Would you get an amnio? Ambiguous genitalia at 20 week US

[Anonymous]

How is everyone doing?

[Anonymous]

Thankfully for Adrian and OP we are a bit more sensitive these days. In the olden days they would have just declared Adrian a girl and then when puberty came and they became more and more male it was just very upsetting to all. Thankfully Adrian has a great mom who has a great head on her shoulders and loving heart.

[Anonymous]

I was just thinking of you and Adrian the other day, OP. I hope you’re all well and healthy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey OP, if it does turn out that your fetus does indeed have ambiguous genitalia, know that many people who live happy and successful lives despite being intersexed. It is not a disability. Read up on this please!

Yes, this!

OP, I would definitely have the amnio so as to be mentally ready, to the extent possible, for whatever degree of medical upheaval is coming your way. But remember that this could be ambiguity that is on the spectrum of normality, too.

Reread both of you. Her child could have a life-threatening issue. Get off the soapbox

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey OP, if it does turn out that your fetus does indeed have ambiguous genitalia, know that many people who live happy and successful lives despite being intersexed. It is not a disability. Read up on this please!

Yes, this!

OP, I would definitely have the amnio so as to be mentally ready, to the extent possible, for whatever degree of medical upheaval is coming your way. But remember that this could be ambiguity that is on the spectrum of normality, too.

Reread both of you. Her child could have a life-threatening issue. Get off the soapbox

Lol this baby was born years ago and is healthy and doing well. Read the whole thread.

[Anonymous]

I love hearing updates from you, OP. This is by far the best thread on DCUM. You’re an amazing mom.

[Anonymous]

OP here, and all is well! Adrian's an energetic chatterbox of a toddler now, still healthy and growing well, following his big brother around.

He probably has more doctors appointments than the average kid, but we're grateful to have a medical team that's in full support of our decision to just let him be, and we're hooked into options for supporting him mentally/emotionally as he grows older and begins to understand the ways he's different from other kids (and also the ways he's the same, since there are lots of intersex kids in the world!). Beyond that though, life is quite normal, and we're all enjoying watching him grow up and seeing his personality emerge.

The kindness of folks in this thread during a scary time for me is something I'll never forget, and I'll keep checking in periodically, especially for other moms out there who might be in the thick of the same things.

[Anonymous]

Thank you OP! Love that you’re still here!

[Anonymous]

Thanks for the update. I think of you guys often!