a goody bag with some bubbles and a kazoo or whatever, but don't need bubbles that have a label you made one night that has a picture of your DC holding a banner that says "Thanks for coming to Aiden's 2nd birthday party!" To me, that's too much.

If it makes you happy then knock yourself out. But make sure you're doing it for the right reasons - because YOU enjoy the creative side of it. Not because of what people will think of you.

OP here. I was hating you until your last line, now I love you LOL

If you look at me you will never know I like cute stuff. I'm the person who wears work out clothes everywhere. I don't wear make up, etc but give me paper glue and glitter and I go crazy!

I like to celebrate. DC's first birthday was a celebration for us, it was a very rough year for everybody and the fact that we made it meant so much to us. I don't do things just because DC will remember. It's the feeling behind it. Will you let your child walk around in dirty clothes before they can notice it? I don't think so. That's why I don't get this argument of not celebrating the child because they won't remember it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it " too much to have a cute topper on a cupcake at our party, or a banner with my child's name on it... a bunch of fresh flowers, a cute napkin matching the paper plates"?

It wouldn't be too much to do ONE of those things, but to do ALL of those things together? Yes, that's where I think it's too much. I put together my DD's 1st birthday in zero time. Literally - because we didn't celebrate it. The baby won't know. We were traveling for my job at the time.

I don't like glitter and glue and getting dirty. If you do stuff like that, I look at you and think "Wow, if you have time to do that then that is your priority over doing other things, and we have nothing in common." Also, you mentioned "cute" like four times. I HATE cute. I'm all for a goody bag with some bubbles and a kazoo or whatever, but don't need bubbles that have a label you made one night that has a picture of your DC holding a banner that says "Thanks for coming to Aiden's 2nd birthday party!" To me, that's too much.

If it makes you happy then knock yourself out. But make sure you're doing it for the right reasons - because YOU enjoy the creative side of it. Not because of what people will think of you.

OP here. I was hating you until your last line, now I love you LOL

If you look at me you will never know I like cute stuff. I'm the person who wears work out clothes everywhere. I don't wear make up, etc but give me paper glue and glitter and I go crazy!

I like to celebrate. DC's first birthday was a celebration for us, it was a very rough year for everybody and the fact that we made it meant so much to us. I don't do things just because DC will remember. It's the feeling behind it. Will you let your child walk around in dirty clothes before they can notice it? I don't think so. That's why I don't get this argument of not celebrating the child because they won't remember it.

Hey, we had a really hard first year for us too. And it means a lot to us that we kept a human being alive for an entire year, despite being sleep-deprived. But we were out of the country and I had to work. I don't know if the baby is going to be like me, who's never - even as a kid - liked being dirty, or not. I hope she is, but if she likes rolling around in mud I'll find a way to deal with it. Not really sure what that has to do with anything. Look if you want to do all this stuff, then knock yourself out. All I'm saying is, it's not for me, and I hope you're not doing it looking for validation or whatever. You know, if you invite my kid (so by extension, me) to some pumpkins in the park event, we'll go and I'll thank you and tell you everything is beautiful. But I probably won't appreciate it in an equal amount to how much effort you put in. I won't take tons of pictures and make sure to include the pumpkin toppers in them, I won't gush to my mom about how beautiful it all was, and I won't be pulling you aside to say you should be an art teacher or party planner for kids.

We're just different, and that's okay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it " too much to have a cute topper on a cupcake at our party, or a banner with my child's name on it... a bunch of fresh flowers, a cute napkin matching the paper plates"?

It wouldn't be too much to do ONE of those things, but to do ALL of those things together? Yes, that's where I think it's too much. I put together my DD's 1st birthday in zero time. Literally - because we didn't celebrate it. The baby won't know. We were traveling for my job at the time.

I don't like glitter and glue and getting dirty. If you do stuff like that, I look at you and think "Wow, if you have time to do that then that is your priority over doing other things, and we have nothing in common." Also, you mentioned "cute" like four times. I HATE cute. I'm all for a goody bag with some bubbles and a kazoo or whatever, but don't need bubbles that have a label you made one night that has a picture of your DC holding a banner that says "Thanks for coming to Aiden's 2nd birthday party!" To me, that's too much.

If it makes you happy then knock yourself out. But make sure you're doing it for the right reasons - because YOU enjoy the creative side of it. Not because of what people will think of you.

OP here. I was hating you until your last line, now I love you LOL

If you look at me you will never know I like cute stuff. I'm the person who wears work out clothes everywhere. I don't wear make up, etc but give me paper glue and glitter and I go crazy!

I like to celebrate. DC's first birthday was a celebration for us, it was a very rough year for everybody and the fact that we made it meant so much to us. I don't do things just because DC will remember. It's the feeling behind it. Will you let your child walk around in dirty clothes before they can notice it? I don't think so. That's why I don't get this argument of not celebrating the child because they won't remember it.

