Since this is anonymous, why did you REALLY redshirt your kid?
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Anonymous
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The kid wasn’t very bright. There are lots of ways to sugar coat this and put it into socially acceptable language but what it comes down to is a kid who wasn’t very intelligent. That’s why. |
Anonymous
so holding him back made him more intelligent? that makes zero sense if intelligence is innate. |
Anonymous
You do realize that most kids who are redshirted didn't have a say in the matter. It was parents' decision not theirs. I know that if it had been up to me, I would have started on time. It's really not fair to judge a kid for a decision that their parents made. |
Anonymous
| The same parents who complain about kids being redshirted are the same parents who complain and judge if a kid in their kid's class is immature and disrupts their precious genius' learning. You can't win. |
Anonymous
I also sincerely doubt parents are making this decision because their kid "isn't bright". It has more to do with social/emotional readiness from what I understand. |
Anonymous
My nephew was redshirted, and he went to HYP, law school, and was earning 6 figures before he was 30. He may have shown signs of not being very intelligent when he was little, but the older one gets, the more apparent their intelligence(or lack thereof) becomes. |
Anonymous
| I asked my daughter if she wanted to start school the year she was eligible and she said "no". |
Anonymous
What's wrong with being a late bloomer? |
Anonymous
| We wanted our son to know how much we loved him. There are many studies out there saying that kids who are redshirted generally turn out happier and more successful, such as this one. https://www.cultofpedagogy.com/academic-redshirting/ Even he doesn't end up being happy or successful, he'll still appreciate that that was our intention. Also, one of the best ways to show somebody you love them is by spending a lot of money on them. We were afraid that we would be viewed as cheap and lazy if we sent him to Kindergarten at 4, as that would've meant we didn't have to pay for another year of daycare. So no matter what happens with our son later in life, he'll still appreciate the thought. |
Anonymous
I thought you were a total troll, because who the hell can say with a straight face that "one of the best ways to show somebody you love them is by spending a lot of money on them". Definitely trollville. But even trolls are right twice a day or something, because the linked study does actually show increased well-being for redshirted boys. Lower SES boys do worse when redshirted, but higher SES boys do better; it might reflect that for lower SES kids, who aren't in a high-quality preschool, redshirting abbreviates the time that early intervention is available to them. Higher SES kids will tend to spend the time in a more enriched environment. I still really hope you were joking with the "spending a lot of money" thing, though. |
Anonymous
| People who are bent out of shape about other people's kids being redshirted win the worst parents of the year award. Every kid is different and every family is different. There is no one reason people keep their kid home an extra year, just as there is no one reason your kid lost the election for class president, OP! There is no one reason they weren't picked as homecoming king or queen!! Just love them anyway and stop focusing on the redshirted kids as your excuse. Your kids are fine they way they are. |
Anonymous
+1000 |
Anonymous
That is how we approached things as well. My kid at 5 was very cognizant of the world in general and wouldn’t have been interested in redshirting. |
Anonymous
| Next year's answer to this question will be that we were worried about covid. On the bright side, the smaller K cohort this year might mean easier college acceptance in HS, or lots of skipped grades. |
Anonymous
| Can HS kids redshirt if they don't want to go to school and struggle with distance learning during coronavirus? |