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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is it " too much to have a cute topper on a cupcake at our party, or a banner with my child's name on it... a bunch of fresh flowers, a cute napkin matching the paper plates"?

It wouldn't be too much to do ONE of those things, but to do ALL of those things together? Yes, that's where I think it's too much. I put together my DD's 1st birthday in zero time. Literally - because we didn't celebrate it. The baby won't know. We were traveling for my job at the time.

I don't like glitter and glue and getting dirty. If you do stuff like that, I look at you and think "Wow, if you have time to do that then that is your priority over doing other things, and we have nothing in common."  Also, you mentioned "cute" like four times. I HATE cute. I'm all for a goody bag with some bubbles and a kazoo or whatever, but don't need bubbles that have a label you made one night that has a picture of your DC holding a banner that says "Thanks for coming to Aiden's 2nd birthday party!" To me, that's too much.

If it makes you happy then knock  yourself out. But make sure you're doing it for the right reasons - because YOU enjoy the creative side of it. Not because of what people will think of you. [/quote]

OP here. I was hating you until your last line, now I love you LOL

If you look at me you will never know I like cute stuff. I'm the person who wears work out clothes everywhere. I don't wear make up, etc but give me paper glue and glitter and I go crazy!

I like to celebrate. DC's first birthday was a celebration for us, it was a very rough year for everybody and the fact that we made it meant so much to us. I don't do things just because DC will remember. It's the feeling behind it. Will you let your child walk around in dirty clothes before they can notice it? I don't think so. That's why I don't get this argument of not celebrating the child because they won't remember it.[/quote]

Hey, we had a really hard first year for us too. And it means a lot to us that we kept a human being alive for an entire year, despite being sleep-deprived. But we were out of the country and I had to work. I don't know if the baby is going to be like me, who's never - even as a kid - liked being dirty, or not. I hope she is, but if she likes rolling around in mud I'll find a way to deal with it. Not really sure what that has to do with anything. Look if you want to do all this stuff, then knock yourself out. All I'm saying is, it's not for me, and I hope you're not doing it looking for validation or whatever. You know, if you invite my kid (so by extension, me) to some pumpkins in the park event, we'll go and I'll thank you and tell you everything is beautiful. But I probably won't appreciate it in an equal amount to how much effort you put in. I won't take tons of pictures and make sure to include the pumpkin toppers in them, I won't gush to my mom about how beautiful it all was, and I won't be pulling you aside to say you should be an art teacher or party planner for kids.

We're just different, and that's okay. [/quote]

You missed the point :(

I said in the very beginning that I LIKE doing it, it's no trouble at all and I do it as a part of the celebration. I don't need anybody validating anything. It just makes me said to know that people I love and care about are  saying it's "over the top". That's all.[/quote]

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