Hey, we had a really hard first year for us too. And it means a lot to us that we kept a human being alive for an entire year, despite being sleep-deprived. But we were out of the country and I had to work. I don't know if the baby is going to be like me, who's never - even as a kid - liked being dirty, or not. I hope she is, but if she likes rolling around in mud I'll find a way to deal with it. Not really sure what that has to do with anything. Look if you want to do all this stuff, then knock yourself out. All I'm saying is, it's not for me, and I hope you're not doing it looking for validation or whatever. You know, if you invite my kid (so by extension, me) to some pumpkins in the park event, we'll go and I'll thank you and tell you everything is beautiful. But I probably won't appreciate it in an equal amount to how much effort you put in. I won't take tons of pictures and make sure to include the pumpkin toppers in them, I won't gush to my mom about how beautiful it all was, and I won't be pulling you aside to say you should be an art teacher or party planner for kids.

We're just different, and that's okay.

You missed the point

I said in the very beginning that I LIKE doing it, it's no trouble at all and I do it as a part of the celebration. I don't need anybody validating anything. It just makes me said to know that people I love and care about are saying it's "over the top". That's all.

[Anonymous]

OP - Sounds like you are filling a void in your life with busy work.

[Anonymous]

OP- Keep doing what YOU enjoy!!! FWIW: I think it sounds great! And do NOT care what others think. Life is too short. Do not sweat the small stuff and continue to be crafty. FYI: I teach pre-school and I totally "get you" (especially the glitter part

[Anonymous]

I would not allow someone to throw a second baby shower for me but I have attended them and enjoyed myself. I am not crafty but I do appreciate an attractive and clever theme party. I think the blue and yellow sprinkle setup fits that bill and would have complimented the hostess. If someone else wants to put the time and effort into making something special, more power to them!

[Anonymous]

It's fun, not over the top. Do it and enjoy it, OP. If anyone has negative thoughts about it, who cares?! They just don't get why you would enjoy doing it. Everyone has their things they like to do, and theirs might be something you don't like or find boring. Don't worry about it! Fwiw, I appreciate all that stuff and like doing kid crafts and using glitter and glue!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it " too much to have a cute topper on a cupcake at our party, or a banner with my child's name on it... a bunch of fresh flowers, a cute napkin matching the paper plates"?

It wouldn't be too much to do ONE of those things, but to do ALL of those things together? Yes, that's where I think it's too much. I put together my DD's 1st birthday in zero time. Literally - because we didn't celebrate it. The baby won't know. We were traveling for my job at the time.

I don't like glitter and glue and getting dirty. If you do stuff like that, I look at you and think "Wow, if you have time to do that then that is your priority over doing other things, and we have nothing in common." Also, you mentioned "cute" like four times. I HATE cute. I'm all for a goody bag with some bubbles and a kazoo or whatever, but don't need bubbles that have a label you made one night that has a picture of your DC holding a banner that says "Thanks for coming to Aiden's 2nd birthday party!" To me, that's too much.

If it makes you happy then knock yourself out. But make sure you're doing it for the right reasons - because YOU enjoy the creative side of it. Not because of what people will think of you.

OP here. I was hating you until your last line, now I love you LOL

If you look at me you will never know I like cute stuff. I'm the person who wears work out clothes everywhere. I don't wear make up, etc but give me paper glue and glitter and I go crazy!

I like to celebrate. DC's first birthday was a celebration for us, it was a very rough year for everybody and the fact that we made it meant so much to us. I don't do things just because DC will remember. It's the feeling behind it. Will you let your child walk around in dirty clothes before they can notice it? I don't think so. That's why I don't get this argument of not celebrating the child because they won't remember it.

Hey, we had a really hard first year for us too. And it means a lot to us that we kept a human being alive for an entire year, despite being sleep-deprived. But we were out of the country and I had to work. I don't know if the baby is going to be like me, who's never - even as a kid - liked being dirty, or not. I hope she is, but if she likes rolling around in mud I'll find a way to deal with it. Not really sure what that has to do with anything. Look if you want to do all this stuff, then knock yourself out. All I'm saying is, it's not for me, and I hope you're not doing it looking for validation or whatever. You know, if you invite my kid (so by extension, me) to some pumpkins in the park event, we'll go and I'll thank you and tell you everything is beautiful. But I probably won't appreciate it in an equal amount to how much effort you put in. I won't take tons of pictures and make sure to include the pumpkin toppers in them, I won't gush to my mom about how beautiful it all was, and I won't be pulling you aside to say you should be an art teacher or party planner for kids.

We're just different, and that's okay.

You missed the point

I said in the very beginning that I LIKE doing it, it's no trouble at all and I do it as a part of the celebration. I don't need anybody validating anything. It just makes me said to know that people I love and care about are saying it's "over the top". That's all.

why do you care what anyone else thinks?