Would you get an amnio? Ambiguous genitalia at 20 week US

[Anonymous]

New poster but I’ve been following your journey, OP. Just wanted to say that I admire your strength during what must be a frightening and uncertain time. You are seriously amazing and your children are so lucky to have you! Please keep us updated on how things go over the next few weeks and months. Also, please ignore the jerk(s) who posted upthread.

[Anonymous]

OP you’re seriously an inspiration and will have such a powerful story to share of this entire journey, if you choose to in a more formal way. As others have said your grace and humor throughout this have been evidence of your love for your sweet baby and understanding of the situation.

I check in regularly to see if there are any updates! I hope you’ve been pampering yourself and soaking up all the flutters and kicks!

We pray for your baby and delivery daily. Not too long now before you’ll have a baby in your arms!

[Anonymous]

Just another stranger thinking of you and your baby and sending lots of hugs and all the best of the best of wishes and vibes and everything!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, volunteering an update just because I wanna complain. I've now reached the point where I'm having Braxton Hicks contractions constantly for having the audacity to do strenuous activities such as "take a step" or "go outdoors." So close, yet so very far.

One thing I'm noticing though is that as my due date approaches, the genitalia issue seems to be on my mind more than it has been for a while - I've found myself going back down the Google rabbit hole and all that, and I think I'm afraid that somehow even after the baby is born the doctors won't be able to determine a reason why this happened. I also read somewhere that the testing to determine what's going on and how best to raise the baby (gender-wise) can take a week after the birth, and it's difficult to think of going a week without being able to give him/her a name or tell people anything, or know anything. For some reason also, lately, the baby "feels" like a girl to me all of a sudden, if that makes sense? Like in the same way I "felt" my son was a boy before we found out for sure. I know my feelings aren't facts and I'm not sure I believe in any kind of special mother's intuition, and most likely I'm just latching onto the the only definitive information I have which is the presence of XX chromosomes. But on the other hand, maybe it's not so crazy to think I'd have some special intuition or insight into a person that's literally growing inside my body? I dunno, I suppose I'm rambling a bit. And then there's also the small corner of my brain that's holding on to hope that this has all been some absurd ultrasound mistake and everything will look totally normal when the baby is born. I just hope I can get myself into some sort of peaceful headspace between now and the birth.

Pretty sure everyone who reads your posts is deeply affected by your wisdom in the face of uncertainties, OP, when wisdom does not mean knowledge. Thank you.

TBH OP doesn't really seem to have taken advantage of all the resources on trans/inter-sex issues. I mean, why are you holding back on a name? There are plenty of great unisex names. So even if you to the best of the ability assign a certain gender, your child may not have to change their name. Lee, Alex, Charlie, Jules, Jordan, Sage, Rory ...

This is a good point. I'm trying to imagine what I might do if I were in the op's shoes. I think I could hold off on a formal name for a week or so, but I would probably want to call the baby something immediately for bonding purposes. Perhaps a nickname/affectionate name?

[Anonymous]

You’re going to be a kick-ass mom to this child, OP. I’m sending all the best for a smooth last few weeks of pregnancy! You take good care of yourself.

[Anonymous]

sending some warm thoughts your way OP. hang in there.

[Anonymous]

Best of luck, OP. Your baby is lucky to have you as a mom and will be fine no matter what!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
I would relax, OP.

There are SO MANY errors on genitalia during ultrasounds. At 20 weeks, they said my baby was a girl. We bought girl clothes and a pink stroller. He turned out to be all boy.

It happens all the time.

I don’t think this is as true when there is an inconsistent blood test

I heard a woman at the doc say: Either it's a hamburger or a hotdog. Maybe too simplistic. But why are we relying on images versus a blood test? Is an amnio really needed - as a disruption to the in-utero environment? Maybe I'm missing something. I'd want to know the genetic 'gender' and figure out who my kid was.

[Anonymous]

OP, your baby will be so sweet and special no matter what the details turn out to be! You're going to be a great mother!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I would relax, OP.

There are SO MANY errors on genitalia during ultrasounds. At 20 weeks, they said my baby was a girl. We bought girl clothes and a pink stroller. He turned out to be all boy.

It happens all the time.

I don’t think this is as true when there is an inconsistent blood test

I heard a woman at the doc say: Either it's a hamburger or a hotdog. Maybe too simplistic. But why are we relying on images versus a blood test? Is an amnio really needed - as a disruption to the in-utero environment? Maybe I'm missing something. I'd want to know the genetic 'gender' and figure out who my kid was.

Jeebus. Read the thread. Its not that simple. Educate yourself about intersex conditions

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I would relax, OP.

There are SO MANY errors on genitalia during ultrasounds. At 20 weeks, they said my baby was a girl. We bought girl clothes and a pink stroller. He turned out to be all boy.

It happens all the time.

I don’t think this is as true when there is an inconsistent blood test

I heard a woman at the doc say: Either it's a hamburger or a hotdog. Maybe too simplistic. But why are we relying on images versus a blood test? Is an amnio really needed - as a disruption to the in-utero environment? Maybe I'm missing something. I'd want to know the genetic 'gender' and figure out who my kid was.

Yeah, you're missing a whole lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP checking in. Still awaiting amnio results. Had another ultrasound last week and things continue to look ambiguous and not definitively one sex or the other, but looked "more male" in this particular instance. Can't say I coped very well with hearing that in light of the XX chromosome news. I'm still pretty sad at the moment. I just wish I had more information so I even knew where to go for support or shared experiences. Hopefully the wait won't be too much longer.

Can they not do a 3D ultrasound to get a better picture?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP checking in. Still awaiting amnio results. Had another ultrasound last week and things continue to look ambiguous and not definitively one sex or the other, but looked "more male" in this particular instance. Can't say I coped very well with hearing that in light of the XX chromosome news. I'm still pretty sad at the moment. I just wish I had more information so I even knew where to go for support or shared experiences. Hopefully the wait won't be too much longer.

Can they not do a 3D ultrasound to get a better picture?

Read. The. Whole. Thread.

[Anonymous]

How are you doing OP?

[Anonymous]

I'm okay! A bit sick of the non-stop BH contractions but hanging in there, right now I'm just focused on winding things down at work so I can relax a little bit in these last few weeks before going on leave. We've got another ultrasound tomorrow (the last one, I assume??) and I have a regular OB appointment as well. Last week they mentioned starting cervical checks, but I'm very not interested so will probably decline. (I had one last pregnancy and it was not my cup of tea.)