YouTube Influencer Myka Stauffer "rehomes" adopted son

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Anonymous wrote:Is raising a child with autism really this hard?

I mean I’ve obviously heard it is very difficult but I’ve never heard of someone giving their kid away because of it.

Many families who have children with severe autism have them in residential care.

Untrue. There is a tiny percentage of kids in residential care. They have to qualify for medicaid and impossible to care for at home. That is almost never a 4 year old. It is mostly big strong teenagers who can no longer be safely contained at home.

There really aren't many places in the entire country for children 8 and under. I have seen some incredibly violent 4 year olds in my classroom and there is nowhere for them to go and not much help available to them. It's heartbreaking.

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Anonymous wrote:Is raising a child with autism really this hard?

I mean I’ve obviously heard it is very difficult but I’ve never heard of someone giving their kid away because of it.

Yes, depending on the child, it can be unbelievably hard. Life-ruining. But she elected to make that choice for herself and her family when she adopted-most people have the life thrust upon them.

And for the life of me, I cannot understand why. How she didn't understand the magnitude of what she was getting herself into. He has severe autism, had a stroke in utero and possible brain damage, and the trauma of having been in foster care/orphanage for the first part of his life and difficulty bonding. That is a LOT to take on and bless those who do and do it well, but it is not an easy thing to deal with and it is a lifelong commitment. Truly, likely lifelong because none of this says "out of the house living independently" at 18. If you end up with a child with these issues, you handle it as best you can, but she opted in! It has to really be a calling to do that and she acted like it was just adding one more to her brood.

That's what a lot of families think when they have a large family or even a few kids and they think its just one more and don't think that even one of their biological kids could have these issues. If she has another and they have severe ASD, would she give that child up? Only difference is she knew what she was getting into adopting so it should have made her more willing and committed. The issues were not hidden from her.

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I lobe this woman

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Anonymous wrote:I love America

Where you can give one of your kids away and then monetize your “pain” by selling discounted spa luxuries on Instagram. And some people are ok with that.

You have to live your best life.

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Anonymous wrote:Is raising a child with autism really this hard?

I mean I’ve obviously heard it is very difficult but I’ve never heard of someone giving their kid away because of it.

Many families who have children with severe autism have them in residential care.

Untrue. There is a tiny percentage of kids in residential care. They have to qualify for medicaid and impossible to care for at home. That is almost never a 4 year old. It is mostly big strong teenagers who can no longer be safely contained at home.

There really aren't many places in the entire country for children 8 and under. I have seen some incredibly violent 4 year olds in my classroom and there is nowhere for them to go and not much help available to them. It's heartbreaking.

Yes, there are but she could have gotten more supports in the home. Our insurance approved us for 40 hours a week of ABA, plus OT and ST. There are options out there. Thankfully we didn't need close to it but there is help to most depending on your insurance. Plus, the school system. She didn't put the effort into it.

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Anonymous wrote:I lobe this woman

Good. She could use a lobe.

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Anonymous wrote:ONG. Someone asked her what they would do if this was one of their bio kids.

She said “get them help and get their needs met.” Nothing about giving them away or sending them out if the house.

So giving up on them is only something you do with the adopted kid that’s not really yours. Got it.

She did get the kid help and get his needs met. She didn’t leave him at a fire station.

She adopted him in 2017 and rehomed him in 2020. Somebody else is hopefully making sure that Huxley's needs are met. Don't give this sad excuse of a "mother" credit for something she had no interest in doing herself.

She should have in 2017 and by now he may have had a fighting chance, now he is all over the Intnet as a problem child picture included!

I agree. I can see a couple adopting a child and realizing very soon afterwards that they had made a big mistake. But after 3 YEARS???? How does someone return a child after loving and raising them as a part of their family for 3 years? I mean, it's probably just as well that she could "rehome" the poor kid because he certainly deserves a heck of a lot better than these two parents.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is raising a child with autism really this hard?

I mean I’ve obviously heard it is very difficult but I’ve never heard of someone giving their kid away because of it.

Many families who have children with severe autism have them in residential care.

Untrue. There is a tiny percentage of kids in residential care. They have to qualify for medicaid and impossible to care for at home. That is almost never a 4 year old. It is mostly big strong teenagers who can no longer be safely contained at home.

There really aren't many places in the entire country for children 8 and under. I have seen some incredibly violent 4 year olds in my classroom and there is nowhere for them to go and not much help available to them. It's heartbreaking.

Yes, there are but she could have gotten more supports in the home. Our insurance approved us for 40 hours a week of ABA, plus OT and ST. There are options out there. Thankfully we didn't need close to it but there is help to most depending on your insurance. Plus, the school system. She didn't put the effort into it.

Have kids been getting services during this Coronavirus stuff?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is raising a child with autism really this hard?

I mean I’ve obviously heard it is very difficult but I’ve never heard of someone giving their kid away because of it.

Many families who have children with severe autism have them in residential care.

Untrue. There is a tiny percentage of kids in residential care. They have to qualify for medicaid and impossible to care for at home. That is almost never a 4 year old. It is mostly big strong teenagers who can no longer be safely contained at home.

There really aren't many places in the entire country for children 8 and under. I have seen some incredibly violent 4 year olds in my classroom and there is nowhere for them to go and not much help available to them. It's heartbreaking.

Yes, there are but she could have gotten more supports in the home. Our insurance approved us for 40 hours a week of ABA, plus OT and ST. There are options out there. Thankfully we didn't need close to it but there is help to most depending on your insurance. Plus, the school system. She didn't put the effort into it.

I only heard of her here, but I clicked on a couple random videos, and there's one from September that says he was getting 7 hours of ABA, 6 days a week.

I'm not defending her, but I do think that he was getting a lot of therapy.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is raising a child with autism really this hard?

I mean I’ve obviously heard it is very difficult but I’ve never heard of someone giving their kid away because of it.

Many families who have children with severe autism have them in residential care.

Untrue. There is a tiny percentage of kids in residential care. They have to qualify for medicaid and impossible to care for at home. That is almost never a 4 year old. It is mostly big strong teenagers who can no longer be safely contained at home.

There really aren't many places in the entire country for children 8 and under. I have seen some incredibly violent 4 year olds in my classroom and there is nowhere for them to go and not much help available to them. It's heartbreaking.

Aren't many of them in Foster Care?

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She duct tape his hands because she didn't want Huxley to suck his thumbs. What I don't understand is, if Huxley was high needs, why did they decide to have another baby after adopting him? They're obviously incredibly irresponsible, and were abusive to Huxley. I'm glad he is no longer with them.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is raising a child with autism really this hard?

I mean I’ve obviously heard it is very difficult but I’ve never heard of someone giving their kid away because of it.

Many families who have children with severe autism have them in residential care.

Untrue. There is a tiny percentage of kids in residential care. They have to qualify for medicaid and impossible to care for at home. That is almost never a 4 year old. It is mostly big strong teenagers who can no longer be safely contained at home.

There really aren't many places in the entire country for children 8 and under. I have seen some incredibly violent 4 year olds in my classroom and there is nowhere for them to go and not much help available to them. It's heartbreaking.

Yes, there are but she could have gotten more supports in the home. Our insurance approved us for 40 hours a week of ABA, plus OT and ST. There are options out there. Thankfully we didn't need close to it but there is help to most depending on your insurance. Plus, the school system. She didn't put the effort into it.

The question is did that in person therapy stop once the Coronavirus quarantine started.

I only heard of her here, but I clicked on a couple random videos, and there's one from September that says he was getting 7 hours of ABA, 6 days a week.

I'm not defending her, but I do think that he was getting a lot of therapy.

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Anonymous wrote:She duct tape his hands because she didn't want Huxley to suck his thumbs. What I don't understand is, if Huxley was high needs, why did they decide to have another baby after adopting him? They're obviously incredibly irresponsible, and were abusive to Huxley. I'm glad he is no longer with them.

Well the story is that the new baby was an "accident"...sort of like they "accidentally" adopted a child with severe special needs.

I wouldn't be surprised if she were out getting fertility treatments as we speak.

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Anonymous wrote:She duct tape his hands because she didn't want Huxley to suck his thumbs. What I don't understand is, if Huxley was high needs, why did they decide to have another baby after adopting him? They're obviously incredibly irresponsible, and were abusive to Huxley. I'm glad he is no longer with them.

Yeah, the first video I looked at was the one with the contraption on his thumb. That told me, instantly, that they weren't getting decent post adoption support, or that if they were they were ignoring it. Taking away a child's tool for self soothing at the same time you take away his language, and every person he loves. It's like ripping the teddy bear out of the arms of a child at their mother's funeral.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised they didn’t try to cocoon with him, that is big in adoption circles.

Moving and having a new baby soon after adopting are big no no’s in that community.

The adoption agency should never have approved a new baby right after adoption. Most have rules against it or ask you to put your adoption on hold.

It doesn't work that way.

Some agencies have strict rules against it, others don't.

Lmao & what is an agency going to do if the mom gets pregnant again? Force her to abort? Like really?